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    [–] People who aren't dog people, why aren't you? DefinitelyAverage 2 points ago in AskReddit

    Dude. I'm dog sitting for my friends for the next week. They have 2 huskies. Today is the first day and it is just so exhausting to go over there and let them out 3 times a day. They have to keep them in one room or else they'll destroy the house and this morning there was pee and poop all over the floor. And there's no way in hell that I'm going over there at 6 am to let them out. I'm already so tired of this haha. I am a cat person through and through.

    [–] Take care of yourself DefinitelyAverage 5 points ago in GradSchool

    Yeah. I've done a few small things, but it's still just not enough. I need to get out of my funk. Thanks for commenting though and also making this post :)

    [–] What's a movie you refuse to watch for one reason or another? DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in AskReddit

    My boyfriend's friend refuses to ever watch Titanic simply to just be able to say that he's never seen it. I don't get it.

    [–] Take care of yourself DefinitelyAverage 21 points ago in GradSchool

    But I've been blowing off my work for four days now and I'm still tired, grumpy, and hungry :(

    [–] I start my Master's program in 6 months, how should I prepare? DefinitelyAverage 7 points ago in GradSchool

    I also do not read at a high level. I am VERY slow and my mind wanders while I read, so I have to go back and re-read everything and it's very annoying. So I'll just give you a few tips I've picked up along the way.

    1. You don't have to read everything word for word. In a lot of my classes they tell you to just skim and pick out what the main point of the article or book and then pick out the examples they use to show this point. It's taken me a while to be able to skim, and I'm still learning how to do it. If you can talk about it in class, you're good. Maybe pick out a couple articles online and try this out? Also, if you read everything word for word, you'll drain yourself out pretty quickly.

    2. I have an issue with remembering what I just read, and this probably gets back to being a slow and wandering reader. So, I take notes on my readings. Not in a notebook because that takes too long (I'm also a slow writer), but on a laptop. In books, I highlight important things while reading a chapter and at the end I type up the chapter notes in Word. This may not be useful to you, but I'm sure you'll figure something out.

    3. I agree with others. You NEED to change your studying habits. You can't skip readings. You can SKIM them, but you can't SKIP them. There's a chance you'll get lucky and won't have any tests in grad school. The only tests I've had are in lab classes. All my other classes just have papers. However, if you do have tests you need to start studying as early as possible.

    4. You can't skip classes just because you don't feel like going to school. You need to change that habit ASAP.

    5. Honestly, in the months leading up to grad school I just relaxed. I knew I wasn't going to have a break once I started and I wanted to enjoy myself. I had just moved to a new city with a beach (I'm from the Midwest, so this was so cool to me) and I just wanted to explore, get to know the town, and just have fun. I let the whole grad school concept sink in and wanted to take some time to be proud of myself for coming so far. But, I asked myself the questions you are asking yourself right now. "Should I be reading to prepare?" The problem with that is that you don't know what to expect, so there's not really any way to prepare for it.

    You're going to be overwhelmed your first few weeks. I know I was and I kept thinking "what have I gotten myself into? There's no way I can do this." I suggest making friends with new grad students because they'll likely be experiencing the same struggles you will be.

    What you do in the months leading up to school is really your call. I tried reading fiction to "prepare myself for all the readings," but it didn't help. Fiction is nothing like the articles and books you'll have to read.

    Anyways, sorry for the wall of text. Any decision you make leading up to grad school will be fine. Just mentally prepare yourself and don't slack. Also, be prepared to give up a lot of free time. However, recognize when you need a break. It's okay to cut homework out for the night because you need to do something mindless or fun.

    I really need to get off Reddit now because I have a day of reading ahead of me (no joke). I've blown off homework for the past 2 nights!

    [–] Help! Invasive tadpole snails! DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in Aquariums

    Thank you so much for your response. They are a native species. I just wasn't sure how their reproduction rate would affect a pond. I think I'll take them to a local pond and river system behind my University in the morning!

    I've cleaned out my fish tank and got rid of (hopefully) most of the eggs. I'll continue to monitor it for the next month to see how many more I need to deal with. Thanks again!

    [–] Does your setting influence whether you go by "Matt" or "Matthew"? DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in matt

    I follow this sub because my boyfriend is a Matt. His family calls him "Matty Patty." It's the most adorable thing.

    [–] Mechanics of reddit, what car should people avoid like the plague? DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in AskReddit

    I have a 1994 Toyota Tercel. 76,000 miles on it. Runs like a gem. Before that I had a 2014 Toyota RAV4, and before that I had a 1997 Toyota Paseo. Toyotas are the best.

    [–] Grandma died and my aunts are fighting over her wedding ring DefinitelyAverage 19 points ago in trashy

    Ugh, I'm so sorry. Something similar happened in my family. My grandma got sick and was in the hospital. My aunt immediately believed she was going to die, so she flew across the country to my grandma's house and stole a bunch of her jewelry that my aunt has wanted for years. My grandma found out and demands she brings them back, but my aunt is saying "well I only took them so I can get them cleaned and appraised for you." It appears that aunts have a fascination with grandma jewelry everywhere!

    [–] Married couples, what is the unspoken rules of a successful marriage? DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Last night my boyfriend played video games next to me while I read and watched trashy television. We didn't speak for hours even though we were 4 feet away from each other. And it was heaven ❤️

    [–] Breathtaking winter sunrise DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in pics

    One time I thought it'd be a brilliant idea to go out in shorts and cowboy boots with no socks during a blizzard/ice storm. My sister and I went down a hill but it was too slippery for me to get back up (cowboy boots have terrible traction on ice apparently), so I had to wait in the woods for my sister to go get my dad to carry me back up the hill. I had a little bit of frost bite on my toes and had to sit in front of the fire for hours.

    Trust me, you do not want to run around naked there.

    [–] An egg cell has no DNA, why of course! DefinitelyAverage 4 points ago in badwomensanatomy

    Also doesn't mean that teachers teach the material correctly. I only had biology for one year and the teacher glossed over a lot of material because she didn't believe in a lot of it. I guess you could call that "Bible Belt Biology."

    [–] Confidence DefinitelyAverage 3 points ago in GradSchool

    Whoa.....are you me? I've struggled with this for years. I'm in my second semester of grad school and I always tell myself that this year I will be more outgoing and speak out in class, but I never do. And it especially sucks because a lot of our grade is based on participation in discussions.

    I'm with you though. I feel like I don't know enough to contribute to the discussions. I'm going to try to ask questions rather than give my opinions in class this semester. We'll see how it turns out. I may not even have the courage to do that.

    I can tell you that professors know that not everyone can speak up in class. One of my professors sort of joked about how I never say anything and I told him that I have a lot of trouble with discussions. He said that it's okay, but I still need to try. He also said he has had "stellar" students who never said a word in his classes, so that made me feel better that he didn't think less of them. Maybe chat with your professors and get to know your peers. That may help alleviate some of the pressure if the people around you know you better and you know them.

    Just don't give up. You're in grad school for a reason. I feel the same as you about 99% of the time but I'm learning how to suppress my inner critic and think more positively about myself. You don't have to be successful at speaking in class to be successful in what you want to do. If you ever want to chat, feel free to PM me, friend :)

    [–] Confidence DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in GradSchool

    You just gave me a great idea. Maybe I'll try dance classes. Now if only I had the time....hmm...

    [–] Accidentally missed my first class of the semester DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in GradSchool

    Well I hope it never happens to you. Just take a careful look at your schedule before the semester starts. That was my mistake.

    [–] Accidentally missed my first class of the semester DefinitelyAverage 2 points ago in GradSchool

    You're right. I need to breathe. Thank you. Luckily he said they just went over the syllabus, so I shouldn't have missed too much.

    [–] Accidentally missed my first class of the semester DefinitelyAverage 3 points ago in GradSchool

    Thank you. I think I really needed to hear the "life goes on" part of your message. I know I'm a great student that never misses class unless I need to. I just hope he doesn't hold it against me. I've never had him before and he's the chair of my department, so that's a little intimidating.

    [–] Today's LTMs DefinitelyAverage 2 points ago in FortNiteBR

    I'm the same way. I've been playing for 5 seasons. LTMs are the only way I can do certain challenges (like weapon eliminations) because I'm terrible most of the time. I wish they permanently kept Team Rumble or something.

    [–] [serious] Redditors who Have lived in a "Haunted" House, What are your most unexplainable paranormal experiences? DefinitelyAverage 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Oh wow. That'd be creepy being on a lake, I think. Maybe Missouri is a hot spot for aliens! Haha. That's not comforting seeing as how I'm going back there next week for Christmas. I'd really like to see them again. My boyfriend doesn't believe me. I guess it's just something you have to see yourself to believe. I believed that there was life out there besides us before that night, but seeing that and not being able to explain it really just made me question everything. Very odd stuff.