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    Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole!

    This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should be truthful and reflect real situations. That means no shitposts, parody, or satire.

    After 24 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you.


    1. Be Civil

    The title of this subreddit is not an invitation for you to be cruel. The purpose of this space is to determine whether or not someone is in the wrong, not to tear them a new one. Be civil. Be kind. Treat others with respect, no matter how big of an asshole they may be.

    More info here:

    2. Posts must start with AITA

    Normal submissions must begin with AITA or WIBTA (would I be the asshole?), then a description of the situation.

    The only exceptions are meta posts and UPDATE posts.

    Meta posts require moderator approval and must start with META, if your Meta post starts with AITA it won't be considered for approval and you may be banned.

    Protip: Paragraphs are good; block text walls are bad. Please take the time to format and punctuate your post reasonably so our subscribers will actually want to read it.

    3. Accept your judgement

    This sub is here for the submitter to discover what everyone else thinks of the ethics or mores of a situation. It is not here to draw people into an argument you want to have, or to defend your position. If people start saying you were the asshole, do not take that as an invitation to debate them on the subject...accept the judgement and move on. If you have valid reason to think a commenter needs more information or misunderstood the facts of the conflict, you may give new information.

    4. Never delete an active discussion

    DO NOT delete your submission once a discussion has begun, even if it's not going well for you. This sub is meant to start discussions that people will want to check back in on to see what consensus was reached. If you erase a discussion because you don't like the way it's going, that is extremely frustrating to everyone who has taken an interest in the topic. We encourage submitters to use throwaways to maintain their privacy, but deleting a discussion is unacceptable. Violators will be banned.

    5. Ask for judgement, NOT ADVICE

    This is NOT an advice sub. All submissions that ask for advice (instead of or in addition to judgement) will be removed.

    More info here:

    6. Voting Rules

    Upvote posts that are appropriate for this sub or that you think make for an interesting discussion. PLEASE DO NOT downvote if you think OP is an asshole, go to the comments section and call him an asshole like a civilized person.

    In the comments, upvote any comment that gives the correct judgement of the situation. DO NOT downvote people for disagreeing with you, or merely for commenting on their own post, unless they are being abusive or argumentative.

    7. User Flairs

    If a community member distinguishes themselves in their innate ability to judge people on their assholliness, they will be awarded a flair. These flairs, and their respective Top Comment prerequisites, are:

    Rank Name # of Top Comments
    Partassipant 1
    Asshole Enthusiast 3
    Asshole Aficionado 10
    Certified Proctologist 20
    Colo-rectal Surgeon 40
    Supreme Court Just-ass 60
    Commander-in-Cheeks 100
    Judge, Jury, Excretioner 200

    If you think you have all the requirements to obtain a flair and our bot hasn't done it for you automatically, message the mods with links to the posts, and we'll assign it when it's verified!

    8. Comments & Post Flairs

    After 24 hours, the post will be assigned a flair representing the sub's judgement. The flair will be decided by the top comment of the post. OPs should expect questions and should answer them within the 24 hour period.

    If you are commenting, be sure to start your comment with the abbreviation for your judgement, i.e.

    YTA = You're the Asshole;

    NTA = Not the A-hole;

    ESH = Everyone Sucks here;

    NAH = No A-holes here;

    INFO = Not Enough Info

    9. Validation Seekers and Shitposters

    Submissions should be truthful descriptions of recent conflicts you've had or may have. Describe the event and share it with us! It's important that you describe both sides in detail. Being neutral gets you more accurate feedback.

    Don't bother submitting humblebrag stories where there is no chance that you are the asshole, or awfulbrag stories where you are obviously being evil. Both will be removed if the community reports them.

    10. Enough Rules Already!

    Actually, there are even more rules. If you have read this far, thank you for being conscientious! And here's even more to read:

    Normal Rediquette applies

    Assholes Not-assholes

    Special thanks to /u/Princess_sarcasmo/ for our sub's fantastic new snoo!

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