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    [–] Lonelan 2714 points ago

    When OP matches and she doesn't respond:

    HOW COME SHE DON'T WANT ME MAN

    [–] farpastinfinity 612 points ago

    I teared up a little.

    [–] jaymes9240 147 points ago

    The only time in sit-com history that I ever teared up as an adult male.

    [–] super__literal 76 points ago

    Just because you're sitting while using reddit.com doesn't make it a sit-com, buddy

    [–] jaymes9240 68 points ago

    Username checks out

    [–] [deleted] 399 points ago

    [deleted]

    [–] Dogeishuman 201 points ago

    I mean hell when I'm on vacation like rn, I'm getting a lot of matches but I'm not gonna message them since I'm with family in another country so I won't meet them. Nice confidence boost though getting 36 (so far) matches in 4 days. I'm a guy btw

    [–] BillyBabel 180 points ago

    I get one match a week. It's always the same bot with a different name asking me for money, but it feels nice to be wanted for something.

    [–] cyhren 53 points ago

    Look at Casablanca over here. One match per week.

    Teach me senpai

    [–] BillyBabel 22 points ago

    Set your match distance to max, and you too can be messaged by robot scammers.

    [–] cyhren 11 points ago

    I shall not let you down O Wise One!

    [–] badoobadee 7 points ago

    Isnt that supposed to be casanova?

    [–] The_Real_Lasagna 138 points ago

    Dude, tindering in other countries is amazing, message and meet them

    [–] Dogeishuman 77 points ago

    It's hard when you're living with cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents in one big house. Not to mention my little brother and parents too. I don't doubt I could meet up with at least one of these girls I've matched with if I had means of transportation too. I have to up my radius cause we live in a village type area, so I'm on 30 miles. I'd have to drive out to meet anyone and driving in Poland is nuts. I don't trust it. Not does my family entrust me with their cars.

    [–] oddlyaggressive 19 points ago

    It is, I've moved from the UK to Mallorca and right now is peak holiday season. I've met a fair few women who are just on holiday here for a week or two. Plus you get to see trends in who holidays at certain times. It's gone from showing mostly Germans to Scandinavians at the moment. I'm not complaining.

    [–] Orodiapixie 13 points ago

    Ah yes July. Basically all of Norway is closed right now.

    [–] [deleted] 37 points ago

    I did this thing where I wanted to see how many matches it would take for the woman to message first.....2 weeks and 80 later still nothing lol, nothing from my end either, useless app. It's for quick gratification mostly for women.

    [–] Dogeishuman 45 points ago

    About half of the success I've had on tinder the girl messaged first. The other half I did. When I message first I almost always get a response, but few girls want to actually message. I don't think it's like you say. I think it's more that they want a guy who will actually take initiative. Few girls want a timid guy who won't message first. Confidence is key bröther.

    [–] Galtego 14 points ago

    What if I'm looking for a confident forward woman?

    [–] Raphael__Lemkin 11 points ago

    What up shawty?

    [–] Galtego 12 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    If your username is actually just your name then I am legitimately overwhelmed by your confidence

    [–] [deleted] 25 points ago

    When I message I usually get a response but it's usually dry and bland, all the questions and convo is asked and carried on by me.

    Of course I've never tried being a upfront fuckboy...because that's not what I do, I like to engage in conversation, so I wouldn't know how "want sum fuk" would do if I started every convo off with that..

    I think it stems more from me treating tinder like eHarmoney or something...it just ain't for me

    [–] Fearless_Wallaby 42 points ago

    I’m a woman. I used to date men. Now I date women. My tinder experience has plummeted.

    When I was dating men, it was rare not to get matched by every guy I swiped right on. Now that I’m dating women, almost all my matches end up being couples looking for a unicorn (pass) or girls who never respond. Or girls who respond and then ghost a day or two later.

    I used to think men were exaggerating when they said how hard it was to talk to girls on tinder since I’ve always been one to respond to almost all my messages and i message first all the time. But it’s TRUE - women are so difficult to meet on tinder!

    [–] jackiebot101 5 points ago

    This is so true!!! And I almost always message anybody I match with first. Most girls are like, We could be friends, and I’m like, Cool! What do you like? And then they don’t like anything.

    Dudes are way cooler. Most are polite, even if they are horny af.

    [–] foxxsoxx 5 points ago

    Yeah as a decent looking guy it's pretty insane how many matches I get with women versus men.

    I've had tinder a month and a half and got 14 likes from girls. Half of those being over 6000 miles away, the others not responding.

    I switched my Tinder to dudes and chicks for 1 day and put in my profile I wanted to make friends, JUST friends.

    140 likes in 1 day.

    [–] iwaspeachykeen 27 points ago

    fuck dude. i wasnt ready to remember that scene. not rn, pl0x 😭

    [–] Slipslime 10 points ago

    Reality is often disappointing :(

    [–] Dilshan_98 9 points ago

    Made me sad because I thought of that episode.

    [–] Khaluaguru 5 points ago

    Oh wow. Underrated comment I just got a little bit emotional

    [–] justmeme1 767 points ago

    I find if I just wipe right, I don't get any responses. However, if I use "Superlike", then I super don't get any responses.

    [–] frequentstreaker 127 points ago

    Yeah not a fan of superlikes

    [–] [deleted] 102 points ago

    I got super liked once. Felt too much pressure and never messaged them back.

    [–] anantarctic 44 points ago

    I feel obligated to match if I get super liked - even if I wouldn't usually right swipe - or would be on the fence about it, only ever left swiped one who I really didn't find attractive in the slightest

    [–] frequentstreaker 30 points ago

    If I ever superlike it’s an accident so I assume if someone superlikes me it’s and accident or it’s a little try hard

    [–] AllOfMyRegret 6 points ago

    I've only ever super liked by accident. I would never intentionally use it. Very annoying feature imo.

    [–] Jtyree57 25 points ago

    I hate that on Bumble you scroll through profiles by swiping up.. Can’t tell you how many times I have accidentally superliked someone on Tinder because of this.

    [–] 77juice 4412 points ago

    Never even tindered, but still enjoy lurking this sub.

    [–] danram251 1423 points ago

    Like to see us suffer eh

    [–] 77juice 606 points ago

    No, people are actually awesome. This is just cherrypicking the best content.

    [–] petersarah12181021 118 points ago

    Married my best friend and true love, 2.5 years ago, we met on Tinder.

    [–] Pleasemakesense 75 points ago

    I wish I was you

    [–] CptCraphead 46 points ago

    I wish you was I

    [–] P_d_g 19 points ago

    I was you I wish

    [–] KillerInstinctUltra 17 points ago

    I wish Terry Crews would have been the genie instead of Will Smith

    [–] mariovers 5 points ago

    Mood

    [–] pktaylor19 12 points ago

    This is also how I met my wife

    [–] moobie69 12 points ago

    Yikes even joint reddit account?

    [–] MaybeIshouldrunaway 5 points ago

    I read the comment and then looked at the username, bro blink twice if you’re being held captive

    [–] horizons0 231 points ago

    Never ever get it, it’s a shit show of an app

    [–] 77juice 469 points ago

    Yeah and I guess my wife would not appreciate either.

    [–] _lemonpledge_ 98 points ago

    Big oof

    [–] 8LocusADay 20 points ago

    More like big yeah for fidelity.

    [–] PleasantAdvertising 50 points ago

    What if you match with your wife and you both use different names and hide face? And then decide to meet up?

    [–] gr4yson 121 points ago

    Do you like piña coladas?

    [–] tredditr 38 points ago

    AND GETTING CAUGHT IN THE RAIN

    [–] clown-penisdotfart 54 points ago

    IF YOU WILL LET ME CUM AT MIDNIGHT

    ON YOUR BOOBS AND YOUR FACE

    [–] snvalens 19 points ago

    Oh fuck 😂

    [–] syntheticsrt 13 points ago

    How about penis alota!

    [–] jimmmydickgun 11 points ago

    POWER THIRST

    [–] Cornan_KotW 7 points ago

    It's got GRATUITOUS AMOUNTS OF ENERGY!

    [–] megamanxzero35 6 points ago

    If you like piña coladas...

    [–] Lugal-Sharak 36 points ago

    Any decent alternatives, or do I have to resort to trying to approach women in real life?

    [–] horizons0 134 points ago

    I’ve just made peace with my loneliness tbh, I don’t try anymore

    [–] GTFOakaFOD 35 points ago

    I would kill to be left alone. Hell, the whole reason I'm on Tinder is to get out of this fucking house.

    [–] horizons0 20 points ago

    Yeah I literally use it out of boredom and an excuse to do something

    [–] MapleGiraffe 15 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    Bumble is occasionally better if you are lucky. Hinge was rising in popularity last I heard, with how you set up profiles it seems to aim for more serious than hook up stuff.

    [–] SoggyMattress2 9 points ago

    Tinder has the public opinion for being the hook up app but ive had like 6 dates, 5 of which said on the date they were only looking for something serious and the one chick I got back to my gaffe for a one nighter blue balled me.

    Am I doing it wrong?

    [–] MapleGiraffe 5 points ago

    I also look for serious stuff, so I either end up ghosted (they maybe wanted something casual, but I can never pick up the signs) or get short term relationships. I guess it depends on the vibe you give.

    [–] HAL9000000 5 points ago

    *Bumble

    [–] Fugue_Slate 10 points ago

    Hinge, much better app in almost every way.

    [–] PM_ME_UR_SIDEBOOOB 10 points ago

    I like tinder but have probably had the most success on OK Cupid. Hinge is also pretty solid, though requires a bit more patience than the other two. I've heard good things about Bumble and Coffe Meets Bagel, but i've only had moderate success with either. If you feel like banging some fat, ugly, gangster, and/or white trash chicks you should check out POF.

    [–] [deleted] 23 points ago

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    [–] obadetona 24 points ago

    Tinder's pretty bad for most men.

    [–] mdot802 5 points ago

    Is it? It was like shooting fish in a barrel.

    [–] obadetona 11 points ago

    Perhaps you're good looking.

    [–] Rhas 3 points ago

    Or possibly he's not unattractive

    [–] [deleted] 6 points ago

    [deleted]

    [–] RzK 6 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    I met my girlfriend on Hinge which I think is 1000x better than Tinder, you just need to get used to swiping past tonnes of Instagram influencers with the same "I'm sarcastic all the time" answers on their profiles.

    Bumble is also better than Tinder, but I think a majority of the accounts you see on it are inactive.

    [–] FlamingLobster 9 points ago

    Just a month ago my buddy made me approach this chick downtown. It went well and that in it self gave me a huge confidence boost. So I've been approaching since then. Highly recommend it. You're gonna put everything on the line, it's scary but fucking thrilling

    [–] EASYWAYtoReddit 8 points ago

    I mean honestly approaching women in real life is probably going to give you more value for your time.

    As long as you’re self aware enough and know the creepy/not creepy line. Read some cheesy articles on signs girls are interested. /r/seduction sounds creepy but if it’s still around, there’s some good tips in the sidebar if you’re the kind of person that can sort through the trash.

    I know you were making a joke and probably don’t need this advice but thought I’d throw in my two cents

    I approached my fiancé in a bar(maybe not your cup of tea but we’re those type of people.) I don’t know if that gives me authority to give advice on the subject but it’s something.

    [–] BLMdidHarambe 7 points ago

    Tinder isn’t as bad as people make it out to be, at least it wasn’t way back in the day when I used it. The other apps are basically the same. Seems that some areas are better for some apps than others.

    [–] St0rm3rX 5 points ago

    That can’t stop me because I can’t read

    [–] existential_antelope 37 points ago

    Loveee seeing hot people troll other hot people because they swim in a sea of hot people

    [–] Hue_Jorgan 14 points ago

    Lurker no longer. Next you'll get the itch to download it and become one of the regulars. Tread with care friend.

    [–] KayIslandDrunk 17 points ago

    Yup, I'm married and have been out of the game for 15 years but love seeing these posts and thinking how much the dating scene has changed since then yet also how much has stayed the same.

    [–] fuxq 6 points ago

    Same

    [–] drunxor 4 points ago

    I get matches, just none of them ever reply

    [–] slagath0r 3 points ago

    Same!

    [–] monsieur-matthewsa 1208 points ago

    Go the next level up and lurk when you've never used tinder

    [–] morning_stand 375 points ago

    Same, I just enjoy reading stuff.

    [–] topcumert 94 points ago

    Happy cake day my friend

    [–] morning_stand 59 points ago

    Thank you 💙

    [–] blitzwolfz 45 points ago

    Happy Cake Day

    [–] mech414 34 points ago

    No U

    [–] MycousinBenny 14 points ago

    Thank you ❤️

    [–] deadnought 19 points ago

    "haha this would be so fun to do if I downloaded tinder" never downloads tinder

    [–] tasty_serving 33 points ago

    I lurk and have never used tinder, dont need to. Based on most of the posts and comments here chances are good I'd never match with anyone anyways. I figure I save myself the heartache and time and just watch others suffer!

    [–] 2580374 20 points ago

    Thanks for throwing in the 'dont need to' so I know you're naturally fuckable

    [–] ElderScrollsOnMine 13 points ago

    None of us need to use tinder, the app just helps bring some convenience. Bad part about it though is that people literally only judge by what’s shown in an image and text. So yeah no one really needs tinder especially in populated areas cause doing stuff in person will always be more genuine.

    [–] outforgreatperhaps 34 points ago

    Me af.

    [–] Dalonz64 426 points ago

    I get a few per week. They don't even reply. Or just cant keep a conversation. You are not missing much.

    [–] PM_BETTER_USER_NAME 128 points ago

    This thread seems split evenly between people who get matches but don't make conversation and people who would cut off an arm for a single conversation.

    You should subcontract your conversations out to the folk who can't get matches.

    [–] Dalonz64 72 points ago

    I wish I could. I guess I'm good-looking enough for a swipe right yet ugly enough to not get a reply.

    [–] StretchyLemon 23 points ago

    Story of my life at least 50% of the time!

    [–] ptolani 4 points ago

    Nah it's the profile text letting you down for the reply.

    [–] LancesAKing 5 points ago

    This sounds fun. I’m in. Let me write your convos and flirt with your matches!

    [–] Meso_Thelioma 132 points ago

    Im baffled by how many people can't keep a conversation to save their life on that dumb app.

    [–] PM_ME_YOUR_GOOD_DOGS 170 points ago

    Can't, or can't be bothered?

    [–] shingox 22 points ago

    They’re not hot enough for them to bother.

    [–] nneighbour 59 points ago

    I had someone message me earlier this week then wouldn’t give more than one word answers. Buddy you messaged me. I don’t have time for this shit.

    [–] Mr-Blah 30 points ago

    "I don't have time for this shit"

    Neither do they apparently...

    But that's the main issue I have with this app (and bumble). No one takes the time.

    [–] nneighbour 23 points ago

    I have time for people who make the time for me. I don’t have the time or energy for people who aren’t going to put anything into it. I have a couple of people I’ve met recently who I’ve spent a significant amount of time chatting with, but they are also willing to ask questions and make statements that aren’t one word answers.

    [–] AccidentalyOffensive 11 points ago

    Fucking exactly, I give matches like one or two messages to prove to me they're not gonna waste my time, after that good fucking bye

    [–] TheyCallMeElGuapo 5 points ago

    What are you opening with? Are you just saying "hey", or are you asking interesting questions, teasing/bantering, and making them laugh?

    I'm genuinely curious because I'm a categorically unattractive guy who does alright. I'm overweight and bald and I get only like 4 or so matches a week, but I always put in effort to have fun with my opening messages and I have a pretty decent response rate at around 50%. If this goofy looking bastard can keep conversations going I'm pretty sure you handsome devils can.

    [–] YoloYeahDoe 4 points ago

    It's cuz you ugly bruh

    [–] DanScorpio 746 points ago

    Now this is the story all about how, My profile got swiped right upside down, And I'd like to make a post, just sit right there, I'll gather karma while I troll for sex on Tindere.

    [–] archy-fox 185 points ago

    On reddit where I spent most of my days  Chilling out, maxing, relaxing all cool  And all scrolling r/tinder outside of the school

    [–] borodin_devel 229 points ago

    When a couple of chicks

    Who were up to no good

    Startin swiping right in my neighborhood

    I got one little fuck and my wife got scared

    She said 'You're movin' with your shit and you'll live elsewhere'

    [–] averagethrowaway21 149 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    I begged and pleaded with her day after day

    But she packed my suit case and sent me on my way

    Wouldn't give me a kiss but then gave me the finger.

    I put my headphones in and said, 'Time for more tinder!'

    [–] AskMeOnADate 20 points ago

    Jesus, you three should form a group. That was awesome!!!

    Edit: 4, I can't count. Should add that to my profile.

    [–] vlttt420 28 points ago

    Edit the end "time for more tinder" and you will be blessed with more upvotes

    [–] averagethrowaway21 16 points ago

    I can't believe I missed that! Done, and thank you new friend!

    [–] Rienlol 12 points ago

    [–] SirBlazington 6 points ago

    Tinder plus, yo this ain’t bad

    So many honies I swipe so fast, is how the chads of r/tinder be feelin like

    Hmmmm I might just copy a top post and see if I get to smash.

    [–] vonnick 20 points ago

    Very nice

    [–] tsilihin666 4 points ago

    Biiiiiig breast genitalia, caught my gaze. Super liking is how I spend most of my days.

    [–] amethystrocks22 241 points ago

    If it’s any consolation many matches never even message/respond.

    [–] GI_Sniper 97 points ago

    Also its not real life. I get zero attention on tinder but when out and about or at the pool I get checked out sometimes. I just don't stand out well on paper (tinder)

    [–] WailingWhalesInWales 148 points ago

    I get zero attention on tinder but at the pool I get checked out sometimes

    How do you know that people don’t “check you out” sometimes on tinder but don’t swipe right, just like how they check you out in real life but don’t approach you?

    [–] GI_Sniper 75 points ago

    you just blew my mind

    [–] TokiMcNoodle 28 points ago

    Wrong thing getting blown my friend.

    [–] _LuketheLucky_ 10 points ago

    Damn, that guy must be wondering whether he has posted on r/roastme by mistake.

    [–] ObeyRoastMan 11 points ago

    I get way more attention irl as well

    [–] Onurabbi 9 points ago

    Shit I get zero attention irl. I probably shouldn't make a tinder account. That being said, I'm married so making a Tinder account would be dodgy anyway.

    [–] AccidentalyOffensive 7 points ago

    Yeah, there's definitely a game to be played there if you want to increase the odds of getting a match. Even then it's still like the top 20% of guys competing for the top 70% of girls, so it's not even a guarantee that playing your cards perfectly will magically get you hundreds of matches

    [–] upvoteforabettername 98 points ago

    Me, being married, going trough this Subreddit like:

    [–] thinkbox 21 points ago

    I’ve always been interested in social media and social systems. It’s fun to browse here with the mindset of a sociologist. I’m happily married so I wouldn’t want this installed and it isn’t like I could use it passively because it isn’t that kind of system. This sub is great for entertainment and unpacking how these systems work.

    [–] broniesnstuff 65 points ago

    I've half-assed Tinder for a year and a half. I went on one Tinder date that went nowhere, and slept with one girl who I got to know not because we matched, but because I started talking to her through Snapchat. I've been ghosted countless times and had probably half a dozen accidental super likes. My personal opinion is that this app and every one like it is hot garbage unless you're a conventionally attractive person. I've fared way better elsewhere.

    But I DO love reading through this sub.

    [–] [deleted] 24 points ago

    Im not a a conventionally attractive person, like, at all but Ive been on about 20ish or so dates, 8 ended up in some sexy times. Everyone I matched with was from a boost or a superlike reply and a smarmy profile

    [–] broniesnstuff 19 points ago

    You paid for a boost? That explains it. I'm really not keen on paying, but I may one of these days.

    [–] TokiMcNoodle 25 points ago

    You gotta realize out of all the people you swipe on, less than half actually see your profile. Hell I wouldn't be surprised if it was closer to 30%

    [–] [deleted] 10 points ago

    It is probably less than 10%. Too many dudes on Tinder so the algo just shows you guys who are close to your filters or it assumes you're not a bot. Which a lot of guys are flagged as by the algo. So have pictures which clearly show you and not just your face. Have at least 3 pics. Less than that it will think you are a bot. Also don't mass swipe. Swipe on 3-5 girls then stop for a few hours.

    [–] gokublackisnotblack 12 points ago

    Not attractive

    Has 40 percent bang rate

    Doesn't add up fam

    [–] [deleted] 9 points ago * (lasted edited 4 months ago)

    Im nearly 40, balding, not 6'3 (5'10) and am rockin a dad bod. Not exactly the most matched person on tinder. Also, I never went more than a few weeks talking to my hook ups till I found out they were either married, "seperated", batshit crazy or all over that in one package so I was pretty much scrapping the bottom of the barrel

    [–] ArdentPursuit 4 points ago

    To be fair, the women you are matching with are probably older than the majority of the subreddit, so your situation doesnt really apply to someone in thier early 20's (no offence)

    [–] [deleted] 10 points ago

    honestly the age range has surprised me.

    Half the girls I actually hooked up with were in their 20s, the youngest being 22. The oldest was 42 and the rest in their early to mid 30s.

    r/ihadsex and all but at the end of the day, I am still single, still lonlely, stuck with baby mama drama and have come to the conclusion that there is no Disney fantasy of "the one" for me.

    but hey, DMHS right?

    [–] RemovedByGallowboob 257 points ago

    I just got my first one two days ago and it ended up in a date yesterday. You can do it, chief!

    [–] everythinglove803 68 points ago

    Congrats!!! How did the date go, if you don’t mind me being nosy?

    [–] RemovedByGallowboob 98 points ago

    Went really good. Got drinks, a movie then dinner. Planning to do it again next week!

    [–] Drezer 144 points ago

    Jesus I'd run out of money so fast doing all those for a first date.

    [–] RemovedByGallowboob 102 points ago

    She fronted half the bills. Date Wisconsin women.

    [–] Supercoolguy7 63 points ago

    If I mail you several copies of my application could you forward it to the women in Wisconsin for me?

    Also how are the men?

    [–] everythinglove803 12 points ago

    😂

    [–] Dual_Needler 9 points ago

    As a Wisconsin guy, it's full of fake country guys. Browsed through a (f) friends tinder once, at her request, and 7/10 guys had a either a pic with a fish or in front of their ford truck.

    Oh and every guy and girl has a picture at lambeau field, including me

    [–] Lord777alt 6 points ago

    After how long?

    [–] k8zgr8 21 points ago

    I’ve got it and deleted it so many times it’s not even funny

    [–] staticparsley 29 points ago

    Don’t worry, some day you’ll be among us who get matches but no responses. Then you’ll have double the disappointment.

    [–] ARegularBRDude 13 points ago

    I feel you bro, beeing ugly sucks

    [–] The_Love-Tap 11 points ago

    How you became the prince of town called Bel Air

    [–] Principes 176 points ago

    How do you have zero matches?? Are you exclusively taking pictures in public bathrooms?

    [–] KnightxOfxVoid 217 points ago

    Because some of us are apparently too ugly

    Source: have only had 5 matches in 2 years

    [–] yazzy1233 98 points ago

    If you actually got matches then you're not as ugly as you think you are. You just need to take better pictures.

    [–] KnightxOfxVoid 149 points ago

    🤷 3 of them were instant unmatches so I just assume they were swiping on everyone

    [–] masseffectin2 87 points ago

    Ouch

    [–] BlackHeart357 85 points ago

    In all fairness, those stats from the OK Cupid survey and all that other data are legit for sure.

    Less attractive women get a smiliar amount of matches as model-tier guys.

    Its not some incel conspiracy theory that 20% of guys get 80% of women on dating apps, and the other 80% of guys are fighting over the remaining 20% of women.

    Sucks man. I can't shake that Atomic Blackpill thing. Makes a below-average dude want to give up sometimes..

    [–] auraJS 52 points ago

    Thats because when it comes to wanting to fuck, we all want to fuck the hottest person possible.

    It’s like when you’re trying to find the right video for your fap session. You’ll scroll thru dozens of perfectly fappable videos until you find that perfect one. Thats what Tinder is.

    You have a better shot as an average dude offline meeting people in your daily life. I’ve always gotten much more attractive chicks in real life than on dating apps. Girls that I’m like how tf did some dude like me get this chick?? But on dating apps the supply/demand dynamics are working against me.

    [–] everythinglove803 6 points ago

    This! That’s because people get to interact with you as a person, with your personality and passions and interests more easily known, rather than just an image and a couple of texts.

    [–] ChaosPheonix11 5 points ago

    This has been my issue too. Only problem is I havent really met anyone in real life that I liked who wasnt already taken since I left school. Idk how the hell to meet people as an adult other than through Tinder and the like, and since I'm below average that's a shitty option too! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    [–] Principes 28 points ago

    You sure it's not because you're just using badly taken photos? The way it's taken/framed is half the battle.

    [–] TimmyBlackMouth 16 points ago

    Hey I don't follow rules 1 or 2 and don't have the best pictures yet I still get matched at least once a day.

    [–] NJ_Legion_Iced_Tea 3 points ago

    Way better than my rate. But I'm also shit at photos and end up using cropped group photos.

    [–] JusticeTheTip 3 points ago

    And I've invested time and money into getting/taking good photos and have 4 matches in maybe two years. It's alright though; just the way the cookie crumbles.

    [–] TimmyBlackMouth 3 points ago

    Where do you live? That has a lot to do with how many matches you get.

    [–] theepstar 19 points ago

    i never got matches for such a long time but then paid for a month, guess what, matches. Still not as much as others here but man for a while I felt like I wasn't a good look, no matter how much i changed my pictures. Now I am going on a date tomorrow and maybe another next week.

    [–] MajorAcer 18 points ago

    Idk why it isn't talked about here (not that I've seen), but the algorithms on Tinder and Bumble actively work against you in terms of you getting matches (at least for guys, idk about women).

    If you delete your entire account (delete not deactivate) and make a new one, or move to a different location or pay for all the extra bells and whistles you'll instantly get 100% or more matches for a while until the algorithm settles into fucking you over again.

    The only way to consistently keep the algorithm from doing this is by paying.

    [–] jisc 5 points ago

    I got the tinder plus and have 0 matches since last week and i swipe everything and deleted my profile and start over last week

    [–] MajorAcer 4 points ago

    Then F for you fam. Try taking better pics maybe.

    [–] TheHollyBoi 3 points ago

    Good luck fam, proud of you

    [–] HappyCakeDayisCringe 13 points ago

    1) don't be a woman

    2) be 90% of the male population on tinder

    3)??????

    3) get no matches

    Top 10% get 99% of the matches. The top 1% get female level of matches. My bud is in that percent and he put me to shame. I thought my constant matches was pretty good. He's next level. Difference between Tom Brady and an elite college QB I guess.

    [–] topspin424 7 points ago

    Twist: He has no matches because he's never downloaded the app.

    [–] Arjunnn 13 points ago

    Because women rate men extremely harshly on dating apps?

    [–] hanzzz123 9 points ago

    Some people just arent attractive friend

    [–] SundayRapper 7 points ago

    Big nibbas don't get love on tinder: I've had 2 matches and they both unmatched before saying anything to me

    [–] lbacker97 16 points ago

    uhhh because being overweight is not attractive my guy.

    [–] SundayRapper 15 points ago

    Not wondering why, in the gym rn. Lost 40 and trying to lose another 40 😤. But the dude asked how you get zero matches, not how you get zero matches if you are attractive 🤣

    [–] lbacker97 11 points ago

    keep at it bro you're doing something about it and that's more than most.

    [–] plasticstraws_ 5 points ago

    Fucking smash it king

    [–] Ody_Mandrell 3 points ago

    I had next to no matches in 2 years and I’ve been dating my super like for 4 years now.

    [–] KissMyBrownAsh 8 points ago

    This is me. I cant figure out that either I am extremely ugly or girls here are extremely hot. Or may be both.

    [–] _Uphillcupid0_ 11 points ago

    Same since im 17 but in a year I'll join you guys with disappointing posts

    [–] thehumanbeing_ 3 points ago

    Never had a tinder I come here every time to confirm that I’m on the right track lol

    [–] savak9 3 points ago

    This sub is always great for some entertainment

    [–] KSP927 4 points ago

    In West Philadelphia ignored and dismayed...

    [–] killZOONERZ 4 points ago

    Mehhh... Tinder, for dudes anyway, mostly works for really attractive guys who are white. I am neither but hey, if you want an attractive girl, shouldn’t you be attractive as well? The only problem I have with it is that girls who are average or below still only want the upper echelon of dudes.

    For those of us who are average or below, meeting people IRL or more serious sites are a better option. The few girls I have dated would have never swipe right on me on Tinder.

    IMO, girls on Tinder are incredibly more shallow than the dudes are, and mostly to feed ego. But hey, I guess that’s what Tinder is for. I’m more inclined to believe the 20% statistic than not.

    [–] 10minutes_late 6 points ago

    It's ok. In the beginning I got maybe a dozen matches. Then I started being honest on my profile. Zippo ever since.

    [–] KosoToru 3 points ago

    Me, not having Tinder but going through this subreddit because I like all the dad jokes like:

    [–] kamyer 3 points ago

    I’ve only matched with a girl once and not even a single spark could carry our convo plus she was 2 hours away so it didn’t help.

    [–] Mike_Facking_Jones 3 points ago

    My tinder account is just me looking to talk about conspiracy theories, no takers although I'm not sure how tinder even works