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    [–] AITA because I told DH that I will not let his mom pick her grandmother name. I_hate_these 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    My mom goes by Gammy because that's what my nephew could say, and for her it was better than Nana. lol Her best friend on the other hand makes her granddaughter call her "D" just D.

    [–] lying bastards I_hate_these 8 points ago in fatlogic

    I CANT UNSEE IT ! THANKS! lol

    maybe its a vvorkaround for a broken button?

    [–] AITA for not wanting to pay for my wedding dress? I_hate_these 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Don't get sucked into the marriage trap! I work for the army as a contractor. I know a few people that it's worked out for but most of the people in my age bracket (30) are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage. Near military bases it seems normal everyone getting married after 2-3 months @ 18. The military makes it an incentive to get married, better pay -better housing. But this isn't normal in other areas. Please take time to make sure it's actually what you want and you aren't caught up in the whirlwind of it.

    [–] AITA for not wanting to pay for my wedding dress? I_hate_these 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    ESH is my vote.

    When I was 16 my sister bought me a car. She made a lot of money and felt bad for me. She then used the fact that she paid for the car as a bargaining chip anytime she wanted anything. The car cost about the same as your wedding dress. Just so you know. I came out of school some days and the car would be gone. I got 2 am phone calls to pick her up from the bar "because I was a really expensive cab."

    Eventually my mom bought the car from my sister to end the nonsense. I then made monthly payments to my mom until the car was mine.

    So my advice (if wanted) is accept that the wedding dress is your cancelled wedding debt/idiot tax(that's what my bf and I call any money spent that wasn't required due to us being stupid.) If you are paying off the CC, get the dress in your possession, if you want to wear it later sell it - whatever. Have a set schedule of when payments are due/over. Try to separate yourself from being under you sisters thumb financially.

    [–] AITA for saying people with physical disabilities shouldn't hide it on Tinder etc I_hate_these 0 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    That may be. We ended up googling it to see who was right, and while the source of the word is the same it's is characterized in the US as being profoundly more light-headed than in Britain.

    Even when thinking about it, for me as a 30 year old, the phrase didn't have a source. Maybe 80's teen movies? I was shocked that it could be an insult.

    So while it might be a gross phrase, I would give people benefit of the doubt.

    [–] AITA for saying people with physical disabilities shouldn't hide it on Tinder etc I_hate_these 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Random FYI, I found out from my British boyfriend that the phrase spaz out/calling someone a spaz has a much more offensive connotation in Britain than it does in America. Just want to let Brits know we aren't complete assholes, and also warn other unwitting Americans.

    [–] Can we cancel 6ft+ men I_hate_these 23 points ago in 1200isfineIGUESSugh

    I live with a 6'4 athlete. FML. He needs basically my daily intake per meal. 😐

    [–] AITA the asshole for refusing to do a list a chores my gf left for me? I_hate_these 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    ..but he didn't say "I'm not going to get to any of that. I am on vacation and I don't want too." He threw it away and is being petulant about it.

    I mean, if I was planning to relax and got a list of shit to do. I would probably be irritated and say "Yeah, not today". But that would be the discussion. "I am not going to clean the gutters today-- because fuck that. But I will pick-up the dry cleaning because I have time and I know you need your suit tomorrow."

    [–] AITA for saying people with physical disabilities shouldn't hide it on Tinder etc I_hate_these 432 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    that's the detail that really got me. I don't like people touching me when I am not expecting it, much less someones nub.

    "Oh yeah, I don't have a hand. Let me just put my nub on your face" Like is he just trying to make her okay with it due to familiarity ???

    [–] WIBTA, for leaving my fiance of 7 years. I_hate_these 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA for leaving him. YTA for staying and getting back together with him when he continually disrespects you and your relationship. Value yourself more, you don't have to be with someone just because you have a kid together.

    [–] F/26/5'2" [146>138=8lbs] (1 month) First time lifting weights and excited to keep going! I_hate_these 1 points ago in progresspics

    Also, what kind of weight training are you doing?

    I am doing 1,200-1,400 cal a day. Not tracking anything really besides protein. 3 days a week cardio C25K program, because I cant run very well and mostly focused on my upper body for weights because I have much less definition there than in my legs.

    [–] F/26/5'2" [146>138=8lbs] (1 month) First time lifting weights and excited to keep going! I_hate_these 2 points ago in progresspics

    You actually look like me ! 5'3.5 @145, look a lot like you first picture! I have the same curve in my lower belly, glad to know it actually starts to go away at some point !

    [–] WIBTA if I moved to Singapore alone for my career because my wife doesn't want to. I_hate_these 5 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NAH / NTA

    You have logical reasons for going, she has logical reasons for staying. You are both being selfish. You want to advance you career at the expense of your wife's connections, and she wants you to sacrifice a promotion you want for her.

    If you don't come to this decision together, to stay or go, you will end up resenting each other. You need to be a united front on this. One of you will have to sacrifice something. I understand why you came to the conclusion of just you going. But she doesn't see it as an option.

    Figure out what she is most worried about losing with the move (ie: family help with the children) perhaps suggest hiring a nanny to supplement.

    Just decide it together or you will hear nothing but "you made me move here, I hate this place, I never wanted to come" or the other side "You cost me my career, we wouldn't have this problem.."

    Best of luck.

    [–] It's Pi Day! I'm coming in slightly hot but PIE Y'ALL I_hate_these 3 points ago in 1200isfineIGUESSugh

    I was wondering the same thing at first. "that's a weird fucking breakfast." lol

    [–] AITA because I want to live with my dad "forever". All my friends are turning against me. I_hate_these 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    As an American around 30. I moved out for college, and have been moving around since then. But I would expect my mother to move in with me or my sister at some point. No one I know would find it weird.

    [–] AITA because I want to live with my dad "forever". All my friends are turning against me. I_hate_these 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA: I am from the US. Not from the ghetto. But I would still like to do this for my mom. I would like to have a house with a "Granny Annex" because she is an adult and would probably like some privacy. But she made huge sacrifices for us, and now cant retire. But she deserves to.

    [–] AITA for yelling at my husband when he interrupted my dinner by asking me to help with the baby? I_hate_these 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    based on what she posted he is pulling more weight on this specific day, then getting yelled at. She's the asshole here. It doesn't sound like his day was any less go-go-go and while double checking everything with his partner can be annoying, its better to be prepared than wrong. She doesn't sound like she has any sympathy for the fact that he also, is a new parent and might want a 2 hour gym session or 30min-1hour tv time.