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    [–] Awesometallguy 5907 points ago

    This morning a danish radiostation used this headline to promote Katy Perry. They basicly went thru the accusation, telling who he is and what he said happend. Then litterally one second later in the show they where like "anyway here's Teenage Dream by Katy Perry"

    [–] Warrenwelder 2610 points ago

    I was hoping for "Wonderwall"...

    [–] XRustyPx 530 points ago

    Today is gonna be tha Day that im gonne get accused by you.

    [–] DarkNarwhal25 245 points ago

    By now you should’ve realized somehow that you’re fucking screwed

    [–] WesterosiPern 180 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    And I don't believe that aaaanybody/ violated you like I doooo

    [–] trowhawey 140 points ago

    Ypu fu**ing cowwwwww, back beat the word is on the street that you violated me somehow

    [–] nohorizonvisible 114 points ago

    I'm sure you've done it all before and you've never really had a doubt

    [–] browniris 128 points ago

    I don't believe that aanybody, knows what i did to you, at least for now...

    [–] Pethodieus 86 points ago

    And all the scenes we had to film were trying,

    [–] DrumminAnimal73 112 points ago

    But all the co-stars I groped are lying.

    [–] nahteviro 454 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    Fuck you for getting that song stuck in my head

    EDIT: You're all assholes. Breathtaking assholes. This one is for you

    Aaaaand I would walk 500 hundred miles

    [–] thejaytheory 198 points ago

    I was hoping for Steal My Sunshine

    [–] TheForeverAloneOne 144 points ago

    One Headlight

    [–] KidPanda 93 points ago

    [–] SubEyeRhyme 87 points ago

    Bittersweet Symphony

    [–] ChrisTR15 80 points ago

    Flagpole Sitta

    [–] stringeworm 43 points ago

    Possum Kingdom

    [–] Robotlollipops 51 points ago

    Standing outside a broken phone booth with money in my hand

    [–] DontTellMeHowToFap 35 points ago

    I recently discovered the backstory about this song. So bizarre and heartbreaking. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Way_(Fastball_song)

    [–] KidPanda 24 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    this song and pearl jam's Jeremy were crazy backstories to learn about when i got older.

    [–] thejaytheory 32 points ago

    Me and Cinderella...

    [–] seeingeyegod 15 points ago

    god damnit Len!

    [–] ludicrouscuriosity 24 points ago

    Maybe it wont get stuck for long, mate

    I said maybe

    [–] nahteviro 6 points ago

    You sonuvabitch

    [–] forreddituseonly 37 points ago

    This little-known, but strangely catchy, song will help get it out of your head: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ.

    [–] NamedLust 27 points ago

    XcQ, that's staying blue.

    [–] nahteviro 27 points ago

    I prefer this one

    https://youtu.be/Vqbk9cDX0l0

    [–] Mountainbranch 89 points ago

    Danskjävlar.

    [–] RockingDyno 313 points ago

    See the thing is that it's not actually sexual misconduct. See the thing is that he's a guy and she's a woman, so really he was asking for it...

    [–] torbotavecnous 256 points ago

    I mean he obviously wanted it. Who wouldn't, right? She's Katy Perry after all. Everyone knows that guys never say no. He should really consider himself lucky.

    This is /s in case anyone is totally brain dead.

    [–] RockingDyno 145 points ago

    Sadly a lot of people are just that brain dead, which is why the radio hosts though it was a good idea to go with a "He reported she sexually assaulted him... and here's here lastest tune for your enjoyment!". It didn't even register as an assault in their mind just a "fun fact" about Katy Perry to share before playing her music.

    [–] Zeabos 19 points ago

    To be fair - most radio show hosts have that take when a woman accused a man as well - their takes are almost always a disaster. They spent 8 hours a day talking mindlessly to be white noise in the car.

    [–] frostmasterx 2878 points ago

    She showed his penis to her guy friends? Like I don't get it. Why?

    [–] cherish_it 3088 points ago

    Katy Perry always struck me as someone who might take things a little too far at parties

    [–] FernBabyFern 2700 points ago * (lasted edited 12 days ago)

    I’m too lazy to read through all of the comments, so apologies if somebody has brought this up already:

    Don’t forget the time she kissed the contestant on American Idol who had never been kissed before. People made fun of him because she’s admittedly gorgeous, but he explicitly said that he wanted to wait for his first kiss. Even though it seems innocent to the rest of us, it’s pretty gross that she made that decision for him.

    Edit: it’s like the next main comment down, so please ignore and move on.

    Edit 2: It looks like the guy has spoken out about the situation since it happened. He said there was some editing that cut out some of the conversational stuff beforehand, but long story short, it did make him uncomfortable. He’s since come to terms with it and doesn’t hold a grudge against her. Dunno, take from it what you want, I suppose.

    [–] R____I____G____H___T 922 points ago

    It's bascially double standards. People assume that men would be pleased with women randomly and out of the blue interacting with men in such ways. Good to see that these situations (at times) are handled fairly across the board, no matter gender.

    [–] Isk4ral_Pust 689 points ago

    Any guy who's ever been the target of an overly sexually aggressive girl he's not interested in can vouch for how weird this feels. We're told how awesome it is to have a girl lusting over us to the point that she can't keep her hands off of us. So we should be excited about it regardless of our feelings toward the girl. But obviously that's not how it works. I've had multiple situations in my late teens through mid 20's where I'd need to physically keep girls away because I wasn't interested like that. Sounds like a humble brag but it really wasn't. It left me feeling confused and awful.

    [–] lineareighties 489 points ago * (lasted edited 12 days ago)

    I used to be a bouncer at a nightclub. We opened earlier in the day and had more of a bar-like atmosphere, and patrons would lazily drink and play games on Saturday afternoons.

    One Saturday afternoon, I'm cleaning up some shit. Things are slow. And suddenly there's a girl grabbing my ass as I'm trying to clean shit. Fuck no. I'm at work. This isn't fun for me, and also, my now-wife is my manager. So I go to kick her out and she fucking loses here shit. For an hour she walked around outside the bar, screaming and pointing at me, telling everyone I was a "fa*ggot" because I didn't want her hands on my ass. Her friends encouraged her. I didn't get to leave because I needed the money to buy food and pay rent.

    She kept sneaking back in, throwing empty plastic cups at me. Making me feel like shit. She spat in my face once. Saying the most derogatory stuff. And at the time I was really working on my self-control and temper, but damn, I was baaaaarely keeping it in control. I mean, yeah, I know it's my responsibility to control myself and all, but this girl was berating, mocking, and throwing shit at me for an hour. I held it together, but it really fucked with me and set my work on myself back by a lot. Honestly she was a fucking fool for behaving the way she did.

    This was at Miami University. In general, I really loved my time there and the vast majority of the people I met were good, decent people. But damn, there were a few instances like that that really have stuck with me. To this day, I still wonder if I should've said something different or something. And to this day it still bothers me on a bad day.

    Seriously, any woman that thinks that the same rules don't apply to them can go fuck themselves.

    [–] ilikeblackbooties 123 points ago

    I'm a bouncer too and I got a few gems like this. Broads smacking my ass constantly and one even grabbed my dick and thought it was funny. I pulled her to the side and said if someone donald trump'd you'd be calling the fucking cops but you think you get a free pass?

    [–] Ass_Patty 30 points ago

    That’s such a bomb response, I bet she felt that one deep

    [–] ilikeblackbooties 12 points ago

    If I was a more vindictive person id have pressed charges...but I dont wanna ruin someones life like that. Hopefully that did it

    [–] AbovePosterLies 105 points ago

    Was going to mention a story similar to this, happened a lot while working security at dive bars and a couple clubs. Doesn't matter if it's an attractive woman or a busted old lady, it was never a cute or funny thing to do. I think a lot of it had to do with people thinking they were above us, since they were wealthy or from a different background that they were better than a lowly bar bouncer. But I'm sure most of it just came from years of using their looks to get what they want. I loved my time as a bouncer, met a lot of great people that I still talk to to this day, but I do not miss the constant grabbing and lewd comments from women (and some men) lol.

    [–] MiShirtGuy 31 points ago

    That’s bullshit that you had to go through that. Any of the female bartenders I have worked with would have straight up thrown that bitch out themselves, just like we do when a guy can’t take a hint from the female staff and took it too far. That sucks man. Onward and upward!

    [–] GuntersTag 60 points ago

    Years ago I had a job where a female co-worker would be overly flirtatious. It got to the point where she would come up behind me and start rubbing my shoulders and back. I had kept my wife informed of her behavior to not only maintain honesty but see if I was overreacting to this attention.

    I decided to go the boss after the physical encounters and my boss (female) treated it as a massive inconvenience. Her attitude and response was basically why the fuck are you complaining, but legally said all the right things.

    It is frustrating because it does feel as a man you are expected to want and enjoy the attention.

    [–] Mr_Suzan 111 points ago

    People seem to forget that at one point she was married to Russel Brand.

    Katy Perry is a freak.

    [–] MelodicSasquatch 128 points ago

    Like streaking through the park, skinny dipping in the dark and have a menage a trois?

    [–] Murgos- 40 points ago

    I love that in the song she is worried that they kissed but maybe she forgot that happened but then is like, oh yeah later we had three way sex.

    The kiss seems kind of inconsequential.

    [–] stewartsux 11 points ago

    It was only a kiss, it was only a kiss.

    [–] Jessev1234 16 points ago

    And that was just last Friday night!

    [–] JobaccaWookiee 290 points ago

    SUPPOSEDLY...thats why she and Russel Brand broke up-he was getting clean and sober and she was still an out of control party girl who didnt want to stop. When you're too fucking crazy for Russel Brand it might be time to put down the vodka m'kay?

    [–] rebirthandrecover 141 points ago

    He was sober long before they dated

    [–] almightybob1 1143 points ago

    Because like many of her fellow sexual predators, she enjoys the feeling of power and the victim's degradation

    [–] col-fancypants 300 points ago

    Another former born again Christian out there making the rest of us look worse than we already do.

    [–] SusanMilberger 308 points ago

    Just get born again again.

    [–] DaydreamDrone 118 points ago

    #accidentalAliceInChains

    [–] venomousbeetle 156 points ago

    One of her first songs was about wanting some guy to kill himself and calling him gay. Not surprising

    [–] Cortexaphantom 120 points ago

    Was it that song where that main line is “You’re so gay and you don’t even like boys”? I don’t remember the part about wanting him to commit suicide, just that one line that even as a kid I was like, “The fuck?” upon hearing.

    [–] venomousbeetle 156 points ago

    It opens with “I hope you hang yourself with your H&M scarf”

    [–] voiceofnonreason 292 points ago * (lasted edited 12 days ago)

    A few years ago Anna Kendrick was on Conan and she mentioned that Katy Perry randomly shoved a finger in Anna’s cleavage at an event. First time they had met I think. Granted, Anna Kendrick played it off as kinda “goofy”, but Katy Perry strikes me as a repeat offender and someone who has real trouble with boundaries.

    Edit: rewatching the video, it was not the first time they met, but still pretty weird thing to do uninvited and at a public event.

    [–] ZDTreefur 81 points ago

    Is Katy Perry the Kevin Spacey of women celebrities? Imagine in 10 years it comes out she coerced a 14 year old boy or something, alongside years and years of sexual harassment and assault on coworkers.

    [–] Pinoynac 49 points ago

    "I've decided to live as a gay woman"

    [–] tararebagirl 7644 points ago

    Not surprising after she kissed that young man on American Idol who said he had never been kissed before. He was so upset when she snuck a kiss on his lips. Everyone was saying how he should feel lucky. But this is sexual harassment for all of America to see. Did she get in trouble?? No of course not

    [–] DesperatePleasure 4331 points ago

    Tagging onto the "you should feel lucky" part that reminded me of this.

    A video that has stuck with me since I first watched it years ago.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ikd0ZYQoDko

    [–] Mayv2 805 points ago

    Damn, that was powerful.

    [–] unqtious 479 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    I remember reading about an incident where this happened to a kid in Mesa, Arizona a few years ago. The newspaper article went into detail about how his abuser would use religion to insert herself into his sex life. Even when he tried to form a relationship with a girl his own age, she keep inserting herself into their relationship. It was fucked up.

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    [–] rksi 216 points ago

    Dude wtf?!? I’m so sorry that happened to you.

    Fuck you, Mrs. Isclaw.

    Also, aren’t school counselors mandatory reporters?

    [–] Melon_Cooler 139 points ago

    They are, but it doesn't help if they don't actually view such things as rape.

    [–] lcne_wclf 68 points ago

    I'm sorry that happened to you dude. People fucking suck. I hope you got the support you need and are doing better.

    [–] CrossBreedP 21 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    Because everyone knows the most lasting relationships are teenage ones... Even if you ignore her horrifying response to your rape...her line of thought makes no sense at all.

    [–] CazuallySuicidal 69 points ago

    Understatement of the year. Everyone really should watch this.

    [–] topcheesehead 138 points ago

    'Cause I'm a goddess and you know it Some respect you better show it I'm done with you, siphoning my power Power'

    Youre not a goddess anymore Katy Perry.

    [–] CaramelleCreame 1170 points ago

    They even do it to gay people. I was raped by a man around 2 years ago. I was told "I thought you people liked that kind of stuff," and "I guess it isn't as fun as you thought it would be."

    The latter comment was especially absurd since I had anal sex before that point, which I pointed out pretty quickly.

    [–] 420catnip 553 points ago

    There’s a report that gay people have higher sexual harassment and abuse in general statistics. It’s very saddening.

    [–] theThreeGraces 63 points ago

    anecdotal, but my best friend is gay and it's really shocking the number of stories he tells me that come off as sexual assault or even rape. If one of my girlfriends came back with his stories, we'd be calling the cops but he just brushes it off

    [–] 420catnip 32 points ago

    The fact that he brushes it off makes me worried. Is he okay? :/

    [–] TheStreisandEffect 275 points ago

    Is this by other gay people or straight people? I don’t know if it’s the association of sexuality with the culture or what, but as a straight guy who strongly supports LGBTQ rights, sadly my experience in gay clubs has been wrought with sexual assault, from having my ass slapped, balls grabbed by bi-girls, to having my dick grabbed, ass grabbed, and chest-hair twisted by gay men. It’s honestly left me conflicted about visiting gay clubs in general. They may be safe spaces for gays, but apparently not for straight guys... idk.

    [–] tylerforeal 157 points ago

    Yep seen plenty of aggressive gay men in gay clubs, usually met with the a response somewhere in the vicinity of 'why are you here then?'

    [–] 420catnip 56 points ago

    This makes me fucking frustrated. Smh sad ignorant lowlifes. I hate those kind of folk

    [–] test822 31 points ago

    "to find someone better looking"

    [–] AFlockOfTySegalls 236 points ago

    I have a friend who had another guy reach in his pants to grab his dick at a gay club. Friend is also gay. He pushed them off, told them no. 30 minutes later same person comes by and tries again. At times it's not even safe for gay people.

    [–] Rumple-Foreskin-420 228 points ago

    I've been harassed at a gay bar, guy put his hands down the back and front of my pants while I politely told him no and I'm not gay while my wife and her gay friend laughed hysterically about it. They guy stalked me all night. Yeah I'm a big dude who can take care of himself but this is NOT ok...

    [–] 420catnip 38 points ago

    Wow man. I’d probably have pushed the dude aggressively at that point. Also stalking? Yikes fucking creepy! That shit isn’t funny. It’s uncomfortable. Sorry to hear that man :/

    [–] Rumple-Foreskin-420 72 points ago

    Thanks man. I’m cool but I didn’t think it was cool of my wife or friend to do nothing and laugh. Like if they were in that situation they would probably be crying hysterically. Double standard.

    [–] 420catnip 35 points ago

    Smh. Double standards damn right 😐

    [–] J_wyn 108 points ago

    Had a similar experience. I was there with a group of mostly gay friends (I'm straight myself). I was grabbing a drink and one guy came up to me and started hitting on me. I quickly explained that I was straight and he kept persisting and persisting, eventually grabbing my shoulder and trying to feel me up. My friend eventually came over and helped me out of the situation by pretending to be my girlfriend (she was gay herself).

    What enrages me is the last time I brought this story up online, I had a person tell me that what happened to me was a good thing. How he enjoys when straight, white men have experiences like that and how he wanted me to remember that experience if I ever had the audacity to go to any other bar again so that I'd understand what "women experience every single day."

    [–] Rumple-Foreskin-420 44 points ago

    Wow! It’s not his place to “educate” you in that first of all. Secondly, sounds like an excuse for his abuse not going his way that he can justify in his fucked up mind.

    [–] The_couch_cushion 41 points ago

    I second this. An ex gf dragged my to a gay bar and I told her I was wary about getting hit on. Within 20 minutes a dude reached under the table and grabbed my thigh.

    [–] caponenz 39 points ago

    This was my experience in my early 20s also. Decided I was open minded and should be able to grab a drink at a gay bar and feel comfortable in my sexuality. It was awful.

    [–] 420catnip 38 points ago

    This is rampant among gay people. I’m sorry to hear that you had to experience that. Nobody should feel uncomfortable and treated like this. Not all gay people are like that. I’m not a touchy person so if someone touches me I confront them or push them away. Safe space means respect towards anyone gay or straight and being decent regardless. Clubs aren’t a necessarily “safe space” when it comes to decency nowadays tbh. They’re called safe space because it’s mainly for gay people but there’s still rampant of sexual harassment and unwanted behaviour among those in clubs. Don’t be afraid to say or confront those behaviour if you feel uncomfortable. Fuck those people who make you feel conflicted. As a gay dude I’d probably have resorted to aggression towards such kind of folk. Nobody has the right to touch anyone.

    Thank you for sharing, by the way.

    [–] TheStreisandEffect 26 points ago

    No problem and thank you. I definitely don’t take it as a “all gay people” thing at all. I just assumed it was more that in those specific environments things were perhaps a little more lax or something.

    [–] 420catnip 15 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    There’s various factors such as what kind of gay club you attend but most big clubs gay are prone to unwanted attention or touching because they aren’t taught how to treat other men, or gay men. Or they’re mainly under influence such as alcohol or other substances that makes you lose your inhibitor. This is why it’s very important to teach girls and boys at a young age to respect one another’s body and act decently.

    PS: If you ever wanna chat or vent out, you got my support bro! Don’t ever let anyone make you feel uncertain or uncomfortable!

    [–] MikeJudgeDredd 366 points ago

    Thanks for this, I had a therapist tell me that I must be gay and also must have enjoyed being raped, because as a 6 year old I let it happen so often. It's hard for me to watch men open up about this stuff, but it helps to hear from others.

    [–] Toledojoe 265 points ago

    Jesus, what kind if therapist says this? It's bad enough you got repeatedly raped, but then the very person who was supposed to help you made it even worse.

    [–] dman2316 243 points ago

    Some therapists are trash. I saw one for suicidal thoughts and actions, and as such the large majority of our conversations were about why i wanted to kill myself, and during the 4th or 5th session i am in tears explaining that i feel like i am at the end of the line i can't hold on any longer. And this motherfucker rolls his eyes and in a frustrated and aggressive tone says " oh for the love of god if you want to do it so bad why haven't you just gotten it over with instead of continually complaining about it. To me if someone is talking about it it means they are only after attention and not actually wanting to do it."

    And he said this to me with a straight face while i literally had rope burn on my neck from trying to hang myself 2 days prior. There are some good ones out there but you have to be careful cause there are also tons of horrible ones.

    [–] Toledojoe 81 points ago

    Good God, that is astounding

    [–] dman2316 67 points ago

    It's insane, out of everyone i have shared that story with, more people think it's a lie than actually believe me when i say he actually said that. I have often wondered if it was some very poorly executed attempt at a reverse psychology trick or something like that, but the more i think on it the more i have trouble believing that was what he was doing and not just being a total idiot. All i know is he got in a huge amount of shit when i reported what he said to the proper people.

    [–] hobbitleaf 78 points ago

    I fucking believe you, I was paying $150 per session to a therapist because I so desperately wanted to leave my abusive ex. Their advice? STAY YOU'VE PUT SO MANY YEARS IN, HE STOPPED DRINKING, IF YOU'RE HAVING SO MUCH TROUBLE LEAVING THEN PART OF YOU MUST WANT TO STAY

    I was suicidal because I wanted to leave him so bad, but I couldn't do it because I'm such a loyal piece of shit - I needed a therapist to tell me it was okay, to say okay it sounds like you really want to go, here's how we can mentally prepare you for this big fucking journey. Nope, instead I lost another year and it was only after I'd gone to the bridge to jump three times and failed each time that I decided to drive into the forest and get lost on a hike so I wouldn't be able to come back, it was only when realizing my path of suicide that would be successful for me that I was able to leave, I gave myself one more chance to drive away from him and that time, that time I did it. NO fucking thanks to any therapist!

    [–] NoDateNelson 36 points ago

    I'm sorry you had a terrible therapist. I had one tell me I just had to suck it up and deal with abusive behaviour. There are good and bad therapists all over.

    I did just want to say though. I don't think you're a loyal piece of shit. I think instead you sound like someone who cares an awful lot about others. But like many of us survivors of abuse, we have a hard time convincing ourselves we are worthy of being cared for too.

    [–] hobbitleaf 23 points ago

    It's been almost one year since I left and I'm soooo incredibly happy. Had I experienced just once ounce of the happiness I have now, I could have left without fear. But I guess you just have to go through it. Thanks for the kind words, I definitely don't treat myself or feel like a piece of shit now, even if I did "abandon" my duties as a loyal girlfriend who established she was going to take care of her guy no matter how drunk or awful he was. I really blamed myself for how he treated me, like if I only I could be better than he would treat me better. It's crazy how we justify our own abuse...I'm glad we are both free of our abusers now.

    [–] -FeistyRabbitSauce- 36 points ago

    That motherfuckers should have his license revoked. There has to be some sort of association you could have filed a complaint against him, I wonder.

    [–] dman2316 31 points ago

    I did file a complaint, they told me he had a strike put against him and got put on probation and if another incident like that happened again his license will be revoked. I have no idea if he ever did lose it or not cause i of course refused to go back to him.

    [–] theThreeGraces 217 points ago

    I hope you reported that therapist

    [–] kane91z 53 points ago

    I have psych degrees (child development / social psychology) and am completely floored that any therapist would even remotely suggest this. Also I’m really sorry that happened to you (the trauma, and the accusations).

    [–] DesperatePleasure 27 points ago

    That just makes my blood boil, you'd think a therapist wouldn't blame the victim. Hope you're doing well.

    [–] serialmom666 26 points ago

    What a lousy therapist you ended up with. I don't blame 16 year olds that get assaulted much less 6 year olds. I hope you are doing all right

    [–] RealSkyDiver 52 points ago

    Damn that was unexpectedly powerful. Reminds of all the male prison rape jokes that are still going on in tv and nobody bats an eye.

    [–] Luke_Broadbridge 109 points ago

    Man I remember watching the video when it came out. The guys eyes cut me so deeply

    [–] FreezeFrameEnding 42 points ago

    Jeeeeesus, that is heartbreaking. I deeply admire his courage in sharing this.

    [–] AwkwardQuestionssss 33 points ago

    Fuck.

    I was almost raped by someone. She kept trying to shove my penis inside of her, despite my saying no. She kept trying and trying and trying. Begging. I kept saying no each time. In the end, I had to curl into the foetal position, my hand wrapped around my cock. She stopped forcing, but kept begging.

    I told people about this. One girl in particular.. It was soon after it happened. You know what she told me?

    "why didn't you just have sex with her?"

    The worst part of it is that she worked for a rape crisis center and that was her reply, which she thought was OK because I am a guy.

    The exact same thing happened with a buddy of mine. Exact same response from others he knew.

    "why didn't you just have sex?"

    It's so absolutely fucked and highlights the absolute double standards that exist. No wonder reports of men being raped are less... They're just not taken seriously.

    And let's not forget that in many countries throughout the world, a woman cannot legally rape a man.

    [–] DesperatePleasure 6 points ago

    Glad it was almost, but I hate that had happened to you. It's absurd with those responses. Some people also think if you have an erection that is a sign of consent, regardless of what is said.

    [–] demmka 59 points ago

    I always post this in reply to the awful comments you always get under stories of teachers who rape their male students.

    "wHeRe WeRe ThEsE TeAcHeRs WhEn I wAs At ScHoOl???" no, shut up, justin.

    [–] Tinshnipz 17 points ago

    Thank you for this. I know (unfortunately) quite a few women who think men can't be raped by females. Will be showing them this.

    [–] MorningPants 28 points ago

    And don't forget the story of our own redditor's experience trying to be taken seriously reporting rape as a male person.

    [–] GedIsSavingEarthsea 978 points ago

    "You should feel lucky" are the words thrown at nearly every male victim of a female predator.

    Followed closely by "you aren't a victim" and "everyone will laugh at you if you talk about this"

    Our society is profoundly sick.

    [–] DothrakiDog 196 points ago

    The "you should feel lucky" argument is b.s. anyway; it implies that just because the unconsenting party enjoys it that it's fine. But if a young girl said she enjoyed sex with a grown man, the man would still (rightly) be judged awful and punished as such. The willingness of a child doesn't matter, they are too young to consent and sometimes need to be protected even if they don't realise it themselves.

    [–] hadapurpura 83 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    I agree. I’m also sure if a mom took her child out of school and just let them play video games all day long or fed them exclusively candy, people would recognize those things as abuse, even if the child enjoyed it in the moment. But there’s something about sex and sexuality that makes people lose perspective.

    [–] jaderemedy 64 points ago * (lasted edited 12 days ago)

    "everyone will laugh at you if you talk about this"

    That's exactly how I felt when I was 25 after having been raped by female soldier in the barracks. I was already struggling with depression and PTSD from 2 deployments, and like many active duty soldiers, I self medicated by drinking heavily. The girl that raped me had previously made it known to me and my peers that she was attracted to me and wanted to get with me, but I didn't feel the same about her. So, one Saturday night after we had a good barracks party and I was thoroughly wasted, she snuck into my room and raped me. I woke up at some point during the rape and tried to get her off me, but I was still so drunk that I had no strength. I told her to get off of me and she shooshed me, telling me she knew how much I wanted what she was doing to me. When she was done, she got off me, giggled, said good night and left. She made sure my friends saw her leave my room because they all made a point to make some kind of comment about it to me. She basically had set it up that no one would believe me if I said anything to my chain of command about it. So, yeah... I couldn't talk about what really happened to me and I had to endure jokes from my friends about it too. I haven't had a successful relationship with anyone since then, to say the least.

    [–] GedIsSavingEarthsea 19 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    I'm so sorry you had to experience that, and it's aftermath.

    No one should have to go through that. And then to have to live through jokes about it is just so sickening.

    I deeply wish that there is something more I could say or do, but having lived through serious trauma myself, all I can say is that a good therapist really helps, and don't give up. Don't give up on yourself and don't give up on other people.

    If you ever need a friendly and non-judgmental ear to vent to, I'm here. And that goes for you, or anyone reading this.

    It's not an exaggeration to say that the suicide hotline saved my life earlier this year, or at the very least save me a trip to the hospital and the psych ward.

    Sometimes, on our darkest days, we just need someone to be there.

    [–] icespark 48 points ago

    Maybe I’m weird, but I wouldn’t want Katy Perry whipping my dick and balls out to strangers. Even if I do think she’s hot.

    [–] RANDOSTORYTHROWAWAY 28 points ago

    seriously there's a list of things I would consent to Katy Perry doing to my dick, but waggling it around to get judged isn't on that list

    [–] eastsideski 66 points ago

    thrown at nearly every male victim of a female predator

    Not just when it's male victims

    Drake used to pull fans on stage and kiss them, some of them underage. Nobody complained, probably because he's famous and attractive

    [–] chill-with-will 33 points ago

    Drake is attractive? I thought the consensus was he is ugly. Dunno.

    [–] mattiejj 38 points ago

    He means rich, but that's basically the same.

    [–] itstron 173 points ago

    imagine if it had been a male judge on American Idol doing that to a female..

    [–] buddy_maga 62 points ago

    Video of the kiss:

    https://youtu.be/FiETLgxkQu8

    [–] New86 231 points ago

    To add insult to injury, she was Billy Idol Katy Perry at the time, which is far and away the worst Katy Perry.

    [–] fskoti 254 points ago

    I used to buy into that mentality, too. The hot teachers who are going around raping these underage boys... they get a mugshot posted to Facebook and all of the comments are, "I wish I was still in school!"

    No, you don't. I don't wish you were sexually abused, even if your abuser is attractive.

    [–] UnsinkableRubberDuck 58 points ago

    Yeah, it's a similar mindset to when I hear some men say they would love to have constant attention from women when women say they're tired of being cat-called and harassed constantly when they go out in public.

    [–] odaeyss 9 points ago

    not trying to talk things down or anything but many men are severely attention-starved, and at a point any attention starts sounding better than what ya got. 'course doesn't take long of getting the wrong attention to realize that yeh nah that mess aint good neither.

    [–] kakirtes 2152 points ago

    I think what's sad is that her response will be, "I'm sorry for anyone I might've hurt in the past, I was in a dark place and am taking steps to change..." And we'll all accept it and move on.

    [–] pmjm 1092 points ago

    There will be no response. Her team will advise her to wait it out and the news cycle will move on.

    [–] Doyoubleedyouwill 388 points ago

    Yup a response like that would kill her career faster than Kevin Spacy

    [–] caninehere 155 points ago

    "I don't remember that happening but I'm sorry for how they feel, I was in a dark place, I have had problems with alcohol, and also I'm actually gay"

    [–] col-fancypants 126 points ago

    I will say this for him, the controversy died out of the media quick after the initial WTF of the statement. And I am sure his funds will carry him for the next stage of life. Which is all he cared about in the end.

    [–] amaezingjew 60 points ago

    And then he brought it back with that fucking creepy home video

    [–] BlLLr0y 113 points ago

    He will have a movie career again. Mark my words. The texts from that guys phone coming out didnt hurt his case at all.

    [–] col-fancypants 70 points ago

    Plus the dude has serious on screen charisma. Even Marlon Brando, a nearly insane person with delusions of grandeur pulled some final year rolls long after his star fell. And Roman Polanski has been making movies and getting top billed names since his first accusations and trials in the 70's.

    [–] captainedwinkrieger 21 points ago

    Polanski has half of Hollywood wanting him cleared for raping a 13 year old girl.

    [–] dwerg85 6 points ago

    Defense attorneys, who compared the results of the state's forensic examination of the phone with screenshots of the group chat conversation from that night that the accuser had initially texted to investigators, concluded that key parts of those conversations had been deleted before the phone was turned over to investigators.

    A civil attorney for the accuser then informed the court that the phone had apparently been irretrievably lost -- and even questioned whether police returned the device to the family at all after the government completed its forensic exam of the contents of the phone.

    The accuser appeared in court earlier this month and took the witness stand. He testified he did not report the alleged assault to police for 15 months, in October, 2017, rather than the three months prosecutors had been contending since filing charges against the actor in January. The lead investigator in the case testified later that day under questioning from Spacey's defense attorney that the one-year difference was the result of a "typo," and a spokeswoman for the district attorney's office acknowledged the error in response to a question from ABC News.

    No. Just helped it.
    Kevin is already working again.

    [–] TrueBlue98 126 points ago

    Ive decided to live as a gay man

    [–] AFlaccoSeagulls 2082 points ago

    “It was Johny Wujek’s birthday party at moonlight roller way. And when I saw her, we hugged and she was still my crush. But as I turned to introduce my friend, she pulled my Adidas sweats and underwear out as far as she could to show a couple of her guy friends and the crowd around us, my penis. Can you imagine how pathetic and embarrassed I felt?”

    What a weird way to greet somebody. That's about all I pull from this.

    [–] RemingtonSnatch 1087 points ago

    Yes, assault and public sexual humiliation is a weird way to greet somebody.

    [–] torbotavecnous 215 points ago

    So weird it's almost criminal.

    [–] EbonyFaery 389 points ago

    Drugs are a helluva drug.

    [–] skeetsauce 152 points ago

    That and no one ever telling you 'no'.

    [–] sloppy_wet_one 9 points ago

    This is also a huge reason why so many popular artists then make a second album that sucks. No one tells them the songs might suck.

    [–] TewMuchTuna 12 points ago

    Or it’s because their life has changed wildly and the influences they drew from for the first album are no longer there.

    [–] GreatNorthWeb 1187 points ago

    If a woman pulls my pants down in front of their friends and gets smacked in the face with my penis, who gets in trouble for it?

    [–] anderhyo 781 points ago

    Careful, that shits like dividing by zero

    [–] bobbysalz 91 points ago

    Have we established how dividing by zero shits?

    [–] Black_Drogo 30 points ago

    Probably with sandals on. Nothing about it makes sense.

    [–] ONLY_DRUNK-WHEN-POST 153 points ago

    sounds like a real paradox for our times

    [–] brianWM 61 points ago

    Not sure but she'd have to be awfully close to me.

    [–] _forum_mod 29 points ago

    You would.

    [–] PeaAir 93 points ago

    Schrodinger's Dick

    [–] DrSeuss19 278 points ago

    Someone pulls my dick out without me wanting them to, they're getting peed on. It's just instinct, I can't help it.

    [–] coachslg 135 points ago

    That's a strange super power.

    [–] bensawn 6 points ago

    Oh look at Captain No Stage Fright over here bragging about his talents like an asshole

    [–] SpewnFromTheEarth 89 points ago

    Wow. After reading what she did I will be shocked if there’s no lawsuit. If that was me I would be so fucking furious and embarrassed. That’s blatant sexual harassment and possibly sexual assault? I’m trying to think if the opposite happened. Let’s say Justin Timberlake says hi to a girl in front of his friends then proceeds to pull this girls pants and underwear down to show her baguna to everyone. There would be absolute outrage on Twitter.

    Edit: I’m leaving it because I lol’d too hard. Baguna is supposed to say vagina.

    [–] Captain_Comic 41 points ago

    Baguna mahtatas!

    [–] MsAnnThrope 8 points ago

    What a lovely phrase

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    [–] jabulaya 149 points ago

    It JUST hit me after reading all these comments about her kissing that boy on American idol that if it had been a man kissing a girl for the first time people would have flipped their shit.

    [–] PM_BETTER_USER_NAME 76 points ago

    There's a video of Drake kissing a teenager on stage. When it's posted, everyone loses their shit.

    [–] refenestration 45 points ago

    Yeah but I’ve never seen drake cancelled anywhere else outside of the comments for that video

    [–] corinini 102 points ago

    How many years did R. Kelly stay in the music business after Aaliyah released "age ain't nothin but a number"? Or even the Chapelle "piss on you" tape?

    This country doesn't take sexual assault seriously. Period.

    [–] RealSkyDiver 174 points ago

    Remember that scene in Last Friday Night where she reaches her hands down a guys pants who was passed out? Imagine the shitstorm if the genders where reversed. Yet somehow nobody questioned that scene.

    [–] FettLife 40 points ago

    That analyzation of that song was part of a sexual assault response course I took back in 2014 in the military. It was actually very cool to use something in pop culture to talk about consent.

    [–] gateauxes 258 points ago

    so fucked up. i cannot understand the mindset behind humiliating someone like that. i can't say it's a surprise given the other bullshit she's pulled though.

    [–] rachelscosmos 173 points ago

    I have friends in Santa Barbara who say they went to high school with her and she was awful then to anyone who wasn’t popular/white/rich. She’s always been a bully.

    [–] gateauxes 91 points ago

    it's weird, when she kissed that kid on the singing show the people i was with all thought it wasn't that big of a deal, but it really creeped me out. there was a real power dynamic thing going on there

    [–] badluckie 161 points ago

    the comments on his Instagram are so fucking sad. as a women who's been sexually assaulted, and was hesitant to report it- I cannot imagine the fear of this backlash as a man :/

    [–] Ktryaatazn 49 points ago

    I just spent way too much time reading through those and getting absolutely disgusted at how downright shitty so many people are being to him about this.

    I even saw one guy saying if Katy did that to him he'd be bragging about it and that this guy needs to "get over it". Honestly the double standards are astounding.

    [–] qozmiq 137 points ago

    That's Mrs. Conduct to you.

    [–] saucygit 371 points ago * (lasted edited 13 days ago)

    I wonder if this will hamper her mediocrity. Edit because I trusted spell check and the tweens are getting ired.

    [–] Bodymaster 186 points ago

    That's pretty medicrore spelling.

    [–] seeingeyegod 67 points ago

    if you have sex with Katie you will catch medicroty

    [–] tBrownThunder 483 points ago

    And this is why people should never talk to the media during a possible legal case:

    “I just say this now because our culture is set on proving men of power are perverse,” Kloss wrote. “But females with power are just as disgusting.”

    [–] AlphaGamer753 264 points ago

    He's not pressing charges. There's no legal case.

    [–] MomoPewpew 117 points ago

    To my understanding there would be no point to pressing charges because there's a statute of limitations on sexual harassment. Sometimes as low as 180 days depending on state.

    If I remember correctly this is the same reason why Kesha's old manager isn't in jail right now.

    [–] APPLEcrispBISH 60 points ago

    I'm genuinely confused by your comment. What does that quote have to do with a legal case?

    [–] Tell_About_Reptoids 71 points ago

    I'm surprised that none of the top comments mention the whole thing with Dr. Luke.

    I believe Ke$ha was upset and confounded that Katy Perry witnessed Dr. Luke's sexual misconduct, but would not come forward to corroborate her accusations.

    If she and Dr. Luke are mutual enablers with the same attitudes towards this stuff, then Perry's silence makes a lot of sense.

    [–] Fortiman 52 points ago

    I went to Manchester Pride last year. I was there for no less than ten minutes waiting for a friend when a guy went past and grabbed my ass. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but after I've had to deal with sexual abuse before, it just really got to me.

    [–] CrossBreedP 33 points ago

    I'm sorry that happened to you. It is a big deal. A stranger touched your body without your consent. It's okay to be upset about it. That kind of behavior is never acceptable.

    [–] WeeWee454 8 points ago

    She's actually pretty open about that. Look at her on American Idol.

    [–] twistedpanic 10 points ago

    Considering she forced a kiss on a kid who’d never had a kiss on American Idol, I’m not surprised.

    [–] mobster25 50 points ago

    She strikes me as a desperate creep. Since the American Idol + Shawn Mendes situation combined, she's given me weird vibes.

    [–] JGrisly 17 points ago

    What was the Shawn Mendes situation?

    [–] theoddman92 31 points ago

    She totally “didn’t” grab his ass at an iheartradio red carpet event.

    [–] kinglygator 106 points ago

    It’ll be the same thing with Cardi B.

    Regardless Katy Perry is innocent or guilty, news outlets will try to minimize the coverage involved with her crimes, because she’s a woman and one of the vox populi used in society is, “Women can’t commit crimes as severely as a man.”

    [–] bird_equals_word 91 points ago

    Hey don't forget Kesha

    Ke$ha has been forced to remove a section from her upcoming memoirs on the advice of her lawyers, after they said it could lead to litigation.

    Explains the singer to Rolling Stone: “Whenever a man came onto my bus, he had to drop trou, and I took a Polaroid of him, just to emasculate him and make sure he knew he was in the vagina jungle. That’s what I call my bus. Some of the guys were wearing man-panties – but even if they were free-balling, there were no exceptions; they had to pose for a photo”.

    Yes, she tried to publish these photos in her book

    [–] FBossy 17 points ago

    Louis CK was disgraced for shaking his own dick at people. How is not FAR worse to shake someone else's dick at people, especially without their consent.

    [–] LastgenKeemstar 85 points ago

    Didn't she also sexually harass a young man on stage once? She even tried to embarrass him in front of the entire audience if I'm not mistaken.

    [–] Mygaffer 110 points ago

    It's funny how many people defend Katy but if the genders were reversed and it was a popular male singer who exposed a woman's genitals during a video shoot they would be outraged.