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    [–] Why it is so difficult to withdraw the overstimulation of Canadian housing: Don Pittis CATSHARK_ 16 points ago in canada

    Yes? The country is a better place when more people have affordable, stable, and clean places to live. Even if/when I inherit property I’d rather it be worth less if it means that others who were not as fortunate will be able to afford to purchase and do the same.

    [–] Teacher of 10+ years let go today, career seems bleak, what to do? CATSHARK_ 13 points ago in PersonalFinanceCanada

    Doug increased student:teacher ratios and is mandating that high school students complete some credits that would otherwise be done in class online. This has a direct affect on reducing the number of teaching positions in the public school boards in Ontario.

    [–] Teacher of 10+ years let go today, career seems bleak, what to do? CATSHARK_ 74 points ago in PersonalFinanceCanada

    Yes, teachers in Ontario have been well compensated- but I honestly believe they deserve it. We should be striving to have more professions/careers looking to teachers & their union as an example to aspire to re: collective bargaining and leveraging political influence.

    It’s only a race to the bottom when the people in the highest tax brackets start convincing those closer to the bottom that the people in the middle are the problem.

    [–] How do you organize your spices? Post them photos! CATSHARK_ 1 points ago in Cooking

    I use these too! I currently have my 25 most used spices in them, and the infrequently used stuff in little jars in cabinets.

    [–] Has Doug Ford ever worked a real job? CATSHARK_ 16 points ago in ontario

    I agree with you, except where you start blaming the liberal party and NDP. Ford is incompetent and a disgrace, but he won the election and is the premier. What exactly do you expect the other parties to do?

    [–] My (22F) boyfriend (22M) has been acting awkward around me ever since finding my erotic fan fiction CATSHARK_ 5 points ago in relationships

    You’re not. Just because you’re dating someone doesn’t entitle them to anything. So you’ve got an active imagination and rich fantasy life- it’s fantasy, just like you told him. People fantasize about things all the time that don’t affect their lives, and this is no different. Keep doing your thing, and when you’re ready you’ll be ready, and it doesn’t have anything to do with how much smut you’ve written/read/thought about.

    [–] My (22F) boyfriend (22M) has been acting awkward around me ever since finding my erotic fan fiction CATSHARK_ 1 points ago in relationships

    Hey! I write erotic mlm fan fiction. I used to keep it secret from my bf (now fiancé) but honestly I agree with the other poster that already gave their thoughts on this- this is part of who you are and what you enjoy and the right person will be understanding and supportive. I know you guys have only been dating a few months, and maybe he’s surprised because he’s got ideas of what the people who write erotica/smut are like, so I’d give him a little bit to try and figure it out and then talk to him (I know you said you don’t want to talk about it but you should).

    It might be uncomfortable to bring it up, but you shouldn’t be ashamed or shamed for something that brings you joy, you’re having a good time and you’re not hurting anyone. You don’t need to be defensive, but maybe gently remind him that there’s a big difference between fantasy and reality, and that writing is a creative outlet and hobby where it’s safe for you to have these thoughts. Tell him you feel like your relationship has changed since he’s found out, and ask what he thinks. I hope he’s just surprised and trying to figure it all out.

    But yeah, you might feel embarrassed and that’s normal, but keep doing your thing. Like I said, being a partner is about good communication and support. While he may never understand or be comfortable enough to beta your fan fiction, he shouldn’t let that affect how he treats you in the relationship.

    Good luck!

    [–] Physical books or kindle books? CATSHARK_ 5 points ago in YAlit

    I looove owning physical books (I have wall to wall bookshelves and they need stuff on them) but I’ve been reading more and more on my ereader for convenience/travel. What I’ve been doing these days is buying my books then getting an ebook of the same from my local library, so my bookshelves are full but I don’t need to drag my books around on transit or to work.

    [–] OP bought a wedding dress from China. From there, things get really complicated. CATSHARK_ 113 points ago in bestoflegaladvice

    Right? I’m getting married in August and my dress was $450 Canadian, from a legit store (David’s Bridal). Idk where she’s living but there’s tons of options in her budget and size that don’t involve purchasing from overseas sight unseen.

    [–] Tell me about your fandom CATSHARK_ 2 points ago in FanFiction

    Do I ever!

    Literally anything by BasicBathsheba, but especially this soulmate AU.

    Also this WIP, which is basically the reverse (Simon goes missing at beginning of the book) and the author wrote another Snowbaz fic which is explicit, but amazing.

    Also this which is super cute.

    [–] Tell me about your fandom CATSHARK_ 16 points ago in FanFiction

    My current fandom is for the book Carry On. I like that it’s pretty small, most people know each other from tumblr and chat on the discord, so it feels nice and social.

    There’s magic, which means a ton of possibilities for fics, and there’s only one ship and it’s canon, which means no one argues over stuff like that. Lots of my favourite tropes work really well in context of the source material- so almost all fics are enjoyable in some way, even if the fandom is smaller and has fewer stories/fan art.

    [–] What is your "I wish I had started doing that earlier in my life"? CATSHARK_ 2 points ago in AskReddit

    Yes! It’s much easier to make lifestyle changes when you’re younger. I had a “fast metabolism” when I was a teenager, but steadily gained weight during college and my 20s. I’ve lost 30lbs I’m the last year, but I’ve had to make major lifestyle changes (low carb diet, jogging 3x weekly, 10-15k steps a day). It would have been a lot easier to eat better when I was younger and prevent that weight from creeping up in the first place. It happens gradually, so I didn’t even notice it was a problem until I gained 50 pounds over 7 years. Making a bit of effort from now now will save you from having to make LOTS of effort all at once down the road. It’s an investment.

    [–] My unconventional book case CATSHARK_ 3 points ago in bookshelf

    Love your Bruner and Suddarth Med Surg. I use mine as an enormous book end

    [–] My (26M) Dad (56M) expects affection all of a sudden from me and my sister (22F) after withholding affection and being a an overall too strict parent our whole lives. And since we don’t provide the affection he wants, he gets upset. CATSHARK_ 62 points ago in relationships

    Hey friend. My Vietnamese grandpa is exactly the same way as your dad. I'm now getting married and he doesn't understand why it's in a location that's inconvenient for him, or why his side of the family isn't invited and why he can't make a speech at the wedding. He's been offering money, guilt trips, gifts, just like your dad.

    Honestly, just straight up fuck it. I see in your comments that you don't care about reconciliation, so go with that. What's worked best for me is avoidance and removing myself from situations I don't want to be in.

    When he wants affection/attention I think you should just repeat "No, I'm uncomfortable with that," and if he tries to guilt you, then something like "I don't care", or "your feelings are not my priority" will go a long way. I doubt he'll understand since you've had this conversation before, but enforcing boundaries consistently might help him realize that pushing you has no effect and might get him to stop. He's probably especially pushy right now because he realizes the older you get the less control he will have over you, so he's trying to replace his authority with guilt. Also the money/gifts.

    Speaking to someone might help. I've felt guilty before, and it can be hard to remember that your wants and needs should always come first, especially when dealing with a culture where respect to your elders is the norm. No one is entitled to your feelings/attention/affection- you don't owe him anything (my asian side of the family would die if I told them this, but it's true).

    Don't accept the gifts/money/bribes if you don't want to. It's all about doing what makes you feel comfortable and what will bring you the greatest happiness. I hope you and your sister are able to confide in each other, my siblings are my biggest supporters when it comes to family stuff.

    Feel free to PM me if you want, there's nothing I understand more than Asian family drama.

    [–] I NEED HELP! THIS IS AN EMERGENCY! CATSHARK_ 2 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    My mom is a pharmacist and she’s always recommended naproxen over other OTC for period cramps.

    [–] Romance with hate/love, gradual development from hatred to love of two characters? CATSHARK_ 5 points ago in suggestmeabook

    Oh my god, this has been my trope of choice lately.

    Carry On -Rainbow Rowell

    Captive Prince -CS Pacat

    ACoTAR -Sarah J Maas

    The Cruel Prince -Holly Black

    The Hating Game -Sally Thorne

    [–] YA Contemporary Thriller/Mystery? Preferably within an academic setting? CATSHARK_ 2 points ago in suggestmeabook

    Maybe try checking out The Bellwether Revivals- Benjamin Wood. I loved it and was recommended the Secret History based on that.

    [–] Rant: I'm your doctor, please stop. CATSHARK_ 1 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    I’m not necessarily offended but I don’t think it’s really appropriate in a professional setting. Comments on my English don’t make sense to me because it’s my first language. Also I’m born, raised, and work in Canada, so asking me where I’m from just makes it sound like I’m assumed to be ‘not Canadian’ based on how I look.

    Usually people mean well, and are just trying to make conversation or something which I get. It’s not always a big deal, but it can be annoying to field questions like that when trying to do my job.

    [–] Rant: I'm your doctor, please stop. CATSHARK_ 51 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    Sorry you've had that experience. I'm a female nurse and I completely agree with you- in my experience the sexually inappropriate comments come from older demographics, as does most racist comments, although I have had a few from younger people (although less to do with race specifically and more things like 'wow, your English is great! What country are you from?")

    [–] Recommend me books with enemies-to-lovers CATSHARK_ 1 points ago in YAlit

    Interesting! I saw it had come out and considered picking it up, but I wasn’t heavily invested based on the summary. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    [–] Recommend me books with enemies-to-lovers CATSHARK_ 39 points ago in YAlit

    The Hating Game by Sally Thorne!