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    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Unfortunately, after me, my mom had complications and had a stillbirth like 8 months into pregnancy with a little girl. So your point stands, but in this situation it wasn't much of an option sadly

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    That's a good plan. Even if I can't visit as often, we could do more or spend more time together. My dad's birthday is this week so I think I'll try to spend a good chunk of the day with them. Thanks for your comment

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I'm sorry for your loss, and I appreciate you sharing your experience. I will try to make more of an effort and meet them closer to the middle of our expectations.

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    It's hard to make standing plans because his work schedule is about as erratic as mine. Weekends usually work but that's when my GF typically has a lot of stuff going on, but visiting by myself is better than not at all. Thanks for the input, I'll see what I can do.

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Man, the phone call to shoot the shit sounds nice. I don't have much in common with my dad, whether it's our interests or our sense of humor. Conversation is always rocky at best. I don't know how to bridge that gap.

    Anyway, you're right. While I do visit probably 1-2 times a month, I could do more to make it less of an ordeal to stay in touch. Thanks for your comment

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Sorry for your loss, friend.

    My parents and I get along well - but saying we are friends doesn't feel like it fits. We are family, in that I love them and will do whatever I can to help them, same as they would do for me. But my relationship with them feels more like posturing than friendship. I would like that bond to be there, so I think you're right. I don't know how to become more of a friend to them, but it sounds like the first step is putting in more effort to see them.

    Thank you.

    [–] AITA for not visiting my parents as often as they'd like? KindMoriarty 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I don't plan on having children, so there's that.

    And yes, they did both lose their last remaining parents within the past year or two so I can see why they have become more adamant about it. I do want to have a better relationship with them (not that we don't have a good relationship, we are very fortunate and I love them a lot). Their health issues scare me so I know on some level there is a primal fear of losing them that might be making me distant on a subconscious level (what a dumb coping mechanism).

    Thank you for your insight.

    [–] AITA for excluding a girl from our lunch table KindMoriarty 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Using them as an insult doesn't paint them in a great light either. Fuck people like that, too

    [–] AITA for killing all of my ex's friendships? KindMoriarty 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Literally one comment up this thread you said you wanted it to be justified. It sounds like you were expecting NTA and now you're backpedaling and just saying whatever can dig you out of the hole.

    Actions have consequences

    [–] Trump to Sign Spending Deal and Declare National Emergency at the Southern Border KindMoriarty 2 points ago in politics

    All bureaucratic affairs are bullshit, but it's our government. He's completely shitting on the established methods for his goals and cheapening how we define emergency. it's the same thing as his every day tactics: make everything outrageous so nothing stands out as THE final straw

    [–] Lincoln Restaurants of yesteryear? KindMoriarty 3 points ago in lincoln

    Yes, I loved the car trays. I only ever ate there maybe twice but it stuck with me for the rest of my life. They had really good shakes, too.

    [–] Welcome to Inside Gaming! | "The Know" is becoming "Inside Gaming" KindMoriarty 11 points ago in roosterteeth

    I feel I've picked a bad time to try to understand who worked where and where they've gone haha

    [–] Welcome to Inside Gaming! | "The Know" is becoming "Inside Gaming" KindMoriarty 11 points ago in roosterteeth

    Cool. Is that separate from the RT Podcast? I am a weird situation apparently where I started watching The Know independently of RT/FH/whatever so this is all new to me.

    [–] Worried about all the bugs facing endangered status or extinction KindMoriarty 1 points ago in self

    Thanks for the reassurance. I'm tired of using the "I'm a small part of the problem so I'm fine" excuse for stuff. I think realistically, yes, you're right but I'd like to take responsibility at least for myself and reduce my negative impact on things, however I can.

    [–] I had to get off that train! KindMoriarty 3 points ago in self

    Reminds me of the time the heel on one of my beat up old shoes was coming unglued so I would stomp it back into place and it would stay for another day or so. I was walking into my college's student affairs office for something and felt the heel wobbling so I stomped down, but ended up sort of losing my balance and leaned onto a counter to stabilize myself. Unfortunately I placed my hand right on top of a stack of forms and my arm slid into a fake potted plant. In a span of about 3 seconds I stomped my foot, slapped papers all over the floor and knocked over the fake plant in front of probably 30 people.

    Now we can laugh at each other's stories

    [–] Worried about all the bugs facing endangered status or extinction KindMoriarty 2 points ago in self

    Hey, I appreciate the comment. Part of what has kept me away from veganism is $, so that unfortunately also plays a role. At this point I don't really want superiority, I'd rather find some sort of... balance? Peace? Some way of repaying my debt? Something along those lines. True nobility is being superior to one's past self, and all that.

    One of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite books has been running through my thoughts the past few days: Boaz, in Vonnegut's Sirens of Titan, "I found me a place where I can do good without doing any harm, and I can see I’m doing good, and them I’m doing good for know I’m doing it, and they love me as best they can. I found me a home."

    It's idealistic, for sure, but the point of having ideals isn't necessarily to accomplish them but to always be moving towards them. I'd like to move towards doing good without doing harm, even if it is an impossible ideal.

    [–] Meanwhile in India. Sell them the Green New Deal. KindMoriarty 1 points ago in Conservative

    That doesn't mean Americans still can't do their part. We are a pretty central figure on the world stage and it would be a good example to set. It's the same as when people say "oh, corporations are responsible for it, nothing I do matters compared to that." Yes, that's probably true, but change starts with an individual.

    [–] Desk with hidden laptop compartment KindMoriarty 2 points ago in oddlysatisfying

    That was a compelling argument. I think you fellas have it right

    [–] Rant: I'm your doctor, please stop. KindMoriarty 10 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    'Just' has been my latest vernacular adjustment. I used 'just' to emphasize a lot of different things, but without it, my writing and speech feel more confident. It's nice.