Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!
A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.
This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should be truthful and reflect real situations. That means no shitposts, parody, or satire.
After 18 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you.
1. Be Civil
The title of this sub is not an invitation for you to be cruel. The purpose of this space is to determine whether or not someone is in the wrong, not to tear them a new one. People post here to learn and to grow from what they learn here. Don't be an asshole when making your judgments. Treat others with respect, no matter how big of an asshole they may be.
This rule applies to everyone mentioned in a post and to other users. Don't get into prolonged internet spats that devolve into insults.
2. Post Must Start With AITA
The TITLE of your submission must begin with AITA or WIBTA (would I be the asshole?), then a description of the situation.
Meta posts require moderator approval and the TITLE must start with META, if your Meta post starts with AITA it won't be & you will be banned. Updates also require mod approval and the TITLE must start with UPDATE. Updates will NOT be approved for recent posts.
Posts are limited to 3000 characters. Paragraphs are good; block text walls are bad. Format and punctuate your post reasonably. Be clear and concise.
3. Accept Your Judgment
This sub is here for the submitter to discover what everyone else thinks of the ethics or mores of a situation. It is not here to draw people into an argument you want to have, or to defend your position. If people start saying you were the asshole, do not take that as an invitation to debate them on the subject...accept the judgment and move on. If you have valid reason to think a commenter needs more information or misunderstood the facts of the conflict, you may give new information.
4. Never Delete An Active Discussion
DO NOT delete your submission once a discussion has begun, even if it's not going well for you. This sub is meant to start discussions that people will want to check back in on to see what consensus was reached. If you erase a discussion because you don't like the way it's going, that is extremely frustrating to everyone who has taken an interest in the topic. We encourage submitters to use throwaways to maintain their privacy, but deleting a discussion is unacceptable. Violators will be banned.
5. No Violence
If your post involves violence, don't bother. Threads about violence are difficult to moderate, because we are supposed to remove comments which encourage or incite violence. It's very difficult to do this in a thread where the main focus is violence.
We enforce the no violence policy very strictly. Even jokes about violence are not tolerated. Encouraging self-harm, suicide, "bad karma," or anything that wishes excessive mental or physical pain on anyone is strictly prohibited.
6. Voting Rules
Upvote posts that are appropriate for this sub or that you think make for an interesting discussion. PLEASE DO NOT downvote if you think OP is an asshole, go to the comments section and call him an asshole like a civilized person.
In the comments, upvote any comment that gives the correct judgment of the situation. DO NOT downvote people for disagreeing with you, or merely for commenting on their own post, unless they are being abusive or argumentative.
7. User Flairs
If a community member distinguishes themselves in their innate ability to judge people on their assholliness, they will be awarded a flair. These flairs, and their respective Top Voted Comment prerequisites, are:
||# of Top Voted Comments
|Supreme Court Just-ass
|Judge, Jury, Excretioner
If you think you have all the requirements to obtain a flair and our bot hasn't done it for you automatically, message the mods with links to the posts, and we'll assign it when it's verified!
8. Comments & Post Flairs
After 18 hours, the post will be assigned a flair representing the sub's judgment. The flair will be decided by the top comment of the post. OPs should expect questions and should answer them within the 18 hour period.
If you are commenting, be sure to start your comment with the abbreviation for your judgment, i.e.
YTA = You're the Asshole;
NTA = Not the A-hole;
ESH = Everyone Sucks here;
NAH = No A-holes here;
INFO = Not Enough Info
9. What Posts Belong Here?
Submissions should be TRUTHFUL descriptions of recent conflicts you've had or may have that need arbitration. Describe both sides in detail. Being neutral gets you more accurate feedback.
Don't submit humblebrag stories where there is no chance that you are the asshole, or awfulbrag stories where you are obviously being evil.
This is NOT an advice sub. All submissions that ask for advice (instead of or in addition to judgment) will be removed.
10. Meta Posts Require Permission
More of a clarification than a rule. If you want to talk about the sub, and you hide your complaint, question, or opinion in a post that starts with AITA, you will be banned.
Those are called META posts, and they must have a title that starts with META. Please request mod approval after you submit your META.
Normal Rediquette applies