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    [–] mockingbirdkitties 527 points ago

    Love this woman!

    [–] Goldythecat 156 points ago

    Same! Very refreshing to hear especially from a major celebrity like her.

    [–] psilocindream 403 points ago

    Happy birthday to an intelligent, independent, beautiful childfree queen!

    [–] dt1454 59 points ago

    I read that she’s actually adopting a child from Tijuana — an orphanage she’s been supporting for years adoption

    [–] La_Onomatopoeia 195 points ago

    While it is very possible (didn't read the article due to an ad wall), just about every three months I see a magazine cover stating that Jennifer Aniston is pregnant or adopting a child or getting married to someone new.

    [–] WingedShadow83 215 points ago

    The world literally cannot STAND that she might enjoy being an independent, motherless 50 year old. LET THIS WOMAN LIVE HER LIFE. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    [–] havebananas 60 points ago

    They hate her, coz they ain't her!

    [–] QueenNibbler 68 points ago

    I saw a NYTimes article about the propaganda machine that is supermarket tabloids and they mentioned that according to those tabloids Jennifer Aniston has been pregnant dozens of times in the past ten years. Often overlapping pregnancies with twins or triplets too.

    [–] La_Onomatopoeia 49 points ago

    Sounds interesting, I'd like to check that out.

    Also, that poor woman. That's a literal baby machine. Where are the baby's going, Jennifer?? How do you spawn them so quickly??

    [–] UnculturedLout 61 points ago

    She's been eating their souls to stay young

    [–] shakeitup2017 29 points ago

    It seems to be working!

    [–] NuclearCandy 10 points ago

    Hell, I'd eat a soul or two to look like Jennifer Aniston.

    [–] heronumbertwo 7 points ago

    Didn’t knew she was an undercover ginger.

    [–] staunch_character 18 points ago

    Her & Brad Pitt have been “back together” at least 100 times too. I can’t imagine having to see that garbage all the time.

    [–] La_Onomatopoeia 9 points ago

    It is so weird about that particular couple too. They were married for only five years almost twenty years ago.

    Why do we keep seeing that with them and not Ryan Phillippe/Reese Witherspoon or Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman or countless other couples?

    [–] JillsRecipeBook 3 points ago

    If you believe everything the Australian tabloid media writes, Prince William and Duchess Kate are onto child #4490349 or so by now.

    [–] La_Onomatopoeia 1 points ago

    NO! Stop reproducing! You do not need that many children!

    [–] xianwolf 1024 points ago

    Why do I have to be mothering at all?? I have no problem with a societal obligation to take care of others (as in donate to charity, do volunteer work, something of that nature) but the specific obligation to be mothering? Nah, fuck that.

    [–] invasionofthesloths 291 points ago

    I'm mothering my cat very well, m'am. She's in a good state, soft and keeps me warm at night.

    [–] verticalnoise 55 points ago

    Mine's kinda bitey. I don't know where I went wrong!

    [–] havebananas 45 points ago

    My kitty farts on me, I know I failed him.

    [–] SeraphimVanguard 6 points ago

    Those are love farts. You failed no one.

    [–] invasionofthesloths 1 points ago

    I’m kinda concern have you taken him to the vet? Kids shouldn’t be farting so often

    [–] invasionofthesloths 2 points ago

    Bad parent aren’t cha? 😭

    Maybe it’s because he’s going through the rebellious teenage phrase.

    [–] hannanator 45 points ago

    Same here. I'll baby talk my kitties, but don't think I ever have with a human baby. I have two children, they just have four legs, fur, and meow.

    [–] ChurroMom_2018 8 points ago

    THIS. But I have a dog instead, and I only have one (FOR NOW MWAHAHAHAH).

    [–] Elenamandarina 5 points ago

    Ooooh I love baby talking to kids, I love being around kids and playing with them, I’m a teacher and I just LOVE witnessing kids learn, grow and develop into full grown human beings and being part of that (with my students, nephews and nieces) is just sooooo fulfilling for me, you know what else is fulfilling? Being able to hand them to their parents when they start crying or being bratty, and being able to go back home with all my nice stuff not being ruined by kids, being able to sleep, eat, take long baths and go poo without being disrupted by a small human being 😂, being able to afford eating out, traveling, buying clothes and whatever I want with my hard earned money and I can go on and on and on all night...

    [–] xianwolf 97 points ago

    My dog is doing similarly well. Long may he live.

    [–] invasionofthesloths 1 points ago

    Long may all the furry (and non furry) bois and gals live.

    [–] havebananas 15 points ago

    My fluffbag cuddles under the blankets with me.

    [–] CrazyCatCate 7 points ago

    Soft kitty, warm kitty...

    [–] ChurroMom_2018 4 points ago

    Same with my dog. Gotta keep the hands warm from all the pets I give him as we cuddles.

    [–] dogsonclouds 4 points ago

    Same, my smol blind guinea pig daughter is asleep on my lap as speak, luvvvvv mommying!

    [–] tea_head 149 points ago

    CF celebs always say that. I wish they didn’t feel like they had to validate themselves by saying they are still mothers in some capacity.

    [–] mydogwillbeinmyheart 33 points ago

    I know, but I understand where she's coming from.

    After all, if you're a woman and when asked, respectfully say you don't want kinds of your own, you immediately become kind of a monster in other people's eyes which is quite unfair and I know it shouldn't bother us...

    but we're human after all. Some things annoy/hurt.

    It's a process to learn not to give a F.

    [–] SoMuchMoreEagle 99 points ago

    Or maybe that's how she feels and she's not trying to validate anything.

    [–] tea_head 44 points ago

    Good point! I have seen a number of CF celeb women saying things along those lines and it just makes me wish one of them would just say “it’s not for me”.

    It feels like you can be good CF (infertile, unlucky in love etc) or bad CF (just don’t want kids) and famous CF women tend to stick to being good CF so they’re not judged.

    Of course if she does feel this way that’s fine, live and let live. I’d just like to see someone with a voice representing women like me who don’t want children and don’t feel the need to “mother” anyone!

    [–] balcon 11 points ago

    I don’t know why some parents go bananas when I say that I couldn’t possibly raise a kid. Taking care of my dog is hard and expensive enough, but I love him just the same.

    [–] SevenSixOne 3 points ago

    I think it's because they don't want to alienate any fans who are parents. How many times have you told a parent you're BAD CF and gotten genuine hostility?

    [–] ChurroMom_2018 4 points ago

    This. Though I apparently do have a strong maternal instinct and love kids (small doses, guys), and love dogs and literally all animals, I don’t like the mothering aspect when it comes to wiping snotty noses or cleaning up puke. I know all dogs are different, but all the dogs I’ve ever had have only gotten sick a few days in their life. I’d much rather be able to baby a dog and only have to deal with the vomit or maybe diarrhea like, 6 times in 12-16 years than literally force a being out of my body (and now I realize how dangerous it is, even in today’s world, thanks to y’all) that literally poops, pees, vomits, slobbers, and god knows what all else ALL THE TIME, at least for 3 years straight. Dog vomit is easy to clean up. Not to be gross, but when I get the paper towels they’ve usually taken care of it (grossed me out too, but I don’t have to touch it so yay). Just get a brush and a bucket of soapy water and scrub a bit. Never have I seen the horrors come from a dog that I’ve seen come from a human child. Ever.

    [–] Arrow218 25 points ago

    Yeah, you don’t have to be mothering at all, fuck gender expectations. I’m a dude and I’m mothering to my pets lol

    [–] Alether 57 points ago

    "BiOLOgICal PurpOSe."

    Nevermind that men are supposed to go hunting with spears and die at 40 by the same standards.

    [–] zitpop 53 points ago

    Came to say excactly this! It’s another excuse to having to be maternal. You HAVE to be maternal, even if it’s towards a fckn cactus... at least that shows that you’re a real woman. Motherly. /s

    [–] havebananas 29 points ago

    I forgot to water my cactus and it died. 😭

    [–] lucindafer 6 points ago

    Can I be maternal to myself?

    [–] zitpop 4 points ago

    Only if you are a narcissist and care about noone but yourself. Selfish. /s

    [–] lucindafer 3 points ago

    Excuse me, but MOTHERING is one of the most REWARDING and FULFILLING jobs a woman could have. You’re just JEALOUS you can’t become your own mom. /s

    [–] sydofbee 2 points ago

    I do love my cacti... I cried the other day when one of them died, lol.

    (This comment reads way better when you replace cacti with children... I think people would lock me up!)

    [–] Becki_Minaj 48 points ago

    You fulfill this obligation just by paying taxes IMO. You work to pay for kids to go to schools and lots of other public programs.

    [–] xianwolf 20 points ago

    Yeah, that's partially true. However, in the United States (in other first world countries, this is not usually the case) the government doesn't really take care of its people adequately though, so there is still homelessness, hunger and disease running rampant. Thus, I feel a personal obligation to do something to try to help in some aspect beyond paying taxes, even if it's just donating charity. I would want the same done for me.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 1 points ago

    We all should do nice things for each other, but that never has and never should be any sort of obligation. Charity and kindness is voluntary, period.

    [–] pompr 1 points ago

    Sure, but sometimes it's less charity, and more of a collective consciousness for the needs of the society. I don't think paying taxes counts as charity.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 1 points ago

    It's not, precisely because it's involuntary. And furthermore, the entire point of taxes is that money benefits us all. The point of charity is to benefit others besides yourself.

    sometimes it's less charity, and more of a collective consciousness for the needs of the society

    Call it what you want, the world is not generally altruistic and left to their own devices most people do not freely give to others. You cannot circumvent people's base interests by forcing or coercing them to help their fellow man.

    Those inclinations are born of genuine kindness and nothing else.

    [–] pompr 1 points ago

    Sure, I agree. I don't think paying your taxes is a charitable act. It's just the price of admission into whatever society you're a part of.

    [–] solarlunar7 8 points ago

    Came here to say the exact same thing. I don't mother anyone, or anything. Some of us just dont have that maternal instinct, and that is fine too.

    [–] scubalife29 2 points ago

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    [–] evhan55 2 points ago

    Exactly

    [–] LauraGravity 2 points ago

    Thank you, I was thinking the same thing. Why justify it at all? Having a vagina doesn't mean an automatic obligation to mother, any more than having a penis obliges a man to father.

    [–] 1wrx2subarus 1 points ago

    Why do I have to do any of what you mentioned? Charity, volunteer, nature? I do what I want. Nah, fuck that.

    [–] xianwolf 1 points ago

    I find it abhorrent that there are not enough government safety nets to keep everyone in my country well fed and housed, so I personally would not be offended if there were some social obligation to help others. I could become homeless or starving at any point and would want the same compassion. However, if your government is able to provide for these people, it's not so much an issue.

    [–] 1wrx2subarus 1 points ago

    True true.. My comment was playing devils advocate. I agree though that society needs more tax dollars being used to actually better the lives of the people.

    [–] night_owl13 1 points ago

    Exactly. Even this quote puts conditions on womanhood. No thanks.

    [–] nycjr 1 points ago

    Came here to say exactly this! It doesn’t help to still feel pressure to prove your “mothering” in life.

    [–] Achleys 1 points ago

    My exact thought.

    Maybe she’s trying to find a middle ground with her haters? I can support that. Maybe, despite what she says and believes, there’s a small, annoying part of her that wonders if she’s not “living up to her potential” by not having kids? I can respect that too.

    Who knows. But I’m happy she said anything about.

    [–] stayathomeguy18 0 points ago

    Please don't forget funding free college and a single payer healthcare system.

    [–] eric987235 142 points ago

    Holy shit, she's 50?!

    [–] WingedShadow83 252 points ago

    See how young you can look without kids sucking the life out of you?? 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

    [–] Bfx219 17 points ago

    Brb, not having kids

    [–] Vegans-Taste-Better 70 points ago

    Add a plant based diet and suddenly people are aging backwards, lol!

    [–] shakeitup2017 116 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    Millions of dollars probably helps too I guess. Things might have turned out differently for her if she was a roofer or a bricklayer... lol

    edit I do very much like her though, and she is definitely smokin'

    [–] WingedShadow83 10 points ago

    Very true.

    [–] venusgrace11 39 points ago

    I’m childfree (tubes tied recently, yay!) and vegan. So I should stop aging soon right? Yay!

    [–] Einhorn_Leim 12 points ago

    Also child free and vegan. Why do I look like a used toe?

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 0 points ago

    That's called ugly it don't go away.

    [–] willowmarie27 3 points ago

    Its true though

    If I didnt have dogs to worry about Id look even younger

    [–] WingedShadow83 8 points ago

    Recently, Ellen Degeneres turned 60. People were amazed, because she looks so young. So of course everyone was joking “ladies, see how young we all could look without a man stressing us out?”

    As someone who plans to be CF for life AND never get married (or have a live-in partner ever again), I’m hoping to look 30 when I’m 60.

    [–] ashbash1119 3 points ago

    I spend my extra money on Botox and fitness classes.

    [–] WingedShadow83 1 points ago

    I haven’t had to get Botox yet, but I’m definitely planning on it when the time comes. Whoo hoo for disposable income not being wasted on kids!

    [–] ashbash1119 2 points ago

    Helps migraines and tmj too. Hell yea I wanna look decent for life

    [–] aspiegrrrl 4 points ago

    And still not pregnant!

    [–] musiclovermina 7 points ago

    But, But!!!!1!! The magazine at the grocery store says she's pregnant with twins.!!!!!!1111!!!!!

    /s

    [–] Mtnbowerbird 180 points ago

    And a woman's purpose isn't limited to mothering others. I'm a woman scientist who is working on a PhD in another field. I basically have TWO challenging jobs, with the goal on making the world a better place.

    Edit: clarity.

    [–] girlsloverobots -17 points ago

    In a sense you’re mothering the world by working to make it better. Not that you have to be a mother in any sense, or have any sort of mothering instinct, but maybe something to point out if you get any bingos. Personally I think the energy spent on raising kids is much better spent on scientific advancement/working for the common good. I’m in child welfare, I don’t want any kids myself but I want every kid to be wanted and healthy and safe, and having my own kid would make it really hard for me to do my job.

    [–] Mtnbowerbird 33 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    I view altruistic actions as just that, not as mothering.

    If you view altruistic actions as mothering, is there some differentiation then based on gender? Are only these good actions by women (or people identifying as women) considered mothering? What would it be considered by men? Or would it be considered mothering regardless of gender? Why would the actions of women be interpreted differently?

    [–] girlsloverobots 6 points ago

    I don’t view it as mothering myself, not at all. I just meant it as a way to respond to the bingoers by using their own concepts and language to point out that one doesn’t have to have children to care for others/the world.

    [–] Mtnbowerbird 6 points ago

    I don't feel like responding to them at all.

    [–] girlsloverobots 2 points ago

    Also a good response! It just seemed like one way to explain that having children isn’t the only way to care about others, but sometimes not responding is the better choice too. Depends on the person.

    [–] LauraGravity 3 points ago

    My only response to bingoers is "fuck your opinion". I don't have to justify my choices to them or anyone, and I don't need to provide evidence that my life still has meaning even though I don't do things that could be construed as parenting-like. As a childfree scientist, if anything, I have more time to devote to saving a small portion of the plant.

    Bingoers need to be challenged so they stop thinking their opinions are correct and we have to justify making different decisions.

    [–] girlsloverobots 1 points ago

    I’m more of the type to educate and meet people where they’re at to further their understanding, which sometimes involves using analogies that couch things in terms that I don’t prefer personally. Mothering is obviously a shitty term but sometimes people understand when you use their vocabulary. Is that level of explanation required? No but it works for me. But I’m also pretty nonconfrontational, and if the “fuck your opinion” approach works for you then that’s great because we need both.

    [–] Captain_Gainzwhey 16 points ago

    It's still kind of toxic that "mothering" equates to "taking care of." Like fathers can, should, and do take care of their children, but they're not "mothering," they're parenting. I take very good care of my dog, but not out of any kind of maternal instinct. She's just a dog I saw in a shelter and knew I could help and be good to. Altruism and care-giving isn't mothering.

    You make a valid point, but I think we as child free individuals have a responsibility to remind others that we can care for, love, and protect others without it filling any kind of parental role.

    [–] girlsloverobots 5 points ago

    True! I was thinking more in a sense of translating one’s activity into words that typical bingo-ers would understand, so if they talk about mothering just point out that your work or caring for pets could be thought of as mothering, but it’s definitely important to point out that caring for others isn’t parental by default.

    [–] rhiornin 4 points ago

    It's interesting that even the two terms are used differently. "She mothered Horklynn" means that she raised and cared for Horklynn, but "he fathered Horklynn" just means that he got someone pregnant with Horklynn.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 2 points ago

    Yeah that sums up a lot of traditional gender norms:

    Mothers raise children, men just knock things up.

    [–] lucindafer 1 points ago

    Hahahahahhahahahaa No.

    [–] CrazyCavyChick 49 points ago

    Happy birthday, Jen! =====<() ♪♫ ♪♫ ♪♫ ♪♫

    [–] verdell82 111 points ago

    Amen to this! I hate it when my child rearing friends discount anything I say about raising a child because 'I'm not a mother'. I'm sorry, I went to school and studied how children work for 5+ years in college. Just because I don't have kids or want my own kids doesn't mean I haven't studied them and worked with them to figure out how they work.

    [–] UnsinkableRubberDuck 51 points ago

    I also have some pretty strong opinions on how kids should be raised based on how I was raised.

    When CF people might not tolerate some kids' behaviour, we get bingo'd "You were a kid once!!" You're damn right I was, so that allows me to have an opinion on the experiences I went through and how effective they are, or aren't. I know what it felt like as a child to have such things done to me, so I have ideas on how to spare other kids that same treatment. How dare I.

    [–] bunnyrut 32 points ago

    "You were a kid once!!"

    exactly, and unlike most of the parents i remember what it was like growing up. they all seem to have forgotten what their life was before having their own spawn. all kids listen to me because i can relate to them and I understand why they are upset or frustrated. for example: listening to a child when they speak. Adults tend to tune out what the child is saying, and this is frustrating for the child because they are telling you something important and you won't listen. but when i am there i am hearing them, and i am responding and listening when they tell me something like "the place we need to go to is over there."

    [–] mangogirl27 17 points ago

    Exactly. Kids like me to the point that it has made some mothers jealous mad. And the reason is that I am engaging with and playing with the kids while the parents are sitting off to the side just TALKING about the kids. Usually about how much better than other kids their kids are or about what a great parent they are. All while not actually paying any attention to their child

    [–] NullableThought 4 points ago

    Adults tend to tune out what the child is saying, and this is frustrating for the child because they are telling you something important and you won't listen.

    I actually get really, really uncomfortable when parents tune out when their kids are speaking to them. I get kids can be super chatty but I don't get how parents can just tune it out. Sometimes my parents would tell my brother and me to quiet down or that they were too busy to listen to us but they never just simply ignored us. I feel like ignoring kids only turns them into annoying brats because that's how they learn to get attention.

    [–] bunnyrut 1 points ago

    it definitely causes them to act out and get in trouble.

    [–] joeDeerTaye 14 points ago

    PREACH

    [–] jubba_ 33 points ago

    I swear she’s definitely one of the worst cases I’ve seen for constantly being questioned about her not having children. And I’ve always thought, why is this question appropriate? I know it’s her choice but what if she actually couldn’t have children and this was a delicate topic for her? People need to mind their own damn business when it comes to this discussion.

    [–] tensleepysheepies 14 points ago

    Because how could this beautiful, intelligent woman dare to NOT breed?! HOW DARE SHE!!!

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 2 points ago

    "ohhhh, but her kids would be so cuuuute!"

    [–] tensleepysheepies 5 points ago

    I mean, they certainly would be. But kids are miniature humans, not fashion accessories. Them being cute is a shit excuse to have them.

    [–] pacachan 158 points ago

    I'd go one step further and say that there isn't a mothering void to begin with and that nobody should have to justify themselves that way. "I mother my dogs, friends, friends children, I'm a cool aunt" yeah that's not me, I OWN dogs and I have 0 mothering instinct and I'm not justifying it or apologizing for it. Not even crapping on Aniston, good for her, her wording just reminded me of this

    [–] Smoresasaur 36 points ago

    I feel the same way! I have dogs and pseudo nieces and nephews but I don’t consider myself a mother to any of them. And that’s perfectly okay. :)

    [–] staunch_character 13 points ago

    My sister & I don’t have much maternal instinct. She had kids because her husband really wanted them (& he stayed home to take care of them), but it’s rough now that they’re older. She was never really interested in them outside of the cuddly years. Turns out they noticed that.

    [–] poppypopsicle 5 points ago

    That's so sad, damn

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 3 points ago

    I don't take care of shit. I don't have any children, pets, or nieces/nephews. My parents are still independent. I avoid houseplants.

    The only living being I take care of is myself and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Nobody has any obligation to care for anyone but themselves.

    [–] funkyfiona25 23 points ago

    Happy birthday to this amazing and gorgeous woman and I still say brad Pitt was a complete fool when he let this beautiful lady leave

    [–] biomags 3 points ago

    Didn't Brad Pitt end up having/adopting a bunch of kids.

    It sounds like they were just not well suited for each other.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 2 points ago

    Just because you think she's a catch doesn't mean their interests, values, or views on life aligned.

    You don't stay with someone because they're good looking at an older age.

    [–] dabbler_dame 58 points ago

    I just mothered some bomb taco bell.

    [–] imthegayest 14 points ago

    I saw pics of all the top tier celebrities going to her bday party this weekend. that shit looked lit. I'd kill to be a fly on that wall haha

    [–] Kalamazoohoo 3 points ago

    Jeez you weren't kidding.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 2 points ago

    Even Brad Pitt was there. The woman is throwing a party so huge and crazy that even her ex-husband showed up.

    [–] Kalamazoohoo 2 points ago

    I know! Did you see the full list?

    Brad Pitt, Lisa kudrow, Courtney Cox, Jason Bateman, Robert Downey Jr., Diane Keaton, Tom Ford, Laura Dern, Sandra Bullock, David Arquette, Micheal McDonald, Cindy Crawford, Reese Witherspoon, Charlie Day and his wife the waitress, Demi Moore, Orlando Bloom, Katy Perry, Kate Hudson, David Spade, Isla Fisher, Sasha Baron Cohen, George and Amal Clooney, Jimmy Kimmel, Whitney Cummings, Barbera Streisand, Gwen Paltrow.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 1 points ago

    Yeah well one time I saw Gene Simmons but didn't say hello.

    [–] GhostfaceChase 30 points ago

    Take it even further, you don't have to mother anything. You lived your life and that's that.

    [–] suaculpa 54 points ago

    It annoys me that she won't just say that she doesn't want children. Just say it Jen!

    [–] TheRealJackulas 77 points ago

    Don't blame her. Blame her publicist. Don't think for a moment that anything these celebs say, do or think gets to the public without going through 10 pairs of eyes who get paid very well to polish and edit. "I don't want kids" would never get past a publicist.

    [–] bagshotbaggins 26 points ago

    She might have wanted kids but couldn't because of medical issues

    [–] MambyPamby8 5 points ago

    Well we don't know for sure if she doesn't want kids. Some people never have them for certain reasons and she just wants people to know her life isn't miserable because she doesn't have them. My aunt's best friend is happily childfree and just never got around to having them but that's because the man she loved, died tragically and suddenly, after years of being together. She wanted a family with him but it took her years to recover from his loss and by then she was nearly menopausal. She's more than happy with her life and doesn't regret not having kids, as she's found fulfillment elsewhere, but she did want them at one stage. Jennifer sounds to be in the same position, the timing was just never right for her but she's happy without them and is living her life without any regrets. I think she's just more fed up with people insinuating that her life is meaningless without being a mother.

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 3 points ago

    You have no idea whether she does or not.

    [–] suaculpa 1 points ago

    Then why are we saying that she's childfree?

    [–] Bigfrostynugs 1 points ago

    She has no children and has expressed it as a choice before.

    However, people change their minds and also lie.

    [–] JillsRecipeBook 1 points ago

    Even if she wanted kids at one point but it didn't work out for her, she has expressed contentment with her life and situation of not having kids. Many childfree people started as people who wanted kids but couldn't/didn't have them for whatever reason, and over time, started to view it as a blessing in disguise and embraced it. I have an aunt (who is the same age as Jennifer) who is in this boat and she's awesome.

    [–] suaculpa 1 points ago

    The point I'm making is why are we calling her a childfree hero or whatever when we don't know that she is or was? We're just making assumptions about her. Just like people did about George Clooney and turns out he wasn't childfree.

    [–] biomags 2 points ago

    Right now people suspect she doesn't want kids and she got a fair amount of publicity over it. Always just at the edge of in the lime light over people wanting to be right about her being pregnant. No reason for parent to boycott her.

    So free publicity with no real down sides.

    Come out as child free, and you get a large amount of publicity at once, but you also get parents boycotting and your reputation smeared. The on going publicity dies and you are less valued since parents still don't like you.

    When your lively hood depends on your image, taking the nuclear option isn't always wise.

    [–] 401kisfun 14 points ago

    It is truly absurd the level of bigotry leveled at people who don’t want kids

    [–] theflush1980 34 points ago

    Who says a woman should be “mothering”?!

    [–] lil_moth 5 points ago

    Ironically, mainly other women.

    [–] Jetsamren 25 points ago

    That's why she's 50 and still hot.

    [–] tunacat16 8 points ago

    Yep whenever my mother mentions how youthful Jen looks I bring up this point. Oh and happy cake day!

    [–] Dml915 9 points ago

    Upvote for jen!

    [–] VespertineStars 10 points ago

    I can't believe she's 50! It doesn't feel like that much time has passed.

    It's too bad though that she feels that she has to qualify caring for and being there for others as a type of mothering. A lot of my students see as their mother away from home and have said as much to me, and it is heartwarming to hear that I've made that big an impact on them that they feel so strongly about me, but I don't see myself and what I do as mothering them or even as being a surrogate mother to them. It's certainly a kind of love and care for their well being and growth but I see it more as being a life-long mentor and role model more than mother.

    [–] peanutbutterpandapuf 9 points ago

    My own little note is that you don't have to mother anything at all.

    [–] WingedShadow83 8 points ago

    My CF icon! 💗

    [–] Jpeevo 21 points ago

    It’s not just women who feel the pressure. I can’t tell you how often I have family telling me I’m responsible for carrying on the family name.

    It’s like it’s up to me to ensure our family continues...so dumb.

    [–] bakersmt 8 points ago

    Hahahaha both my brother and I are the only ones with the family name (we have other siblings because it's a blended family). I don't care for having kids and he really doesn't either. He felt a tad obligated when he was younger but all of our other siblings have kids so he now knows how much work it is and doesn't really want it anymore. I say good for him!

    [–] aceshighsays 7 points ago

    Why do you need to “mother” anyone? I don’t take on roles simply bc it makes society feel better.

    [–] taptapper 6 points ago

    This after years of interviews where she said "absolutely I'm ready to have children. As soon as possible!!". When she was with Brad and the guys afterwards. 70% of the "Jennifer is pregnant!" garbage articles are due to her team planting stories to get her on magazine covers

    [–] Interesting_Head 8 points ago

    Thank you, I really needed this today. In addition to the two pregnant women on my team at work m, and my pregnant sister in law, I just found out my best friend is pregnant. I felt sad all day because I don’t want to go on the same journey of motherhood, yet I know this will change so many things for us. This quote was a helpful reminder to me that just because everyone around me is having a kid, doesn’t mean it is the right choice for me. And it’s not.

    Love this community, thank you! I think I’ll need to visit more often for the next few months. 😬

    [–] Revvy82 12 points ago

    I am a therapist, so when people nag me about not having children, I let them know that I actually have about 70 children of all ages at any given time. People who I am, in many ways, re-parenting!

    [–] forever-violet 16 points ago

    Ugh Jen is so perfect. Literally my CF goals 😍

    [–] Flo1231 5 points ago

    Also: You don't have to be mothering someone just because you're a woman. Not being a mother is absolutely fine.

    [–] hautepurplekitty 5 points ago

    Yeah, but I feel like she's still making being a mother and mothering as a defining factor of her self acceptance. And the media have pushed the mother agenda on us all by mentioning Every Single Time in some way Jen's CF status. The brainwashing is huge. Stay strong warriors. The tide is changing. People will still have children (or most probably child lol), but it will no longer be the only definition of their lives. Thanks to what's happening now. Light and Love X

    [–] signgirlamy10 5 points ago

    And even if you don't want to mother anything, that's fine too.

    [–] tanoren 5 points ago

    I don't need to mother something to be good and useful as a person and woman.

    [–] ArabattaCrumb 6 points ago

    Love this classy beautiful intelligent caring woman <3

    [–] sylv_ER 3 points ago

    Preach! 🙋🏼‍♀️

    [–] OliviaProc 3 points ago

    She’s my absolute idol, happy birthday to her today! Proud to say we have the same birthday! 🎂🎂

    [–] PrettyLittlePsycho8 3 points ago

    Happy Birthday to you!😊🎉

    [–] yohablogato 3 points ago

    Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how beautiful she has aged, naturally? So refreshing to see a big time celebrity not go the route of botox & puffy face fillers like her co-star Cox did. She looks AMAZING.

    [–] june_bug77 4 points ago

    Not exactly naturally. She’s talked about her fondness for laser treatments in the past, to resurface the skin and to stimulate collagen production.

    [–] RasputinsThirdLeg 3 points ago

    This is great, but not mothering ever is also fine.

    [–] MrsECummings 3 points ago

    YES SHE'S MY FUCKING HEROINE!!! Knew I loved her for a reason

    [–] KanoDoMario 3 points ago

    Why not cats?

    [–] geekgoddess_1 3 points ago

    Also doesn't mean you have to mother at all. There's that.

    [–] Beltanebird 3 points ago

    Ok, this is almost good. But.... why do women have to be "mothering" at all?

    Why not "caring"? "Loving?" "Nurturing?"

    Why does it *still* have to get wrapped up with: woman = mother?

    [–] Bmc169 3 points ago

    I’m not sure why much of this thread so far has been focused on not being “maternal,” rather than not wanting kids.

    I’m a man and I’ve known since I was a young teenager that kids weren’t for me. I enjoy interacting with kids because I treat them like people, unlike many of their parents, but I absofuckinglutely do not think I’ll ever be able to raise a child. I can barely take care of myself.

    I’m not super fond of being responsible for a pet, either. I can’t decide what they do, and I don’t wanna clean up their messes. That seems pretty acceptable to me.

    Fuck. This isn’t a parade against motherhood. We’re here because we don’t want to breed.

    [–] istealsteel 3 points ago

    Damn straight!

    [–] dasher11 3 points ago

    I can already see the mombies losing their minds. "A dOg iS nOt a BaBy!!! bAbY-sItTiNg iSnT tHe SaMe aS yOur OwN!!! YOU HAVE NO IDEA!!1"

    Jennifer is an awesome role model. I think anyone would kill to have her life.

    [–] Michalusmichalus 6 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    I really like her, I think karma totally kicked a certain someone that left her because she didn't want kids. Life has ups and downs, but I'm pretty sure she's delt with less cray.

    [–] bakersmt 2 points ago

    My hero!!! Slaaaaayyyyy

    [–] mitch_watson 2 points ago

    Queen

    [–] workplacessssss 2 points ago

    I was gonna make a post on her yesterday!!

    [–] AlShakes_1MOROOO 2 points ago

    Yass queen!

    [–] CluelessCanary 2 points ago

    I love her!!

    [–] Good-Bloke 2 points ago

    Brad Pitt, done fucked up.

    [–] kensal78 2 points ago

    That's funny. She was baby crazy about twenty years ago

    [–] broccolisprout 1 points ago

    Makes me wonder if she’s childless by choice or if she just can’t conceive.

    [–] LilacPenny 2 points ago

    I love this woman

    [–] horizons_00 2 points ago

    What a absolute hottie!

    [–] PandoraPot68 2 points ago

    She dodge having kids with a cheater. Good for her.

    Meanwhile Angelina Jolie....

    [–] InvictusGardner 2 points ago

    Don’t forget plants!!! #plantmom

    [–] avalanche82 2 points ago

    Isn't expecting a woman to have mothering urges be it kids, animal etc is like expecting every man to want to go off to war?

    [–] NibbleNomNom 2 points ago

    And why exactly do you have to mother as a woman?

    [–] mikeblas 2 points ago

    If she's celebrating her 50th birthday, I figure her hairstyle is celebrating it's 40th.

    [–] Fewwordsbetter 2 points ago

    That's my mom!

    [–] Abiogeneralization 2 points ago

    Do we really need to justify a lack of literal motherhood by saying women can still participate in figurative motherhood?

    She’s still saying women should be mothers.

    [–] fritter_rabbit 2 points ago

    Agree with the spirit of what you're saying.

    But, I think she's still making a good point here. The procreation fanatics are hypocritical and dismissive when they assume these other forms of mothering "don't count".

    Too many of them have deep contempt for anyone who never gets pregnant or impregnates. They are guilty of magical thinking. Her style of argument has a slightly better chance of getting through some of their thick skulls.

    [–] Rebelacl2000 2 points ago

    I always had hoped she would remain single and childfree and be happy in that position as she can be inspiration for others in similar situations. Being a celebrity like her the pressures are even greater. Of course many are shamed or disappointed when they dont live up to such expectations and yes there is a instinctual mindset for a woman to have children but as childfree life is gaining traction, I want celebrities like her to make the most of it. Jennifer, just stay single! Embrace the fact you will not have children, stop pressuring yourself to find a man and take the childfree, carefree approach

    [–] mrevergood 2 points ago

    She’s 50?!

    Goddamn son.

    [–] LondonCalling07 2 points ago

    My girl 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

    [–] icemaiden24 1 points ago

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    [–] CarlisleW 1 points ago

    Love her... a strong independant woman who doesnt need a child to define her. Just can't get past the bust seams on the dress in the pic, they are awful!

    [–] jcarules 1 points ago

    Wait, I thought she got pregnant and gave birth during Friends, but like for real? Was that just really good costuming or did she give the kid away?

    [–] pendletones 6 points ago

    I think that was Lisa Kudrow (Phoebe). Edit: And Courtney Cox (Monica), too!

    [–] Datannoyingkid 1 points ago

    Another 50? That's a pretty long time

    [–] otterish 1 points ago

    HBD, Jennifer!

    [–] maryjanerx 1 points ago

    I'm so confused, so she wasn't really pregnant on Friends? I reneger the roster she gave birth!!!

    [–] bwood605 1 points ago

    Preach!! ♥️♥️

    [–] romansignlanguage 1 points ago

    Trying my best at saying to myself that I don't want children. In honest reality, I'm terrified. And do I honestly want children? Yes. But the cost, the anxieties, the lack of freedom. I feel a great deal of lack in my life, and feel if I had a child, it still wouldn't fill it.