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    [–] MSA Social Anxiety P2 DeviantSpy 3 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    The MSA at my uni just seemed like a big group of friends. I know I’m a boring guy, but that’s because you have to get to know me. The MSA members always treated me as an outsider, never inviting me to any non-MSA events. I was bummed out one time when of the members invited everyone to his wedding except me; I was always so respectful towards him. It always ruined my day when I would try to keep the conversation up because I was trying my best to make one solid Muslim friend, but at the end, it seemed like I was wasting their time at the end.

    Most of the MSA members were Pakistani, but tbh Maybe I just suck at socializing with Muslims. I honestly hate that I became inactive to the club later on, but I just never felt like I was “someone” in the club. Mashallah, they are all smart and I wish them the best inshallah. I just wish the club wasn’t some clique that you had to fit in. I think since I went to a small school, the members we’re quite close to each other. But I’m done with school so I’m going to focus on improving my well-being instead :)

    [–] FREE TALK FRIDAY! DeviantSpy 0 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    I understand what you mean. It’s not like she’s gonna remind you for every salat forever, she’ll just bring you back on pace and you will be there to push her if needed. Islam is about helping each other, nothing sexist about her helping you bring back your deen. Take care, brother.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 3 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Just wanted to say that everyone here has been really nice, supportive, and responsive! What a great community you guys are, everyone here has made me feel reassured about my marriage. I know I said this to a handful of people, but your responses mean a lot to me and it has helped brightened my day alhamdillah (or night as of rn).

    I wish you all the best for the future and inshallah!

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 1 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Inshallah you will fine someone that’ll meet all your wants in a girl. It sometimes takes time, but I was fortunate to find someone and I didn’t want to wait a few years until I had a financially stable life. I can be an impatient person, but when I’m married, I’ll need to learn about being patient lol. Thanks for reading my post!

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 2 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Allah brought us together for a reason alhamdillah. Inshallah khair, everything will turn out better than I expected. Thank you for the advice, sister!

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 1 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Very good advice, sister. I’ve been reading this about what is it that girls want when I should be doing everything from my heart. Thank you for reading through my post, everyone here has been great.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 3 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    My dumb butt was just overthinking it. I just want the best for my Fiancée inshallah because she is a wonderful gal. Thank you for giving me confidence.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 1 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Everyone here is in my prayers and I hope for the best for everyone here inshallah. Thank you!

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 1 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Just your blessings is more than enough! Can I say thank you for reading through my post. Inshallah I hope for the best for you too.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 2 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    First off, I want to say Mabrook on the marriage and Allah yobareek feek.

    My fiancée has been great to understand that it’s not going to be an easy path, she’s been supportive of whatever I choose to become. Mashallah, her heart is amazing.

    I really want to get married and live with her because she is such a big help in being supportive. After reading everyone’s comments and replies, I can safely say I am happy about the path I have taken because I know Allah will guide us throughout it all inshallah. I’ll pray for everyone here to have a wonderful marriage inshallah. Thank you for the well constructed response, it means a lot to me wallah.

    Jazakallah khair

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 2 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Beautifully written. I’m just overthinking all of this but I feel more confident than ever alhamdillah.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 4 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Ameen.

    I am in the poor student phase haha. Thank you for taking the time to read everything. It means a lot to me. Everyone here is so nice wallah. I wish you the best inshallah.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 5 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Ofc brother. I’ll keep you updated inshallah. I’ll come back to you if nothing works out haha.

    Jazakallah khair

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 2 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    I will look into those tonight inshallah. Thank you for taking the time to help me on my job search. The job market is quite competitive but inshallah I will get something that should support the two of us until she graduates

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 5 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Salam,

    My question is basically has anyone been in a situation where they don’t feel ready to start a new life and how has it been ever since.

    It’s a weird question wallah, but Lately I feel like I’m rushing things since I don’t have a job lined up or any savings.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 3 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    My concentration is in Power systems and power electronics. I have no hands on experience with substations but I’ve done my share of research on how they operate. I’ve also self taught myself AutoCad these past few months because my school and my previous job experiences never taught me the program.

    Inshallah I hope I can get an entry-level job to learn more skills and be more knowledgeable in the field

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 3 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    California

    It has been hard finding a job for some reason but inshallah I will have one but I don’t know when.

    [–] Anyone ever been in the same position? DeviantSpy 6 points ago in MuslimMarriage

    Salam,

    I’ve been reading a lot of people’s (especially women’s) responses about how they want their man to be financially ready beforehand. I know lots of family members and schoolmates who got married later in life. Inshallah every thing will come, I just never had anyone in my life so this is just new to me haha.

    [–] I honestly have no words. DeviantSpy 1 points ago in niceguys

    I “assumed” at first haha

    [–] I honestly have no words. DeviantSpy -2 points ago in niceguys

    “Fiancée” is a she so I assumed OP is a dude who lost his fiancée and the person texting is attacking that. OP even mentions how “she” passed away.

    [–] I honestly have no words. DeviantSpy -16 points ago * (lasted edited 5 days ago) in niceguys

    Isn’t this /r/nicegirls material?

    Either way, pretty fucked up to stoop that low

    EDIT: I assumed OP is a guy because their fiancée (a woman for those who plan to never marry) past away