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    [–] How do I shut my head up? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Get a headache, a really bad one. Both of you. And then take her out for dinner separately. If it’s all people from the other side of the family, wouldn’t be too weird if you didn’t go. And if there are people from your side going, just barricade yourself with them.

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Not at all. She’s in plenty of communication with everyone, but I guess she’s feeling like she doesn’t have enough control? I really don’t get it. There’s a saying about meetings in business: “that could have been an email.”

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Amen. I just sent a response to try to shut it down, we’ll see what happens.

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in stepparents

    I finally responded and basically said “I’m concerned about scheduling these meetings every two weeks, let’s get on Our Family Wizard and then we can set up regular calls.”

    Now go have a seat. Over there. Further.

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 4 points ago in stepparents

    Agreed. I do a ton for the kid, mostly admin and paperwork regarding her caretakers. The last time BM tried to get involved in paperwork, she botched it and there was a whole issue. My SO and I both think divide and conquer is the best approach.

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    She has an erratic something, that’s for sure. She makes her own schedule, so it shouldn’t be an issue...

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    We all care for a special needs child. Things are generally smooth, except when she’s trying to make changes and have us cover her responsibilities. She had plenty of contact with SO, and his mom is regularly at her house caring for the child. There is literally no reason to pile this meeting on. The kid already has plenty of appointments, and SO has a busy work schedule. It’s bizarre.

    [–] Bi-monthly meetings at BM’s house CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    That’s what I said at first, I was like hmm, maybe, but the the invite clearly says every two weeks!!

    [–] Meddling HCBM CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in stepparents

    Hello, do we have the same BM? I wish she would get back into a relationship. She’s had two boyfriends in the three years I’ve been with SO, one worse than the last. I wish I could set her up, she’s much more manageable when she’s not single.

    [–] it's not ethical to recommend dieting? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 182 points ago in fatlogic

    I have a Master’s too, but I don’t go around throwing up letters after my name to sound credible when I spew nonsense. And having a podcast does not make you credible, either. I’m sure Alex Jones had a podcast at some point.

    [–] I’m I too needy? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 0 points ago in datingoverthirty

    Based solely on my experience as a teenager, it sounds like your kid doesn’t get out much. I was able to spend a summer studying in Europe for free because the program had a scholarship for kids of teachers. Travel is so good for teenagers, and there’s ways to do it for cheap or free. Happy to share more info, if you’re interested.

    [–] Is this normal? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    Speech therapy! He’s about to age out of Early Intervention (ends at 3), but if you can get him in quickly, I think it’s easier to get services through CPSE if he was in the EI program. And in most cases you don’t age out right on your bday, there’s a discharge period when the new school year starts.

    In any case, there is an evaluation process for both programs, and that could pick up any issues he may have.

    (All of this assuming you live in the US, these are both federal programs.)

    [–] Anyone have a seriously ill SK? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Your SD sounds a lot like mine, I really hope she’s trying to talk when she’s 8, it’s awesome that yours is. She is working on communication at school, and they’re impressed with her abilities! First time we’ve ever heard that she’s doing well at something! (I mean that as in, with doctors and stuff, there’s never good news, so it’s great that she’s doing well in school, when she’s not home sick.)

    [–] What does co-parenting mean? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    Wow, they must have studied at the same school (...of narcissism)! More boundaries are on their way! It always reminds me of the Chris Rock skit about people who brag about taking care of their kids. YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS!

    [–] What does co-parenting mean? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 2 points ago in stepparents

    Honestly, appointments are all the time. I think that would be possible, but it’s tough to switch nannies. We could look into hiring someone.

    [–] Divorced and keeping contact with extended families of divorced husband CallYaMuthaAlreddie 5 points ago in stepparents

    Same here, except we don’t do events or holidays all together. BM uses SO’s mom as a second nanny, so they are in touch a lot, and SO’s mom is constantly going over there to care for the kid.

    Even though we feel bad that grandma gets saddled with so much, we are glad she’s able to help out, because it’s scary to think of SD alone with BM for extended periods.

    [–] Today's Tiny Problem - January 26, 2019 CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    SD is covered on her dad’s insurance, and her mom pays half monthly*. *She doesn’t always pay. But in theory, she should, it’s in the CO.

    [–] Today's Tiny Problem - January 26, 2019 CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in stepparents

    I’m with you. I do a ton for SD and it seems like BM is trying to skate by on the bare minimum, while also having Absolute Control over Her Daughter, and don’t even think of even scheduling a therapy appointment on your time without running it by me, I Need to Know Everything.

    At least I know that I’ve done a lot to help SD, and she has a lot of things she wouldn’t if I didn’t help her. And SO and his mom both recognize my contributions and thank me for them. That’s enough, as I know I’ll never get, nor do I want, an iota of appreciation or acknowledgement from BM.

    [–] What does co-parenting mean? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 1 points ago in stepparents

    She’d been fine for a while, but she really started ratcheting up recently, so I’m hoping we can have a Come to Jesus moment and things can go back to normal.

    [–] What does co-parenting mean? CallYaMuthaAlreddie 3 points ago in stepparents

    I think you’re right, we need to be more clear that if there is an appointment during her time, she has to take her, or cancel the appointments. SO’s mom really enables this nonsense, and always takes the kid, and then we end up going to provide backup, because the kid is a lot of work.

    Everyone is just tired of getting steamrolled by her and it feels like we are at a breaking point, where something needs to change. I just don’t know what. We can’t let her bad behavior have a negative impact on the kid, so it’s hard to not give in to the BS. It sucks.