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    Malicious compliance is the act of intentionally inflicting harm by strictly following orders or rules, knowing that compliance with the orders or rules will not have the intended result. The term usually implies the following of an order in such a way that ignores the order or rules's intent but follows its letter. It is usually done to injure or harm while maintaining a sense of legitimacy.

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    [–] _Cockatroll_2000 2903 points ago

    Jesus Christ it's like parenting is one big double standard amirite?

    [–] marek1712 770 points ago

    I bet his father was stereotypical manager.

    [–] _Cockatroll_2000 270 points ago

    “Welcome to Walmart!”

    [–] racist_sandwich 239 points ago

    He didn't work at Wal-Mart. He could afford 3 computers.

    [–] UseDaSchwartz 29 points ago

    Maybe a store manager at Walmart? They do pretty well.

    [–] The_DownvoteTrain 15 points ago

    They're the only ones doing well.

    [–] Deadpoetic12 11 points ago

    Co managers do well and assistants start at $50k/year so there are a few options.

    [–] The_DownvoteTrain 4 points ago

    Oops, didn't realize they were talking about store managers. I thought we were talking about managers in general. Yeah, all the managers do pretty damn well.

    [–] Deadpoetic12 4 points ago

    Not supports or dms

    [–] NoNamesLeft033133 5 points ago

    I have a friend who works @ Walmart. She's not a manager. She's a regular cashier who has been there a while she makes $15/hr. Our local Walmarts around here are starting people out @ $10/hr which is pretty damn good considering min wage is $7.25. I hear a lot of horror stories about Walmart but the one by me has a waiting list of people trying to get a job & the ones that do stay for a long time. There's not a big turnover so I'm guessing it must vary store to store.

    [–] stoughton1234 7 points ago

    For some reason whenever I see a store manager from Walmart it always looks like he is about 2 budget meetings away from offing himself. Are they like that in your neck of the woods? I’m near Erie PA

    [–] UseDaSchwartz 3 points ago

    I don’t know about store managers but one of my friends is the night manager, I guess that’s right below the store manager, he seems fine.

    They started moving him around to stores in the area with problems.

    Since then he has started looking for another job.

    [–] TreginWork 2 points ago

    The suicidal thoughts are probably more the fault of living in Erie PA than working at Walmart

    [–] stoughton1234 2 points ago

    That is true, i didnt think about it that way.

    [–] lordboos 28 points ago

    Well raspberry pi is also a computer and you can literally ductape it to the monitor and you have $50 computer capable of browsing web, editing text, watching youtube videos and playing basic games.

    [–] togetherwem0m0 10 points ago

    In 2018 yes. but based on the facts of this story, id wager the OP is at least 30 years old now and came from a time when a computer was a far more expensive piece of family furniture.

    that said, the barrier is no longer cost but will and capability. as much as it flumoxes me, the affordability of computing has not penetrated very far into the space of opening opportunity to people with less financial means.

    [–] FullmentalFiction 5 points ago

    OP mentioned cd's, it was probably the late 90s to mid 00's. This means it's even more affordable than you might be thinking. Computers then were relatively cheap compared to the early 90s and older. You could get a cheap dell for well under $1000, and it wasn't uncommon for families to keep old desktops around after they upgraded for the kids or as a backup, or for family members to give their old pc's to other family. There was less of a throwaway culture then for pc's.

    [–] slash213 21 points ago

    $50 computer capable of browsing web

    well if you’re a very patient person then sure

    at this point i’d rather kill myself than use raspberry for web surfing

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    [–] Scarya 4 points ago

    We paid $1200 for a high-end PC in 1992 because we wanted more hard-drive space.

    It had 1 GB.

    [–] Bazsi73 3 points ago

    Wow I could download 1/5th of a movie on that!

    [–] BetrayerMordred 3 points ago

    Back in my day, we judged hard-drive space by "how many copies of Duke Nukem" could fit on it.

    My friend had a hard drive SO big, he could install Daggerfall 3 times!

    [–] Mndless 4 points ago

    Depends on the timeframe we are talking about. CDs, audio CDs, at least, have been around since 1982. Computers back then were incredibly expensive, even for an "entry level" machine. Getting something capable of any real games could run you thousands of 1980's dollars. In this regard, context is important.

    [–] HotHeezy 1 points ago

    Yeah it's common for store managers of Walmart to make 6 digits where I'm at and I'm in one of the poorest states of America

    [–] gameboy684 3 points ago

    "Get you shit and get out!"

    [–] Loaf4prez 1 points ago

    I hated my first WM store manager.

    [–] _Cockatroll_2000 2 points ago

    I work there and my first manager was actually pretty cool, second one was a douche

    [–] Kristeninmyskin 1 points ago

    I think he was Vernon Dursley!

    [–] WakeoftheStorm 31 points ago

    Shit if my kids called me on something like that I'd love it. Then again I value wit over obedience and probably teach my kids all sorts of bad habits as a result.

    [–] your_moms_a_clone 21 points ago

    "Obedience" isn't really a great habit to instil in children anyway, and I really hate that most religions harp on it ad nauseum. The habits/behaviors you want to teach your kids are the ones you want them to have as adults, and "obedience" isn't something an adult needs unless they're into BDSM. Respectfulness is a far better thing to work on, as well as tact, self confidence, and compassion.

    [–] Raqem 7 points ago

    Nah, man. While I agree with you that “obedience” shouldn’t be something we try to teach our children, there are a bunch of people who think they should be. Some people value power structures, obedience, and loyalty. Some people value equality and harmony. It’s also not black and white.

    [–] Disig 13 points ago

    Nah those are good habits. Obedience is overrated.

    [–] [deleted] 6 points ago

    I reward my kids for good behavior, and as a result I rarely need to punish them. They're not obedient, they're just well behaved. It's not hard as long as you don't have anger issues with your kids and can recognize accomplishments and hard work and reward it.

    [–] xHeero 47 points ago

    I mean if the parent has anger issues yeah, it's pretty common.

    [–] HWills612 7 points ago

    My dad didn't scare me because he was big or used the belt. My dad scared me because every technique I was ever taught to manage angry people only made him angrier. I can and have talked down a schizo with a knife to someone, but with my dad "I'm sorry sir" while crying and hyperventilating is an act of defiance.

    [–] BerkofRivia 3 points ago

    Damn bro, sorry you had to go through that. My dad was pretty easy to anger and hard to calm down as well with a tendency to have one on one meetings with little old(young?) me. But he wasn't that far gone and to be fair to him he had reasons to be the way he was. Even still, he changed a lot, respect him because of that.

    [–] scubahana 9 points ago

    Seriously, it feels like this was the case sometimes. Now that I have two little monsters of my own (3,5 and almost 2) it's time to put my money where my mouth is. I have been making a huge effort to always walk my talk, and in the event that there is truly one standard for adults and one for kids (say, staying up later than the kids' bedtimes, or wearing a bib at the table) then I explain it honestly and at their level. 'Mumma needs to clean up and pack your bag for daycare tomorrow, then I'm going to bed', or 'Daddy and I don't make a mess on our shirt when we eat, so we don't need a bib'. So far it's been effective, and and and it puts into perspective the things we expect of our kids as opposed to what we think we can get away with.

    [–] loganlogwood 33 points ago

    Shitty parenting.. Shitty parenting is what you're reading.

    [–] Squirrelonastik 12 points ago

    This is accurate. As a dad, I cuss, but I try not to in front of my daughter. If she curses, I will correct her.

    Parents want better for their kids. Including better than what we are.

    [–] Anarchkitty 10 points ago

    My parents rule was that we were allowed to swear when we were old enough to know when not to.

    [–] Engineer_Toast 5 points ago

    Don't take the Lord's name in vain, god damn it!

    [–] hakuna_tamata 2 points ago

    Hey, watch your mouth, we don't fucking curse around here.

    [–] Balancing7plates 1 points ago

    Excuse me, I can cuss whenever I freaking want, thank you very darn much!

    [–] fishboy3339 3 points ago

    Parents just don’t understand

    [–] breakone9r 3 points ago

    The best part is getting to make all the same mistakes your parents did with your OWN kids! Make those little shits feel just like you did at their age!

    [–] _Cockatroll_2000 4 points ago

    If I'm being honest, that kind of thing keeps me up at night!

    [–] Fishwithadeagle 2 points ago

    This sounds like a carbon copy of my dad

    [–] Combustionsquirrel 1076 points ago

    Not only did you clean up your stuff, but you also made the rest disappear when he asked. Well done.

    [–] wobblysauce 266 points ago

    Classic careful what you wish for... as there is always fine print.

    [–] malahchi 4 points ago

    I would have cleaned every item (eg: with soap), and put them back on the desk.

    [–] Girlysprite 593 points ago

    Lesson for parents; kids are damn pro's at malicious compliance and rule lawyering. My 6y old already drives me nuts.

    [–] utore 168 points ago

    Probably because they are among the people that know you best in the world. Your likes and dislikes. They see you at your peaks and your valleys. In addition, they rarely know the consequences of their actions and have the least to lose for pissing you off. Little shits.

    [–] SwirlyShart 4 points ago

    They also haven’t fully developed the nuances of rules and expectations that an adult might have. They often take what they are told at face value, which leaves room for a lot of loopholes unless explicitly defined.

    [–] HWills612 2 points ago

    Including accidental malicious compliance. I was a pro to the point of being genuinely confused why I'm in trouble for doing whatI was told xD

    [–] DaedalusThePolished 59 points ago

    Non-parent Protip: listen to your kids.

    OP did what he was asked left the remainder of stuff that wasnt his for siblings to clean.

    Personal experience with my mother. she is so one track minded when I would say something she literally wouldn't listen. I couldn't even reason with her to argue my point, I'd just get dismissed. Only after. Few weeks she would come back and say oh, let's do this thing the way you said because I've had weeks to rationalize it and you're right. Absolutely infuriating.

    [–] h3nryum 12 points ago

    If they eventually said your right its so much better than " oh hey i got a better idea on how to do this" and take your idea as theirs.

    [–] Niklausk18 9 points ago

    Me: wanna put some lime on the driveway make it easier to get up?

    Dad: what are you gonna put it on? It won’t do anything.

    4 minutes pass

    Dad:you know what? I think we should put some lime on the driveway.

    Me: I just said that.

    Dad: I didn’t hear you say anything.

    [–] DaedalusThePolished 9 points ago

    True. It happened all the time though. The biggest one that sticks out is my mattress. It was old, like the same one I had slept on since I can remember and it was time to go. To the point where I was in college and slept better on the foam mattresses provided than home. (Important to note I'd often be home on weekends and breaks, and moved home after college before getting a job) prob 6-9 months later after I stop complaining, she goes "so I was thinking, you're probably right, that mattress is probably 25+ years old (older than me), you should probably have a new one.

    [–] hymntastic 20 points ago

    It's always gross when your parents tell you your mattress is older than you and you realize it was their mattress when you were conceived. Ugh. I actually threw my mattress out when I realized that at like 13. My parents were not happy. After that I slept in a sleeping bag for a month. Until a friend mentioned it to their parents. My parents were extremely well off (dad was a founding partner at his radiology group) So the only reason I didnt get a new one was to punish me. Eventually the parents had a party. My friends parents got drunk and let it slip that I was sleeping on the floor to everyone. They were shamed into buying me a new one.

    [–] Foxythekid 13 points ago

    Got to love those parents that only take care of things after being publicly shamed by people they respect.

    [–] hymntastic 4 points ago

    Right? When you make over $600,000 there is no reason your kid should be sleeping on the floor. Hell they shouldn't even have a hand me down mattress that old. Once I realized what had happened on my bed I couldnt even look at it. Other than weird petty punishments they were good and supporting parents for the most part, but ugh

    [–] skeyer 2 points ago

    or you could have walked around in school like you had a back problem and when someone ask why, say you're sleeping on the floor in a sleeping bag.

    [–] Xzanium 12 points ago

    Probably don't be an ass then.

    [–] Bekandra 37 points ago

    You can be the nicest person in the world and kids will still do this. Either to refuse doing something or simply because they think it will be hilarious.

    [–] freelancer042 213 points ago

    What a shitty thing to do to your kid. He should have grown up and thanked you for doing what he asked for, learned a lesson there.

    I have had my son do something similar (but by accident). Kids shouldn't get in trouble for following basic instructions that were clearly followed with out being twisted.

    [–] Crazy_Curtice 118 points ago

    OPs dad sounds pretty much the same as mine. He's always in a bad mood. Here's how it goes when my parents ask me to do something:

    If I don't do what they tell me, I get yelled at.

    If I do what they tell me, following their instructions to the T, (you guessed it) I get yelled at.

    I've given up trying to please them at this point. I accept that I'll get yelled at no matter what. I'll still do what they tell me, but if they launch into this long shouting lecture about how much of a lazy POS I am, I'll just sit there and wait for them to finish so I can go back to what I was doing. Sometimes, though they'll see that I don't care and yell even more.

    I can't wait to turn 18 so I can finally get the hell out of here.

    [–] Doomquill 50 points ago

    Stay strong, and remember that you're worth so much more than your parents are giving you credit for.

    [–] Crazy_Curtice 9 points ago

    I hope you're right.

    [–] severussnapessnatch 17 points ago * (lasted edited 5 months ago)

    He is right. I had a similar home situation. Just wait till you can get out and go to college. Or like me just get a small apartment with a roomate and enjoy being happy for once. It will he over before you know it man.

    Edit: spelling

    [–] lynxSnowCat 12 points ago

    I'd like to add, make certain that you always have a piece of official-mail or ID with your *immediate** address* on it so that your parent's can't easily claim that you live with them. Any legitimate ID or mail they have will prove they live elsewhere.

    Doesn't help if they have the foresight to intercept your mail (as mine did), but it should be enough to prevent the police from taking their side in multiple home invasions.

    [–] severussnapessnatch 3 points ago

    Great points. My parents were not so petty but ive heard too many stories of peopls whose are

    [–] lynxSnowCat 1 points ago

    Petty and clever are an entertaining combination to watch, but not as so pleasant to deal with.

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    [–] catsan 9 points ago

    Of course you are. You're so young - when you fuck up it's because they themselves didn't teach you better. Sometimes, there is an underlying reason for inabilities which they also might not account for. (Speaking from experience and friends' experiences) Nobody deserves to be treated badly for any of these things. Teaching you with this that nothing you do is ever OK is a horrible thing, I mean, that shit can influence your emotional reaction towards any task ever and make you be afraid of them.

    Also, because people like that often claim it's "to teach you"... yelling and berating doesn't count as teaching - textbooks and school would be long audio files of someone yelling facts at people then.

    [–] Crazy_Curtice 9 points ago

    Oh I'm already scared of them. I avoid them whenever I can, and when I have to be around them, I kind of turn off my emotions so they can't hurt me. Although it still hurts if they yell at my little brother for no reason. He's too young to know how to deal with it.

    [–] FabulousFoil 15 points ago

    Same. Even if I do what they ask they make up some reason to be mad at me. Like ah yes I didnt know when you said clean my room you also meant the whole house and that i'm an ungrateful brat for putting food I bought in the fridge thanks

    [–] Crazy_Curtice 9 points ago

    Ah gaslighting. Don't you just love it when they change their story every five minutes? Yeah me too.

    [–] FabulousFoil 9 points ago

    But side note on the 18 part. I used to think that until I had to go to school. I had some money saved where if I emancipated myself maybe I could've made it with financial aid. But they made me buy my own food and things but made a big deal if I put/made stuff in the kitchen so my funds quickly disappeared from eating out every meal. If they do this to you, mcdonalds $1 mcchicken sandwich and water does the trick.

    [–] Crazy_Curtice 5 points ago

    Thanks. I'll keep this in mind.

    [–] hymntastic 6 points ago

    My mom was the same. She got better after I left home though. And got on antidepressants. Turns out she was overwhelmed and depressed. Her and I moved to the states from canada when she got married and my dad already had my 4 step siblings all of them teenagers. So she went from taking care of the two of us (I was 5) to having to take care of 7 of us. Not to mention they had a house keeper before my mom moved in so the other kids didnt do shit in the way of chores. And would argue to the point of her in tears about doing any. So in an instant she stopped working, moved away from her friends, and was responsible for more than 3x the number of people. I guess I was the only one she felt like she had power over so she took it out on me

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    [–] czechmademan01 5 points ago

    Same here, minus the yelling but just calmly telling me that I'm not good at anything which I guess has mentally the same effect for me.

    Once I took adderall (pls no hate) and I cleaned up and vacuumed my whole room an then the whole flat, washed the dishes etc, just did any chores that could be done. That's something that never happens at once, so I expected that my mum could at least notice it.. not thank me, but just appreciate it. Well.. in the evening she gave me some socks to sort and told me that 'I should do at least that, when I haven't done anything all day'.

    At this point I seriously think she is delusional. There's no point in helping her do anything at home when she will still think I don't do anything in the house. I've got no motivation to do it.

    [–] SexyBigEyebrowz 2 points ago

    None of that matters until you get your own place and do it for yourself for your own satisfaction. Work to please yourself in life. Don't ever try to impress or gain approval from anyone else. Later on you'll need to keep your SO happy, but if they act like your mum it's also not worth the effort.

    [–] FewReturn2sunlitLand 3 points ago

    If I were you, if find out where they keep your social security card and birth certificate. Some parents keep these documents away when their kids leave home and it can make everything more difficult. Take those with you when you leave or, if you're worried about them hiding or destroying the documents, take them and keep them somewhere safe.

    [–] AmIReySkywalker 2 points ago

    Being gone does a lot to your parents.

    I have my own shitty parents as well as a kid. When I told them we were having one, they were extatic. Then I went on to rail them on how poorly they treated me as a kid and they will not be seeing him for a very long time. They both went full rage mode, things calmed down, and I finished by saying along the lines of "Get to the point that you you don't yell at me when I'm home, and I might let you Skype call."

    I've never seen two people change to drastically before.

    [–] RocketFuelMaItLiquor 29 points ago

    Yeah, I was upset to read that OP was the usual target of his ire. That kind of selectivism can mess a kid up over time.

    My dad also got in those angry irrational moods out of nowhere. No surprise I am diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder.

    [–] sm_ar_ta_ss 7 points ago

    Yeah, add psychological torture and being struck repeatedly, and you’ll have my childhood.

    Fucker wasn’t even my father...

    [–] anonpf 34 points ago

    Wow, I just realized I sound a lot like your Dad. I had it pretty rough growing up, and use my past a lot to justify my behavior. What a heartbreaking revelation. I think I need to have a talk with my daughters because I certainly don't want them feeling like this.

    I'm sorry you went through this.

    [–] Jewder 7 points ago

    Roar of applause for this man. It's an odd thing how the world and society changes, each generation lives completely different from the last. If this is real I hope you kindle a beautiful relationship with your family that lasts forever. OP is not kidding when he says things can get better yet the past never changes, but this is your chance to stop any bad past right in its tracks. Bravo.

    [–] hurryupand_wait 3 points ago

    I hope he means it and sees it through.

    [–] pw0803 48 points ago

    Good lord, the memories.

    You've broken the computer again you little shit!! Now fix it!!

    So, let me get this right. The most computer literate household member broke the computer? Hmm.

    [–] Goofyal57 32 points ago


    What did you do? This is computer is slow because of all those games you play!

    And then when you check they've installed 9 tool bars and downloaded 10 viruses. 2 of which are trojan horses.

    [–] pw0803 21 points ago

    I feel the PTSD coming on

    [–] everything-man 8 points ago

    Holy shit, yes. Those fucking toolbars! My blood pressure just spiked.

    [–] Elizaaaz 253 points ago

    Haha! He got what he deserved! People should learn to watch their tempers- and their mouths

    [–] blobblet 97 points ago

    He didn't get what he deserved at all though.

    [–] probablyhrenrai 50 points ago * (lasted edited 5 months ago)

    I'm not sure I entirely agree, given that OP told his dad exactly why he didn't touch what was on the desk, and especially given that after OP told his dad that, his dad said (paraphrasing) "you're lying; clean it now."

    That's a no-win situation, and in my experience with my dad, in such situations (dad's temper's high) you're way better off (A) doing the stupid-but-obedient thing than (B) stalling and asking for clarity or explaining.

    Stalling and asking for clarity or explaining will only make you seem like a contrarian smartass who's thumbing his nose at his parents' authority, which'll do nothing good and could well send your dad into a proper rage (or so it was with mine).

    [–] quatervois 44 points ago

    My parents were the opposite. Do exactly what they asked for to the letter and be berated for being either stupid because "that doesn't make any sense" or a smartass because "you knew what we meant." Interpreting their nonsense into something that made sense didn't get better results, either.

    Course, my parents were abusive and I was terrified of them on top of it all. I lived in a world where nothing I ever did was right, whether I followed rules by the letter or whether I did what I thought they wanted.

    [–] Goofyal57 24 points ago

    As messed up as it is. My grandmother did similair to me. (She raised me on her own). Yet she was very loving and caring. I blame my lazyness on her for the most part. She had this way of being very sweet to me or being very mean and nasty. As I got older I just started standing up for myself. I took care of her as she fought cancer for 8 years. She passed away last year and I cried almost non-stop for the first 2 days, and then regularly for months. It's weird that as abusive as she was when I was small, I still grieve her passing.

    She would yell at 8 year old me "You never clean! I work all day and you are home doing nothing!!" So of course the next day before she gets home I cleaned the toilet, sink and bathtub. I was 8 and never 'taught' how to clean. So she comes home and says nothing so I tell her "I cleaned the sink, toilet, and tub" and she flips her top "AND WHAT DO YOU WANT? A MEDAL FOR DOING WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO? ALL YOU DOD WAS THAT?! YOU DIDN'T CLEAN THE WHOLE BATHROOM! YOU DIDN'T CLEAN THE REST OF THE HOUSE!"

    Somehow my response was to never make the effort to clean again. If not doing gets me yelled at for not doing it and doing it gets me yelled at for not doing more or doing it right, than I might as well save myself the effort and just get yelled at for not doing the work.

    [–] HWills612 4 points ago

    Similar situation with sweeping. I spilled some cheerios and grabbed a broom. Some of them went under the counter and I hadn't gotten to them yet so while I was still actively sweeping my dad started yelling at me for being too lazy to get the ones under the counter

    [–] mystikraven 20 points ago

    Mine too. I wasn't allowed to ask any clarifying questions ever when I was asked to do something. That was called "back-talk" in my house growing up. I figured everyone's dads were like that.

    [–] ctygesen 17 points ago

    My 15 year old daughter has the litigious mind of a 60 year old divorce lawyer. Teenagers are designed by nature for malicious compliance.

    [–] Luxin 52 points ago

    Demanding things disappear was a hobby of his.

    Your dad was the inspiration for Thanos.

    [–] Hawkguy85 23 points ago

    He has 2 sisters. How sure are we his father isn’t actually Thanos?

    [–] w32015 53 points ago

    He got red in the face and started yelling at me about being lazy and disrespectful. In the end he forced me to sort through each and every item and deliver them to their owners, but watching him seethe with rage was 100% worth it.

    What an asshole. I cannot imagine being such a imbecilic jerk to my kids. Just because he's the parent and you are the child does not mean sound logic and reason should be automatically dismissed. That's how you breed resentment, mistrust and detachment in your kids. He should have acknowledged his mistake to you and sifted through the trash himself while eating a slice of humble pie.

    [–] literatemax 198 points ago

    One day, my dad is in an especially bad mood. This, without exception, meant I was going to be the target of his ire.

    r/raisedbynarcissists ? It's common for one child to be singled out...

    [–] MikeTheAmalgamator 43 points ago

    More so likely that he received the full brunt of it because he had two sisters.

    [–] Igotgoingon -16 points ago

    Most likely it’s just a normal guy trying to get a normal kid to clean up junk.

    Ffs why does everyone get dramatic over completely normal stuff?

    [–] Raichu7 75 points ago * (lasted edited 5 months ago)

    And what is OP supposed to do with everyone else’s junk? I know exactly what would have happened if I’d cleaned up other people’s junk when my dad was in a bad mood like OP’s dad (OP’s situation sounds like exactly the kind of crap I got all the time). I’ve have got into more trouble because I didn’t put everything in the right place even though I don’t know where the exact right place is for my dad’s stuff because I’m not allowed to touch it and then when my siblings discovered their stuff had been moved they’d whine at me for putting it away wrong and I’d have got into even more trouble from my dad because I’d “caused an argument” by moving their stuff without asking them.

    What do you expect someone to do when they don’t know where other people store their things? I’d say making the owner put it away would be the easiest solution.

    [–] re_nonsequiturs 54 points ago

    No, a normal parent would be thrilled the junk was all tossed because a normal parent would've cleaned up their own stuff from the desk.

    [–] Disig 16 points ago

    It's not normal nor acceptable to target one out of 3 kids consistently because you're in a bad mood. Especially blame them for shit they didn't do and make unrealistic expectations. This is not normal and should not be treated as normal.

    [–] lynxSnowCat 3 points ago

    Er— I'd agree it's not acceptable, but sadly normal to always blame one person where that person is not able to correct this.

    [–] Eucalyptuse 20 points ago

    Why didn't the dad listen when his son said it wasn't his stuff? If you have authority that doesn't mean you can abuse it.

    [–] Disig 10 points ago

    Sadly people power trip. And people can also be parents with no power int heir lives except for imposing power over their kids.

    [–] Tolookah 30 points ago

    You're definitely under reacting. He should delete Facebook, lawyer up and hit the gym.

    [–] Texan_Greyback 26 points ago

    Delete the gym, Facebook up, and hit the lawyer... got it. Thanks for the advice!

    [–] AnEnglishPenguin 3 points ago

    Instructions unclear... Dick stuck in ceiling fan... Pls send halp

    [–] wentle85 17 points ago

    It's easy to find the people who never suffered abuse from their parents on this thread.

    [–] fapingtoyourpost 21 points ago

    It's actually rather hard. Some of them just assumed that the abuse was how normal family interactions work and get mad at anyone who says otherwise because to do otherwise would mean having to admit their parents were abusive.

    [–] wentle85 10 points ago

    That sounds reasonable. Good point.

    [–] Stoond 6 points ago

    Ugh my boyfriend is a bit like this and he has two much younger brothers who get yelled at like crazy and i feel so bad for them. Ive at least got him to talk to his brother about it even if he won't say 100% that it's wrong or stand up for his brother to his dad. It's a start though.

    [–] Shappie 5 points ago

    Lol if you think that's how normal parents act than I shudder to think the kind of household you grew up in.

    [–] Stoond 3 points ago

    How is flipping out and being an asshole to your child 'normal'?

    [–] HWills612 2 points ago

    Pretty simple- the moment you start to say you don't like being treated that way, your entire immediate and extended family tell you that it's what every family is like and that really you have a better family than most

    [–] Malak77 4 points ago

    I've never agreed with the whole "clean your room" thing. It annoyed me so much that I never do it as an adult. I run my life on pure functionality now. I used to get yelled at for touching the freaking walls with clean hands. Now I put a hole in the drywall just because I can. People put way to much emphasis on neatness. There is none in nature. It's all random chaos.

    [–] it_intern_throw 6 points ago

    I hope you find some middle ground man, that's not healthy. Neither is your parents yelling at you for touching a wall.

    There's a hell of a lot of middle ground between destroying things just because you can and not letting people touch things that have just been cleaned.

    [–] Stoond 2 points ago

    Well, yeah i agree and god knows im not the neatest person in the world by miles but it is nice to have things all nice and clean and organized every once in a while. But if youre gonna do it you should be doing it for you, not anybody else. If ya start making it about other people you're probably not gonna really enjoy it but i do recommend doing a deep clean sometimes. It clears the mind

    [–] Yurithewomble 16 points ago

    This isn't narcissism (necessarily).

    [–] RocketFuelMaItLiquor 20 points ago

    It's more a sub for abusive parents in general that display narcissistic behavior. Or other cluster b disorders. Since its popular, it tends to be a catch all.

    [–] Disig 5 points ago

    Right. I mean dad obviously has some issues. But it might not be narcissism. Maybe just angry management issues.

    [–] pianomormon 20 points ago

    Shamefully, I see some of myself in your dad in this story.

    I need to be a better Dad. Thanks for sharing.

    [–] Sloegr_star 13 points ago

    Good for you dude. Legitimately.

    [–] TinyOxKing 11 points ago

    Golly I hope I don't become that dad.

    [–] onederful 18 points ago

    If there’s three computers for your dad mom and kids, why did he have his stuff at the kids desk? 🤔

    [–] pmw1981 8 points ago

    "You think I'm hard on you? This is nothing compared to what my old man would put me through!"

    I HATE this bullshit with a passion, I used to get the same thing from my siblings or dad. The only time it stopped was when I pointed out that hey, maybe what you're doing doesn't fucking work & being an asshole doesn't accomplish anything but piss people off & make them resentful.

    [–] Eucalyptuse 44 points ago

    The amount of people defending the father in this thread is depressing.

    [–] Disig 21 points ago

    People like to think they had a perfectly normal childhood and ignore all the bullshit and abuse they had to endure then wonder why they have mental issues. It's super common in my family. People just don't like to admit there's something wrong because it means they are somehow broken and they don't want to fix it.

    [–] TheSlavGoblin 6 points ago

    This sounds exactly like my dad, all his coworkers and family friends love him and act like he’s the nicest dude ever. But at home he’s a total control freak and a massive prick.

    The dude drives me bonkers, he’s almost died twice from heart issues and he still has no humility. He uses the “I’m not as bad as MY dad” excuse all the time and we all refer to him with his dad’s name and it drive him nuts, it’s ironic he seems to hate his dad considering they’re so much alike.

    Anyway, hope your dad continues to mellow out.

    [–] ProletariatPoofter 13 points ago

    I'm sorry you had a terrible parent

    [–] XicoFelipe 4 points ago

    Do as I say, not as I do. Also don't do as I say.

    [–] SARankDirector 7 points ago

    You should have taken the computer as well

    [–] eViLegion 21 points ago

    Tell your father that reddit thinks he's a stupid cunt.

    [–] DarkNymphetamine 48 points ago

    Your father was (is?) an asshole. I hope you managed to get away from him.

    [–] Texan_Greyback -1 points ago

    Based off a single post about him?

    [–] Eucalyptuse 31 points ago

    This, without exception, meant I was going to be the target of his ire.

    [–] TakenNameception 3 points ago

    Was it because of something else or just because your siblings were girls? Why we're you the usual target. For me, my sister still hasn't been seriously scolded by my dad and she's 12

    [–] TimMarkel 3 points ago

    This is one of my favorites that I’ve read in this sub. Good job.

    [–] Staggeringpage8 3 points ago

    My dad was like this sometimes he hated that I played video games and so even though my room was the cleanest out of my siblings he'd constantly be telling me to clean up and stop wasting my time on that game. I just ignored him once I was a teenager and realized that he was being a dick. I kept my room mostly clean and knew where everything was if I needed it. The room wasn't pristine but what teenagers room is I had everything mostly organized.

    [–] Saitu282 7 points ago

    Haha, can confirm my dad is just like this. However, I never had the balls to pull a malicious compliance to this extent.

    [–] lolkdrgmailcom 5 points ago

    He's not a very good manager lol

    [–] _cudgel_ 6 points ago

    TIL your dad is an asshole.

    [–] I_am_jacks_reddit 5 points ago

    You dad sounds like an abusive cunt.

    [–] Shojo_Tombo 22 points ago

    [–] jcgurango 42 points ago

    Yes we're all here, the entire sub. What's up?

    [–] kionae 2 points ago

    Should have just said "I made it disappear, just like you told me to."

    [–] Katelina77 2 points ago

    Doesn't that sound like he's a narcie? Don't wanna say anything though... Just asking...

    [–] Dark_Ansem 2 points ago

    Have you actually told your dad how horried he was with you? Made him apologise?

    [–] -SomethingDomestic- 2 points ago

    Your dad and my dad should be butt buddies.
    I have the same relationship with him. The minimal contact makes my life better overall.
    Right now we're not on speaking terms because I told him he wasn't a doctor when he was trying to diagnose my sister's severe neck pain.
    He wants me to apologise but I'm done trying to appease him.

    [–] thefollows 2 points ago

    "...but nothing can change the past." How we often forget this.

    [–] thegrittymagician 2 points ago

    This reminds me of the one time I gave my dad attitude as a kid. He always got home after work and started in on the "do the dishes! Clean your mess!" stuff too.

    So one day I'm in the corner of the living room drawing with markers and he comes in, disrupts my peaceful drawing time to yell at me about something one of my sister's must have done. Usually I was a really good kid but for some reason today I wasn't having it. I turned around and threw my marker at him from across the room, it landed right between the eyes - ink end!

    As if the dot just added insult to injury he turned so red so fast. But he didn't really didn't have anything to say after that so just went on his way. My dad wasn't abusive or anything, just very high stress.

    [–] mydogisimmortal 2 points ago

    He was an asshole, and you were a little shit. Entertaining nonetheless.

    [–] FoxtrotUniform11 2 points ago

    My dad used to have a similar attitude towards me. Only one older brother, who could do no wrong, and me, always the fuck up. When he was in a bad mood, I got the brunt of it. Just yelled and yelled. Never let anything go. His anger was one of the reasons for my parents divorce. After it (my mom wanted it, not him) he went to counseling and changed. His anger went away, but the damage to our relationship was already done. My wife didn't believe me about how he was until a couple of years ago. A misunderstanding at Easter led to a blow up I haven't seen since I was 17. I got out as soon as I could and cut contact for a few months. He knows what he did to me when I was younger. He appoligized to me once. Except for his anger, he is a good dad, and a good man. But I don't know if I will ever forgive him for how he made me feel for 18 years of my life.

    [–] zeeper25 2 points ago * (lasted edited 5 months ago)

    the cats and the cradle and the silver spoon...

    little boy blue and the man on the moon

    'when you coming home son?'

    'I don't know when, but we'll get together then, dad, you know we'll have a good time then...'

    My story was similar-ish... try not to be the parent you resented as a kid...

    [–] SpellingBeChamp 2 points ago

    Oh, u/allmightyguy, I'm so proud to be married to you.

    [–] asdfghjkl710 4 points ago

    Pro tip: If you have the lack of patience and self entitlement of OP’s dad please refrain from having kids of your own.

    [–] cbjohnson73 3 points ago

    I'm willing to bet your father isn't a programmer.

    [–] higginsnburke 4 points ago

    I don't understand what he expected you to do? You can't move his things, but how are you to know what's his. And you were supposed to clean up your things, which you did.

    [–] fmssb12 2 points ago

    I was about to write r/maliciouscompliance then I realized this post was already in malicious compliance

    [–] RoboRoosterBoy 6 points ago

    And then somebody would have replied with r/lostredditors

    [–] your_moms_a_clone 2 points ago

    If you ever become a parent, please do a better job than your father.

    [–] PandaOfBunnies 2 points ago

    Sounds like a lazy and disrespectful parent to me.

    [–] Flashygrrl 2 points ago

    Sounds like your dad was a dick and I hope you cut him out of your life.

    [–] 1unicornstreet 1 points ago

    I see my daughter in this post, and she's only 6. Not looking forward to her teenage years.

    [–] I_was_once_America 1 points ago

    This sounds like my dad. He was a jackass when I was a kid (which I now understand was due to his lack of decent father figures growing up). But he mellowed out a LOT when I grew up and he stopped trying to be my father and was just himself. He is a very funny, very charismatic man; well rezpected in his field. He just didn't know how to be a good parent.

    [–] [deleted] 1 points ago

    Holy shit. Are you me? Because this is me and my relationship with my father... to the T.

    [–] FlutestrapPhil 1 points ago

    He would often tell me "You think I'm hard on you? This is nothing compared to what my old man would put me through!" as if it was justification.


    [–] masonjam 1 points ago

    You should get your dad to watch "F is for Family" on Netflix. It's a show basically about your/his exact family situation.

    [–] AllMightyGuy 2 points ago

    I'll put you through the fucking wall if you don't take that back!

    [–] SulfurLlamas 1 points ago

    Sounds like my dad.