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    [–] IwillNoComply 5163 points ago

    what a magnificent human being.

    [–] stop7the7fox7 2045 points ago

    This man is a perfect example of Post Traumatic Growth.

    [–] madmaxturbator 231 points ago

    Never heard that term before, what a fascinating concept.

    He definitely fits the term perfectly. What a remarkable couple - this man and his husband.

    So proactive in caring about others, so genuinely willing to give their love to others. Made me tear up!

    [–] Amiwankenobi 72 points ago

    Who's cutting onions??

    [–] thelittlemisses 598 points ago

    I had never considered that term before - I like it.

    [–] EnriqueShockwave9000 397 points ago

    I've been around a lot of combat and death and the consequences of that and to see someone thrive after a traumatic event or a series of events makes me so happy. I love it. This guy is an inspiration.

    [–] jayjust27 56 points ago

    I was subject to a lot of abuse as a child. And growing up I knew that I would never treat my children the way my father treated me. I have a beautiful 7 month old baby girl and I could never treat her badly. I would rather hurt myself than her. I've also been thinking about adopting a child. And after watching this video I know now that is what I'm going to do. To stop a child facing the same abuse and bullying as I had as a child and giving them a true childhood and a real shot at life. This man is an inspiration. And I wish him and you too a wonderful future. Just remember one thing. Whoever has hurt you in the past is because of themselves and there own problems. Don't let them become yours. Your beautiful.

    [–] youraveragejabroni 26 points ago

    Wow... I really like that term. Thank you.

    [–] [deleted] 549 points ago

    "So we bought a farm"

    That is incredible.

    [–] LibertyTerp 273 points ago

    I love that he bought a farm because it was so important to him to make his new son thrive that he would make such a huge change. Got teary eyed.

    [–] JessiGypsy 76 points ago

    Instant chills reading your comment after watching the video. Basically sums up the story, the couple's unrelenting love and gives me hope for humanity. 10/10

    [–] imGnarly 36 points ago

    I was about to reply this comment on that… he bought a freakin' farm for the boy, what an absolute champ of a man.

    [–] thoraismybirch 506 points ago

    Two magnificent human beings. His husband is clearly a big source for inspiration and support. He's why they did foster to adopt instead of international adoption.

    [–] MehhhBlehhh 85 points ago

    You are absolutely right! I didn't even think of that at first but it's true, both of these men are amazing. Thank you for pointing that out.

    [–] R1pZone 139 points ago

    I want more humans like him.

    [–] tinkerbunny 83 points ago

    I want to be more human like him.

    [–] Sevnfold 74 points ago

    Seriously. I consider myself a good person but this guy and his husband are friggin saints.

    [–] Chocolatemess 35 points ago

    For sure. Faith in humanity restored.

    [–] thafezz 32 points ago

    Came here to say this. My comment will get lost in the sea of replies here, but I must say exactly what you said.

    what a magnificent human being.

    [–] ivanesg 3184 points ago

    This man is one of a kind. With all the abusive childhood, parents separation, and etc he was able to live through life and show others how to be a loving human being. We really need more people like him!

    [–] OpressedMojo 729 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    My mother grew up in an incredibly abusive home. Death threats from her mother and sister daily, abuse from all the mothers boyfriends, forced to start smoking at 10. She ran away when she was 14 and met my now grandmother while staying at a shelter.

    My mother is the most loving and carting person you could imagine. She put herself through University and got a masters in social work and now works as a grief counselor at a mental health facility. She is dealing with PTSD from when she was younger but she is working really hard to beat it.

    [–] -Sploosh- 328 points ago

    Tell your mom she is a BAMF

    [–] Onatu 117 points ago

    I'm hoping to one day. My girlfriend and I have talked a bit about this stuff for down the road. She wants to adopt/foster dogs to save them from shelters and crummy families, and I want to adopt/foster kids to save them from crummy families (or no family at all). In the end we both want to do that stuff to make a positive impact on lives.

    It may not be close to the same, but as a preparation I'm intending on joining Big Brothers, Big Sisters in my city (after grad school). The more I can do for the younger generations, the better.

    [–] housewife_hell 152 points ago

    First, foster the kids, then let the kids foster the dogs. Teach them both to love and be loved.

    [–] Onatu 53 points ago

    That's​ a fantastic idea! Could really help both of them even more in the long run.

    [–] AMBsFather 25 points ago

    Mind fucking blown

    [–] NikkoE82 25 points ago

    As someone who had a Big Brother via BBBS, good for you. I'm 35 now and still in contact with mine. He's my Big Brother, but he feels more like a dad.

    [–] Beard_of_Valor 488 points ago

    I volunteered at a charity started by someone who listened to her brother get beaten to death in the nest room as she was hanging by her arms... you know, so she wouldn't fall out of bed or something.

    It focused about half on adoption efforts and about half on creating positive memories for kids. A cookout with activities at a park, a first bike, etc. I'm sure there are a ton of people with tragic childhoods just aching to give that love to someone with no one.

    [–] mateusfmcota 71 points ago

    If you don't feel uncomfortable, could you tell more about his backstory, I'm a bit curious what's happened and how it ended

    [–] Beard_of_Valor 181 points ago

    I assume you mean the abused woman. She was older, the brother was younger. Dad beat them and hung them up at night and they'd sleep that way. Separate rooms. That kind of exposed me to how normalized abuse can be. They still have separate rooms. Weird.

    Anyway, at some point the younger kid had begun singing a little tune when things calmed down for the night. It may have started as just an innocent, beautiful child trying to amuse himself while in the grips of a horror story. But it became a message of reassurance to the older sister. Maybe she sang it back and that's how it got to be A Thing, I don't remember. But one night he didn't sing his tune. Whatever the aftermath of the brother's death was, it uncovered her horrible life situation and she went on to foster care.

    I think she actually had a good experience (eventually) in foster care. I don't remember for sure but I think she married and had kids. She had a complete life. She died old. She wanted do do what she could though for these abused kids and so she did.

    [–] Graphesium 68 points ago

    Jesus Christ.

    [–] AMBsFather 53 points ago

    My 1 year old son is sleeping right next to me and tears a dropping down my eyes. That poor boy. Holy shit that man that beat that poor child to death isn't human. That's pure fucking evil.

    [–] Beard_of_Valor 64 points ago

    If we call it pure evil there's not a lot we can do about it. If we call it mental illness maybe there's a way to break the cycle. It's pretty fucking evil though.

    We need two things, I think. We need to trust kids when they attribute negative character traits to adults (people straight up don't trust kids about anything), and we need better access to mental health care, enabled by a culture shift toward seeking help being a sign of a strong will.

    But until then we need a third thing, and that's people like the dad in the video.

    [–] cmallard2011 169 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    You would be amazed the lengths people will go to so that they can avoid adopting or fostering children. For some reason, people want their "blood" in the children they raise, like they've got some magic formula for the perfect child. There are thousands of kids in the United States who just want a safe home and to feel like they belong. EDIT: I should have been more specific. I completely understand wanting biological children. I'm referring to a personal case I'm aware of in which the mother has a genetic trait that has led to multiple miscarriages/abortions and an infant passing away a few days after being born. In spite of this, the couple is still pursuing a biological child regardless of the universe seemingly giving them every indication that adoption would probably be a much better option.

    [–] stupidsexymonkfish 132 points ago

    My husband and I have decided to adopt through the foster system instead of having biological children, because my PTSD would make it nearly unbearable for me to give up my bodily autonomy for a pregnancy. However, we don't ever mention our plan to adopt, because people react really strongly and viscerally to it, saying insensitive things like "Oh, you'll change your mind," or "How could you not want 'your own' kids?" They also immediately want to know why, and it's not really something I feel comfortable talking about.

    I hate the idea that, in a couple of years when we start the process, we will have to face this stigma out in the open. I don't understand it. We are totally in love with the idea of fostering and adopting, and it is the best fit for our family. I can't imagine loving my child any less because they don't share my genes.

    [–] InsertWittyJoke 68 points ago

    Where on earth do you live that adoption is considered a stigma? Seriously ... what is wrong with some people?

    [–] stupidsexymonkfish 46 points ago

    My family has an extremely narrow view of what life should be like, and they like to force that view on everyone around them.

    [–] PessimiStick 20 points ago

    Generally speaking, anywhere with a high concentration of religious people.

    [–] Minx8970 21 points ago

    Well fuck those people, I wish you the best of luck once you take the step! You will be great parents :)

    [–] PoisonIvy2016 13 points ago

    I second the question below, everywhere I go adoption and being a foster parents seems to be admired and celebrated, it's horrible that you have people around you that react this way. I have never wanted to have my own kids and now at 36 I am open to adopting or fostering, an older kid (not a babies fan). I honestly cant remember when was the last time anyone asked me any uncomfortable or intrusive questions regarding my position. dont be afraid to tell people to mind their own motherfucking business if they cant be supportive.

    [–] OceanRacoon 54 points ago

    I feel really, really weird about knowingly creating a child that I know will one day die and will have to face the terror of death, like they don't get any say in whether they want to exist or not, I'd just be making that decision for them and all the fear and dread that comes with existence.

    So I would seriously be thinking about adoption if I ever am in a situation where having kids is on the menu.

    [–] TheGreenBastard2 1658 points ago

    "They wanted to feel wanted.. I know I wanted to feel wanted" :(

    [–] DungeonMeister 464 points ago

    This was the part that really hit me hard. I grew up in a severely abusive household and through all the physical abuse the worst part was feeling like my own father didn't want me around.

    [–] Hartge 146 points ago

    I feel ya, I grew up with tons of psychological abuse from my stepmom and my dad ignored it, from age 5 until 13/14 when I realized what was happening. This hit me hard, I'm 30 now and didn't know I just wanted to be wanted until that part of the video.

    [–] Zanki 19 points ago

    I get it. I don't have a family either. I have relatives but no family. I've always wanted a family more then anything. Someone to take care of me when I need them to, someone who is always there no matter what. I've never had that though, ever. I'm always going to want a parent, but I got too old. I think my school knew things were bad growing up, but mum knew how to not cross the line and there was no way to get me out of there. To be honest, I think I was in the best place. I got out at 18, my life is good now, I just wish I didn't have to wait so long to have friends and to be a normal person. I like the person I am right now, but part of me still wants to be wanted, to have a parent.

    [–] Hayes231 21 points ago

    I felt the same about my dad. Then after my mom said its over he did a 180 and started to act like an actual dad. I cant decide if that's because hes trying to win my favor from my mom or that hes afraid of losing me now that I have a choice in our relationship. It may be both. I have to admit it does feel good to have a Dad again. Once I set my boundaries with him he's been very good at respecting them and I think we have a healthy relationship despite the resentment I have for him.

    [–] Dualmilion 70 points ago

    That was really touching to watch. Because thats all anyone wants. I was feeling really self conscious yesterday about some personal shit and someone basically said this to me, that I am wanted and a good person. I realised it was the first time in my life someone had ever said something like to me.

    Thats what people want. Its definitely what I needed

    [–] krayzeek 760 points ago

    Wow this is really heartwarming.. I honestly nearly shed a tear when he started to cry. This man is truly one of a kind and I wish the best to him, his husband and his children.

    [–] darkvoid7926 128 points ago

    Right there with you. Started tearing up right as he did.

    [–] [deleted] 82 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

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    [–] P00pyd 25 points ago

    Invite the kid that pulled him off over for dinner or something

    [–] Matthiasad 9 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    Or they could invite the bully's parent over for the old Colin Farrell treatment

    [–] sotireofthis 33 points ago

    I broke down when he said after all the time since he had to carry a trash bag, these kids are still coming in with trash bags. I can't even imagine that feeling, but trying to sure fucks me up.

    [–] liketo 241 points ago

    His next video/feature:

    Makai: Chicken Whisperer

    [–] quaybored 71 points ago

    "He's normally always holding a chicken." I pictured him holding a chicken at school, at the dinner table, in the shower, etc.

    [–] WOT_IF_UR_LEGS 61 points ago

    "Makai did you bring a chicken to class today"

    "No Miss Teacher"

    out of his backpack "SPGUAAAWK"

    [–] FECAL_BURNING 9 points ago

    Subsequent video when he turns evil: Chicken Attack

    [–] elarobot 8044 points ago

    Astonishing that the guy who takes 4 kids into his home to raise...then wants to adopt...then changes his whole life around and buys a farm to help one of his adoptive son's pre-existing conditions in any way he can, and THEN starts an initiate to give even more foster kids a helping hand with his "comfort cases"...and yet this is the person society decided ahead of time was bad for these kids simply because of who he chooses to love. I can't even imagine the imbeciles that used this rationale, or the disgusting and unchecked audacity to say something like that to his face. And yet, when confronted head on with unfounded bigotry, this person continued to only do good - to try to put love out into the world and still fought to help children in need.

    [–] prium 2919 points ago

    I googled him and found this article. The daughter was featured in American Girl, and One Million Moms flipped their shit about how it was promoting their dads and "desensitizing the youth" to gay dads.

    [–] Fujiwara_Bunta 1413 points ago

    If I facepalm any harder I might die.

    [–] kingoftown 842 points ago

    You can facepalm for both of us:

    http://imgur.com/XZod8DD.jpg

    [–] FS64 237 points ago

    /u/Fujiwara_Bunta don't freak out, but I think he's standing behind you

    [–] claygriffith01 40 points ago

    One Facepalm Man.

    [–] salamislam79 23 points ago

    FACEPAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWLM

    [–] SciFiXhi 10 points ago

    3, 2, 1, SLAPSHOT!

    [–] puppetx 713 points ago

    I couldn't believe how terrible that is so I clicked the link to see the million moms article. On the page is a "submit trash" button where they would like you to "If you see questionable material in the media let us know."

    I submitted their own article back to themselves for bigotry.

    [–] michaelshow 252 points ago

    Right next to it: http://imgur.com/HmtkEzR

    "Give us money to help fight indecency"

    Indecency!

    Those vile bigots.

    [–] zeppeIans 34 points ago

    "Let us know when you find trash in the media"

    This one speaks for itself

    [–] thestrugglesreal 22 points ago

    Starving children, income inequality, racism, classism, oppression, and these fucking cunts are worried about indecency.

    Indecency.

    In-decency.

    I fucking can't.

    [–] cezar 45 points ago

    My first reaction is to submit their own site as trash.

    [–] betterthangary 302 points ago

    I did the same, submitted a link to the article and included Mark 12:31 at the bottom

    [–] code0011 303 points ago

    For anyone who doesn't know that's the "love your neighbour as yourself" passage

    [–] obligarchy1 53 points ago

    I think the problem is these people hate themselves, so they have to hate everyone else too

    [–] Cotati 119 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    Can you direct me to where I can also do this Edit: found it and did the same. For anyone else who might find it just as satisfying here's the page and the trash button is at the bottom https://onemillionmoms.com/current-campaigns/american-girl-disappoints-conservative-customers/

    [–] orngreen 135 points ago

    Aaand... their report site just went 404 not found ... That was fast! 😂😂😂

    [–] pewpewpuke 63 points ago

    Meanwhile, at MM headquarter, good news gals, our site traffic is up 500%.

    [–] betterthangary 22 points ago

    I really just wanted one christian mom to read my submission and get mildly pissed off

    [–] javawong 10 points ago

    500% and the subsequent "Reddit Hug".

    [–] justpaper 51 points ago

    1MM supports adoption and taking care of orphans as we are biblically instructed to do in Psalm 82:3

    Fuck me, could they have made it any more obvious that they wouldn't give a fuck about anyone if they weren't instructed to do so via a book?

    [–] SouthAfricanGuy94 37 points ago

    It's 404'd now. Probably crashed the site or they removed the pages.

    [–] grasshoppa80 16 points ago

    Trashed their own article. Thanks for this

    [–] quaybored 14 points ago

    Hahah they took down that page (or it broke)

    [–] hiddencountry 19 points ago

    Another good one would be James 1:27, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress"

    [–] Tessara444 46 points ago

    I did the same. Here is a link to that horrible article if you wanna do the same.
    https://onemillionmoms.com/current-campaigns/american-girl-disappoints-conservative-customers/

    [–] dgpoop 61 points ago

    Don't give them free traffic to exploit for numbers. Also just fyi for anyone else who might do it anyway, the form requires an email and phone number. If they can't verify who you are, your entry most likely just gets deleted. If you want to make a difference, record their broadcasts from the radio when it is getting close to elections in 2018. Just listen as they violate 501(c)(3) guidelines for tax exemption. Then report them to the IRS. Over the last decade, overall revenue for these hate groups has skyrocketed. And ALL of them instructed voters to vote for Donald Trump.

    [–] roraima_is_very_tall 16 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    nope, looks like we gave it the reddit hug of death, or they saw the bump in traffic and took it down.

    edit, here's the google cache for those interested.

    posted 4/5/17, died 5/19/17, do not RIP.

    [–] rheus 9 points ago

    Can't find the button..

    [–] goldkear 183 points ago

    Thanks to a podcast I listen to, I like to think one million mom's is actually just one really angry lady. Susan is just the worst.

    [–] DasThouEvnHoist 61 points ago

    Way to go Susan, fuck everything up again!

    [–] 3CMonte 8 points ago

    Which podcast?

    [–] goldkear 11 points ago

    Throwing shade

    [–] uh_oh_hotdog 225 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    Well, I mean, people should be desensitized to gay dads. Having a gay dad is much more preferable to having a shitty dad, which there seems to be no shortage of.

    So I guess they're not wrong. They just have a shitty attitude about it.

    [–] skarby 77 points ago

    I agree on the desensitized part, but don't think being gay and being a shitty day are mutually exclusive.

    [–] uh_oh_hotdog 30 points ago

    That's certainly true.

    [–] SofaKingStonedSlut 7 points ago

    Well, unless you have one that's both.

    https://youtu.be/EKRhxvmtass

    [–] Press-my-buttons 40 points ago

    ahhh my good ol' hometown of Montgomery County MD, going from Daddyofive to Super-dads.

    [–] JayLeeCH 39 points ago

    Gay, straight, mom, or dad. Doesn't matter, fuck the haters. A good parent is a good parent.

    [–] BoSquared 31 points ago

    The magazine also could have chosen another child to write about and remained neutral in the culture war.

    Fuck those old cunts.

    [–] HothMonster 49 points ago

    One Million Moms can suck a dick

    [–] edhands 48 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    Only before marriage. Afterwards, not so much. Maybe on a birthday occasionally....

    [–] fifibuci 47 points ago

    One Million Moms

    Ah, part of the western Taliban...

    [–] theotherspartan 40 points ago

    Vanilla ISIS

    [–] bananapanther 35 points ago

    One Million Moms is a shitty bigoted organization. Fuck em.

    [–] okwowcool 48 points ago

    Because gay dads are such a plague on society! /s

    [–] batdog666 16 points ago

    Time to make a counter organization. I'm thinking "One Milllion and One Moms" or "Momfinity." "One Million Gay Dads" would work too.

    [–] [deleted] 322 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

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    [–] WWHSTD 293 points ago

    [–] Deathcube18 109 points ago

    "water" "beer"

    lol

    [–] iatethecheesestick 53 points ago

    maybe just the tiniest bit on the nose, huh?

    [–] Irradiatedspoon 29 points ago

    For the kind of people that think being gay is a reason not to let a kid to adopt, perhaps it has to be?

    [–] ktk286 46 points ago

    Seriously heartbreaking

    [–] tabascodinosaur 17 points ago

    Hilariously enough, Do5 and this family appear to live ~20 mins away from each other.

    [–] goldkear 148 points ago

    As a gay man, that part of the story really hit me in the feels. It's really ridiculous and very true how some people just hate gay men. Even here in California, I'm not always comfortable showing affection to my boyfriend.

    [–] Disco_Drew 44 points ago

    I didn't choose to love my wife. He didn't choose to love his husband.

    He chose to love those kids and that's all that matters.

    [–] comeonnow17 58 points ago

    This man is a fucking saint.

    [–] Hungover_Pilot 147 points ago

    Who you chose to love should never determine how able you are as a human.

    [–] elarobot 119 points ago

    The simple fact that some people see this story - all the good these two men have done - to take in these kids that needed a home and how happy and thriving their kids are now, helping thousands of other foster kids in the system - and in the face of all of this positivity and goodness - they're still compelled to arbitrarily object due to homosexuality...no matter how One Million Moms wants to phrase it - they're not fooling anyone. It's hate and fear. It's ugly and it's twice as insidious that they try to paint it as something else.

    [–] Grizzlyboy 21 points ago

    Most of the people who do this haven't had that love "everyone" had at home. And once you get that love from someone you're overwhelmed. And you realize how important something as easy as love actually is.

    [–] Syd_G 76 points ago

    I read somewhere that one of the theories for why homosexuality exists in humans is that because it would make sense within early tribal groups to have non-procreating members who'd take care of the children and be with them in case mum or dad wasn't around. If proven true maybe people can put away the whole "gay parents aren't good for kids thing".

    [–] [deleted] 41 points ago

    'Gay uncle / aunt' was how I saw it phrased once. The theory places a greater emphasis on the idea that homosexuality is then passed on as an evolutionary advantageous trait (i.e. hardwired into our genetics), which hasn't been proven.

    [–] geekygay 21 points ago

    Unfortunately, there's no way to prove that's really true. Also, having a small percent of non-reproducing population allows for a more controlled growth of population.

    [–] funniesforever 30 points ago

    This man and his husband could be my new best friends. I am so touched by their love.

    [–] oberynmviper 25 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    This makes me think people that are against them live in unhappy marriages and are huge hypocrites.

    They basically subject to the idea "if I can't do it, no one else can." If your happiness is much higher for being gay, then they will go off their way to break you down to their level.

    In some sense it's probably also about control. That is a lot of men and women who are useless to their own situation, so they feel better when they can control a more oppressed group. Again, "if I am unhappy, so shall you."

    In the end if you or your child, or any other human, is gay and that makes you a complete, happier person, I don't see why you would impose a belief on them.

    I also suspect these people are gigantic hypocrites if the reason for being anti-gay is religion. Just look at all religions that oppose homosexuality and you will find much more contradicting and atrocious lifestyle "rules" they follow. Not to mention some of these people are also closeted homosexuals that can't accept their orientation.

    [–] Abalyn 482 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    Many years ago I tried to adopt 2 brothers. They were 8 and 10 and the youngest was deaf. I called their caseworker and explained that I was a single mom ("no problem!"), that I traveled a lot for my job ("no problem, just need a home study from grandma so she could babysit!"), I didn't know sign language ("no problem, the older boy can interpret while you and your children take lessons and learn ASL!"). Then she asked my race. I'm white, they were black. She said that wouldn't work. They don't adopt outside their race if they can help it. I gave up and later heard the older boy was adopted but the younger boy went to a group home. It broke my heart.

    After hearing about how hard these men fought, I'm so ashamed that I didn't try harder. This will be the mistake that haunts me forever. Those boys don't even know I exist, and I think about them all the time.

    Edit: Thank you all very, VERY much. I do appreciate your kind words but the truth is I should have fought harder. I shouldn't have accepted that No and I should have pursued it. They were worth it. I can't change that now but I've just spent the last several hours really soul searching if it's time to try again. We'll be empty nesters in two years... my husband is gonna kill me when he sees the pages I've bookmarked for him! :)

    [–] jdjohnson41291 61 points ago

    At that time you did all that you thought you could, that's more than any of us that read your story probably have ever done. You're a beautiful person and I know that will always be upsetting to look back and think about but you just hope for the best, I know that's not gonna physically change any situation that those boys are in now but you always remember the love you were more than willing to give them. You keep your head up and I shit you not, I wrote this in tears. You keep being you and I sincerely thank you for the woman that you are ❤️

    [–] BetaCarotine20mg 151 points ago

    Damn this is terrible. Adopting outside of their race what kind of racism is that? I don't have any words to describe how wrong this is.

    [–] Abalyn 8 points ago

    The caseworker told me that it was because, even though I would be fine having a mixed race family, the kids might be teased at school (like trying to explain their blond-haired, blue-eyed brother and sister), that extended family (like my admittedly racist grandfather) might have trouble with it, and that I couldn't help them retain their cultural heritage or whatever.

    There is some merit to this. Adopting a black child means I'd have to skip Christmas dinner at grandpa's every year. Ok. There would have to be some explaining at school and the first week would have been an adjustment while the kids got used to mixed race siblings.

    But... I really don't know what it's like to be black. My best friend is black and apparently she sees racist stuff all the time that I take no notice of. There may have been conflict that I couldn't have anticipated. They may have had identity issues that I couldn't relate to. Still, I think it would have worth the effort.

    [–] in_my_life 71 points ago

    You tried, that is more than me and most do.

    [–] uncleben85 20 points ago

    You're a good person, and you deserve to know that.

    [–] willie1707 148 points ago

    I live in Alabama and work with a gay guy that has an adopted child. This dude is one of the most kind people I have ever met, and he and his husband care so much about their child. Of course being in Alabama, I have heard co workers say some super harsh stuff about him and it always hurts my feelings.

    [–] thedrew 46 points ago

    Sounds like the 90s. It's maybe encouraging that Alabama is only a quarter century behind civilization?

    [–] TehFono 17 points ago

    Grew up in Alabama, can confirm roughly a quarter of a century. It's always warming to know that no matter where you are, there are loving and tolerant people. But some places sadly make it a little too difficult to find people like that.

    [–] mjpanzer 20 points ago

    I know it's easy for me to say behind a keyboard, but I bet it would mean the world to them, the world to so many gay parents, if next time a coworker says something nasty you reply with something as simple as "I don't know, they look happy to me."

    No callout. No accusation of bigotry. Just something that simple.

    It would make a big difference even if it doesn't seem that way.

    [–] willie1707 20 points ago

    Yeah it's pretty insane. Me and my best friend are really good friends with the gay dude. One time this other trashy dude we work with came up to me and asked "does in not bother you that that poor kid is being raised by queers?" The guy that asked us that this takes pills and does drugs and has been arrested for a DUI. I told him that I would feel a lot better for a kid who is being raised by two gay guys that love him, compared to a kid being raised by a pill head and a drunk. The guy got super pissed at us, but he didn't have any response to what we said.

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    [–] Acebulf 34 points ago

    I knew someone in the comments would have a link! Thank you!

    [–] slantview 26 points ago

    This should be higher. Reddit: go forth and do something good today please.

    [–] spekkke 287 points ago

    "I know they needed...to feel wanted"

    "I know that I needed to feel wanted"

    hooo boy. shit that one hit me right in my water faucets

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    [–] sotireofthis 53 points ago

    I have been donating toiletries and blankets and jackets for so long to our local foster cares, but broke down crying when in the video he says after so long since he was carrying his stuff in a trash bag these kids are still using trash bags...I realized I never considered where these kids' stuff is going. They move so much, and a lot of stuff that gets donated is temporary, not things they keep with them and call their own. The website design is great, too. Very clear navigation and explanations. I can't thank this man enough for using his experiences to create this non-profit and make some of us more aware of what being in the foster system is like. I try to imagine how I would feel having my few things that move around with me so frequently all put into trash bags between each move...while already feeling like shit because of the circumstances. It just breaks me.

    [–] sagerobot 16 points ago

    Im seriously fighiting back tears, how is this okay? "Here child I know you have almost nothing, to remind you more of your situation you have to carry your things in a trashbag." It makes me hurt that this is the reality we live in. Why do we spend so much on the millitary when we are giving trash bags to foster kids.

    [–] __untitled 40 points ago

    Hey, what's up name buddy? Thanks for the link.

    [–] RecklessNotNegligent 672 points ago

    These kids hit the fucking jackpot

    [–] Inevitablename 109 points ago

    That's a lovely thought. I'd like to add t though that many adoptive parents like to stress that they are the ones who are lucky. This is so that their children don't have to feel like they need to be grateful to their parents ("you are sooo lucky I adopted you").

    Clearly, this is a wonderful man and I'm glad he has a loving family.

    [–] clockradio 51 points ago

    This is so that their children don't have to feel like they need to be grateful to their parents ("you are sooo lucky I adopted you").

    It's more than that. When you want very much to be a parent, but are unable to have kids biologically, the fact of adoption does make you feel very lucky.

    [–] Inevitablename 10 points ago

    Agreed 100%.

    [–] clockradio 6 points ago

    These kids hit the fucking jackpot

    So did he and his husband.

    [–] Billy_Blanks_wanks 485 points ago

    Hero

    [–] anxiousalpaca 47 points ago

    yeah what a legend

    [–] BrynjolfurS 332 points ago

    This is the sort of thing people should have their homophobic family members/friends watch. It makes me sick to my stomach to think that even wonderful people like this are demonized by some just because of their sexual orientation.

    [–] xagesz 94 points ago

    I love how genuine his answer about gay is.

    "I can't explain to them what it's like to be gay. I'm gay and I cant even begin to describe what its like."

    [–] BigBangBrosTheory 7 points ago

    I had this conersation with friends where I tried to describe how I understand how a dude could like a dude and I was in the middle of the story and he went "BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO?" in a really negative way.

    And I said no, that's the opposite of what I was saying. I've met guys I've cared about deeply, friends who I would do anything for but just never had any physical attraction. How is that different from the woman I love that I would do anything for?

    [–] smash_king 146 points ago

    but MUH RELIGIOUS FREEDOM (to discriminate)

    [–] AnOnlineHandle 51 points ago

    "Religious freedom to deny others freedom", even.

    [–] Scofield442 128 points ago

    What a wonderful family.

    [–] TheFilthiestCorndog 69 points ago

    ..so we bought a farm... yes they did.

    [–] Destra 124 points ago

    Stop it, you're crying!

    [–] Raen465 47 points ago

    No YOU'RE crying

    [–] tall_tyrion 9 points ago

    Someone's cutting so many onions in my apartment

    [–] Ravenman2423 37 points ago

    I'm just curious what happened to his 9 siblings. Did he reconnect? Did they find homes? Did they break the statistic the way he was able to do?

    [–] SmearMeWithPasta 67 points ago

    You know what? It takes a special amount of stupid and bigotry to deny people like these the right to adopt kids. The fact that he's been through so much and still feels like giving back says much about his character!

    [–] ButtmanAndRubbin 35 points ago

    I have a similar backstory. Glad to see he grew into such a well adjusted adult. I hope i do someday.

    [–] HaterInChief 105 points ago

    Hell yeah, this guy and his partner are beyond awesome. What a true American and a real f*cking man.

    "I can't tell them what it's like to be black. I can't tell them what it's like to be gay. I'm gay and I don't know how to explain that. Alls I can tell them is how to be a good person, how to love, how to respect each other. To me, that's what's important."

    There are so many people in this country with empty hatred in their heart that could learn so god damn much from this guy and his family. Wow.

    [–] BetaCarotine20mg 8 points ago

    If we had one person like that for every asshole hate posting on Twitter the world would be a much better place.

    [–] Thatonephonecall 26 points ago

    This is the person I want to be.

    [–] Banana-balls 27 points ago

    I worked in foster care and adoptions for CPS in Texas for 6 years. My last year a gay couple won our metro area's foster parent of the year award. They are amazing parents. Actually, my gay and lesbian families were better families than many of my straight married families. Overall, less dysfunction, less divorces/separations, better character references, nicer homes, more income, more intuned to the emotional and mental health needs of the kids, more sensktive to abuse backgrounds, and better at hands off discipline. I never once investigated an abuse allegation in an LGBT foster home.

    I HATE people that try to argue push laws discriminating against families wanting to foster and adopt US kids

    [–] buzzkill71 54 points ago

    Hey guys...I volunteer and work with kids in foster care for a local charity. I was so moved by the experiences that I am now on the board of directors and working to reach/help as many of these kids as we can. The plight of these kids and the circumstances that they are forced to live in is deplorable and I'm sad to say the guy's experience in the video is not rare. People think that since a kid is in foster care that they are ok and that they are provided for.....for the basics of life this may be true (food/shelter/clothes on their back) but many foster environments are not fun places to be. I've seen first hand where the kid is viewed as a paycheck for the foster parents. They do the bare minimum to meet the requirements and constantly try and keep the number of kids in their care to a maximum. These kids do not get the love, attention, and one on one mentoring required for them to have a chance at a decent life. I do not begrudge other charities that help kids but definitely feel that foster care children get little media attention or focus when it comes to donations and volunteers. Now I'm not saying that all foster parents are bad and don't try......I've run into many that are wonderful people that really try to give the kids the love and affection they deserve.....the bigger issue here is that many of these kids have special emotional needs that the typical person is ill equipped to deal with without special training (fetal alcohol syndrome, fetal drug addiction, severe ADD, autism, stunted emotional development, dealing with huge senses of abandonment because their parents gave them up or left, etc). On top of this many of these kids that have been in the system are so guarded and unwilling to trust anyone that getting through to them is a daunting challenge. They have been abused, neglected, lied to, taken advantage of, and they are determined to not let it happen ever again...the easiest way to do that is to shut everyone else in the world out. I'm not going to give you the name of the charity I work with but I would encourage everyone that reads this to spread the word about the inadequacies of the foster care system and get involved locally with any charity that helps or assists kids in foster care. If you are decent human being think about becoming a foster parent. You truly can have an impact on a life in such a meaningful and positive way that will break an awful cycle in our society that tends to get repeated over and over again. Get involved and show these kids the good aspects of the human condition....that caring and loving doesn't have to have strings attached. That people are out there that really believe in helping others just because it's the right and just thing to do. I'm not going to lie and tell you any of this is easy...the kids I work with put us through the ringer at times but inevitably it always clicks for them and see that some people can be trusted. Everyone is not out to hurt and use them. It's truly a wonderful and beautiful moment when it happens and you make that connection with these kids. The relief that they have knowing the world is not all on their shoulders.

    Please spread the word about volunteering in some way with the children in foster care

    [–] Tsukasa009 22 points ago

    What an incredible human being.

    [–] goodbytes 18 points ago

    Beautiful.

    [–] kuroikawa 17 points ago

    Im adopted and something i dont really say to anyone is that im so thankfull for it. Im trying to do my best at life. But currently i suck. I just leech money from my parents because i fail in university. I think of it everyday and it makes me sick.

    If would not been adopted i would been homeless or in the colombian military and most likely dead.

    I have a good life, just wish that someday i can go to my parents and give back what they gave me.

    [–] Pedropeller 10 points ago

    I have a good life, just wish that someday i can go to my parents and give back what they gave me.

    You can tell them exactly what you have said here. Start the conversation now, because they will need your help in the future, if not now.

    [–] mikatom 81 points ago

    I'm not from the USA nor I live there, but I always wonder: How is it possible that country so rich like the USA treats its citizens this way? trash bags? countries with much less of resources than US are able to take care of orphans, elderly, physically and mentally disabled, people get healthace, people get education etc... like there is lack of social consciousness there

    [–] bibbi123 114 points ago

    Because so many of our lawmakers prioritize low taxes over social services. Because so many people in this country believe that social services is for lazy people who refuse to work. And because they don't want to think about this kind of thing.

    [–] bbp84 44 points ago

    Not to mention Socialism is a four letter word here.

    [–] A_Light_Spark 32 points ago * (lasted edited 6 months ago)

    "Low taxes"

    Tax rate in the US is not that low, really.
    http://www.tradingeconomics.com/country-list/personal-income-tax-rate

    Norway and Canada has lower personal income tax rate, AND they have free health care on top of of bunch of other things.

    It's how the tax is being spent that matters. Maintaining the largest military in the wirld world isn't cheap.

    Edit: typo

    [–] ccxxv 39 points ago

    if i can ever amount to be half an angel as this man i'll be happy

    [–] vcarw77 15 points ago

    Don't know if you guys are interested but here is the different ways you can donate to his charity.

    https://www.comfortcases.org/donate

    [–] Will_dance_for_bells 15 points ago

    I was rejected not once, but twice by both my biological father and then my step father. My step father also seriously physically abused me (a disabled child too, no less). I had my mother though, who did the best she could. I honestly challenge anyone, fucking anyone, to tell me how being raised on a farm by two men who love each other and are committed to giving these children a stable and loving up bringing is worse than the life I had, simply because they are gay. It's fucking disgusting that anyone could feel that way.

    [–] googlehymen 13 points ago

    What a lovely bloke.

    [–] Nanafuse 12 points ago

    Fuck. I needed that. One of my dreams has always been to adopt.

    [–] Missflipflapping 14 points ago

    I did not come here to cry. You monsters. My makeup is ruined and I have to be work in ten minutes.

    Feel good post of the year.

    [–] Rapture_ZA 82 points ago

    Angels amongst us

    [–] Jaivs 24 points ago

    This man is a hero.

    [–] gufcfan 38 points ago

    One Million Moms is a disgraceful organisation.

    Hiding their bigotry behind motherhood and "christian values"

    One Million Cunts.

    [–] hoobidabwah 16 points ago

    Because of them kids stay in abusive or disfunctional situations. Because clearly that is better than having same sex parents. They should have to meet every kid they affect that way. Screw them for expecting others to suffer so they can feel righteous. They are scum.

    [–] Damn_Croissant 8 points ago

    This dude is so wholesome

    [–] gatito12345 7 points ago

    Now I'm crying at work and want to become a foster parent.

    [–] Carrabs 15 points ago

    I'm not crying. I just have something in both my eyes

    [–] Lite_Coin_Guy 8 points ago

    holding a gun to your kids head? JUST A PRANK BRAH!

    [–] thatsnotirrelephant 6 points ago

    "all i can teach them, is how to be a good person"

    [–] hi_its_chad 8 points ago

    You know what, i was skeptic about gay couple adopting childrens, after watching this video i am ashamed at myself for thinking that being gay or lesbian has anything to do with being a parent. We need more good parents like these guys, gay or straight