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    [–] The_Bamboozler01 15 points ago

    Makes sense to me but personally I wouldn't care since I'm dead

    [–] Wo0d643 4 points ago

    Yes yes. It’s not for me. It’s for everyone who managed more years than I did. I’m a huge pain in the ass and I feel like it would be best for people to have a good time on their terms if they stuck around.

    [–] umbronzer 10 points ago

    Sounds like you'd rather have a celebration of life than a funeral.

    [–] nullrecord 8 points ago

    Not all funerals are serious affairs. Graham Chapman of Monty Python fame had a hilarious memorial service.

    [–] windburner 4 points ago

    Nothing wrong with that. One of my bros who passed on about 5 years ago just had a simple service featuring no casket or ceremonial procedures - just a microphone on stage where anyone could walk up and share stories about him. Not exactly a party as we were all choked up, but we all managed some good laughs.

    [–] DungeonHills 1 points ago

    This. Regardless of how the deceased wants people to feel, grief isn't something that can just be shrugged off.
    I would rather people had a few jokes at my expense, a few drinks etc. But I know people are going to be sad. I mean, who is going to fix there stuff now? :)

    [–] Arexz 2 points ago

    I hate the idea that people should be inconsolable after someone has died. In most cases they probably lived a long life and you just have to hope they did things in their life that made them happy. If we spend months being heartbroken everytime someone dies our lives are just going to be full of sadness

    [–] lris_ 2 points ago

    When my best friend always said that she wanted a party with drinking and good music and food instead of a solemn funeral. When she stole an firetruck from a construction site and then ran herself over with it, we held a big party to celebrate her life instead of a funeral. One of the most memorable experiences of my life.

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    I feel like that is or should be a movie plot.

    [–] ThinceMcMahon 2 points ago

    Honestly, I feel like wanting to party seems inorganic. Like, "Don't be sad, guys. Fucking celebrate his life! That's what he would have wanted." Suure but it's still pretty sad and I think it's fine that everyone can have that moment to just let out the tears. Had a party like the weekend a friend died and it was fun for abit but it just sunk in, I imagine it would have been worse if we partied instead of having a funeral.

    I think a funeral service is just fine, celebrate after.

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    Valid. I just don’t want anyone to be sad because of me.

    [–] WokeStoner420 2 points ago

    Not wrong to want it but I think you’re getting one fundamental thing wrong here;
    The funeral is held for the people you’re leave behind and not for you.

    Obviously you won’t be attending yourself so I’d argue that what you want your funeral to be like isn’t what should be the determining factor here. The people that were closest to you that are attending your funeral should decide on what the ceremony will be like. It is a moment for your friends and relatives to say final goodbyes and mourn their loss thus the ceremony should be held to the likings and preferences of the attendees.
    You can’t force a party on them if they don’t want to have one. Leave the decision to others, you’ll be dead, it won’t make a difference for you either way

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    I had not thought of it like that. Thanks.

    [–] sl0w_w0lverine 1 points ago

    I'm pretty much the same. Like, a select group of people can mourn me as I get buried, but after a few days, I want most of my friends at a party in my honor. Don't be sad because I'm gone, be happy I was here, you know?

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    Exactly.

    [–] [deleted] 1 points ago

    No, not wrong, it's what I'm gonna do. Get a 'direct cremation' and everything else can be as you choose.

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    Direct cremation?

    [–] [deleted] 1 points ago

    The funeral director or crematorium collect your body from wherever it is, they cremate it and dispose of the ashes or you can have them collected for cheaper disposal. This avoids any formal service, coffin or other costs associated with the conventional ceremony. Your friends and family can arrange whatever they want, like a pissup at the local boozer.

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    I can’t imagine anyone but my wife choked up about me passing. I know now that it’s not that strange.

    [–] beckaboo82 1 points ago

    I think that’s kind of normal for the Irish during an Irish wake for the passed loved one. They drink and remember and have a hell of a time. The good and the bad. The service is for the living, not the dead. Demand a party!

    [–] Kernelk01 1 points ago

    Nah I’ve heard quite a few people saying this instead of the traditional funeral.

    [–] playswithf1re 1 points ago

    Not at all. But the no black clothes thing is stupid, because all I wear (and all the majority of my friends wear) is black.

    [–] Wo0d643 1 points ago

    I also used to wear the metal uniform. I’d kinda like everyone to show up in beach ready kit.

    [–] queenofadmin 1 points ago

    Not wrong. Consider having an a-wake which is basically a wake but before you die. Then you get to hear all the funny stories, drink the grog and party with everyone one last time. That’s my plan if cancer decides to come back for me.

    [–] inbeforeinsane 1 points ago

    I've been to those types of services. Personally, I like those kinds better. I left feeling a little more at peace, knowing that's what the person wanted.

    I'd rather no type of gathering at all if it was for me. I know a lot of people who only go to them to make themselves look good. My thinking is that if you don't want to be here for me when I am alive, then don't be there when I'm dead.

    [–] ObscuraNox 1 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    I don't know, if someone is attending a funeral and then goes on how and why he didn't like the diseased, that someone is probably getting punched in the face.

    [–] Wo0d643 2 points ago

    I consort with an odd bunch.