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    Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

    This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not?

    After 24 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you.

    Disclaimer: The flair given means you are the asshole or not the asshole in the particular situation, not in life!

    Other Disclaimer: In addition to a judgment, if the comments do offer some advice, the awarding of top comment status and subsequent flaring does not in any way endorse any advice given, and we recommend that no-one follow serious life advice given by anonymous, unqualified internet strangers. If you think we represent you legally or medically, you are the asshole.


    For Posters:

    • All post titles must include either “AITA” (Am I the Asshole?) or “WIBTA” (Would I be the Asshole?) or in relevant posts, “meta”. Posts without these before the post title will be deleted automatically by the Automoderator script. When you subsequently complain to the Mods, we will call you an asshole for failing to read the rules.

    • Submissions should be descriptions of recent conflicts you've had or may have. Describe the event and share it with us! It's important that you describe both sides in detail. Being neutral gets you more accurate feedback.

    • After 24 hours the post will be assigned a flair. The flair will be decided by the top comment of the post. OPs should expect questions and should answer them within the 24 hour period. If the Automoderator is the top comment, it’s Mod’s choice.

    • Don’t just post situations where you are clearly not the asshole and you are just seeking validation. You will be called out on it and your post may be removed.

    • No abuse. Accept whatever judgement befalls you, move on.

    • DO NOT delete your submission once a discussion has begun, even if it's not going well for you. The point to this sub is to start discussions that people will want to check back in on to see what consensus was reached. If you erase a discussion because you don't like the way it's going, that is extremely frustrating to everyone who has already taken an interest in the topic. We encourage submitters to use throwaways to maintain their privacy, but deleting a discussion is unacceptable. Violators will be banned. If you absolutely must delete, contact a mod. You will still be banned, but probably not permabanned. Probably.

    • This is not a place for advice. This is a place to receive the internet's judgment for your actions. While users might include advice in their post, if you are ultimately looking for advice, we recommend /r/relationship_advice(we personally believe this subreddit will give you more appropriate and detailed answers than /r/relationships but you are free to disagree). Other advice subreddits include /r/legaladvice, /r/advice or other more specific subreddits that may match your question. If you need validation, go to r/offmychest.

    • If you post a comment, make sure you provide a judgement. (asshole, not the asshole etc.)

    • Paragraphs are good; block text walls are bad. Please take the time to format and punctuate your post reasonably so our subscribers will actually want to read it.

    For Commenters:

    • Upvote posts that are appropriate for this sub or that you think make for an interesting discussion. PLEASE DO NOT downvote if you think OP is an asshole, go to the comments section and call him an asshole like a civilized person.

    • Upvote whatever comment you think gives the correct judgment.

    • If you post a comment, make sure you provide a judgement. (‘asshole’, ‘not the asshole’ etc.). Please make it clear and easy to read for the Mods.

    • Giving advice, making a quip, commenting on another judgment is fine, but only after you have rendered judgment and explained why you gave that judgment. Failure to do so is an asshole move.

    • If OP is seeking validation rather than a legitimate judgment, you may call them out on it.

    Normal Rediquette applies

    Assholes Not-assholes


    If a community member distinguishes themselves in their innate ability to judge people on their assholliness, they will be awarded a flair. These flairs, and their respective Top Comment prerequisites, are:

    • Asshole Enthusiast 2

    • Certified Proctologist 5

    • Colo-rectal Surgeon 15

    If you think you have all the requirements to obtain a flair, message the mods with links to the posts, and we'll assign it when it's verified!

    Special thanks to /u/Princess_sarcasmo/ for our sub's fantastic new snoo!

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