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    [–] AITA for telling my best friend that his (ex) GF cheated on him after she told me in secret? AceOfRhombus 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. Some people have different opinions on cheating and if to tell others, which is why you're getting so many responses. The whole situation can really be anything. But in my opinion, it's always best to tell someone if they've been cheated on. Plus it's not fair for her to tell you, knowing that you are his best friend...she's the asshole

    [–] AITA for Objecting to "Female Employee Only" Parking Spaces at My Workplace? AceOfRhombus 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    In every situation? Do you have the studies you learned that from? If you are speaking the truth, I want to educate myself by reading those studies.

    And I understand what you mean by aggravates the problem now. Thanks for clarifying.

    [–] AITA for Objecting to "Female Employee Only" Parking Spaces at My Workplace? AceOfRhombus 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Personally, I think that privileges are just a fact of life. They aren't good or bad, just how life happens. It's up to each individual on how they use their privilege if it's bad or not. Some people don't like the word privilege, so just think of it as your birth circumstances. Some are born wealthy, some are born white, some are born black, some men and some women. In different situations they will have different advantages. Some might consistently have more advantages than others, others may get the short end of the stick of life

    [–] AITA for Objecting to "Female Employee Only" Parking Spaces at My Workplace? AceOfRhombus 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    But are men a victim of aggravated assault and robbery at far higher rates at night or in secluded locations? In general you are right, but the parking spots are probably put there to prevent a specific problem such as attacks taken place in parking garages or at night, not the problem that women are attacked in general more than men (which as you pointed out is false). That is what I am assuming as I didn't look up sources, so feel free to provide some if I'm wrong. And how does it aggravated the actual problem?

    [–] AITA for Objecting to "Female Employee Only" Parking Spaces at My Workplace? AceOfRhombus 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Everyone has different privileges for different things, in my opinion no one has 100% privilege over everyone else. Just because you are a woman does not mean you have privilege in every situation over a man, and the reversed is true too. That's why you're getting downvotes...it's not because people dislike the example you gave. The example you gave is completely legit and is a major issue but does not prove that women have more privilege then men.

    [–] AITA for Objecting to "Female Employee Only" Parking Spaces at My Workplace? AceOfRhombus 13 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Are men at a higher risk for attacks specifically at night, or in general? I don't think the article clarifies. And is it specifically sexual assault or any assault?

    [–] Your stress isn't stressful enough AceOfRhombus 2 points ago in gatekeeping

    Yeah from my experience most upper bio, biochem, and chem classes rely less on memorization and more on understanding things

    [–] Is it wrong that i (21F) am carrying on my relationship with my bf (22M) like normal , knowing i intend to break up with him soon? AceOfRhombus 1 points ago in relationships

    I broke up with someone for the first time a few weeks ago, so I understand your pain. It's hard but sometimes can be harder if you wait. Ultimately, after reading through these comments and getting advice, you now know what time works best for you. Good luck!!

    [–] [L][21][F] I need a pep talk so I can invite people to my party! AceOfRhombus 1 points ago in KindVoice

    It's a Mardi Gras party at my townhouse! My townhouse complex where I live is known for being the party place since most of the townhouses have so much room. My roommate and I aren't part of a sorority but we want to wear fancy dresses, so we are throwing a sort of masquerade party (dress code is cocktail attire but you can wear anything). But in reality it's your typical American college house party but with dresses and masks. We're just going to have food, king cake, hurricanes, jello shots, etc. but it's also BYOB. We're kind of hoping for it to be a big thing. Her friends (who I love dearly) are a bit nerdier/weirder than some of the people I was thinking about inviting, and so I am super paranoid that the other people won't enjoy themselves and that will relfect on me. I know that I am being irrational and that I should just invite them anyways since it doesn't matter and all of them are my friends, but I still am too scared too

    [–] Is it wrong that i (21F) am carrying on my relationship with my bf (22M) like normal , knowing i intend to break up with him soon? AceOfRhombus 2 points ago in relationships

    That's fair! Is this your first time breaking up with someone?

    When my most recent ex and I broke up, I was very jumbled up in my thoughts and I don't think I got my thoughts across properly. We met up a few days later to finish talking stuff out and to exchange a few last items we had at each other's places, and that was a much more levelheaded talk. The point is, sometimes it's inevitable to be emotional during a breakup and maybe you're using that as an excuse to delay it. You can always meet up again to have a more civil conversation later. It's really best to do it sooner rather than later, even if you are emotional.

    [–] I (21 F) got oral gonorrhea from a new guy (22 M) I've been talking to AceOfRhombus 8 points ago in relationships

    I would just invite him over and tell him "Hey, I've been diagnosed with this STI and I think you should get tested. I'm not mad and I want to keep seeing you, but I just want both of us to be safe.

    STIs are also weird. Most likely it was from him, but sometimes it takes a while for symptoms to appear. I'd ask your last sexual partner to get tested for good measure too

    [–] Is it wrong that i (21F) am carrying on my relationship with my bf (22M) like normal , knowing i intend to break up with him soon? AceOfRhombus 6 points ago in relationships

    In general, it's best to break up ASAP. There are exceptions (ex: your SO has a major exam in two days), but it's almost always better to rip the band-aid off. If you need a day or two to get your mind together then that's ok, just make sure to not be physically intimate because he might feel used. But if you're planning on waiting a few weeks...that's cruel just do it now. Good luck!

    [–] Weird red bumps appearing on my stomach? AceOfRhombus 1 points ago in AskDocs

    I did mention that it was on my back too. I can't get a good pick of my back as I live alone, (and it doesn't show up in photos) but it's not as bad as my stomach. I took Nexium (Esomeprazole) for two weeks and I finished that about a week and a half ago.

    I also am an idiot and forgot I have this scaly patch on my left shoulder. It's starting to go back to normal and I thought it was some sort of burn (like a rope burn). I posted a pic in my original post. Thank you for responding

    [–] "I'm 100% provax but.." is the new "I'm not racist but.." AceOfRhombus 19 points ago in SeriousConversation

    In general, the best way to change people's mind is to treat them with respect so they don't feel attacked and are also willing to listen to your point of view. I try to do this with politics, and tbh if you want to educate antivaxxers than this is the best way to do so.

    But antivaxxers are just so...stupid...that I don't know if I can give them the same amount of respect as someone who has different political views than me. It's not like it's two different viewpoints, it's literally fact vs fiction. And people could die because of it

    [–] WIBTA if I bought two seats on Southwest and wouldn’t give up one despite the open seating? AceOfRhombus 0 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I think it's an asshole move to buy the extra ticket when someone else could actually use it, but ultimately NTA because you bought the ticket so do with it as you will.

    [–] What's going on with Ellen Page and Chris Pratt being anti-LGBTQ? AceOfRhombus 14 points ago in OutOfTheLoop

    This is my experience too, but it could be because I grew up in an American city with a large population of Catholics. With that large of a population, it's pretty hard for everyone to be the same level of conservative...there are definitely some more liberal than others

    [–] The date jar AceOfRhombus 18 points ago in dating_advice

    I like the 3-2-1 game (I play it with friends). Someone suggests three restaurants, someone pick two of the three, and the first person chooses between the two

    [–] AITA for telling my friend to slow down when eating AceOfRhombus 0 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA if you didn't say it to retaliate. Honestly that's a funny joke and I've been told that before because I eat super fast. It's not offensive (especially because you said she was fit). I suppose not everyone would find it funny, but she can't take what she dishes out. Maybe she had an eating disorder in the past and that's why she is upset? Either way you're NTA

    [–] Mexican scientist cures the Human Papilloma Virus AceOfRhombus 3 points ago in UpliftingNews

    Science reporting in America is pretty bad too. We need more good science journalists