Please help contribute to the Reddit categorization project here


    + friends - friends
    18 link karma
    1,511 comment karma
    send message redditor for

    [–] Colleague ODed at work I_lenny_face_you 5 points ago in nursing

    So sorry OP. FWIW, this helps me keep perspective. I've been frustrated because I triggered a prior injury I have; this reminds me there are people struggling with even harder things.

    And I think you're right, healthcare culture teaches us in subtle ways to ignore (and/or cover up) any mental health problems and pretend everything is ok.

    [–] Rant: I'm your doctor, please stop. I_lenny_face_you 291 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    I'm a male in healthcare too. I don't think I have seen this type of behavior firsthand toward our female staff, but do you (or others) have ideas on what we could say as bystanders to help? I was just thinking that I could say that "Dr. So and So is just here to do a physical exam with you."

    [–] F/20/5’7”/134lb I’ve always thought my body looks somewhat masculine I_lenny_face_you 1 points ago in normalnudes

    I notice many commenters are saying you don't look masculine, in a way that seems designed to be reassuring. But I also notice you didn't ask for that. I don't know if you finding some masculine appearance bothers you or not, and I don't want to assume.

    To me, your body looks significantly more feminine than masculine. Where I think I see what you might be talking about is between the bottom of your ribs (I'm referring to where I see them on your sides) and your hips. That portion wouldn't look out of place to me on a male's body. But in the context of your other, more feminine features, i might not have even noticed that if you hadn't said you thought your body looks masculine, or hadn't mentioned your hips.

    I don't know much about using clothing or other factors of appearance to build on body features, but I'd guess you could play up your feminine features or emphasize the somewhat more masculine ones if you so desired. Either way, very nice bod.

    [–] When it come to kink, does the why matter? I_lenny_face_you 1 points ago in BDSMcommunity

    I found this an excellent comment. These issues are complicated and I also value the other commenters here who took different views. But sometimes people can be a bit reductionist, and I feel I have seen some of that tendency in a group that I'm in with a lot of vanilla people who seem to lean toward thinking " there must be an identifiable reason" for people's kinks. May I quote you to them if I or they choose to revisit the subject?

    [–] When it come to kink, does the why matter? I_lenny_face_you 2 points ago in BDSMcommunity

    These issues are complicated and I am upvoting for "contributes to discussion", however, if I could, I would give you a bonus internet point for the phrase " psychological foreplay", I really like that.

    [–] So, how did you all get into this fantasy and when? I_lenny_face_you 2 points ago in RapeFantasy

    I feel so sad reading your last sentence! A couple of years ago I played with a woman who I believe was about 50, and I was 38. We're still friends but she is occupied with her other partners now. I think she's very sexy! Is your husband open to an open relationship? Or, I know some couples agree to kink play outside of the relationship but not penetrative sex. And do you use Fetlife? Porn isn't the only way to relate to these fantasies.

    [–] So much time wasted... I_lenny_face_you 1 points ago in nursing

    I know that both here and in your at least 1 other post below that you give some good analysis. I don't have the time to make a comment of substance, but I just wanted to say I appreciated the laugh from " our own diagnoses with Blackjack and hookers". Frankly I could use some of both of those (or just the latter) to help me cope with the stress and BS at my job. Keep fighting the good fight.

    [–] My meds are suppressing my dominance. I_lenny_face_you 2 points ago in BDSMcommunity

    No problem. I wasn't aware of that use for Abilify so I learned something new! Glad it helps.

    I wonder if a "drug holiday" ( skipping for a day here or there) would let you feel more dominant while not interfering too much with the effectiveness of your medication overall? That could be worth asking the doctor about.

    I don't know why a doctor would want to try Ritalin, especially if you told them you had had a speed habit. Part of me is hoping that you don't still have that doctor. But if you do, I hope you have a good relationship with them.

    [–] My meds are suppressing my dominance. I_lenny_face_you 3 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago) in BDSMcommunity

    I won't say "quit those meds", however I did notice that you didn't say if you have been diagnosed with a psychotic disorder (certainly possible given the "friend"; do they bother you or lead you to unhealthy behaviors?) or if you are taking Abilify to (for example) augment antidepressants. The latter is a thing, although some psychiatrists, e.g. Julie Holland, aren't fans of that use in most cases.

    Unless you feel like overall the benefits of that specific medication really outweigh the negatives, maybe talk with your doctor about alternatives? There are alternatives for both depression and psychotic disorders--perhaps you've tried them, but I don't know, so throwing that out there.