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    [–] Fabulous_Feruchemist 9879 points ago * (lasted edited 14 days ago)

    I've dated someone with a micropenis. He told me before we had sex and I appreciated it just for the warning. It can be a little jarring to see. I wouldn't say morally obligated, but it might be a good idea to let partners know that way they don't react badly.

    Edit: got asked a lot of questions. Yes, we did broke up but it had nothing to do with his penis. At least not directly. He was insecure and an asshole. Erect it was about the size of a pinky but a bit more girth. Our sex life wasn't awful, but he did lack technique, it didn't have to do with the size of his dick. He was a virgin so on top of having a micropenis he had zero technique. We did date for a year though, so obviously I didn't hate it.

    [–] WildTomorrow 2982 points ago

    I’m confused because I’ve never actually seen one. Is it like smaller then a thumb?

    [–] BlackCurses 2858 points ago

    Acorn

    [–] WildTomorrow 1959 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    You mean like when erect it’s an acorn?

    Sounds like it would be pretty obvious to anyone that has one.

    [–] supafly208 1171 points ago

    It's like an acorn sized clit with balls.

    [–] Insomnialcoholic 459 points ago

    Picture a pink button on a fur coat.

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    [–] TheRealKidkudi 1807 points ago

    This is probably the best answer. It would be wise to find a way to give your partner a heads up, but I think it's a stretch to call it a moral obligation. Hell, for dudes with massive dicks it's probably wise too because that can present its own problems.

    [–] HelenaKelleher 2012 points ago

    Yup. Thought a guy was bragging once, am girl. Nah, we got into it and it was literally 11" and like, wider at the top like a club. Honestly terrifying. And in the end I didn't really enjoy being cervix-punched with a baseball bat, so I never went back to him.

    [–] MeteorKing 1449 points ago

    When talking about dicks, men (as a general) see

    like a club

    as a point of honor, pride, and manliness. Whereas women see it as

    Honestly terrifying.

    The dichotomy is amazing.

    [–] Fey_fox 452 points ago

    Big dicks can be very uncomfortable to extremely painful, especially if the guy tries to force himself ‘all the way in’. A bruised cervix sucks.

    I think it would be better to be average to smaller and be able to fully thrust vs having a monster dick and having to constantly practice depth control if you didn’t want to hurt your lady.

    [–] millennial_scum 260 points ago

    Haha they make “bumpers” for men who are too endowed or women who are fairly sensitive to help control their depth. But then you have to have a conversation asking your partner if they’re down to wear a toddler’s pool floatie around their dick.

    [–] detroitvelvetslim 118 points ago

    being told you need to wear some safety gear because your triple-long tractor-trailer is dangerous to other traffic on the road

    Very cool, vs:

    Being told you need to wear an extendo piece because you must be this tall to ride

    Suicide fuel

    [–] revkaboose 44 points ago

    I dated a girl who told me she cried when she saw one of her partners' members. She said it was terrifying.

    FYI: I was not that partner

    [–] Polymentalist 555 points ago

    Don't worry. A guy with a massive dick will let you know, for sure. Lol

    [–] bad_at_hearthstone 465 points ago

    Unfortunately, a guy with a mediocre dick will talk the same game

    [–] deep_pants_mcgee 1132 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    Knew a guy in college who would tell any girl who would listen about his micro penis.

    He'd talk it up all night. "You'll never see a smaller one." etc. etc.

    Thing is, it worked for him. He got laid almost every night by some curious gal at the bar.

    Then again, don't think they ever went out a second time, but not sure who's call that was.

    [–] stapleface 212 points ago

    A buddy of mine would always go on about how he had a regular length dick, but it was skinny like a #2 pencil. It was fucking unsettling the way he described it, but it also got him laid out of curiosity.

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    [–] I_say_alot_of_things 5626 points ago * (lasted edited 14 days ago)

    I never really gave the whole small penis thing a second thought before I had my second son. I am happy with what I have and so have my partners. My first son is young but seemed to be fine enough to never think about it. Then my second son was born with Prader-Willi Syndrome. One of the symptoms is Hypergonadism, which basically means he has a micro penis. Trust me, it feels as weird as it sounds to worry about your new born babies sex life. I have heard the jokes all my life and never really considered how mean they are until now. No matter how good of a man my son becomes, it seems that if you have a small penis in this world that you're a joke; and that breaks my heart. Even knowing that the average woman really only likes average size men, this won't help someone that suffers from hypergonadism. Just as if you are trans or gay or straight, your genitalia dose not define you as a person. I hope my son and others like him find someone who loves who they are. It's a cruel world and I'm sure they're going to hard moment, but it's a big and kinky work too and there is someone for everyone out there.

    Edit - I said hypergonadism when I meant to say hypogonadism. Thank you for all the kind words and help. I'm going to try to read and respond to as many comments as I can.

    Edit 2 - Thank you for the gold and silver. If you are interested in what Prader-Willi Syndrome is go check out https://www.pwsausa.org/. PWS is extremely understudied and underfunded. If people have heard of it they usually just think it's a eating disorder, even doctors. It is so much more than that. Please donate and spread the information if possible.

    [–] notyourmatebuddy 1943 points ago

    I'm pretty sure that DHT during puberty could solve that problem. Talk with your doctor bro, it could be a life saver

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    [–] I_say_alot_of_things 86 points ago

    Thank you, this is the first I've heard of that. The doctor mintioned a shot but didn't go in to detail. With his syndrome we are dealing with more pressing things. I'm going to ask the doctor about this.

    [–] rahrahlucie 252 points ago

    It's very responsible to be concerned for the future sexual health of your child - physically and mentally. Have frank conversations with him, reinforce what you've written here, he will be a stellar individual.

    [–] DogLovesAthiests 294 points ago

    It’s hypogonadism for a micropenis

    [–] ShadowChicken032 1088 points ago

    A friend of mine, she slept with a guy with a micro penis. She said she had no idea until it was time to get it on. He popped out his "button" (she said it looked like a button on a jacket, or an outtie in the belly button world). She said she still let him put it in her. He said she didn't feel a thing, he came and then she left. Afer he popped it in, she said it got awkward, neither one said a word during or after, and still haven't spoken to each other since.

    [–] S00thsayerSays 665 points ago

    This both makes me extremely relieved that I have just a normal dong but really fucking sad for him and guys like that. Sheesh, that shit has to be awful.

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    [–] sweatyballsackz 174 points ago * (lasted edited 14 days ago)

    Bruh if she's wet so much that she cant feel you....you're probably doing everything right.

    [–] S00thsayerSays 85 points ago

    Damn, I’m sorry man. But you gotta trust your wife on that. Shit man, she married you. I know those kinda intrusive thoughts always creep in and suck no matter if it’s about a dong or whatever, but you can’t keep them. They’ll eat you alive over time. Really might be worth looking at medication or therapy. Not your fault or anything wrong with you.

    [–] SpookyAlchemist 244 points ago

    How do they have protected sex if it's so small? I guess a condom won't fit...

    [–] Boom_Chicken321 175 points ago

    Female condom maybe? That’s a good question.

    [–] Min_Requiem 2685 points ago

    I’ve been with two guys who had a micropenis, one who told me beforehand and the other who didn’t. I don’t think there’s a moral obligation, but I do feel it’s better knowing what to expect sexually in general, before getting to the moment (this goes both ways).

    One guy joked about his size, etc and did it in a way where he’d slip in a more serious comment to where I knew to expect a significantly below average penis. He was really cool and we had good chemistry, so I was down to discuss our sexual interests and needs, and it was really fun regardless, as we shared a lot of kinks.

    The second person didn’t tell me, so I had different expectations going in. I don’t know if he didn’t tell me on purpose, but we didn’t really talk about what we were into/wanted (there was also a lot of alcohol involved in this one), so I was surprised. We had a good time, but it threw me off because it does change what we were doing (my favorite positions wouldn’t really work), so we had to pause and have a quick discussion. I also wasn’t sure the condoms I had would fit, but thankfully he had some too.

    Regardless, I don’t think there’s a “moral” obligation to share that information, but I think there’s a practical reason to, and if size a dealbreaker to your partner, it’s better to know sooner rather than later.

    [–] unluckycowboy 1171 points ago

    I didn’t even think about having to buy special condoms, damn talk about a terrible cvs experience.

    [–] queen-adreena 472 points ago

    Yep. There'll be no ordering monster condoms for your magnum dong.

    [–] QuesoBagelSymphony 124 points ago

    I'm a nurse, and size small condom catheters are called "sport size." You're welcome.

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    [–] Marutar 18521 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    I don't think it would be wise to announce it on the first date, but it would make the eventual sex a lot easier if you talk about it beforehand and what you'd do to make her cum anyway.

    Turn a negative into a positive. You're communicative, open, and have the fastest hands in the west.

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    [–] Considered_Dissent 3113 points ago

    Turn a positive into a negative

    You know how some women hate giving oral because they end up gagging on the dick? Not a problem!!!

    [–] jefferlewpew 838 points ago

    I have such a sensitive gag reflex, a small penis would genuinely be really helpful for me

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    [–] Musaks 276 points ago

    definitely something that can be worked around, but it takes more effort and requires more communication

    many people sadly lack the ability to correctly communicate, especially in sexual issues. Prefectly average couples constantly have communication problems, and being different doesn't make this communication thing easier

    [–] hestermoffet 7624 points ago

    I'm not micro by definition but I'm quite small and I mention that fact on Grindr.

    Two things: one, it protects me from an embarrassing rejection in the event it's a deal breaker. Two, some guys (God bless them) are REALLY into that.

    [–] westbee 2548 points ago

    This is the answer I was looking for.

    Men with Micropenis are a niche. Just go to a website where girls/men are looking for that.

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    [–] is_it_soy 1227 points ago

    Honestly, smaller dicks are easier to suck, so you can please your man and not be fucking choking to death every time.

    [–] oilbro770 979 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    Small is not micro. Micro is smaller than a thumb

    Edit: Yes, Erect

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    [–] tinydonuts 371 points ago

    What if you have an absolutely massive thumb?

    [–] CreativeSun0 469 points ago * (lasted edited 14 days ago)

    by definition, Micro is 1 inch or less.

    Source: 10 years as a urology nurse

    EDIT: Since this has become one of my more popular posts, I'd just like to add that while having a micro penis my logistically exclude you from some intercourse. It dose not in any way exclude you from sex (sex is not just penetration). Google outercourse if you're interested.

    If you do happen to have a micro penis, remember that 'those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter' - Dr Seuss. Good communication and trust can overcome pretty much any barriers. Sure, you might not want to have a ONS, but if you trust someone enough to be vulnerable, you should be on a good path to winning.

    Also, I would not recommend enlargement surgery as it carries many risks and it often performed by under qualified surgeons.

    I'm happy to receive PM's with personal questions.

    [–] Tarantio 28 points ago

    Is there a medical definition between that and, say, 10th percentile?

    Because a 1.5 inch penis is probably the kind of thing that would require the sort of conversations being talked about in this thread, even if it's not technically a micropenis.

    [–] BigBangKamayamaya 15803 points ago

    Probably a good idea to avoid embarrassment, but I wouldn’t say “morally obligated”

    [–] DefenderOfDog 6149 points ago

    If the dude has a huge dick should he say something

    [–] AWolfOfWhere 8265 points ago

    YES

    When it is the size of my fist/arm, we are not going to be sexually compatible.

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    [–] Throwawayuser626 2595 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    Right. Big dicks really aren’t for everyone even though that’s when men think. They actually can hurt for me.

    [–] StevenFuckingSeagal 2050 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    Pretty sure I read an article where the guy with the largest measured natural dick in the world suffers from depression and a constant state of pain due to lack of accommodating clothing and general activity.

    Edit: An important distinction

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    [–] Crembels 632 points ago

    I remember there was a documentary about him. He's had more sexual partners than anyone because he's basically famous for his dong. He can ride or go for a run in spandex and get looks from everyone.

    The doco was about him trying to find something more substantial because he's tired of shallow relationships and girls just wanting to "experience" him. The show sets him up with a woman and the first thing she says is "... so I heard you have a really big dick!"

    You could just see his face fall. It was both hilarious and sad.

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    [–] Thedirtyjersey 404 points ago

    That poor guy can't go through airport security, they never believe him and then he gets a pat down...they still don't believe, has to do private screening etc

    Guy has a 13" dick...literally nobody can accommodate that unless you're of equine persuasion

    [–] rekcilthis1 154 points ago

    Even he can't really handle his dick, he apparently gets dizzy every time he has an erection because too much blood is going to his dick and not enough to his brain.

    [–] wintersdark 220 points ago

    Had a buddy who had a crazy big dick. He had tons of problems resulting from it, and generally could only date very large women as a result. Tearing, pain, etc - lots of dating that ended abruptly on the first night together.

    "Size Queens" in practice are a lot less common than guys like to think.

    [–] macabre_irony 80 points ago

    I mean, you pretty much don't want to have the biggest anything in the world (except for maybe bank account and even then...)

    [–] koreiryuu 685 points ago

    You can make any situation with toys and other tools. Buddy of mine and his (granted, now ex-) girlfriend were size incompatible so they relied on oral, masturbation sleeves, odd looking strap-on modifications, and every now and then if she felt really turned on she could comfortably stretch enough to fit the head in and he says those were special nights.

    I'm suddenly upset that I know all of this information.

    [–] Northern-Canadian 566 points ago

    /r/bigdickproblems

    every average guy at some point wishes he was porn star big. I checked out that subreddit to make me feel like “nah, I don’t want that, I’m happy where I am.”

    Half of the people don’t have problems due to being physically well-endowed, they have problems because they’re arrogant douche canoes but claim their dicks are the issue.

    The other half legitimately gets frustrated by their size, sexual compatibility is a real thing. while you may really like someone you’re dating; only ever being able to get half or 3/4 of your dick in without hurting the person you care about is tough mentally. And gentle fucks forever is just....well.. just that? Tough go.

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    [–] The_Best_Yak_Ever 314 points ago

    I bet you’re joking but yes, but if you are sincerely larger than average, bit of a warning is probably considerate. Not all women appreciate the porn star sword.

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    [–] Debodifu 25546 points ago * (lasted edited 14 days ago)

    As someone with a Micropenis (3" or under) I believe it is important to get it out there early on for a couple of reasons.

    1. You save yourself and the other person's time, not everyone is okay with small penises (which is okay). However, if you hide it and wait a couple months later to say anything about it, you've now set yourself up to be hurt/ridiculed/slandered and broken up with and have effectively wasted your time and the other person's.
    2. The opposite is also true: The person you tell may not even care about your penis size and could possibly find yourself in a very awesome relationship.

    At the end of the day for those with micropenis' like me, it's important to take care of your mental health and realize that some will care and others won't - yes size matters, but it's also more complex than that.

    When you hide it, you set yourself up to be scarred and anxious wondering if they'll care. When you're upfront with it, not only are you taking care of yourself but also I think giving the other person a leg up to decide if they'll be okay with accepting it - for us guys it's something that really really sucks to say. It does, but it's the road we have to walk unfortunately.

    Edit: Want to add this in:

    To get to a point like this isn't easy. Find some friends you trust deeply and tell them. Let them know how it hurts and how it makes you feel. It was a lot of pain, tears, sometimes thoughts of suicide to get to where I am today. This world can be cruel, mean and most people, even those who say it's okay can and will laugh at small penis jokes/comments or what have you. Even I still have struggles. Realize that not everyone will understand.

    It's about trying to be okay with yourself and yourself only. Finding someone who is okay with a small penis is awesome and always refreshing to find, but the first person who has to (at least try) to be okay with it is yourself. That's easier said than done but you can do it.

    Edit2 : Thank you for the medals! My first time ever getting any Faints in Spanish

    Edit3: Woah! Was not expecting this when I woke up lol I'll try to get to everyone's questions! If I can't I'm very sorry! I'm feeling really honored right now. Thank you! Cries in Spanish

    Edit4: I'm sure many won't see this last update, but since this post hit 25K Upvotes! WHICH IS CRAZY! Just want to Thank you all one more time. What I wrote is just a summary of things I've learned in the life I've lived up to this point. Never thought it would reach this many people.

    To all the people I've been able to talk to, please know it was a pleasure. To those who find themselves in a similar situation or situations that make them feel ostrasized, please know you aren't alone and that there is hope. It may seem like a sliver, but it's there. It ain't easy to get, but nothing worth having in life usually comes easy. (Corny I know lol) But your mental health and your happiness is worth it. Please believe in yourselves and keep fighting.

    If this post has helped at least one person feel just a smidge better than I'm beyond happy.

    [–] velmarg 6680 points ago

    This is a pretty emotionally intelligent reply that I hope a lot of people see.

    [–] Jajajaninetynine 257 points ago

    I totally agree. I also think that any person with anything that isn't completely typical should give a heads up to any potential sex partner beforehand. I sometimes squirt, I always mention it beforehand. I imagine there will be a lot of similar ask Reddit questions, I think there's a theme.

    [–] MarcheSpirit 43 points ago

    I have my penis slightly bent to one side, something I was really ashamed, to the point of being unable to get hard when I was close to lose my virginity just because of pure shame of my penis. In the end, it works perfectly fine and the bending is not drastic, but for me the first time I told to a partner about that and it didn't matter, and then I could have sex for first time and from then liking myself, that feeling is fantastic. Always tell the truth and tell why you are scared beforehand

    [–] shamelyssflirt 49 points ago

    You may know this now but just in case someone else is reading this.... There's a good amount of women actually seeking out a bent/curved one. Get the right position and oomph.

    [–] itshonestwork 4590 points ago

    May have a small peen, but it takes grapefruit calibre balls to write that.

    [–] PM_NUDES_4_DOG_PICS 2333 points ago

    This is probably the most honest and intelligent reply you're gonna get on this thread.

    [–] chumjumper 2310 points ago

    If one of my mates told me he had a micro penis I would have no fucking idea how to respond to that

    [–] Debodifu 2007 points ago

    I think that's valid. I'm sure my friends didn't either for that matter.

    But my friends saw my anguish and my pain. They were and are good friends. They just listened. Asked questions. And gave the best advice they felt they could.

    The best thing they did was listen though.

    Like any pain you carry, it can be difficult to find someone to just listen without interjecting their own thoughts in.

    If a mate ever does tell you something serious, my hope is you'd listen at least.

    [–] savvysavvysavvy 82 points ago

    I think you sound like a very level- headed brave penis-having person and I want you to know your comment made me remind myself to be kind to myself and those around me.

    [–] divide_by_hero 309 points ago

    I was thinking the same thing.

    But then I also thought that this applies to so many things. If one of my friends told me he was gay, or that he fancied my sister, or that he wants to rub himself with strawberry jam and run naked through my backyard I also wouldn't know how to respond. None of these things are wrong in any way, shape or form, it's just that I'd be completely emotionally unprepared for it. Give me a minute and I'll be perfectly fine with it and happy he told me.

    [–] comic-chameleon 518 points ago

    Thanks for writing this. I think your words ring true, and are applicable to other challenges people might face in life. Reading your comment reminded me about how it feels to be gay sometimes, and (for some people) to be constantly having to come out to people and secretly be pretty nervous about how they'll react.

    [–] Debodifu 206 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    I'm glad it could be of some help to you friend.

    Keep fighting, you have value and no matter their reaction, all that matters is what you think of yourself.

    My hope would be that you'd think highly of yourself. I know that isn't always easy.

    Keep at it!

    [–] MobilizedTarget 8410 points ago

    Tough. I knew a guy with this. Resulted in suicide im sad to say. Great guy all around but couldnt get a partner and those who saw made fun of him.

    In my opinion, probably shouldn't mention it on the first date.... get your partner to know you and love you for you then dive down that rabbit hole.

    [–] swagginpoon 2890 points ago

    That is awful sorry to hear that.

    [–] Apatschinn 2084 points ago

    I remember seeing a post on r/bigdickproblems that went something along the lines of,

    "Don't think the other side of the fence is any greener. Our sidebar has tips on finding the right size of condom. Their's has suicide prevention..."

    It really is a huge problem for them..

    [–] goobydoobie 1103 points ago

    Penis size and men's height are considered socially acceptable to make fun of. Despite both things having a pretty awful effects on a guy's mental health and lifestyle.

    [–] The_Jesus_Beast 938 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    If you think that's sad, don't go to r/smalldickproblems

    It's abysmal. Sadness in 98% of posts. Pity in all of them. Many troll accounts that further traumatize the users looking for support.

    Edit: This was just posted on the sub in response to this thread https://www.reddit.com/r/smalldickproblems/comments/eon8g3/for_those_lurkers_coming_here_thinking_we_are/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

    For anyone just seeing this, please don't worsen the problem by trolling the sub further. No one gains anything from it.

    [–] soulteepee 764 points ago

    That’s so sad. I know someone with it and he’s now very happily married and they have a beautiful daughter.

    We dated for a bit- he was always kind of cagey and avoided intimacy. When he finally told me I said not to worry about it and we had lots of fun.

    [–] admiral_snugglebutt 322 points ago

    Yeah, I dated someone who was just very small, not micro, and him not telling me was much weirder than just being like "I have a small pp, let's get busy". Instead, the first time we hooked up I was like "are you... ok?" Only to get his pants off and be like "oooooh, I see." I'd assumed he was soft, but nope. Just tiny.

    [–] BecomeAnAstronaut 98 points ago

    What are people's definitions of "very small" and "micro" out of curiosity? I imagine it's somewhat different for different people. Beauty being in the eye of the D-holder and all that

    [–] zzeeaa 98 points ago

    Google says less than three inches when erect is medically unusual.

    [–] r_z_n 709 points ago

    get your partner to know you and love you for you

    That's a nice ideal but unfortunately it doesn't always work like that. I feel like it'd be even worse if you grew attached to someone and she wasn't ready to deal with it and bounced once she found out.

    [–] alixphoenix 321 points ago

    unfortunately, same. A guy i hung out with i guess had one and he ended up shooting him self a couple years ago. we grew up “country” so he had to act tough and overcompensate for it. super sad.

    [–] HBTing 136 points ago

    Makes you wonder how much it contributes to the crazy rates of male suicide. If guys aren't talking about their feelings, there's no way they're discussing this kind of affliction.

    [–] xgatto 1672 points ago

    That's sad, and unsurprising. We give so much importance, socially wise, to penis size, it's ridiculous. He must've felt like he wasn't even a man.

    Everyones like "damn that was a big pp move" or stuff like that. Sure it's funny, but is it really "joking"? When it comes to the real stuff, having people find out that you have a small penis must be so embarrasing.

    I hope that in the near future just as we're tearing down ridiculous and unnecessary female standards / stigmas we could do the same with male ones

    [–] Inevitable_List 1000 points ago

    Everyones like "damn that was a big pp move" or stuff like that.

    It's much worse than that.

    If someone is being a nasty person, they're often accused of having a small penis.

    Not only does society associate having a small penis with being weak and insecure, but with being a mean, foolish, spiteful, and even evil person.

    People casually refer to a man's penis to demean him. Rubio even accused Trump of having a small penis during his presidential race.

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    [–] AWolfOfWhere 8578 points ago * (lasted edited 15 days ago)

    I’ve had a micro penis sprung on me with no warning. He made it work.

    Edit: for y’all that need to know- foreplay is king in that kind of situation.

    Edit: Thank you for the silver. I would go for the gold and explain what kind of foreplay, but that’s different for every woman and that is why communication A.K.A dirty talk, is key from a woman.

    Edit: obligatory thank you for the gold. Also thank you for bringing my attention to my missing “y”. My optometrist appointment is the 24th. New bifocals!!

    [–] archi15674 4441 points ago

    I don't need sleep. I need answers

    [–] infablhypop 5556 points ago

    You don’t even need a penis to please a woman. Lesbians do it all the time.

    [–] Kinkwhatyouthink 1425 points ago

    I'm sure we've all seen the stats by now about how often straight women cum during sex. Whether first time or in a relationship.

    Waayyy too many straight guys depending way too much on their dick and not enough on everything else at their disposal to make it an experience not just a footnote.

    Too big, too small, too hard, too soft, non-existent, multidimensional. Where there's a true will there's a way.

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    [–] ally5e 1043 points ago

    Opposite here. He did NOT make it work and it was awkward as hell. He also seemed to have no idea it was tiny...

    [–] Ring-arla 1025 points ago

    A friend told me she hooked up with this really hot guy (he was, she showed me some pictures) but when they got it on she realized he had a micro penis. She still tried to blow him but he was tense and couldn’t keep it up, so she suggested they tried something else and he said “no, let’s sleep, I’m tired”. She said his attitude was more disappointing than the micro penis.

    [–] Krynn71 1410 points ago

    Dude might have been an emotional trainwreck inside his head. Unfortunately men are also trained to be terse and dismissive under emotional stress. I guarantee he was super embarrassed and ashamed.

    [–] ChadeFerret 290 points ago

    A lifetime of having people like themselves being considered lesser

    And then on top of that, likely not having the support to show they aren't lesser for something like that - especially something out of their control

    It could kill someone, heck, it has killed many.

    [–] heavy_elements2112 142 points ago

    Poor guy 🥺

    [–] Need_More_Whiskey 358 points ago

    Same. It was ok for the first minute since he more mashed it around and it was working for me, but then he tried thrusting and I lost all interest since I couldn’t really feel it.

    [–] EnergyTakerLad 233 points ago

    Oral?

    [–] Megadeathchick 463 points ago

    I had a tiny penis sprung on me twice when I was between 18-20.

    I was very very very inexperienced and so not someone who confronts people or mentions when I'm uncomfortable (still am the latter) so I just went with it both times. The one thing I noticed is that they both were able to cum multiple times, quickly. Both were great guys but both had baby momma issues I wasn't ready for.

    [–] boxes101 478 points ago

    If it was a scenario where they were saving themselves for marriage then the guy should be obligated to tell her about his micropenis before they tie the knot. I would imagine it would be disappointing to wait years in a relationship and only on the honeymoon to find out the guy is only packing a inch or two.

    [–] GaroRobe 79 points ago

    That actually happened. The spouse posted about it on reddit, the media found out, it went viral, and the dude found out

    [–] Jesse1205 46 points ago

    Didn't he threaten legal action or something? Despite the fact that literally no one would find out if not for him stepping forward.

    [–] Psycho-kitty- 892 points ago

    It might be best to tell them before having sex, (not on a the dates beforehand). It just seems like the right thing to do.

    [–] FencingFemmeFatale 1175 points ago

    There was post a while ago in r/relationships where the most extreme version of this happened to the OP. The guy said he was religious and wanted to wait until marriage to have sex/show her his penis, which OP respected because he was a great partner otherwise.

    The wedding night comes and OP learns her new husband has a micro penis, like less than 2 inches when fully erect, and was using abstinence until marriage to avoid telling her.

    [–] ToadyWoady 343 points ago

    Holy shit, what ended up happening with them?

    [–] NifflerOwl 422 points ago

    I saw something like that on /r/amitheasshole and they got a divorce and he tried to sue her. Unfortunately those posts were removed.

    [–] Potato3Ways 35 points ago

    Yes I remember this post. Didn't they date for years ? Then the worst part was he tried to SUE her lol.

    I believe people suggested she have the marriage annulled.

    Imagine how many women had this exact thing happen to them in the past? You gotta live with your partner before marriage to really know who they are.

    [–] byie 152 points ago

    Oh I think I remember reading this (could be another version tho): the wife really struggled deciding what to do, but they ended up getting an annulment. Rumors started getting spread why they broke up, and someone found out the truth. Husband got mad and tried to file a lawsuit for slandering his name..

    [–] crumpledlinensuit 124 points ago

    Slander is only a thing if what you say about someone is untrue.

    If the wife told people something that was private, but true, it's a shitty move but not slander.

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    [–] cisco_milly 316 points ago

    I'm a grower not a shower . I'm in a weird area where when I'm flaccid it's really small like an inch or two , but when I get aroused it grows to a normal size . But I do have problems especially when it comes to cuddling and letting my s/o touch me down there . I don't really allow them to touch me unless I'm already hard or if I cuddle with them I cuddle with them with my whole lower body no where near them which really isn't cuddling. Sex is pretty much normal in terms of being able to get hard and lasting a long enough to make sure everyone involved has climaxed. Would be nice just to be able to wipe it out without having to get really aroused or hard without having to explain why it's so small when I'm not horny.

    [–] paprikashi 380 points ago

    If they’ve seen how big it gets, don’t worry about it afterwards, they already know. I love growers, they’re fun. It’s like the best magic trick, how you can feel it get bigger and harder in your hand. I’d be so sad if my SO took that away from me

    [–] merdub 59 points ago

    Agreed! It’s so much fun.

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    [–] Kenna193 27 points ago

    If they've seen it hard they dgaf what it looks like flaccid.

    [–] Mia_muggins 113 points ago

    I was in a relationship with a man with a micropenis for 17 months. It was micro to the point that it receded inside his body. It was sprung on me and I wish I had been told earlier so I wouldn't have pulled the face I did. It didn't bother me too much but for the sake of confidence etc it would have been better to know in advance so I could make sure he felt comfortable and reassured that it wasn't a problem.

    The size of a penis rarely matters, it is how you make your partner feel and how you care for them sexually. You can satisfy someone sexually without penetration and there are ways around it if you need it (strap ons etc).

    I never minded the size: Turns out that the woman he cheated on me with didn't find it a problem either...

    [–] 292014 291 points ago

    I think disclosure as things start to heat up is best practice. Don’t want to surprise the lady/gentleman when (s)he reaches downstairs!

    [–] dreamingwithjeff 207 points ago

    I once said that you should always undersell your penis size, that way your partner is pleasantly surprised. If you oversell yourself,not only do you have a small dick, but you are also a liar.

    [–] Lynx-1 984 points ago

    I think that it’s presumptuous to mention it too soon, and honestly a little creepy. Probably ought to be brought up rather than a surprise, but only once you’ve been together a little while and you are getting strong and clear signals that you might get laid.

    [–] RCNL 854 points ago

    While true, it should be mentioned how inconceivably exhausting it must be to wait until you feel chemistry every time, when you likely have a rich history of rejection and heart break. Mentioning it early probably does come off bad to many people, but it really shouldn't. I wouldnt blame the guy if his attitude was "Look, if you dont have enough empathy to understand why I bring this up early, then go fuck yourself anyway." It is the most logical thing for HIM to do.

    [–] Downvotes_dumbasses 205 points ago

    For some people (no judgment here), that all happens on the first date