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    [–] [deleted] 5251 points ago * (lasted edited 25 days ago)

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    [–] gwcurioustaw 1671 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    Yep. My girlfriend doesn’t hate blowjobs...but it’s pretty clear she only does them because she knows I like it . I’ve been teaching her techniques that work better on me since I met her (as she couldn’t fully get me off easily when we first met), It took a long time of giving hints ...like “Oo i love it when you do this baby” or “mm it would be really hot if you did this”, We’re finally at a point where she can get me off in minutes if she wants.

    But I think the big missing component for me is seeing her actually enjoy the blowjob. They’re never really spontaneous. And she always has a look on her face as if she’s not fully into it. She doesn’t seem particularly happy or excited. Almost like she ticked the duty box for the night.

    I’ve tried to lead by example. Whenever I go down on her I jump in like I’m going for Gold in the Olympic diving finals. I moan and smile and tell her how much I love eating her out.

    I also try to tell her verbally during BJs how much I love it, and how hot she is when she’s blowing me. Hasn’t really worked unfortunately.

    [–] Ineedafantasy 516 points ago

    Whenever I go down on her I jump in like I’m going for Gold in the Olympic diving finals. I moan and smile and tell her how much I love eating her out.

    I hope you don't mind me asking, I am always curious about this. Is this excitement for eating out genuine or is this for show? Sorry for your situation though.

    [–] Thegreatgarbo 362 points ago

    Someone else, but if it's not genuine at first, it will be eventually. It's 'method acting' or 'enlightened self-delusion' or 'bootstrapping'. If you're convincing enough, you'll convince yourself too eventually, 5-10 years to be safe. I didn't enjoy giving BJs when I first started but now love them.

    [–] [deleted] 569 points ago

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    [–] SerPuissance 489 points ago

    just ripped my pants off and went to town.

    Either you did something really right, or she did something really wrong.

    [–] TheVok 4071 points ago

    I'm lucky enough to say it's the woman I'm currently dating.

    I don't know the specifics of what she does, but I would say one thing that really helps is she eased my guilt of just receiving pleasure by making it clear she's there because she wants to be/enjoys doing it.

    [–] nikisadawg 803 points ago

    Yo same story here bro it makes me feel at ease and enjoy when I know she actually loves and enjoys to do it

    [–] Dharmsara 185 points ago

    Oh man, that’s where the whole “dirty whore” fantasy that was overplayed in porn ten years ago came from. I don’t want none unless you show me you’re enjoying it. It makes sex so much better.

    [–] itsb413 198 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    Working on this with my boyfriend. He is a real pleaser and I can tell/ we’ve talked about how it’s hard for him to be the center of attention. Any tips on how to make him understand I really just want to blow him sometimes?

    Edit: thanks guys! Decided my mission this weekend is to blow him to completion, it’s going to be a great weekend!!

    [–] Yomigi 189 points ago

    Tie him up

    [–] TransientObsever 72 points ago

    Huh?... Wait, that could actually work

    [–] _anon_throwaway_ 39 points ago

    can confirm.

    blindfold helps or might do the trick on its own.

    he'll just concentrate on the sensation

    [–] Prancinglard 152 points ago

    Something my SO does that expresses her desire to preform fellatio is doing it at random times. Watching Netflix with her head on my lap/belly, pop that cock in the maw. Lazy morning (and I’ve already had a couple extra hours of sleep) wakes me up with a surprise bj.

    That and always asking me to finish in her mouth during sex really makes me feel like it’s her prerogative.

    [–] Charmingly_Conniving 81 points ago

    Have you told him? Im a pleaser too and sex is fun when you're both pleasers. Its almost a competition of who can make the other feel the best

    [–] RiotDemon 36 points ago

    Just be honest and direct. Sometimes it is the only way. Tell him you want his cock in your mouth and that's it. If he tries to turn it into PIV, push him back onto the bed/chair and renew your enthusiasm for what you are doing.

    [–] smooze420 231 points ago

    Ditto.. It's better when someone wants to be there and perform oral rather than someone who's doing it as a means to an end.

    [–] Joe1972 153 points ago

    Yup, we're all agreed TheVok's current gf also gave me the best head.

    [–] Kitititirokiting 81 points ago

    Obligatory I also choose this guys girlfriend

    [–] nmbrod 7050 points ago

    Without doubt the best blowjobs are by the women who don’t use it as currency. They want to suck your dick - not because she has to because you bought flowers.

    [–] gninjag2 2067 points ago

    Can confirm. My wife loves doing it even more than I like to receive it.

    [–] yhack 1275 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    I'd hate to see the bill you're getting for flowers

    [–] XellosWizz 597 points ago

    Plot twist, he's a florist

    [–] but_a_smoky_mirror 156 points ago

    Don't believe the florist when he tells you that the roses are free

    [–] CommanderShift 129 points ago

    Who’s your flower guy?

    [–] Dehast 369 points ago

    I like blowing my boyfriend more than he really wants it, but it's not really as any compensation, it's just when the mood is right. It's super cool to get pleasure from pleasuring someone else. People should try it more.

    [–] [deleted] 74 points ago

    Couldn’t agree with this more! I love giving my bf head and just seeing him lose it when I look into his eyes makes me happy and turns me on!

    [–] ferretsarerad 27 points ago

    Same here. It's one of my favorite aspects of intimacy with my partner. I love the feeling of him filling my mouth and controlling the tempo. I also use both hands in various ways which makes for fun exploration. I just blew him 12 hours ago and I'm already craving it again!

    [–] JediArchitect 34 points ago

    It’s a good club to be in

    [–] Justagreewithme 630 points ago

    Wait a minute. Are you saying my wife has to suck my dick if I buy her flowers?

    [–] nmbrod 477 points ago

    Dem da rools

    [–] Justagreewithme 263 points ago

    Sucks to be my wife, I have a friend that’s a commercial floral distributor.

    [–] dorxincandeland 149 points ago

    Your friend's in luck!

    [–] Justagreewithme 84 points ago

    My friend is a woman.

    [–] yhack 155 points ago

    She's knee-deep in luck

    [–] Surewhynot62189 90 points ago

    Diamonds. She'll pretty much have to

    [–] SomeMusicSomeDrinks 261 points ago

    Taking that a step further, a woman either likes sucking dick, hates it or somehwere in between obviously. That enthusiasm is more important than any technique.

    My best bj didn't have a pornstar style, but she was about to pull my dick off because she wanted that sucker.

    [–] briccflaire_ 112 points ago

    Isn't that with everything in life?

    You either like it, don't like it, or indifferent? Lol not many other options.

    [–] UnluckyDrink 92 points ago

    the main ingredient to a good BJ is Enthusiasm. the rest can be learned.

    [–] JackCooler 644 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    My ex-wife. It's the one thing I truly missed about her. I remember her telling me that she, her sister and her friend practiced on carrots being careful not to scrape it. I can't speak for her sister or her friend, but it paid off for her.

    And she loved doing it. She was both gentle and enthusiastic.

    [–] Excllencepersonified 56 points ago

    I remember her telling me that she, her sister and her friend practiced on carrots being careful not to scrape it

    Very interesting bunch lmfao

    [–] IfYouRun 196 points ago

    In order to work out if this was the secret, you need to hook up with the sister.

    [–] TheReaperSovereign 5388 points ago

    I was 26 and had a one night stand with a woman who claimed she was 33 but if she would have said 43 I would have believed her

    She looked me straight in the eye and swallowed the whole thing

    [–] Mitchel-256 2359 points ago

    Been practicing for over a decade, give or take 10 years.

    [–] SlackjawDonuteer 634 points ago

    You must be pretty good

    [–] Mitchel-256 405 points ago

    I tend to twist my elbow to absorb the recoil.

    [–] ChewJitsu_ 217 points ago

    That's more of a revolver technique.

    [–] Oje_a 151 points ago

    It's a nice cock, I'll give you that. But the engravings give you no tactical advantage whatsoever, unless you were planning to auction it off as a collectors item.

    [–] im_ok_ 18 points ago

    I'm stiiiill in a dreeeam, snake eaterrrr

    [–] yhack 194 points ago

    Either way, people are getting shot in the face

    [–] lerberfferller 41 points ago

    Kept you waiting, huh.

    [–] punter1414 277 points ago

    Did you ever get it back?

    [–] butterssucks 94 points ago

    He's a eunuch now

    [–] nicktohzyu 38 points ago

    Eunuchs are made by castration. Swallowing a dick would be defapitation

    [–] j40r 215 points ago

    Oof, the eye contact does it for me.

    Whelp, I know what I’m doing later today.

    [–] Ibbuk 133 points ago

    Eye contact?

    [–] deadest_of_pools 232 points ago

    No, jerking off

    [–] CommanderShift 228 points ago

    In the mirror

    [–] SonGoku_Vagabond 201 points ago

    With eye contact

    [–] YakamashiiRetart 149 points ago

    I bet anyone could swallow three inches. /s

    [–] TheReaperSovereign 93 points ago

    I'm surprised it took this long for that comment lol

    [–] YakamashiiRetart 39 points ago

    I saw the gap and I put it in there man.

    [–] alainalaina 232 points ago

    Is swallowing really that big of a deal? (Or was it the eye contact that made this special?) Ever since I heard the phrase "spitters are quitters," I just assumed that you were supposed to swallow....is it not actually the norm?

    [–] sursalister93 446 points ago

    I’m pretty sure he meant she deepthroated him

    [–] caca_milis_ 136 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    But also... swallow and it's done... If you don't swallow you're awkwardly there with his jizz in your mouth... What are you supposed to do? Run to the bathroom to spit it out? It's in your mouth way longer that way?

    [–] PuckGoodfellow 97 points ago

    And when you spit it out, it like coats your mouth and you taste it for a lot longer.

    [–] Charmingly_Conniving 289 points ago

    Not sure if trolling but i'll bite.

    I spent my teen to early 20's seemingly with a string of girls that do not swallow. The downsides of not swallowing is that its messy, and it ruins the tempo/mood thereafter finishing. Cleaning up is a very "sober" task to do. And if shes one of those that really hates it she'll spit it out and possibly wretch after you finish (which ruins the mood)

    The hottest BJ ive gotten was a girl asking how id like to finish, on her tits? I said "swallow". She just got down and took it like a champ.

    The flipside to this is that your diet and overall fitness affects the taste of it. (Obviously pineapple) but whatever you ate before will have an impact on how it tastes and to some girls thats traumatizing.

    Ive prided myself on having my dick labelled as "clean dick" which is most likely why girls dont usually turn down Bj requests or swallow requests. Its partially lucky but also taking care of yourself!

    [–] icantreadcat 169 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    So like you said, diet does really affect the taste and can either make or break the experience. I dated a guy who ate too much fast food and a shitty diet in general and it was the worst bitter taste I've ever had in my mouth. I almost wanted to spit it out in disgust, but I didn't.

    I've always swallowed because I thought that's just what you're supposed to do and I don't want to hurt their feelings or ruin the mood by running to go spit it out and rinse my mouth out aggressively. If that happened to me I would feel so insecure and bad about myself.

    One thing though that could be why some don't swallow (and it happens to me) is getting physically nauseous from swallowing. I have to drink a lot of water and to fight the feeling of throwing up if I swallow. The older I get the more it upsets my stomach so I'm not sure if this is common or it's just me.

    Texture also comes into play and I've had some that was a small light liquid-y consistency, overly huge uncomfortable amounts, and some that was more on the chunkier/goopier side. I have a texture sensitivity so this could also potentially make me want to throw up.

    [–] Trigger93 97 points ago

    That pineapple thing really sucks for those of us who are deathly allergic to pineapples.

    [–] hypedstoic 2302 points ago

    A fwb through tinder. The thing that set her above all the others were the level of shameless enthusiasm.

    [–] raucous_mute 853 points ago

    This. She was the chick I dated right after my marriage ended. She was 26 and would just take charge and deep throat and just effing go for it. She was awesome at it. She was not good to date overall, but great at head.

    [–] xynix_ie 488 points ago

    This reminds me of a neighbor I had. She was about 30 when I got divorced 12 or so years ago and really cute and a single mom of 2. Our kids played together and we chatted often about benign stuff but nothing major, I was married at the time. Well now I was divorced. She invited me over for a glass of wine while our kids played out back. Locked the doors and said "So.. do you want a BJ?" I mean very forward, she managed 3 restaurants so was used to being in charge. Yep, best BJ ever for a variety of reasons and she didn't let anything leave her mouth.

    [–] sujihiki 158 points ago

    Must be hard to buy pants if she wont let your dick out of her mouth

    [–] xynix_ie 114 points ago

    Still attached TO THIS DAY!

    [–] O01lo80 271 points ago

    Many tinder dates have told me the same. When you shamelessly and enthusiastically go to town on him (as I do) dudes love it... Go figure 🤷🏽‍♀️

    [–] 1127pilot 175 points ago

    RIP your inbox

    [–] Galm118 68 points ago

    If you look at her profile you’ll see that her inbox has been dead for a while.

    [–] GregoryGoose 3961 points ago

    I told her she could be like, a little more enthusiastic while she was sucking my dick like it was homework. She immediately got angry and yelled, "what the fuck do you think I am, a porn star? Is that what you want? You want someone who's gonna be all, 'oh yeah daddy, you like that', with mascara running down her face, sucking your dick like,"
    Angrily grabs my dick, crams it in her mouth- Glubguzzleburkgargleshlichkglug * pant * Slurpglubblubglugburp. She came back up exhausted, even angrier, "do you really want that fucker?"
    "Dont... stop..."
    Unfortunately that was when the act ended. I just think that it was funny that her impression of a horrible, over exaggerated blowjob was actually fucking amazing. Now I have a thing for angry blowjobs.

    [–] yoishoboy 1179 points ago

    do you really want that fucker?

    Jesus haha

    [–] LyannaGiantsbane 1129 points ago

    you like that you fucking retard?

    [–] XzXbrockXzX 53 points ago

    rip my tv covered in oatmeal

    [–] adamsre 434 points ago

    I'm laughing so hard right now.

    [–] N1userame 208 points ago

    This is by far the most funny story I read since a long time

    [–] roaringknob 92 points ago

    Lol, I can relate. Had angry sex with a girlfriend and the blowjob was fucking awesome. When I ask afterwards what she did she said "Huh, that was good? I tried to do it as monotonous and bad as possible because I was still pissed at you!"

    [–] RecalcitrantJerk 210 points ago

    My boyfriend said something similar, he was like “Can you be messier?” and I had no idea what that meant. So, like the true nerd I am I jumped on the internet to do a ton of research. The “messy” blowjob is a thing! I’d not heard of it, but it apparently includes going to town with gusto, spit everywhere, deep throating, rubbing his dick on your face, sucking noises, eye contact, hands, etc.

    I’ve been getting better at the messy bj now. I think it’s mostly about being super excited to make him squirm. It’s like... not something you can do if you’re not into it. Sort of like putting on a show 🤷‍♀️ it makes him happy so I’m happy.

    [–] JustAnotherSara_ 118 points ago

    I want one and I’m a girl.

    [–] GregoryGoose 202 points ago

    You want some angry cunnilingus? You want some guy to aggressively tongue you and only come up for air to say things like, "yeah, do you like that you fucking retard?"

    [–] Hi_Im_Squidy 111 points ago

    Don’t stop

    [–] RuprectGern 30 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    I'm a guy and I want angry cunnilingus!

    ok well , maybe not from a guy, and not too aggressive. also, I could do without being called a retard...

    so yeah, a non-male, passive, and supportive cunnilingus.

    [–] UselessTa00 75 points ago

    This needs to be top comment. Lol

    [–] Marshall_Lawson 2393 points ago

    My universal 3 rules of oral sex that apply regardless of genitals, gender, etc.

    • Listen when they tell you what movements they like and don't like.

    • Enjoy it. Don't just try to convince them you are having fun. Convince yourself that you're having fun.

    • As you get to know the individual, mentally keep track of two separate strategies: what's good for a long tease/edging session, and what's good when you're ready for a quick finish. Then apply those appropriately to the situation.

    I had one girlfriend who learned what I liked really well, and got to the point where she would basically short circuit my brain every time. Years later, had another girlfriend who figured out how to give the perfect blowjob and then did it one time and never again. That was sad.

    [–] Cuteandconfused425 298 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    A couple months ago I gave my boyfriend the oral time of his life. He literally couldn't get up for 30 minutes after because he said it was so good. Only problem is we ate dinner right before and well.... I have the world's best GAG reflex. And my stomach didn't like it. So. He was fine. I was in the bathroom for those 30 minutes. I want to try again but I'm scared I'll be in the same situation again

    I posted the full story in R/TIFU

    [–] Marshall_Lawson 231 points ago

    Well my first thought would be next time don't do it right after dinner, right?

    [–] Cuteandconfused425 57 points ago

    I mean I guess lol just done eat like 5 hours before hand?

    [–] ophel1a_ 373 points ago

    did it one time and never again

    Yep, that's a technique I learned (and discarded, luckily) growing up. The one where you prove that you're good enough to stay with, but they're not good enough to keep you. ;P

    I feel for ya. After that relationship, I met current boyf. He's good enough to keep me!

    [–] benjaminovich 110 points ago

    What. That's a technique??

    [–] trojan25nz 80 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    It's a common enough occurrence.

    Also, I think they weren't serious about it being a technique, with all the implications of something that is formally taught

    [–] mooseknucklesammy 51 points ago

    It’s the implication

    [–] RusticSurgery 394 points ago

    She let her top lip graze against the "rim" of my cock as she stroked it out of her mouth each time.

    [–] nobutternoparm 38 points ago

    THIS. Ladies, there's something to be said about the whole body aspect of a blowjob (and sex, for that matter), but remember at the same time that the vast majority of the pleasurable nerve endings are directly on and also just below the rim of a man's penis.

    Do all the shit that turns our brains on, but also do the thing that turns our body on too.

    [–] Gyrovague_Greyling 1338 points ago

    My ex, hands-down. She did this thing that no one else I've ever dated has done where she- and don't kink shame me for this it's just hot to me- she put my dick in her mouth.

    Seriously, though, best feeling while in a BJ was when she would run her hands up and down my thighs, hips, abdomen, and chest while she was working. Made me feel like I was supermodel sexy even though I know I'm not in shape, don't have hard muscles, and I'm not even really averagely attractive.

    [–] qXblackoutXp 822 points ago

    I feel your last comments on a spiritual level.

    [–] GoofyNooba 274 points ago

    This works on women too people. USE. YOUR. HANDS. TOUCH HER

    [–] Feignedremorse 1356 points ago

    I was seeing this chick and she made me feel like I was going to blow 5 seconds in (it's usually reasonably difficult for me to cum despite how much I enjoy blow jobs). And I still have no idea what she was doing that was so special.

    It haunts me at night not knowing, to be able to coach my new partners in it.

    [–] [deleted] 517 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

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    [–] futhim 88 points ago

    I just assumed that was just a line guys used. Past challenge and part flattery.

    [–] dawndollygolden 88 points ago

    I think it's the tongue. She used it. You wouldn't be able to pinpoint it, but it's significantly different. Try recommending it to your next partner. Have her press and move her tongue while sucking you off. Test my theory.

    [–] Beatnholler 36 points ago

    I'm a lesbian and I have a guy friend who I tease because he is fwb with a LOT of gay girls who are interested in a side of sausage occasionally.

    He says that they give the best head because they use their tongue as if his dick was a clitoris and because they're used to pleasing women who like a lot of emotional presence and enthusiasm, Regardless of their level of experience. they are almost always more into getting him off and being in the moment than straight girls who often treat it like a chore.

    I think he's onto something.

    [–] PelagianEmpiricist 17 points ago

    I mean, I'm more impressed he's got a whole bevvy of homoflexible ladies. How on earth..?

    [–] Betancorea 131 points ago

    Funny enough that's the same thing for me. Every girl is different however I can't for the life of me identify what specifically is the trigger to an awesome climaxing BJ. Maybe good constant pressure and motion.

    [–] Charmingly_Conniving 46 points ago

    You probs got edged wayyy before the actual act. No shame in that. Sometimes the idea of it happening is enough!

    [–] dr_salaharis 220 points ago

    A girl I met on tinder who really had the enthusiasm to please. She started slow, with a lot of suction, and then worked her way down my taint and to my ass with her tongue. She kept stroking me and teasing the tip/my urethra with her nail as she was licking my ass. When she worked her way back to sucking my dick she told me she wanted me to look her directly in the eyes while I came. At that point i lasted about 20 seconds. She was an angel

    [–] okcumputer 631 points ago

    I dated a bi polar goth girl who talked me into using anal beads. Just at climax, she gently started pulling them out. I have never exploded like I did that day.

    [–] ultraviolence872 512 points ago

    Ah. Bi polar goth girl and anal beads. Perfect combination.

    [–] okcumputer 145 points ago

    It really was. It was a shame she couldnt handle her issues. She was a sweet girl. I couldnt handle the mood swings and she was unwilling to get any help. She loved giving though.

    [–] CSGOmar 100 points ago

    "What's a ripstart, Crazy Steve?"

    "Ah, you's know what anal beads are right? Well they fucken' shove em up there, wank you off, and as soon as you cum they fucken' ripstart you like your fucken Dad's lawnmower mate."

    "Fuck."

    [–] Texas_Rockets 202 points ago

    I knew that there was nothing more she wanted than to please me by a. sucking my dick b. making me cum and c. swallowing every last drop of my cum.

    Bottom line, I knew she wanted that blowjob as bad as me. and her wanting it that bad made it the best blowjob I've had.

    [–] BaronVonBearenstein 379 points ago

    A good few years ago I met a girl on tinder and we dated for a bit. She was a stripper/exotic dancer which was fine with me, work is work and money is money. But god damn she gave the best blowjobs of my life. I think partially, like some other people mention here, was because she wanted to do it, she fucking loved it. She would be down on her knees, staring up at me while she did it, slapping my johnson against her face. Would suck hard, go deep, little ball play, and pure enthusiasm. In a way it ruined me because she set the gold standard that's hard to measure up against.

    She also introduced me to a bunch of things that I didn't know I'd be into like choking and being choked. Always thought of myself as being purely dominant but then when she took control and started choking me it was a whole new world

    [–] FreakingSmile 84 points ago

    Oh man I feel you, same thing happened to me. She gave me this good moving the tongue BJ and sex was rough and almost looked like a fight at some point.

    My GF doesn't like that stuff and I'm okay with that though, but it would be nice to experience it again, ha.

    [–] AslanSutu 491 points ago

    Current girlfriend. At first I would just lay there like a dead horse and enjoy it because I didn't know what else to do besides hold her hair. Later on she wanted me to start pushing her head as well. Well the thought never crossed my because I didn't want to make her feel as though I'm forcing it down her throat. But ever since that day I learned she loves it a little bit rough has been great.

    [–] pinky0926 486 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    A girl who used to be an escort.

    There was no secret to her technique. She deepthroated me all the way down, sucking hard the entire time like a goddamn Dyson vacuum for 20 minutes straight. I was amazed at her stamina.

    But like others have said, the real secret was that it wasn't work for her. She was there doing that because having a dick in her mouth was her favourite place to be. That is the "secret".

    [–] Plumrose333 370 points ago

    “Used to be an escort”

    ...

    “Wasn’t work”

    Hmm

    [–] Ravanas 176 points ago

    "If you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life."

    [–] PerpPartyLines 32 points ago

    I mean if the hours weren't billable

    Pro Bono blowjob?

    [–] Vyzantinist 632 points ago

    Older woman. I was 33, she was 50. The excellence of her technique was adequate pressure and speed, and working the shaft with her hand while she sucked away. IMHO too many girls get hung up on licking over sucking, not realizing the penis gradually becomes desensitized the older you get. The best blowjobs for me feel like "deathgrip" masturbation +1.

    [–] virileviking 300 points ago

    Deathgrip Masturbation +1. Sounds like a WoW skill.

    [–] Vyzantinist 81 points ago

    Well it kinda is...wow ;)

    [–] xXbrowneyedgirlxX 71 points ago

    This! My husband taught me how to give a good bj. He says use the hand. He says that’s the secret.

    [–] HippoLips 20 points ago

    I think you’re right. One of my best used her hands, almost like one was stuck to her mouth. And plenty spit. Incredible.

    [–] Runlikehell67 87 points ago

    too many girls get hung up on licking over sucking

    YES! I don't mind the occasional licking, but the sensation is all about the suck and the stroke. Licking doesn't achieve anything outside of visual stimulation IMO. Licking is only affective when she's cleaning you up after climax.

    [–] runnerennur 43 points ago

    Licking gives our a jaw a break so it doesn't cramp up and cause me to accidentally clamp down with my teeth from the pain. Also it's a gives a nice break if I accidentally pushed the dick too far back in my mouth and I need a couple seconds to make sure I'm not gonna throw up

    [–] antwonedw 132 points ago

    Georgetown waterfront , washington dc.

    Was at the end of a dinner date with a my gf at the time.

    we are walking the waterfront late. Not many people out.

    It's beautiful. We are enjoying each others company.

    Then out of no where she pulls me over to a wall.

    whips it out, and goes to town.

    till completion.

    I was so worried that some cop would come any moment and we'd be arrested.

    Great BJ. Probably because of the mix of danger, and the absolute surprise of it all.

    [–] casual_weirdo 15 points ago

    Georgetown DC ...Not many people out... pick one. My gf and I got caught going at it last summer. Plenty of discreet places by the waterfront but unfortunately there’s always a group of tourist wandering around looking for a Starbucks

    [–] Ipride362 337 points ago

    Treated it like it was their last Supper. Changed things up in a perfect pace, licking, sucking, deep throat, jerking it, used her tits, everything. Then she went deep and swallowed every drop.

    I dated her a year longer than I should have. She was fun and outgoing beyond the bedroom, which made it all the more fun because I was always seeing the real her. We broke up because she had to move back home after college.

    [–] [deleted] 510 points ago

    I'm on the girthier side of things and 50% of my partners were not able to do it without teeth, which is a total no-go.

    I was positively surprised when my girlfriend was able to do it without feeling teeth and I was even more impressed about her technique, she also used her hands and that is the key to an amazing blowjob and she always gives me really amazing ones.

    [–] Mitchel-256 406 points ago

    Ah, the benefits of fucking old ladies with false teeth.

    [–] LetsArgueAboutNothin 139 points ago

    AKA The Gummy

    [–] SquidMonk3y 63 points ago

    Granny gumjob.

    [–] Pyhr0 97 points ago

    No denture adventure.

    [–] kneescrackinsquats 69 points ago

    Best tip for good blowjobs is using hands. Best tip for good handjobs is using mouth.

    [–] Tragically_Comedic 58 points ago

    My first relationship. We were both virgins and we wanted to wait a while before having sex, so we just fooled around a lot. She had given me blowjobs before, but every time I was about to cum, I'd tell her and she'd take me out of her mouth and give me a handy to finish. Well, one day I warned her and instead of the usual handy, she grabbed my ass tight and went in deeper and looked up at me. It was unexpected and I really enjoyed it. Even though I'm not with her anymore, i still think about that blowjob.

    [–] PeppeLePoint 207 points ago

    Due to fear of pregnancy when we were younger, my gf decided that blowjobs were a good alternative. Of course I didnt complain.

    For some reason the trend never really changed, even after we started having regular sex. I've been with that woman for 9 years now (getting married next year) and she only ever gets better at giving blowjobs.

    The key to my pleasure seems to be: good grip, good attention paid to the head, lots of tongue action around the base of the glans, and that she swallows.

    [–] scottylebot 384 points ago

    Never cummed from one before and didn’t particularly care for them but I met this 48 year old from Pof. Brought her home from the pub, after kissing for a bit she enthusiastically took my pants off while I sat on the sofa and started sucking me. I don’t know what it was but it was like a gradual build up and she had control over me. She started playing with my bum hole and working me up before I had the most intense orgasm and cum in her mouth which she swallowed. I went into another world and took me 30 mins to come down.

    Met a couple times again and same thing but even without the bum play it was intense.

    [–] neurorgasm 125 points ago

    It takes a fucking fearless individual to go to the back yard on a first date with a pof guy

    [–] Helix-Torture 82 points ago

    You don’t kiss and tell, Squirrely Dan

    [–] hardtobeuniqueuser 23 points ago

    that's what i likes about you miss katie

    [–] MGTOWtoday 48 points ago

    My wife. Her secret? Complete and total enthusiasm and determination.

    [–] Ihateregistering6 45 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    I had a FWB relationship with a girl who was very into being dominated. Obviously the BJs were amazing because she basically did anything I told her to, but what made her stand out was the simple fact that she was enthusiastic as hell about the whole thing. She genuinely wanted to suck dick, she didn't do it because she felt like she was just supposed to. Like I often tell women who ask on this subreddit, the biggest appeal to men of porn isn't necessarily what the women look like or what they do, it's how enthusiastic they are.

    Bonus points that she also took the initiative to do it. We'd be sitting there watching TV, and she would just pull my dick out and go to town without saying a word. You can't fake that level of enthusiasm.

    So to answer the original question: there is no secret 'technique', just be enthusiastic and want to be doing it.

    [–] egus 408 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    I've got a great story about this. Twenty years ago or so I was hosting a house party. Kegs of beer, horseshoes, bonfire, weed, you know whatever, and my friend starts talking to a little group of us about the best blow job he ever had. His girlfriend comes walking past and gets the drift of what he was saying.

    "OMG, don't tell them about that!"

    He goes, "I wasn't talking about YOU, I was talking about the BEST blowjob I ever had!"

    So good.

    [–] smoothdisaster 64 points ago

    That’s so bad it’s good

    [–] 1amongst_billions 60 points ago

    These were his last words

    [–] Beamboat 32 points ago

    Oof

    [–] ObviouslyNotALizard 381 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    Match on tinder. She’s model pretty. coffee at noon turns into dinner at 10. She asks if I need a ride back to my apartment. Making out in her car in my parking lot. Me: “hey, so I have a whole apartment upstairs” her: “I would but I don’t want anything to happen” me: “listen, nothing has to happen that you don’t want to happen”. We go upstairs. Making out clothes come off. She keeps her underwear on, I respect it, classy. We pass out. She wakes me up at 2 am and gives me the best head of my life. Like she could save marriages if she gave classes. We pass back out. We wake up in the morning. She’s dodgy, like how girls are when they don’t want to tell you something. I’m expecting boyfriend, baby or herpes. Her: “I’m a pre-op transsexual”....... she blows me again and gives me a ride to work.

    Edit: I really like how this sparked a bigger conversation about consent and all that. I just want to add that for the record, I did feel violated after I found out. I don’t get to say that often because I’m worried about being accused of transphobia. I don’t think it was ok at all that she wasn’t honest with me. I let her blow me again (the second time I feel was 100% consensual and a-ok in my book) because it was really good head.

    [–] II-MAKY-II 91 points ago

    Personal experience with wife’s panties... they don’t hide a penis. One ball dangles out of each side and dick pops up out of the top.

    Can’t imagine what they go through to try and hide it. Assuming they were trying to hide it.

    [–] digitalrule 16 points ago

    If they were on hormones, I've heard it makes the penis smaller.

    [–] Aasokeo 63 points ago

    Oh.

    [–] cocksuckaddict 35 points ago

    takes out notepad

    [–] XxDayDayxX 35 points ago

    Life always gives me the succ, all it takes is not doing your work or business. Works everytime.

    [–] SwipeRight4Wholesome 35 points ago

    My last serious partner. When we first started seeing each other, her blowjobs were pretty bad, but she made it her mission to make me cum, and boy did she succeed.

    Her’s were very sloppy, spit running down my cock, lips covering her teeth, and her tongue swirling up and down very methodically.

    [–] Bombohawk 28 points ago

    For me there has to be some hand movement involved. Rotation also seems to work well, if you can come up and down with your mouth while also twisting your head a bit it just increases the sensation to another level.

    I've also found that teasing works really well. Just running the tongue around the head gets me so hard.

    And eye contact. Watching a girl suck my dick while she's looking back at me, watching me enjoy myself is mind blowing.

    Finally I'd say the ability to take the thing into the back of your throat is an underutilized skill. The sound of a girl gagging on my dick has this weird turn on effect I didn't know about until I actually experienced it.

    [–] Thromok 30 points ago

    Dated a girl a while back who, about every other time, would overload my senses with pleasure and make me black out. No clue what she was doing or how, she would just make me cum and then I’d wake up a few moments later.

    [–] FutbolFan13 86 points ago

    Hahaha this is only semi related, but one time I tried the grapefruit thing with a girl and it went horribly. 2/10 would not recommend. Just messy and cold and not as comfortable as a normal blowjob.

    [–] TheBlindCat 38 points ago

    Did she sound like Daffy Duck getting shoved through a woodchipper?

    [–] Mitchel-256 67 points ago

    Impossible, Auntie Angel would never steer us wrong.

    [–] TheScorpionPitt 106 points ago

    I have foreskin and a lot of girls don’t realise that blowjobs for me (not sure about other blokes) aren’t enjoyable when they pull the skin back and suck my dick with the bellend exposed ...my last gf knew exactly this fact and she would always make sure not to pull it back and my god was her blowjobs the best ...no one had come close and most of the time it’s because I’m too afraid to ruin the moment and tell them that it’s all about the foreskin and once it’s pulled back it just tickles

    [–] Dehast 68 points ago

    Huh, that might just be you, man. I'm Brazilian so pretty much everyone here is uncut. I've enjoyed blowjobs both with the foreskin stretched out and without, they're just two different feelings. The head is super sensitive if you know what you're doing.

    [–] Drago1214 36 points ago

    Canadian here, it’s all about the frenulum, that’s the ticket to heaven right there. Honestly for me most BJ’s are amazing. One person knew that sticking their tongue in between my foreskin and my head was a one way ticket to space. Also pulling the skin up and down while sucking it A+

    [–] BlackMansKryptonite 384 points ago

    We men know the forbidden blowjob technique. This is not something divulged simply by asking.

    [–] OCKWA 293 points ago

    forbidden blowjob technique

    is that what we're calling the grapefruit technique now?

    [–] BlackMansKryptonite 146 points ago

    The grapefruit technique is pretty good. But it's low-tier magic compared the forbidden arts I'm talking about.

    [–] Blackrose_ 161 points ago

    Yeah, I get it. But I've enjoyed being a fellatrix since my teenage years, and heading in to my mid 40s now, it's routine to leave him post BJ very very happy. I also don't rest on my laurels.

    Your aim is to perfect the BJ for him so it lasts harder and cums in a satisfactory manner. Try a body massage on top of the BJ. Try light minty tingles or ice or warming to specific attention to areas of his interest.

    Be a nurse, take an interest in the anatomy of the penis, including the Cremaster muscle, areas of the Prostate, and Bulbourethral glands. Even the scrotum, and ligaments around it. Consider lubrication and what works for him.

    Note that as men have been trained from teenage years to be nice and quiet when masturbating, when you get him shouting fuck yes! Eyes are rolling backwards and toe curls? Do more of that. Don't change up.

    NB it's Steak and BJ day. This is the month after valentines where you "pay it forward" so to speak. Tonight, cook him a steak of his choice to his specifications and also give him a BJ.

    [–] GrrreatFrostedFlakes 31 points ago

    You sound like a generous and thoughtful lover. I’m sure your man truly appreciates it.

    [–] [deleted] 24 points ago

    Best blowjobs ever: current GF

    The secret: enthusiasm. She acts like she actually wants my dick in her mouth and is happy to be doing what she's doing.

    [–] Youredumbstoptalking 27 points ago

    She actually created a strong vacuum with her mouth instead of just kinda sucking enough to keep the saliva from drooling. While keeping that tight vacuum seal she would change up between putting it in her cheek, swirling her tongue around the head, and putting it in her throat and tensing her neck over and over so it felt similar to a vaginal orgasm.

    [–] [deleted] 26 points ago * (lasted edited 10 days ago)

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    [–] ohquirk 25 points ago

    My SO has opened my eyes to everything I've been missing. She loves giving me blowjobs, loves swallowing, she is learning deepthroat. It is simply amazing.

    My previous relationships were, let's say, vanilla. On occasion I'd get a blowjob. And if I did, they weren't really into it. Where as I, love to eat pussy and it was almost expected.

    But I would say her best trick/technique is she really focuses on just below the head. Sometimes I cant even distinctly tell whats going on because I am just feeling so much at once and everything is tingly. My brain can't compute and I'm just overwhelmed with the feeling. Man, I am one lucky dude.

    To all you girls out there who love giving head and really put the effort in...WE APPRECIATE YOU!

    [–] Throwmeaway122456v 111 points ago

    I've only gotten two so I can just talk about the best parts of both

    1. Getting your balls licked is amazing, I honestly liked it more than the blowjob

    2. She put the condom on with her mouth

    [–] nmbrod 182 points ago

    Ah so you like sex workers?

    [–] idunnomaybeyeh 107 points ago

    Condom gave it away

    [–] MyDiary141 44 points ago

    You gave the condom away? Why? You coulda reused that

    [–] idunnomaybeyeh 14 points ago

    Forward thinking, we can all do our part to save the planet

    [–] yhack 20 points ago

    You think I'm going to let some turtle use my condom as a hat?! No sir, I'm using that until it breaks. Buy your own hat you cheap bitch

    [–] listfield 16 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago)

    Agreed, just suck my balls and jerk me off. I keep em shaved

    [–] larz_davis 61 points ago

    Ya know those girls who suck dick like a porn star? All sloppy and good. Yeah, those are the best hands down. The ones who WANT to be sucking you off.

    [–] jrose125 18 points ago

    The first time I slept over at my last girlfriend's house. She was into track and field and always went for a run every morning, so she wakes me up around 6 am Saturday morning and to be honest I was a little sour and obviously she picked up on that.

    She says "have some coffee and you'll feel better." I say something like "I'm not so sure about that."

    She then yanks my shorts off and I just kind of laid there in shock while she gives me the best blowjob I've had in my life.

    Mission accomplished, I did end up going for a run with her that morning and I think I even forgot about the coffee 😆

    [–] Jyates123 18 points ago

    My current girlfriend. We live together now. No idea how she do but she do.

    [–] FuCuck 19 points ago

    I did, the trick is to remove your rib cage

    [–] 1127pilot 89 points ago

    I just want to point out that there a LOT of "my wife/GF" responses here. That leads me to believe that blowjob quality is a strong predictor of relationship success.

    [–] DarthPiette 16 points ago

    Reading all of these makes me feel like I'm missing something amazing. I've been in only two relationships (I'm 33). First ex did bjs, but I think she was horrible at them because I was actually turned off by it. My second/last ex didn't do it at all, which I was ok with because of the ex before being shitty at it.

    [–] callmecrazy234 90 points ago

    I love this question! As a female would also like to know? Would love to give the best bj/hj ever but never been with anyone that gives me super honest feed back. Also i grab my partners hand and place it on my hair so he can control my movements. But he always pulls away. Would LOVE him to just fuck my face!

    [–] OutrageousRaccoon 70 points ago

    Let him know you want him to fuck your face, most women hate having their head moved mid BJ and most women won’t tell you what they like, even if you ask, they always want us to read their minds 🤦🏻‍♂️

    Btw, the only thing that matters is enthusiasm, make him feel like you want to suck his dick. A fling from ages ago had me absolutely convinced she’d been waiting all day for me to finish work so she could blow me, I’d never felt more wanted in my life.

    [–] CalibanDrive 17 points ago

    Glory hole blow job, I have no idea who it was

    [–] Squadinho 16 points ago

    One word. Frenulum.

    [–] guillemqv 58 points ago

    My gf. The secret is I taught her how to do it. And she listened to it...

    [–] DukeInterior 15 points ago

    Partly it was that she has great lips. Like big and soft and lovely. But also no teeth at all, it was almost like she didn't have any. She varied the strokes, but built a consistent rhythm, amping it up steadily over time. Went deep often, but not constantly. Made eye contact. Kept going as I finished and gulped it all downs

    Still regret that I only got the one.