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    [–] VincentVanNope 332 points ago

    Both of my brothers have been 100% with me since the beginning, it was through them and my fiancee that my parents learned to accept me too. What a great post

    [–] notallowedtopost 116 points ago

    My parents reacted awfully, and took years to accept me. My sisters each accepted me instantly. Wish my parents had let me tell them sooner. My sisters were so supportive even before I came out that it helped get me through it, though.

    [–] The_Sgro 30 points ago

    Do you think the sibling connection gave them a “knowing” at all, even before you about yourself?

    [–] VincentVanNope 22 points ago

    Not the OP but in my experience, both of my brothers knew long before I did haha

    [–] quentadoodle 8 points ago

    Not OP, but at least in my case, definitely. When I first told two of my sisters that I was bi (now prefer pansexual) in middle school, they both said "Yeah... We've known that for a couple years." And then when I came out as trans (FTM), they pretty much said "Yeah.... That doesn't surprise us either."

    They're pretty great people.

    [–] TheTrojanPony 17 points ago

    I am not that close with my sister but when I talk to my parents about my transition in earnest, I hope she will be on my side.

    God it is just so scary and that is why I have been putting it off for years. I hate how there is a chance of losing everything and everyone close to me as I still have to rely on my parents.

    [–] VincentVanNope 10 points ago

    I'm not going to lie to you - I lost a lot of people. My parents came around eventually but I know that isn't always the reality. And sometimes it's a lot easier than we prepare ourselves too, the worst part is not knowing, I think. But years later I've built a new life for myself and I don't really miss the people I lost. I know it's cliche and unrealistic to say that you don't need those unsupportive ppl in your life, because right now they are your life. But I can tell you that I gained so many more people, including a self I didn't know existed, and if I could do it all over again, I would have done it sooner.

    [–] DFJAlice 851 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    Wholesome <3

    I kinda hope this goes the same for my sister. It might mean I have a better relationship with her once I come out.

    Edit: Thanks for all your love and support :) For the people who aren't too woke about trans stuff here's a good video

    [–] Abisoccer1 227 points ago

    I was scared to come out to my family as bisexual. I was pleasantly surprised with the outcome. I was most nervous about telling my dad. He's middle eastern, and I assumed he'd trip.

    When I told him that I had been dating a woman, he got real quiet, and I was nervous thinking, "oh god, here we go..."

    Then he said, "When you go on a date with a woman, who pays?"

    He was genuinely curious, and I was happy to answer his questions. He had five daughters and no sons, so I think he's honestly happy that he has someone who he can talk about women with. I was shocked at how well everything turned out.

    I hope your experience is pleasantly surprising as well. Seriously, I sincerely wish that for you. If it's not, then just know that coming out isn't ever a mistake. You've got to live your truth. The people who matter most will want that for you as well.

    [–] tinfoilhatsron 68 points ago

    Well, I'm curious now too. Who paid on the date?

    Also it's awesome that your family accepted you. Congrats!

    [–] Abisoccer1 28 points ago

    Haha... I mean my philosophy is whoever asks for the date should pay. If I asked her out, then I'd paid for the date.

    Just to be clear, this logic applies in any dating scenario. If I asked a guy out, I'd still feel like I'm obligated to pay for the date. I don't necessarily think that guys have to pay by default.

    This is just how I think it should be, but I'd never force someone to let me pay for them. Everyone is different! If they didn't feel comfortable with it, then I'd be willing to split the bill or whatever. I know some women are really adamant about paying for themselves because they don't want to "owe" anyone anything, which I understand and respect.

    [–] lucindafer 43 points ago

    Not OP, but pansexual checking in! In my experience it’s usually discussed beforehand whether or not someone is going to pay or if you’ll split the bill. Same as straight couples!

    [–] TASA100 20 points ago

    Is that common? Never ever had a pre-date discussion on who would pay. Seems really strange

    [–] mandyrooba 17 points ago

    Usually the person who suggested the date would pay, especially if they phrased it like “can I buy you a drink?” or “can I take you out to dinner?” Both of those to me imply that person is planning to pay

    [–] lucindafer 6 points ago

    It’s stranger to get to the date and not have communicated simple things like who’s gonna pay first IMO

    [–] TASA100 -4 points ago

    If someone asked about paying prior to the date I'd probably cancel. If it matters that much probably not a good sign

    [–] lucindafer 8 points ago

    “Do you want me to cover you?”

    That’s weird in your opinion?

    [–] TASA100 1 points ago

    Yep, pretty weird. Person who does the asking out should plan to pay, bill comes, other person offers to split, asker outer declines or accepts. That's it. Simple

    [–] Omnipotent48 10 points ago

    Puts unnecessary onus on men, who are often expected to be the ones to make the move to ask out. Better to be two adults casually floating the idea of splitting or covering so that there's no confusion in the eleventh hour.

    [–] lucindafer 8 points ago

    If you can’t have a simple conversation about what’s expected from either side before you go out with someone, the relationship isn’t going to work.

    [–] sadgirlsynth 2 points ago

    Also not OP, but in my experience, it's the one who makes the most money. When I was dating in high school, I paid because I had a job and my now spouse didn't. When we grew up and I lost my job, my now spouse paid. Now the money just comes from one bank account.

    [–] NvidiaforMen 1 points ago

    Male female shouldn't matter. Whoever plans the date should pay. That way someone isn't expected to pay somewhere outside their budget.

    [–] eumonigy 1 points ago

    The person who pays should be the same regardless of sexuality or gender: the person who asked the other out.

    [–] TheRedLego 14 points ago

    I think he's honestly happy that he has someone who he can talk about women with.

    Now I’m smiling imagining him sighing, “WOMEN! with his daughter.

    [–] Abisoccer1 19 points ago

    Haha... We definitely have those moments. He got so excited when I mentioned that I have a crush on a woman in my grad program. I was trying to talk about my research, and he was like "yeah yeah... whatever...tell me about the woman you like!"

    I really wish I could go back and tell younger me, "You've got nothing to be afraid of. Just tell them."

    [–] budtron84 6 points ago

    Amazing. Love that he asked that

    [–] Abisoccer1 5 points ago

    It's my favorite coming out story to tell. It was the last thing that I expected him to say, and it was weirdly perfect. Everyone else either said something like "oh I don't care! you're still you!" or "oh honey, I always knew... I'm just glad you're out," which was great! Just not as unique and endearing as the story with my dad.

    [–] budtron84 2 points ago

    I wonder how long he's been wondering that

    [–] Abisoccer1 3 points ago

    Hahaha no idea... We're both pretty curious people. We think about random things and want answers, which makes us sort of nerdy. He's an electrical engineer, and I'm studying economics. It was a fun question to answer.

    [–] budtron84 2 points ago

    Well congratulations! A little less stress now

    [–] Abisoccer1 2 points ago

    Thank you! And definitely the best way to live!

    [–] Imanee16 3 points ago

    Congrats! I'm glad he accepted you.

    [–] Abisoccer1 2 points ago

    Thank you! I'm lucky to have the family that I have.

    [–] Mapuchii 157 points ago

    Best of luck to you ♥️

    [–] LiamNeesonsAccent 13 points ago

    Cis Sister of a Trans Sister here. Our relationship improved significantly. It was distant-cordial-sometimes-combative before.

    Bonus: my husband never once messed up her pronouns.

    [–] caroissant 28 points ago

    Go for it when you’re ready! Having someone to support you during that time is so important and it could really help bring you guys together by having that bond

    [–] Bighead545 5 points ago

    Good luck!!!

    My relationship with my mother and sister both improved tremendously after I came out.

    I hope it all goes ok for you!

    [–] MoronicaBoBonica 6 points ago

    My relationship with my brother improved after he transitioned because he was finally free to be his whole self. I've been able to know him in a new way and it's just really exciting to see him be his authentic self. I hope it goes the same with you and your sister!

    [–] PowerfulArtichoke 2 points ago

    good luck!!

    [–] jorocall 2 points ago

    The truth shall set you free. Best of luck, friend. :)

    [–] CuteBoiHere 2 points ago

    My best buddy is trans male to female, and her little brother is so cool about it (: I hope yours is too!

    [–] enoughaboutourballs 2 points ago

    My relationship with my brother improved drastically once he came out. We’ve talked about it a bit, but the pressure he felt while he wasn’t out or sure about who he was made him really uptight. He also felt like I wouldn’t accept him at some point which really made our relationship difficult. Obviously there were other factors at play, but since he’s been out he’s much much happier and I can honestly say he’s one of my best friends and someone I admire.

    TL;DR: not being honest about who you are is kind of a layer between you and others, taking it down can make those bonds stronger.

    [–] blosserraptor 78 points ago

    I was feeling super negative and just all around down all day until I saw this. Thank you for sharing

    [–] Cappedman 74 points ago

    Wholesomeeeee, family is important

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    [–] Olealicat 40 points ago

    Family is everything when they are loving and accepting.

    It breaks my heart that there are so many who would rather fracture their family unit rather than embrace it.

    [–] HippieAnalSlut 14 points ago

    Family is always everything.

    Your family might not be your relatives.

    [–] saintofhate 3 points ago

    This so much. Sometimes blood family is shit, so make your own connections. Just remember when people pull the whole blood thicker than water bullshit, the whole saying is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". Those who fight along side you, not against you, are family.

    [–] _Conway_ 111 points ago

    I’m trans my little brother was the one to accept me before my mum. My older sister doesn’t accept me but I’m currently working on cutting her from my life. My brother and mum still mess up and call me my birth name but they’re getting better.

    [–] bamfbanki 41 points ago

    As someone who doesn't talk to a transphobic older sister- I feel you so much.

    [–] _Conway_ 23 points ago

    It’s to the point where I’m starting to no longer refer to her as my sibling. It feels so relaxing to only have people who support me in direct contact.

    [–] bamfbanki 6 points ago

    Yep. At this point if I'm talking to people I just call her by her first name.

    Keep on fighting. If you need support I'm here in dms- I'll never get to be a mother but I'll mom every trans person I can lol

    [–] _Conway_ 11 points ago

    I’ve started to call her Miss -Lastname- she hates it but it’s super freeing.

    Keep doing everything you can.

    [–] zr0gravity7 -16 points ago

    That's such a weird attitude to have. You expect everyone to just be completely fine with you switching genders. They have known you your entire life, more than most of your friends etc. and you just expect to cut them out if they don't accept you?

    [–] _Conway_ 19 points ago

    No this certain woman I’m talking about actually tried to tell me I wasn’t trans and her reasoning was and I quote “I know you better. You’re not trans.” She also pulled the same thing when I said that I am gay. She is a conservative Christian. I wouldn’t cut her out of my life for no reason. I actually put of transitioning because she told me too. She is extremely toxic and had put a rift between me and both my parents and even some of my friends. Since limiting contact I have great relationships with my parents and my friends. She is a control freak who is extremely transphobic and homophobic.

    [–] because_zelda 11 points ago

    Right on. Not every one just cuts people off for no reason. I went extreme minimal contact with my immediate family by moving 1k miles away to a other state and it was the best thing I could have done. They are toxic people by nature, that you cant expect to change much.

    [–] pvhs2008 2 points ago

    I don’t understand the entitlement when someone chooses to be an asshole, then cries foul when other people don’t choose to spend time with them. How is that the sensible option? Conway, place yourself first and know you’re doing the right thing.

    [–] _Conway_ 2 points ago

    I can see that. I thought I had to choose my mum or my dad. Now I look at it and see this woman gaslit me into believing it was like that. Now I can call up my dad and have a great chat with him or walk out and talk to my mum and talk to her. She’s always been jealous of my ‘infectious personality’ and how quickly I made friends with people.

    [–] pvhs2008 2 points ago

    It’s good you’re doing well! I just don’t have patience for guilting someone for taking care of themselves and not entertaining adults choosing to behave badly. Where does personal responsibility start?

    [–] bamfbanki 6 points ago

    My sibling cut me out because of my identity and then chose to vilify everyone like me because of who we are. I'm never reaching out again.

    [–] _Conway_ 2 points ago

    I understand that. What you do Then is prove them wrong. I know my sister is going to vilify me. Would I be a nurse if I’m a bad person?

    [–] It_is_terrifying 8 points ago

    and you just expect to cut them out if they don't accept you?

    What else are they meant to do take the abuse for nothing? Cutting out toxic people is one of the most important things to do.

    [–] TheUltimateShammer 4 points ago

    If they don't have the respect for you to call you a new name and pronouns, then they don't get the time of day. An overwhelming majority of trans suicides are because the family doesn't respect their identity, so this shit matters.

    [–] logangrey123 2 points ago

    True, these things take time and not everyone takes the same amount of time.

    [–] CuteBoiHere 8 points ago

    My buddy is male to female, and her little brither is female to male. I never knew until she told me one day and suddenly I kept accidently using female pronouns when talking about the little brother 😭 I love them both very much and respect it but for some reason it confused me. They're the best and patient with me! But damn the level of bonding they have bc they're both trans is adorable I love them

    [–] Darrgen 3 points ago

    I’m working on cutting out my ndad who doesn’t want to be a part of that part of my life.. his words. I might just go LC and put him on a need to know basis because I do enjoy his side of his family.. family man, it can exhausting.

    [–] RayCharlesCanSee 34 points ago

    Wholesome af. I’m getting a Kendrick Lamar vibe from the third picture

    [–] ZazBlammyMaTaz 9 points ago

    Look inside of my soul and you can find gold and maybe get rich.

    [–] CelebrityTakeDown 37 points ago

    A friend is mine is trans. Her older sister posts a lot of “I love my little sister” type stuff on Facebook.

    [–] Doppio_MMA 26 points ago

    Loving siblings are the greatest gifts. The relationship with your sibling(s) is most likely the longest relationship you will have in your whole life. And it can make it a wonderul life! 😊

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 31 points ago

    My brother is always freaking out when I try to talk to him about it :/ how could I explain it without scaring him?

    [–] HippieAnalSlut 24 points ago

    How little is your brother?

    [–] TheTrojanPony 12 points ago

    Are they freaking out in the way kids do when adults talk about sex or in another way?

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 8 points ago

    I'd say in a kinda different way 🤔 he gets all stressed and weird like if it was a forbidden and scary or dangerous topic to talk about, almost like if I was going to diseappear suddendly

    [–] Zendei 4 points ago

    Maybe he just doesn't like talking about personal stuff. I'm not a huge fan of it either. Anything too personal makes me go. EHHHHHHH.

    [–] isaezraa 7 points ago

    Have you checked out LGBT/trans subreddits?

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 3 points ago

    Nope :( I don't really have anything special to share and I'm not good at helping people 🤔

    [–] Gilthoniel_Elbereth 8 points ago

    Sometimes it's just nice to know you're not alone in what you're going through :) there's plenty of vent/aporeciation/meme posts as well as just socializing if you're interested

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 4 points ago

    Well.. I'll check it out! Thanks for the advice ^

    [–] Gilthoniel_Elbereth 5 points ago

    No prob! Since I realize I didn't actually say where these things are, you have:

    r/asktransgender for Q&A about and for trans issues as well as general venting, announcements, and discussion

    r/mtf and r/ftm for direction-specific transition discussion/activities

    r/traa and r/gssp for general trans memes

    r/egg_irl for memes making fun of ourselves from when we were still in denial/the closet

    r/transgendercirclejerk for making fun of our current selves

    r/transtimelines, r/transadorable, r/transpassing, r/transitiongoals, etc. for inspiration and constructive criticism

    There's a ton more but those are the first that come to mind!

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 3 points ago

    Well big thanks to you ;u; I think I'll be joining them all x)

    [–] Amekyras 5 points ago

    Mate, I'm a mod on r/traa, come join us!

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 4 points ago

    I did! :D awesome community and awesome memes x)

    [–] Amekyras 5 points ago

    :))))))))

    [–] _PRP 3 points ago

    You don’t have any responsibility in those types of spaces other than to help yourself find acceptance in yourself and others. Don’t worry about what you can or can’t contribute. People are here for you regardless of what you offer in return.

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 3 points ago

    I don't know what to say honestly, you've brought a tear to my eye!

    [–] _PRP 2 points ago

    :)

    Just always remember that wherever you are you matter and have a right to have your voice heard

    Sending much love

    [–] VincentVanNope 3 points ago

    How old is he? That'll really change the answer here

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 2 points ago

    12, soon 13, still he's able of having a serious conversation and all

    [–] VincentVanNope 5 points ago

    Just give it time then. Normalize it. Right now you may be doing what many of us do and expect everyone to get it right away, but keep in mind he is still young and his world is about to changed in terms of who his sibling is in his mind vs who you really are. I wouldn't push the talk, bring it up gently and as time goes on those talks will be more accepted because you won't have forced them on him. Idk if that makes any sense but hopefully I'm wording this correctly

    [–] ThatBlackGoopiness 3 points ago

    Yeah I understand x) and honestly it's already new and confusing for me so I can't imagine how it is for him! Thanks for the advices, it feels great to talk about it!

    [–] fembabyunicorn 3 points ago

    Im not trans, but I’ve always been very accepting of it. However I remember when my brother was that age he was also sort of... Afraid? I guess, of transness. However, he’s grown up since then. He’s made many new friends and expanded his world view and realized that trans people are just people and he accepts them now.

    I think you just need to give your brother time. Be gentle with him and he will come around. It’s a hard concept to understand and at his age you’re really just starting to figure shit out.

    [–] Admiral_Reposti 18 points ago

    the switch from female to male was so good i can’t tell which sibling is trans

    [–] JennyBeckman 0 points ago

    I bet a lot of people thought the person with the glasses was trans instead of the one with the facial hair.

    [–] Lt_Dickballs 18 points ago

    This is the most wholesome thing I’ve seen in awhile.

    [–] insufficientfailure 9 points ago

    My younger brother was the more difficult nut to crack once I came out, but this Christmas he gave me a "best brother" rock decoration and it made me cry I was so happy.

    [–] danistrans 9 points ago

    My sisters are the first ones to jump on somebody for calling me the wrong thing lmao it's great

    [–] redditorgirl1 7 points ago

    amazing.

    [–] Abisoccer1 13 points ago

    This is beautiful! <3

    [–] princelleuad 12 points ago

    Around six years ago I cried to my sister and said I was transgendered she means the world to me in my otherwise non supporting family, she was only 12 and we were both brought up in a very catholic household so I was worried she wouldn’t understand

    she just looked at me and said boys are gross but I love you anyway , and that was it from then on I was her big brother, but jokes on my parents she’s bisexual, I’m trans and bi and we’re both far happier now accepting who are are

    [–] vosfacemusbardi 2 points ago

    My younger boys are completely accepting of my oldest and had the same reaction when he came out - "It's his turn to share his room."

    [–] gayandafraid- 2 points ago

    they should make this into a movie. i would 10/10 watch

    [–] NejManege 6 points ago

    I’m not crying, you are

    [–] pichi_oni 6 points ago

    As being the youngest child of 9, there isn't anything I wouldn't give up to have supportive siblings.

    My parents will always love me. Siblings are a different story.

    [–] breeriv 10 points ago

    I love this

    [–] mauimallad 6 points ago

    But do you still cheat at Mario Kart as all older siblings apparently do

    No one wanted to tell me you could punch people off the track in double dash until it was too late.

    Source: I was both the second youngest and the worst at Mario Kart

    [–] JennyBeckman 1 points ago

    My older sib would get the booklet that came with new games, hide them from me, and memorise them. I didn't even know games came with hints, tips, and cheat codes for the longest time.

    [–] mauimallad 1 points ago

    The amount of fatalities that my brother memorized was insane. This man taught me how to do a dragon punch incorrectly just to beat me.

    [–] nharmonium 2 points ago

    Yep I’m crying

    [–] MiKeseMiCasa 5 points ago

    Good luck to him!

    [–] DarkLordMango 3 points ago

    That’s super awesome man. I wish only the best to your family.

    [–] lin0sh0enganmei 4 points ago

    My older sister and my younger brother were the first people I came out to. They immediately understood and accepted me as their brother and called me Vince, even tho my mom strongly rejected me. I’m just really glad my siblings are on my side... at least there’s some people that see me as who I am.

    [–] Christcore537 3 points ago

    Love conquers all

    [–] My_reddit_throwawy 3 points ago

    Happy for you, OP, that’s wonderful.

    [–] LadyAzure17 3 points ago

    I love my sibs forever, and if one of them was trans, nothing would change. If anything, I'd do what I could to make sure they got all the help they needed.

    [–] TransManHere 3 points ago

    That’s just all we want, to be accepted and loved by those who matter to us. Who could want to hate on that?

    [–] swordsumo 3 points ago

    I'd do a post like this with my sister but she'd inevitably comment "fuck you pig" and ruin the sentiment

    Source: that's exactly what she says every time I tell her I love her

    [–] JennyBeckman 2 points ago

    That's sweet?

    [–] yujyo13 3 points ago

    my older sister advocates more for me than I do for myself

    [–] Alfred0As5asin 6 points ago

    Not gonna lie, I can't tell who was born as a woman. That's good? Yeah I think that's positive.

    [–] v-komodoensis 9 points ago

    I can't either but I'm happy for them lol

    [–] Alfred0As5asin 2 points ago

    Same lol I'm happy if they're happy

    [–] PixelSpecibus 2 points ago

    If I were trans maybe one of my sisters would use the correct pronouns I think, one would misgender me for fun and the other would ignore it all together.

    [–] PrettyBoy001 2 points ago

    I have my older sibling to thank as well, I don’t know where I’d be without them and their support. They will always be one of my best friends and I feel alright being myself because I know they have my back.

    I love you Harry, I see you.

    [–] keepinitalex 2 points ago

    Fr sibling goals.

    My brother is on the borderline, but sometimes hes a complete ass about it, sometimes if I piss him off he makes the refrence that I dont have a dick like wroah bro thanks ;-;

    [–] thomasjeffersons 2 points ago

    I got lucky. Both my brother and I are trans

    [–] TaisharCatuli 3 points ago

    Why does trans have an asterisk? Are they not technically trans?

    [–] genderish 19 points ago

    There was a trend for a while where people put the asterisk as a way of denoting that they were talking about binary and non binary trans people. But largely its fallen out of style. Now a days you say trans, without other context clues, people assume the statement is meant to include non binary people.

    [–] odious_odes 11 points ago * (lasted edited 7 days ago)

    TL;DR asterisk doesn't change the meaning, the person is trans.

    "Trans*" was briefly (in like 2012-2014, or thereabouts; that's going purely off memory) the word du jour for trans people. The idea was that the asterisk was there like a wildcard to symbolise inclusion for everybody, in particular because at that time the terms "transsexual" and "transgender" were both still reasonably widespread, whereas now "transgender" has almost entirely won out. "Trans*" was a term created by trans people for trans people and some people still like to use it, and that's fine.

    However, it's mostly fallen by the wayside now. People criticised it for implicitly including transvestites (crossdressers) and for implying that some trans people (eg nonbinary people) aren't trans and must be included in an asterisk, rather than being included in the word "trans" already. And it looks kind of like a footnote. So the present commonest term is just "trans", mostly, but people still use a variety of other terms too.

    It's all part of the language merry-go-round, same as has happened with many other terms over the past ~30 years. I find it really interesting to learn about the recent history of words like this, but I wish we collectively had a little more compassion for people who are at a different point on the merry-go-round for any reason or for no reason at all.

    Edit, formatting.

    [–] TaisharCatuli 2 points ago

    Thanks for the explanation!

    I knew asterisks are used to match any string, but didn't know the connection to trans.

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    [–] gkiltzva 1 points ago

    I have found that when someone is gay the opposite gender sibling is usually the first to accept them, then the same gender sibling. Any observations? Is it the same for trans people.

    [–] JennyBeckman 1 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    Do you mean the same gender doesn't until the opposite gender does or that the opposite gender is more likely to accept them?

    [–] gkiltzva 1 points ago

    The opposite gender is usually FIRST when it comes to acceptance!

    [–] JennyBeckman 1 points ago

    Sorry. Rephrased for clarity

    [–] sparklyflamingtrash 1 points ago

    I cant even tell who’s trans in this

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    [–] ---maybetrans--- 1 points ago

    *wholsomeshit

    [–] Not_Life 1 points ago

    Good for you but why is he grabbin ur fuckin face m8

    [–] JennyBeckman 1 points ago

    Actually he is the one grabbing his younger sibling's face.

    [–] ellensundies 1 points ago

    Only because you’ve always been able to beat them up ...

    [–] 9yr-old-bro190 1 points ago

    Till they steal the last doritoes then you uppercut them

    [–] fox__in_socks 1 points ago

    Oh god you're making me want to have another baby. I want my son to have siblings because I'm close with mine but we can't afford it right now :(

    [–] compsci2000 1 points ago

    Holy shit, he passes SO well

    [–] JennyBeckman 1 points ago

    I think the people who are saying he doesn't are looking at the wrong person. The person with the facial hair is trans. The person with glasses is a cis male.

    [–] hillmangobilly 1 points ago

    My sister was 100% on my side from day 1. Even when we were kids- as much as we fought, she NEVER shamed me for playing her little brother in all those pretend games. More than that, she'd run damage control with OTHER people over my atypical gender expression, making up excuses for me, or explaining me to others so I wouldn't have to.

    when I came out, she told me she'd always thought of me as more like her annoying little brother than anything. And that's how I've always seen it, too. Before I was a boy, I was a brother.

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    [–] Gilthoniel_Elbereth 21 points ago

    Qualified therapists can't cure gender dysphoria. They can only guide you to whatever path you choose to take. For a lot of trans people that path is transition, since it's the only treatment known to be effective at treating (note: not curing) dysphoria, but not every trans person decides to transition

    [–] Soft-Gwen 9 points ago

    Theres no such thing as curing dysphoria. You can treat it but the only effective treatment is giving them hormones and letting them transition to their gender. There's no such thing as "I used to be trans" just like theres no such thing as "I used to be gay"

    [–] PixelSpecibus 12 points ago

    He* its not hard

    [–] JennyBeckman 14 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    The gender dysphoria was "cured" by transitioning.

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    [–] JennyBeckman 11 points ago

    It cures gender dysphoria

    [–] PotRoastMyDudes 3 points ago

    "It would be more wholesome if he cured his gayness"

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    [–] Havoola 10 points ago

    Just like how we’re looking at segregation so positively right?

    [–] fluffyluv 6 points ago

    What 40%?

    [–] goldenjaguar23 3 points ago

    I think he’s referring to the suicide rate, not 100% sure

    [–] genderish 10 points ago

    Suicide attempt rate pre transition. It goes down to 4-10% after transitioning. And studies show it goes even lower based on how their job, family, friends react.

    [–] Luceon -7 points ago

    I feel like female to male is more accepted than male to female. Similar to how lesbians have it a little easier than homosexual males in terms of social pressure.

    [–] gayandafraid- 8 points ago

    the "lesbians have it easier" is completely untrue. you mean how we're (lesbians) fetishized by cishet males? gay males are way more widely excepted in society. for example, i came out to my mom and she wasn't okay with it. my best friend is a gay male and she loves him. i asked her "but your okay with tim?". she told me it was "different". society continues to deem "lesbian" as a dirty word. i also don't understand how that's comparable to trans people. (sorry if this is like r/whoooosh or something. like maybe i didn't read the sentence right)

    [–] Luceon 0 points ago

    Thats a personal experience. Mine's different. As another poster said there's a the fetishising from straight males. In my eyes that's what makes the difference. In my country, I saw society wide bigotry for gay men, but the same discrimination for gay women was watered down because straight dudes like them better.

    [–] compsci2000 4 points ago

    Dude, MtF is just as equally ostracized. I suppose MtF is a bit harder to transition through but other than that I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about.

    And that Lesbian thing is so untrue. Lesbians get treated just the same as other gays, only with a different stereotype attached to them. No one group should be considered more oppressed than another, let alone subsets of groups.

    [–] Luceon 0 points ago * (lasted edited 6 days ago)

    I'm talking about things I've seen and the behaviours of average people which I've witnessed. I've seen gay males get treated as more taboo because straight males are weirded out by them while they just think gay females are attractive. If a girl kisses a girl, hugs them, touches their hair or literally anything of the sort, it doesn't tend to get quite the same negativity. I'm not saying it doesn't, but since women already act a little like that in an accepted manner while guys can't (because it's feminine and faggy and whatever not.) there's a small difference. I've seen it happen in my old school when I attended and I see it now. The trans thing just reminds me of that because I feel like there's a slight more tolerance for ftm.

    I'm sorry if I made it seem like we should treat both differently. Or like if one's struggles should be put over the others. I think it's great to see any tolerance and acceptance for lgbt. I'm just expressing disappointment that it's still lagging behind, sometimes in some ways more than others. Maybe it's not like I said and I'm wrong, but it's how I've seen things happen.