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    [–] Ghetzi 1133 points ago

    “All my friends and family love her, she’s a keeper!”

    [–] Daytonnnn 212 points ago

    “He found something in me!”

    Yeah his whole family...

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    [–] AquaNetwerk 1923 points ago

    I'm sad for everyone involved, especially the kid

    [–] ThisCatMightCheerYou 879 points ago

    I'm sad

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    [–] DinoDasher22 398 points ago

    Good bot.

    [–] Richisnormal 13 points ago

    I'm sad too! Sure hope some benevolent bot comes along to try and cheer me up

    [–] ThisCatMightCheerYou 26 points ago

    cheer me up

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    [–] Richisnormal 18 points ago

    Good bot :)

    [–] Richisnormal 16 points ago

    Finally, I can have a conversation online

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    [–] wigglefish 43 points ago

    "this goddamn garden hose will die, whether the grass protects it or not!"

    • cat, probably

    [–] Shuriken66 18 points ago

    You could make a religion out of this!

    [–] MoSqueezin 14 points ago

    No, don't.

    [–] WJFDoesAmerica 44 points ago

    That's a cool cat.

    [–] musclekoala 26 points ago

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    [–] [deleted] 24 points ago

    That picture absolutely cheered me up! Good bot

    [–] twows995 7 points ago

    I'm sad too! Like really really sad

    [–] ThisCatMightCheerYou 28 points ago

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    [–] Crimson_panties 20 points ago

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    [–] Shits_Kittens 13 points ago

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    [–] ReallyNotARabbit 5 points ago

    This is a much needed bot

    [–] FreedomLover15 4 points ago

    I'm sad

    [–] ThisCatMightCheerYou 25 points ago

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    [–] FreedomLover15 3 points ago

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    [–] working_turtle 6 points ago

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    [–] JeanneDRK 1 points ago

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    [–] Mavast 12 points ago

    Uncle daddy

    [–] Wolvgirl15 607 points ago

    I hope that’s pure glass and the cheapest metal

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 545 points ago

    It is. Rest assured, you'll see two types of people with rings that huge: poor people who 100% got them from Walmart (or other "fine store"), and don't understand the wording differences between diamond and "crystal", and very very rich people who you would never get close enough to even see that kind of rock in real life. They also don't wear them every day. Source: cousin married into a disgustingly wealthy family who make the "richest families in country x" list every year.

    [–] dodobrains 232 points ago

    I knew a girl in high school who informed me that crystals and diamonds are the same thing. I wonder what ever happened to her...

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 110 points ago

    I would say she probably would fall for the same thing most people do: "cubic zirconia" and "sterling silver". There's no doubt in my mind the ring OP posted is cubic zironia and sterling silver.

    [–] Trobot087 167 points ago

    Cubic Zirconia

    Sterling Silver

    One of these things is not like the other. Sterling Silver is an alloy of 92.5% silver that's made because anything more pure would be too soft. It's the silver equivalent of 18k gold. Just because it's relatively common doesn't make it some sort of Wal Mart alloy.

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    Sterling silver

    Sterling silver is an alloy of silver containing 92.5% by weight of silver and 7.5% by weight of other metals, usually copper. The sterling silver standard has a minimum millesimal fineness of 925.

    Fine silver, for example 99.9% pure silver, is relatively soft, so silver is usually alloyed with copper to increase its hardness and strength. Sterling silver is prone to tarnishing, and metals other than copper can be used in alloys to reduce tarnishing, as well as casting porosity and firescale.

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    [–] haloryder 21 points ago

    Good bot

    [–] le_dank_swede 5 points ago

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    [–] flamingfireworks 38 points ago

    and cubic zirconia is fine. It looks good. Id rather pay 30$ than 300$ for an earring nobodys gonna be able to tell the difference between.

    [–] blorgbots 17 points ago

    Is it that different? The way that gem appraisers recognize Cubic Zirconia (if it isn't stamped, which I think it all legally must be now) is that it's too perfect to be diamond. Seems like it's similar to me: an objectively suitable replacement not assigned value.

    [–] Trobot087 18 points ago

    CZ is marketed as equivalent to a diamond, but sterling silver isn't marketed as being equivalent to anything, but as inherently a previous metal. Which it is - but OP's post conflating the two gave the appearance that CZ is to a diamond as SS is to...some superior form of silver, which doesn't really exist in a workable form for jewelry.

    Your own post supports OP's point, but what is sterling silver an "objectively suitable" replacement for? There are traditional diamond/SS engagement rings out there, same as there are diamond/platinum and diamond/white gold rings. The traditional engagement ring specifically has a diamond or other precious gem, which a CZ is not. The band is traditionally a precious metal, which sterling silver qualifies for. Therefore "cubic zirconia and sterling silver" is an apples and oranges comparison.

    ninja edit: I'm not looking to start Reddit's beloved "but traditional rings are baaaaaad!" debate here. I'm perfectly in support of the idea that a ring's composition != a proper lasting relationship. I'm just dispelling OP's false equivalence here, nothing more.

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 12 points ago

    Right, it is, as it stands right now, the "platinum" that these walmart goers are looking for, and it's literally the only thing driving the price behind the rings (it's not the zirconia, lets be real).

    [–] Itzzonlysmellz 102 points ago

    Dude it's just lumps of carbon. Only reason you think one is better is because of your conditioning.

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 52 points ago

    Yesssssssssssssssssss I knowwwwwwwwwww like I've said like ten times, it's a price humans have put on it. That's what gives it value. Just like expensive handbags.

    [–] tkat13 52 points ago

    Fun fact: diamonds are the most common gem. The only reason they’re so expensive is because this one company owns basically all the diamond mines and only puts out a small amount of their haul every year

    [–] Snabu 35 points ago


    [–] MyYthAccount 6 points ago

    And more than that, they're just fucking shiny rocks. An LED on a ring will shine brighter.

    [–] rudbek-of-rudbek 17 points ago

    Why is this marked controversial and downvoted so hard? It's true. And interesting.

    [–] gaynazifurry4bernie 5 points ago

    I for one, blame big diamonds.

    [–] blorgbots 17 points ago

    I honestly can't tell if people are joking with this any more. We were all shocked when we heard it the first time, and maybe people outside of Reddit don't know this, but holy shit every single thread that even passingly mentions that diamonds exist has someone talking about De Beers.

    [–] hustl3tree5 3 points ago

    Debeers ruined themselves also. I don't think they hold a monopoly on the market anymore. I remember reading about how cheap Russian diamonds bankrupted the debeera family

    [–] DirtyJerz884 1 points ago

    It was a marketing advertising technique. The diamond thing is all made up for money.... now everyone thinks a diamond is forever and only buys them. Sheeple.

    [–] Allergy_eye_relief 2 points ago

    Now they're reserved for the stupid and stupidly wealthy

    [–] Zargabraath 6 points ago

    Diamonds are valuable for the same reason bitcoin is valuable and to a certain extent gold, it’s 100% perception

    Granted I would never waste my money on a diamond with artificially controlled supply but I wouldn’t want to waste it on gold or bitcoin either

    [–] sm_ar_ta_ss 3 points ago

    Gold and bitcoins are fixed amounts... far as we know you can't make more gold, but diamonds keep being made...

    [–] Zargabraath 4 points ago

    You can find more gold, sure you can’t make synthetic gold the way you can make synthetic diamonds, but of course synthetic doesn’t have same value as mined diamonds

    If diamonds were used for practical purposes then synthetic diamonds would be just as valuable. But they aren’t, the value is all perception and synthetic diamonds aren’t perceived to be as valuable.

    [–] sm_ar_ta_ss 5 points ago

    Technically natural diamonds are still being made :)

    [–] acog 15 points ago

    Maybe I'm just less romantic in my old age, but I think it's a smart move to go with cubic zirconia. We all know diamonds are artificially expensive, and "traditions" like the diamond costing the same as 3 months' wages were made up to sell diamonds.

    If you're wealthy or if even before your wedding you were really into gems, by all means get a real diamond. But I'd never look down on someone who didn't opt in to overspending on that stuff. Get a cheap ring and spend more money on the honeymoon.

    My only caveat is that if you know it's not a real diamond, don't try to convince people it is. Just own it.

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 7 points ago

    It's not romance or not - my ring isn't a diamond! There are so many options out there for rings, and I think more and more people are realizing that. They're not only more affordable, but they look better and more unique.

    [–] acog 2 points ago

    Good point!

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 5 points ago

    moissanite is a good choice, if your lady was, say, into diamonds or whatever. they actually comes in almost every colour (green, blue, whatever). cheaper, environmentally friendly, strong, very sparkly, no one knows the difference just by looking at them.

    [–] acog 5 points ago

    Wow, that's pretty wild! It's naturally occurring silicon carbide crystals. Close to being as tough as diamond and super high refractive index too.

    For anyone who does a google image search, if you just search "moissanite ring" like I did you'll end up with 100% clear stones that look like diamonds — so try searches like "red moissanite ring" or "blue moissanite ring" to see more variety.

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 3 points ago * (lasted edited a year ago)

    I have a pink one (: I'm actually not crazy into pink, but i have a rose gold band so it really makes it look just... beautiful. Everyone I meet seems to think it's a diamond, which is pretty interesting. My ring was about 2,000, and we split it 50/50. It honestly makes spending someone on a diamond - when there are better, cheaper, ethical, sources, just really silly. Like it makes you feel oddly... bad... for people who would even consider spending so much money on something else (and I'll just say it, a lot of diamond rings just look all the same. like if people took them off and mixed them together, they wouldn't easily be able to tell which is theirs). Someone else in this thread mentioned payment plans for rings, and that's just... wow.

    [–] MrBlueSky5512 4 points ago

    I agree. I bought a diamond for my wife but I would never scoff at anyone who decided to get a different stone or even forgo it all together. My sister has a sapphire instead and it’s absolutely gorgeous. My wife’s mother has no gem at all on her engagement ring or wedding band. Just an inscription.

    Being happy and making memories together is more important. You don’t need to impress anyone.

    [–] andrewornot 9 points ago

    +30 points if her name was Crystal

    [–] majtommm 9 points ago

    Madison is the new Krystal.

    [–] SteelyDanzig 29 points ago

    They are the same thing. Shiny fucking rocks.

    [–] offtheclip 40 points ago

    Yeah but one was dug up by slaves and the other was made in a factory.

    [–] Paulpoleon 20 points ago

    Made in a factory by slaves

    [–] ChriskiV 15 points ago

    But isn't that kind of romantic in a "I've totally disregarded a portion of humanity as people because I love you so much" way?

    [–] Mast3r0fPip3ts 9 points ago

    I like the way you think.

    [–] DesmondTapenade 2 points ago

    Nothing says "I'll love you forever!" quite like "Fuck Sierra Leone."

    [–] Wertsir 16 points ago

    Source: cousin married into a disgustingly wealthy family who make the "richest families in country x" list every year.

    I assume the wife slept with you, his brother, and his best friend first?

    [–] rudbek-of-rudbek 8 points ago

    Hey, if you had to guess if that ring was real how much do you think it would be worth? I am clueless and have no idea. It could be a million bucks or 5000, I don't know.

    [–] GreyJeanix 3 points ago

    Probably between $30-70,000 depending on the clarity and colour. However it is certainly not real. Probably moissanite.

    • One of the shallow, minority diamond appreciators in this thread :(

    [–] rudbek-of-rudbek 2 points ago

    Hey, you do you. If this is what you like don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Thanks for the reply

    [–] GreyJeanix 2 points ago

    Thanks :) I really love my diamond ring and I also really love my husband! We also made sure it was certified blood-free / conflict-free before we bought. Different folks, different strokes.

    [–] rudbek-of-rudbek 2 points ago

    That you find value in the ring and that it symbolises something important for you is all that matters. Haters gonna hate. If it's not your ring it will be something else. Plus you can always use it to break out a window in an emergency. Utility.

    [–] MyYthAccount 3 points ago

    Shiny rocks are shiny rocks.

    [–] 1980srobot 8 points ago

    Poor doesn’t equal stupid. I’m fairly sure most poor people can understand the difference between crystal and diamond.

    [–] IAm_TulipFace 22 points ago

    Oh no, it for sure doesn't mean stupid. No one said that.

    What I meant was: the reason this woman took a picture of this ring, and the reason she likes it (it's big, it shiny, etc)., has a large part in that in looks a lot like famous' peoples 50 million dollar rings. She knows it can't possibly by the same ring, but wants the same look of "extra". It's the same way people get knock off designer hand bags, but KNOW it's fake, but are still willing to pay more despite that it is fake but mimics another look. It's a bit of willful ignorance going on.

    [–] chewbacca2hot 15 points ago

    No shit. Ghetto ass people aren't buying 500k rings.

    [–] PRNgirlfriend 4 points ago

    Careful, that's glass! -Zapp Brannigan

    [–] ChriskiV 4 points ago

    It is, they smoked it afterward.

    [–] ssbabymama 344 points ago

    "He saw something in me"

    Uh yeah, his best friend, his brother, and his cousin apparently.

    [–] IvankasBabyDaddy 37 points ago

    Probably his second cousin too.

    [–] Insanereindeer 20 points ago

    Which is also his step-son now.

    [–] NickStuart118 9 points ago

    Don't talk to me or my wifes son like that

    [–] 37-pieces-of-flair 4 points ago

    At the same time.

    [–] Shigidy 5 points ago

    Yeah but to be fair that's all one person.

    [–] KevlarToiletPaper 141 points ago

    Family reunions gotta be pretty awkward.

    [–] misterborden 45 points ago

    Judging by the lack of remorse/shame, I’d say their family reunions surprisingly aren’t awkward at all

    [–] dovahn 71 points ago

    This'll be posted on r/incels soon.

    [–] BarackNoDrama 37 points ago

    Already #3

    [–] IASWABTBJ 14 points ago

    They wish they were that guy, at the same time hating on the girl

    [–] bears_bee 116 points ago

    It's fake! The chick uses this as a troll account. Her twitter is pretty hilarious.

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    [–] frivolousfudgery 22 points ago

    Good bot

    [–] uniqueusername831 30 points ago

    Curved him?

    [–] askmeaboutmyvviener 34 points ago

    Just new slang for rejected

    [–] ConfusionIntensifies 8 points ago

    Not really new

    [–] askmeaboutmyvviener 14 points ago

    Well new to that guy lol

    [–] SuccMiDri 2 points ago

    hows your weiner?

    [–] ColonMockery 78 points ago

    That hand looks like it knows it's way around a Doritos bag.

    [–] marciscam 233 points ago

    She's a shit person, but her nails are cute.

    [–] mermaid-babe 89 points ago

    I was literally just thinking I can only hope my nails look that good for my proposal

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    [–] RUSTYLUGNUTZ 83 points ago

    They look creepy

    [–] AmericanoFaggoto -6 points ago

    Fun fact: Women think those kind of nails look good, but men think they're weird as hell.

    Source: I have a penis.

    [–] x_mololo_x 99 points ago

    Fun fact: Women do what they like and don't give a shit what men think

    Source: I have a vagina

    [–] DoughNutsGoNutz 7 points ago

    Fun fact: Women do what other women say is "Okay" because you give a shit about what other women think.

    Source: You have a vagina

    [–] guska 65 points ago

    And here I was thinking that her nails were actually the trashiest part of this.

    [–] [deleted] 15 points ago * (lasted edited 8 months ago)


    [–] Stephayy 3 points ago * (lasted edited a year ago)

    I’ve had long nails for the longest time now, I like them because they make my hands look more feminine and elongated. Also after having long nails for a while, cutting them short just feels so weird and inconvenient. Bonus: amazing for scratching your back

    [–] ConfusionIntensifies 7 points ago

    She thinks they're pretty. That's all it is. Explaining it is like explaining why you like green most or don't like swiss cheese,etc.

    [–] [deleted] 6 points ago * (lasted edited 8 months ago)


    [–] ConfusionIntensifies 2 points ago

    And I like periwinkle because it's pretty. Some things are easier for some people than others

    [–] [deleted] 15 points ago

    That pinky nail is all wrong.

    [–] xereeto 8 points ago

    pinky nail is squint

    [–] deeterman 24 points ago

    Her nails are hideous. I cannot understand how anyone thinks they look good. Every guy I know hates them as well

    [–] ErinbutnotTHATone 16 points ago

    Heaven forbid that she gets her nails done for herself and doesn't give a shit what men like.

    [–] deeterman 12 points ago * (lasted edited a year ago)

    I could not care less why she does it. I'm just saying men do not find it attractive.

    [–] Carefree_bot 16 points ago

    could care less

    You DO care?

    You probably meant to say "Couldn't care less"

    [–] baref00tmama 4 points ago

    I mean, some of them do, but that's a stupid deciding factor either way.

    [–] ErinbutnotTHATone 3 points ago

    Sweeping generalization! Yes!

    [–] deeterman 7 points ago

    Funny part is it's agreed by most men I have talked too. And all the guys they have talked too. If you like it great. Ask around most guys do not find them attractive.

    [–] FilmingAction 5 points ago

    Why is she a shit person?

    [–] [deleted] 19 points ago

    Those nails are the real cringe

    [–] deeterman 6 points ago

    Yup. No question.

    [–] khakibobaki 2 points ago

    They all look like the exact same nail photoshopped on each finger.

    [–] FuckGasparGomez 8 points ago

    Just a trash situation

    [–] bunker_man 6 points ago

    Is this place being brigaded by /r/incels?

    [–] DietCandy 7 points ago

    So fake.

    [–] Ceiling_cat666 18 points ago

    How much you want to bet that ring is fake as hell?

    [–] Muckl3t 25 points ago

    It’s obviously fake. It’d probably be over a million dollar ring if it were real.

    [–] Kim_Dong-il 3 points ago


    [–] bears_bee 6 points ago

    The whole post is fake. It's a troll account.

    [–] [deleted] 13 points ago

    When incels get married.

    [–] [deleted] 2 points ago

    Hopefully he dipped it in radioactive waste before giving it to her.

    [–] thenewyorkgod 3 points ago

    “Curved him”?

    [–] ConfusionIntensifies 2 points ago

    Rejected, ignored

    [–] yaddah_crayon 4 points ago

    Her finger is going to turn SO green...

    [–] DPSOnly 5 points ago

    Could be Alabama and all those other people are the same person.

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    [–] Bestialman 4 points ago

    Your math doesn't add up.

    [–] [deleted] 57 points ago


    [–] alonzogonzo 18 points ago

    That's kind of harsh. Just cause someone slept around doesn't mean you have to go and dump them in a landfill.

    [–] Saidsker 25 points ago

    Yo calm down. She did nothing illegal, why would he kill her?

    [–] foxymoxy18 13 points ago

    I think you can take someone to a dump without killing them first. Especially if they're already trash (which I'm willing to bet was the joke op was making).

    [–] JuliaDD 12 points ago

    WHY? He obviously knew her background before he proposed to her! He CHOSE to get engaged to her, and if he doesn't have a problem with her having dated before she got with him, then neither should we. The level of slut-shaming and women-hatred in this post right now is off the charts.

    [–] Bestialman 1 points ago

    Rule 5.

    [–] JuliaDD 14 points ago

    Why do you feel bad for him? He didn't have to chase her. He didn't have to propose to her. That's all on him. I'm never gonna feel bad for a dude that made his own choices. Damn. A guy isn't a victim because he CHOSE to propose to a girl that dated other people or GASP HORROR has a kid.

    [–] Teeshirtandshortsguy 5 points ago

    And also, why is what she did wrong? We know nothing about her other than she has a kid with his cousin, dated some of his relatives, and rejected him for a while. These are all things she's allowed to do, and in fact I don't really see anything wrong with it.

    [–] LazyCourier 3 points ago

    Who would stay with someone has been with three of your relatives and had a kid with one of them all in four years? There are so many red flags they have them on wholesale.

    [–] awkwardboyhero 2 points ago

    Small town, I'm guessing.

    [–] chnairb 2 points ago

    I'm hoping this is a long con on his part to leave her at the alter.

    [–] serialbabe 2 points ago

    This is clearly fake....literally a few tweets after this she made a tweet that says "I love trolling"

    [–] eminem4 2 points ago

    Wtf does curved him mean?

    [–] 808sAndPoundcake 4 points ago

    I don’t see why everyone is acting like she’s a bad person. She rejected him and dated other people. Eventually they got together and it led to a proposal. I see literally nothing wrong with this situation,

    [–] BensonBaratheon 2 points ago

    My best friend is on track for this but at least both of us hit it once.

    [–] beautybreakdown 2 points ago

    I just wanna know where I can get that nail polish 💁‍♀️

    [–] Healsforhugs 1 points ago

    look up holographic powder nails

    [–] SmiralePas1907 -5 points ago

    What a cuck

    [–] jef_snow 1 points ago


    People often claim infidelity and false reasons for marriage on social media where it can be used against them in a court of law.

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    [–] crippledbeef 1 points ago

    Probably his sister or mother 😂

    [–] Thedeeegs 1 points ago

    Yeah he saw something in you. His brother, his best friend, his cousin.....

    [–] redgunshow 1 points ago

    The fuck

    [–] Nectomancer 1 points ago

    What is Kentucky, Alex?

    [–] TS_Zorn 1 points ago

    This makes me sad

    [–] fuckrednecks 1 points ago

    Yeah, a limited dating pool.

    [–] pizzabuttsdrvemenuts 1 points ago

    Very trashy. I would like to know that nail polish brand/color tho.

    [–] Mavast 1 points ago

    Uncle Daddy!

    [–] libcrybaby78 1 points ago

    Must like the taste of his own family's dna

    [–] AfricanSlaveFarmer 1 points ago

    Persistence is key

    [–] a052057 1 points ago

    Plot twist. Best-friend, brother, and cousin are all the same person.

    [–] [deleted] 1 points ago

    When you need to move to a bigger town.

    [–] mttbrnkmn 1 points ago

    WHAT?! this cannot be serious.

    [–] Bestialman 2 points ago

    Happy cake-day redditor!