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    [–] Nexting over nudes?? MikeMoon14 4 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    This is the only comment you need to read.

    I also never ask for nudes or for anything that makes someone uncomfortable.

    They are "nexting" you because you won't give them the only thing they want - a collection of photos.

    I get nexted often by woman who insist I bring $2k in cash to the M&G. I don't spend a lot of time pontificating about them.

    [–] Been out of the bowl 7 months. Woke up to a threatening note on my door this morning. MikeMoon14 42 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    It would become interesting to the police if he starts extorting you, i.e demanding money or sex or photos to remain quiet. That is a crime in most or all states. Also if he continues to harass you in more serious ways or over an extended period of time.

    Do report it to the police now to open the case and then follow up with anything else he does.

    BTW, it may not be a he.

    [–] [WA] My father and step mother died, leaving me (19m) and my step sister (8f). My step sisters father, who has previously never cared about her, is getting full custody and has told me he won't allow me to visit. Is there anything I can do? MikeMoon14 0 points ago in legaladvice

    I am sorry for your loss.

    It is almost certain that he is after money, including possibly proceeds from a potential lawsuit regarding the car accident.

    You must get a family lawyer, first to get temporary custody and then to begin the case for fully custody. You can reach out to your county's bar association or if you PM me, I can help you find a qualified lawyer.

    Your lawyer may actually recommend that you go into hiding with her. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, except with an attorney's advice or by order of a court, let your sister be alone with him.

    If your father formally adopted your sister or if the natural father willfully gave up custody, that would be a very good fact.

    It is a factor that she does not want to live with him, but since she is only 8 it may have less weight.


    'Under Washington State law, when making residential decisions the court may consider “the wishes of a child who is sufficiently mature to express reasoned and independent preferences”. In other words, it is not about age, it is about maturity. The wishes of a 17 year old child who wants to live with a particular parent because that parent will buy them a car shouldn’t carry much weight, but the wishes of an 11 year old who believes one parent provides a more stable environment could carry a good deal of weight."

    [–] I was just served with papers for an accident that happened exactly 365 days ago. Now what? MikeMoon14 56 points ago in legaladvice

    Yes, get lawyer. Once he explains to their lawyer that you have $1,500 in assets and might file for bankruptcy if you lose this case, they may reconsider. You also need to fight your insurance company's claim that it does not have to cover you.

    [–] Pregnant and in a same sex relationship. How do I ensure my wife doesn’t have to fight my parents for custody if I die during labor? [PA] MikeMoon14 23 points ago in legaladvice

    You must speak to a lawyer who is familiar with custody issues in your state, as laws vary from state-to-state. A legal marriage certainly helps but you need to be 100% certain, and only by consulting a local, qualified lawyer can you be certain. Also, you need to make sure you both have a proper will, healthcare proxy, etc.

    [–] [IN] Pharmacist revealed medical history to employer who is now harassing me over it. MikeMoon14 45 points ago in legaladvice

    If you are in the US, the pharmacist violated HIPAA and committed a fireable offense. Your boss is also acting illegally. Complain to HR in writing.

    [–] Important legal question from a sugar baby. MikeMoon14 1 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    Stop having any contact with him. Run away. Do not look back.

    [–] Plus sized SB. MikeMoon14 2 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    Tell him you want $1,700 because he is not handsome and masculine enough for you to accept $1,200.

    [–] Former SD recorded us having sex without my consent and posted the video to an online porn site MikeMoon14 1 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    It is an approximation. It could be 2 and it could be 10. It depends on the seriousness of the offense and the caseload of the detective. They and the DAs decide how much effort to put into every allegation. They like to focus where they think they will be able to convict. One claim is he said she said. 5 claims is he said they said. Much more convincing.

    [–] Former SD recorded us having sex without my consent and posted the video to an online porn site MikeMoon14 8 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    This is something I would echo for ANY crime that you think "the police won't care." Any bastard that does something bad to you has very likely done it to many, many other people. Your report may be the first, but others may follow, and it may be the fifth, which is the one that tips the case from one of interest to an active investigation. The guy wronged you, report him.

    [–] bit of a horndog MikeMoon14 1 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    This is the only answer that makes any sense at all, so DO NOT BACKTRACK from it no matter how he responds.

    [–] Unprotected Oral Sex MikeMoon14 2 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    Anyone who is unwilling to take a simple step to make you both feel safer is someone from whom you should move on.

    [–] My wife(38f) and I (33m) dont have a normal sex life and I'm asking for advice on how to either talk to her about it or things I can do to fix it. MikeMoon14 6 points ago in askwomenadvice

    1. This has gone on long enough that the only useful advice you will get is this: Strongly encourage her to go to marriage counseling with you. It isn't free, but it's far less expensive than the alternatives.
    2. I strongly suspect that anything else you try will be a short-term band-aid at best, and you will make your second post a few years from now, and it will be more discouraging.

    I speak from experience - I wish that I had tried #1, and it is too far gone to do so now.

    [–] NYC, USA. My best friend (23/f) is accusing another friend (22/m) of rape, I have a tape with evidence that it didn’t happen, how do I go about this situation? MikeMoon14 106 points ago in legaladvice

    There is only one thing to do: speak to a lawyer. Her saying that you knew about the attack in advance may be enough to get you thrown out of school and her story may evolve and implicate you further. Do not share the tape with anyone without making a copy.

    [–] Have you ever been robbed and how did you go about the situation? MikeMoon14 1 points ago in AskNYC

    The police have to do that, so that people don't get away with spending $500 and then reporting their card stolen.

    [–] Where did you get married in the city and how much did you spend? MikeMoon14 2 points ago in AskNYC

    A spectacular yet inexpensive venue is Tir na nOg Times Square. They host a ton of weddings that are quite reasonable in price, and 100+ is nothing for them to handle. My guess is that it would be around $12k for 100 people, plus whatever extras you add, ie band, flowers etc.

    [–] you don’t have to be a dick when thing’s don’t work out MikeMoon14 9 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    The asshat approach to not getting what you wanted is called "sour grapes," and it is at least 2500 years old. It is a pathetic attempt to save face.

    [–] Company called Narcotics to workplace MikeMoon14 6 points ago in legaladvice

    I hope someone has contacted legal counsel. I presume those arrested have. I struggle to believe they had probable cause to search every single car. Even if they got a warrant, this should be easily overturned. This is so bizarre I can hardly believe it is true.

    [–] Company called Narcotics to workplace MikeMoon14 40 points ago in legaladvice

    There should not be any wondering - leave this company as soon as you can. It could have handled this situation in a far more compassionate way, i.e. announcing that local police would be conducting drug tests every week - this would have had the effect of reducing drug use/possession without arresting people. But obviously the owners wanted the arrests.

    [–] How Many Yellow Flags Makes a Red Flag? MikeMoon14 3 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    I agree that the manic response is a classic scammer MO. If a POT. SB said she was feeling uneasy about me, my sole response would be, “So how can I put you at ease?”

    [–] The winning message of today MikeMoon14 1 points ago in sugarlifestyleforum

    I received a similar one from a SB. We texted for two weeks. She said I am the only decent guy she’s met online, can’t wait to meet me etc. I offered to help her find a better job and get into school at night so she can finish her degree (both of which I am really good at) and cope with some issues she is having. Day before M&G she asked my PPM but said she was totally flexible. I told her I was thinking much bigger picture and gave her a # that is probably mid-range for NYC that I know I can maintain, and said I have other, inconsistent income sources and would share generously when those come in. She pissed all over this, said she had way better offers from lots of other men and this wouldn’t work. I wished her well. I wasn’t actually that surprised as her kind texts used more emoticons than words, and most people who do that are trying to hide what they really want to say.

    [–] My [26M] roommate [25F] attacked me and her 5 female friends corroborate story to deny accusation. MikeMoon14 10 points ago in legaladvice

    If you take this to small claims, forget about the one night's hotel - you have to keep your case as simple as possible - otherwise the judge will do all he or she can to push you to settle by not hearing the case the first or even second time you go to court.

    [–] My [26M] roommate [25F] attacked me and her 5 female friends corroborate story to deny accusation. MikeMoon14 7 points ago in legaladvice

    Then move out, and move on. This is not the last time something like this will happen. It is also pointless to report - it is a big deal to you, it is not a big deal to law enforcement.

    Re: the $700 check, if you are saying that she cashed a check, claims she didn't, and is now suing you for this amount, I suggest that you send her a copy of the cashed check and ask her to withdraw the claim. If she receives this and does not withdraw the claim, she could face serious charges of perjury. Do not blow off any hearings - show up and as soon as you get a chance to talk to the court officer, explain in 25 words or less that you are being sued for not paying her money when you have a cashed check that proves you did. DO NOT bring up the incident in the apartment, which has nothing to do with the small claims case.