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    [–] AITA [25] for telling my sister [19] that being a stay at home mom isn’t a career plan? EsthieBestie986 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Even if she does have an amazing fairy-tale man come and sweep her off her feet, and give her 2.5 perfect little babies... (press x to doubt)

    Husbands die. Husband's get sick. Husband's become disabled.

    My parents taught me this by way of example. When I was 5 my father had always been the breadwinner. Then he suddenly contracted meningitis and had a stroke that left him blinded in one eye and deaf in one ear. He was rehabilitated and continued to work for a few years, but it became apparent that he just couldnt do it anymore. If my mom hadn't had a previous career then we'd have been fucked. Totally. So even if you want to be a stay at home mom, have a back up plan so your kids don't go hungry when tragedy strikes. I don't judge people that want to be SAHPs, but you have to have some type of back up plan because life fucking sucks sometimes.

    [–] AITA for asking my SIL to stop bringing up her infertility? EsthieBestie986 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, you were respectful. What other type of event are you supposed to replace it with???

    Oh right, the classic "Come over for food and drinks, also bring tiny baby clothes and diapers as gifts because I definitely don't have a child growing inside of me" party! How could I forget about that one?

    [–] Bisexual only when hypomanic? EsthieBestie986 4 points ago in bipolar2

    Thank you for this comment because I always identify as bisexual, and all these responses were making me question my whole entire life. I just needed reassurance that I'm not faking. (I always think I'm faking everything)

    [–] AITA for being over the top about skin protection when it comes to my kids? EsthieBestie986 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Drunk Elephant has a 20% zinc oxide sunscreen for like $34. Buy her some, then lay tf off.

    I treat sundamaged skin everyday, I know how bad it can mess your skin up, but you're doing way too much. YTA

    [–] AITA for getting a waxer fired from her job for snickering at my junk? EsthieBestie986 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I'm honestly so sorry that you had that experience. Sadly there are people like that in my industry, and even if they are few and far between (that I've seen), it's way too many. Most of us despise the "professionals" that act so rudely. I never want anyone to feel judged on my table.

    [–] AITA for getting a waxer fired from her job for snickering at my junk? EsthieBestie986 1123 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    As an esthetician, if I owned my own practice and one of my employees did that type of thing they'd be fired on the spot. You cannot laugh at people's bodies during services, it's completely unacceptable.

    [–] AITA for getting a waxer fired from her job for snickering at my junk? EsthieBestie986 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I wax people, and that lady should have been fired! You never ever laugh at a client or make them feel bad about their bodies. We're trusted with people's most intimate parts and insecurities. You can't abuse that trust and keep your job. NTA

    Off topic: I understand why paying more as a man sucks, but it is a more complicated service and requires extra training (it's not cheap for continuing education classes). I do think more estheticians/cosmetologists should be trained on how to do it.

    [–] AITA for reporting my son’s terrible school bus driver? EsthieBestie986 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA. I seriously doubt that you can even keep your own kid quiet while in your own car by yourselves. That bus driver has what? At least 30 kids to take care of while driving a massive vehicle? And I promise he gets paid peanuts for it. If your child is not capable of riding on the bus with other children, then he's not. How do you even expect him to keep the bus quiet? Get over yourself.

    [–] My (26F) BF (28M) wants me to forgive my abuser, I won't and it's causing a rift in our relationship EsthieBestie986 2 points ago * (lasted edited a month ago) in relationship_advice

    I was in an extremely similar situation as a child, and I feel like if my SO said something like this to me I would have a very hard time not reacting violently.

    It is definitely not his place to decide how youre supposed to heal, or how you're supposed to feel. I know reddit is know for the "scorched earth" policy, and I hate contributing to that, but drop this fucking dude.

    Sorry,tgis just hit such a nerve with me. I hate when people who've never experienced abuse like this try to tell you how to cope best with it, or what the ~right~ thing to do is. The absolute arrogance of it makes me see red.

    [–] Do any schools teach laser hair removal in their programs or are these things I will have to get certified in after? EsthieBestie986 3 points ago in Esthetics

    My state doesn't have Master esthetician license (GA), and I had to get licensed through the Composite Medical Board seperately. I had to take a class outside of school that was taught by a physician, and I had to have my esthetics license to even qualify for my laser technician license.

    [–] AITA because I laid into my mom over how she treats my stepbrother? EsthieBestie986 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, but she sounds the way my mom sounds when she's guilt tripping me to get out of something that she knows she fucked up on. Maybe y'all have a different dynamic and it could be completely different with her, but it just reminded me of the way my mom talks.

    [–] AITA for ruining both my parents marriages for disowning me? EsthieBestie986 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, your bio parents are the assholes for treating you like Boo fuckin' Radley your whole life. I'm glad their lives burned down. Don't feel guilty.

    [–] My boy is doing hard things! EsthieBestie986 2 points ago in CasualConversation

    This made me cry because I wish my dad had been like you. He always yelled at me when I cried.