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    [–] AITA for telling my friend I didn’t appreciate paying for a $200 meal at her husband’s birthday party? Bellowery 1 points ago * (lasted edited 2 days ago) in AmItheAsshole

    NTA - As poorly as she’s handling this she is the asshole, but I wonder if she’s embarrassed. Maybe he told her not to pay the whole thing but she just went ahead with it, thinking he wouldn’t do exactly what he did. I would be completely mortified and avoiding my friends if it were me.

    Edit: “it”

    [–] AITA to be creeped out by how a waiter treated my daughter and for making her say thank you? Bellowery 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    As I said in another response in this thread, this is exactly what I do! By cruel I meant punishing or disallowing them from saying hello. There is a response in this thread that says they should be taught to only speak to their parents. I tell them we are interrupting and we should <insert distraction>. If the person enjoys speaking to children they are free to say we aren’t interrupting, that is usually women over 50. People generally smile and wave and go back to what they’re doing. Twice I have had people say something under their breath.

    [–] AITA to be creeped out by how a waiter treated my daughter and for making her say thank you? Bellowery 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    That’s exactly what I do!!!!! I don’t punish them when they say hello to someone. A lot of the comments have quite literally said children should never speak to anyone but their parents. You can check this thread and find one.

    When she says hello my response is “Honey, I think we’re interrupting/distracting them and that’s not polite. Why don’t we <insert distraction> ?” All but twice the person has smiled and waved or said hello back. Some, mostly woman over 50, actually stop and have full conversations. I didn’t think anybody wanted to read a novel about my kid saying hello to people so I didn’t spell it out.

    [–] AITA to be creeped out by how a waiter treated my daughter and for making her say thank you? Bellowery 8 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    My daughter is the same age as OP’s and does the same thing. I almost always mouth “Sorry” and do my best to shorten the conversation without being cruel to a child who is trying to be kind. There have been exactly 2 times the person didn’t say something to the effect of “It’s fine” and most of them continue to talk to her until they or she have to go. OP was never going to get a good answer because Reddit hates children and has no concept of what is and is not normal child behavior.

    [–] How I always pictured Chani Bellowery 1 points ago in dune

    I always pictured her looking like a Coptic Egyptian, a mix of Mediterranean and Arab roots with round faces and a strong minority with blue/grey eyes and reddish hair.

    For example, this woman but with sun darkened skin.

    [–] AITA for not wanting my children to pass out bible verse bracelets for Valentine's Day? Bellowery 5 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA - Adult Evangelical preacher’s kid here. Today I saw the word “platypus” in a word search and remembered wearing a creationist T-shirt to my public school that talked about platypuses proving evolution is false. It was so cringey! Be the good mom, don’t make Valentine’s Day a perma-cringe for your kids!

    (I am still Christian, but not an Evangelical or a Creationist.)

    [–] [MN] A girl is planning to claim I am the father of her baby when we never had sex Bellowery 207 points ago in legaladvice

    Were you married to the mother at the time? In a lot of states paternity is assumed if the mother is married.

    [–] Caught MIL messing with my birth control and I found out I'm pregnant Bellowery 19 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    If both adult parents sign adoption papers there is not a legal way for grandparents to claim the baby. If the parents just try to dump the kid into the foster care system then MIL could have a shot.

    (There are exceptions for members of Native Tribes. There is a law about Native Americans raising Native Americans if at all possible. It is an attempt to strengthen Tribes after 150+ years of family separation being federal policy.)

    [–] Caught MIL messing with my birth control and I found out I'm pregnant Bellowery 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    My sister and BIL found themselves in a similar situation. (Her birth control was compromised by antibiotics and she just didn’t think.) Abortion wasn’t a real life option for them but they were certain they didn’t want kids. My nephew is 5 now. They love him to death but will readily admit the baby and toddler years pushed them to their limits.

    Now that he is bathroom self sufficient, a good communicator, and learning to read he’s a little sidekick. They’ve introduced him to their hobbies and he is a little geek who can kick my ass at Mariokart and plays D&D.

    It will take a lot of readjusting and it won’t be easy but you don’t have to give everything up and you don’t have to give anything up forever.

    Two pieces of advice. First, my BIL got a vasectomy pretty quickly after nephew was born. It is easier to get a doctor to do a vasectomy on a young man than tie tubes on a young woman. (It is sexist and awful but true.) Second, tampering with birth control is sexual assault in a lot of places and you should keep that in mind moving forward.

    [–] PSA: Don’t be like Pete. Bellowery 1 points ago in LateStageCapitalism

    I’m a communist, I am not trying to minimize the class warfare in this country, but the statistics do not support your statement. A black kid and a white kid on the same block with the same level of income do not have even close to the same chance of incarceration or being the victim of police violence. Public defenders negotiate better plea deals and lower bails for white folks. If you had read the above mentioned book it is all laid out and verified by reliable sources.

    You are playing into the “Bernie Bro” trope and it isn’t a good look, comrade.

    [–] PSA: Don’t be like Pete. Bellowery 5 points ago in LateStageCapitalism

    I know black ministers who had watch parties at their churches and tried to get some majority white churches to do the same. I don’t know how many did.

    [–] PSA: Don’t be like Pete. Bellowery 66 points ago in LateStageCapitalism

    Have you read “The New Jim Crow” or seen the documentary “13th”? You are not alone in thinking that our drug and prison systems are designed to oppress people of color, especially black men.

    [–] What's going on with r/exmormon and u/NewNameNoah? Something about lesbian porn in a Mormon temple? Bellowery 4 points ago in OutOfTheLoop

    There was a huge blow up, maybe 20 years ago, when it was discovered they had been posthumously baptizing victims of the Holocaust. They also own Ancestry.com (or at least did at one point) and rumor has it they’ve used it to baptize the dead.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 52 points ago in tifu

    How do you keep a Baptist from drinking all your beer? Invite another Baptist.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 7 points ago in tifu

    Our Orthodox Church has a burn bowl. Any ruined icons, flowers left over from feasts, ruined Bibles, etc are put in a bin outside the sacristy and a priest does a burn when it’s full. It’s common knowledge and well labeled. Also the week before Palm Sunday most people bring their dried crosses from the year before.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 4 points ago in tifu

    Oddly enough, in Christian traditions where you burn holy things you are forbidden from burning a body.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 11 points ago in tifu

    If OP wears Hijab then OP is ma’am, not sir.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 1 points ago in tifu

    The Gideons don’t take Bible donations, They only distribute their branded copies.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 12 points ago in tifu

    Protestants are the only Christians that don’t dispose of Bibles by burning.

    [–] TIFU. I, a Hijabi told my teacher to burn the Bible Bellowery 13 points ago in tifu

    Orthodox Christians (especially those from the Middle East) burn holy things as well. It is only Protestants (and some ill-informed Catholics) that would think what you said was disrespectful. Sorry!

    [–] AITA For being angry at my sister for not attending our fathers funeral because of his criminal history. Bellowery 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA - Paying for a wedding isn’t a huge act of kindness, it is an accepted societal obligation. Your father was a murderer. Full stop. You are trying to minimize his crimes now that he’s dead. His victims deserve better and your sister knows that. He should have his body disposed of in whatever way he disposed of his victims’ bodies.