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    [–] Heaven forbid you have to work on your body CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in fatlogic

    Wtf, with this attitude, how are they not all unemployed and complaining about how burgers are less expensive than sa- ah, got it.

    [–] Not eating + “starvation mode” = 88 pound weight gain ... CallYaMuthaAlreddie 82 points ago in fatlogic

    Chef here, doer of hectic 15 hour work days. I “never eat any meals” when I’m working, but I’ll graze all day. Bite of this, taste of that, handful of the other thing. I don’t gain or lose weight, so I’m probably eating the right amount (intuitive eating 🤔), but if you asked, I’d say “I haven’t had a real meal today,” not “I haven’t eaten in 3 days.”

    [–] How much alone time am I allowed? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Does he have friends? “Billy, I’m going out, I’ll drop you off at Tommy’s house.” Or throw him in a sport where you don’t have to stay and watch. Like karate or something? Sounds like the kid doesn’t have much of a life, he’s relying on you to provide entertainment. I grew up with divorced parents, and lived with my mom full time, these were her strategies for alone time, I think. I always had something to do, and if I didn’t, and I was telling her I was bored, she’d tell me to call my friends.

    [–] Ready for another round of blame the minority? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in BlackPeopleTwitter

    Honestly, I’ve accepted the fact that we live in the movie Idiocracy now, so I understand that the only way to beat The Donald is to put The Governator on the dem ticket, and scrap the debates in favor of a last man standing fire pit rumble. On pay-per-view, of course.

    [–] Ready for another round of blame the minority? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 6 points ago in BlackPeopleTwitter

    Not to mention that black men have felony charges at four times the rate of the rest of the population, so they are less likely to be eligible to vote. How about working on those laws, and all the other ones that got people some of those felonies in the first place, before handing out blame.

    [–] AITA for telling my morbidly obese 10 year old sister to eat healthier? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 5 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Okay, dry that tofu properly, cut it in sticks, slap on some rice flour, pan fry it, serve it with some Thai sweet chili sauce, and you have yourself a gateway food.

    [–] AITA for telling my morbidly obese 10 year old sister to eat healthier? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I’m sorry, but no. Is everyone forgetting how old 10 is? By 10 where I live, you’ve gone through an extensive selection process to get into middle school, and you probably take the subway by yourself. Your parents give you an allowance, and you make a decision whether to spend it on candy, or do something else with it.

    Especially since OP was able to lose weight herself, they, as an an older sibling, are in a pretty good position to tell the kid put down the damn fifth sandwich. And the fourth one. And the third one. I can’t hate on the second, I always want a second grilled cheese*.

    The kid is at the ripe age of adolescence, where she will be making decisions on her own. She needs someone to help her realize that eating like a banshee is a bad decision, since her parents clearly won’t.

    *Now I’m thinking about a grilled cheese that is actually just cheese, grilled between two grilled cheeses.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Yeah, that part is messed up. If she gets in, then he’s wrong about her capabilities. She should get a chance to apply.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Yeah, maybe this part makes me think OP is being harsh. Public schools here are like prisons, and there’s like 30 kids in a class. I’d be so pissed if I had to go to public school while my sister was out getting coffee and bagels during her free periods, and doing her reading on the couch in the student lounge. Private school is objectively better, IMO.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Private school is a luxury, I’m damn happy I went. Saying it’s a waste of money is like saying Uber is a waste of money, when buses exist. Sure, anyone can take the bus. But if you have the means, you’re going to take an Uber because it’s much nicer. Like, immeasurably nicer.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie -1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    This makes sense, I guess. But pursuing art is going to be tough and will often seem “unfair,” so the kid may as well get used to it now.

    Ultimately, I just don’t feel like a six figure education is a right. If the kid is really serious about art, the way her sister is really serious about STEM, she could fire up her web browser and figure out how to get herself into the best art program possible.

    My mom wanted me in private school, and I didn’t want to go. She finally gave up and sent me to the public middle school all my friends were going to. I lasted like two weeks before I called the local private schools and asked for applications. Filled them out myself, went to private school.

    Maybe OP is being a tad harsh (not in my opinion), but I don’t get what’s stopping this kid from pursuing her passion. If they’re in the burbs or something and he refuses to drive her to the open houses, or whatever, then he’d be an asshole.

    At 13/14, she is more than capable of doing the legwork of getting into a school. Ask any of the millions of people who have done it in NYC. A lot of kids are parents of immigrants, who don’t speak English and work 16 hours a day, and they end up in the top schools in the city through hard work and dedication.

    Doing art as a career is going to be a tough path to forge, why not start now?

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I think that’s why I don’t think OP is the asshole. If she lived in NYC and she was serious about art, she’d be working on her portfolio for her LaGuardia application. Kids here are forced to be more responsible and independent in this way. Like, why does she need her parents to look into art programs? Is her google finger broken?

    [–] AITA for refusing to return the jeans I stole from the girl who I caught in bed with my boyfriend (ex)? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Agreed, I couldn’t wear them. I would burn tf out of those jeans and then send him the ashes, including the label so everyone is clear what these mf ashes are. “Jeans are in the mail, should be there soon!” Fucker.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    This is bananas to hear as a New Yorker because we are literally taught that seventh grade grades are everything and you better start studying for the science school exams when you’re born. Middle School students bust their asses to get into high school here, so what you do then most definitely has an impact on high school. Big time.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    This is not true at all, private schools have plenty of dummies with rich parents, a normal amount of highly motivated smart kids, and of course the very intelligent scholarship kids. Everyone typically gets in to good colleges, though... somehow.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie -1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I think you proved OP’s point. You ended up in public school and now you’re an honors student. Your parents could have saved 80 grand by not sending you to private school for two years.

    Maybe that’s the issue in this thread. Private school, where I live, is a $40k/year endeavor, plus all the extra trips to Europe and everything that public schools don’t (?) have. That’s a lot of money for a kid who doesn’t seem interested in academics.

    [–] AITA for not sending younger daughter to private school? CallYaMuthaAlreddie -14 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. Where I live, kids apply to high school, public or private, and they go to the one that they get in to. Siblings often don’t attend the same school. Would your daughter even get in to the private school? You may not even have had to say anything to her, just let the process sort itself out.

    That said, as a product of private school, I’d be pissed if I had to go to public school while my sister lived the good life. BUT, if I hadn’t gotten in, there’d be no one to blame but myself.

    [–] AITA for my birthday gift to my wife CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA. She should be coming home to a house that cleaned regularly.

    [–] Guy I dated casually for a year, two years ago, died last fall. I just found out, how do I grieve? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in Advice

    Thank you. I told my closest friends, since they all knew about our relationship, and also I was in such shock. I’m feeling a little existential about the whole thing, it’s so weird.