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    [–] Have you ever had Erectile Disfunction? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 4 points ago in intj

    Well, then youre both fucked and not fucked at the same time.

    [–] Have you ever had Erectile Disfunction? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 2 points ago in intj

    ED existed well before widespread availability of porn.

    [–] Have you ever had Erectile Disfunction? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in intj

    High blood pressure/stress effects the fleischgewehr in a very negative manner.

    Reducing stress generally makes it MUCH easier to get an erection.

    [–] Reading /r/IncelTears makes me violent and suicidally unstable PM_me_Venn_diagrams -1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Well, I think we can both agree that the most important thing to do is avoid going there anymore.

    But to be serious, your concerns are completely valid, and you shouldnt let yourself feel so terrible for something you can help.

    First off, sex isnt that great or else people would be having a hell of a lot more of it.

    Secondly, set yourself some goals and keep working on them, itll keep you motivated and get you some pride.

    Volunteering is also another way to feel much better about yourself. It really does. I cannot explain how much better it really feels. And youll get something to be proud about.

    Dont let it get you down. Everything will work out. Trust me.

    And yes, those people are A-holes. Im a tall, handsome guy, but I still think those people are absolutely awful. Its no better than fat shaming. Probably worse, actually.

    Screw em!

    Good luck, and hope you feel better!

    [–] So I have decided I'm going to live like crazy and then kill myself at 30. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 2 points ago in SuicideWatch

    What do you mean "life will be awful?"

    Life doesnt stop at 30. In fact, most people find their true meaning in their 30s.

    20s just kind of suck and can be pointless. But dont let yourself think your 30s will be terrible.

    As you get older you learn to appreciate the small things a lot more. Life really does become more pleasant and interesting.

    Just make sure your back and your dick arent falling apart by that time. That would suck.

    And if you want to really enjoy life, the partying really isnt the thing thatll do that. Ive found that volunteering and helping really can improve how I feel.

    Have you ever considered volunteering? Its really nothing like it seems, its very rewarding. And itll give you something to feel good about.

    Give it a try. Nothing to lose!

    Good luck! Keep your head up!

    [–] Here again. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 2 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Sounds like youre in an area that is simply too expensive. Thats a big problem for kids coming from well off families.

    Do you have the option to move? Can you go into business for yourself? What kind of goals are you setting?

    There is never a lack of options, just a lack of creativity. Keep looking, keep setting goals, and eventually youll reach one of them.

    Those goals kept you going this far, so it obviously worked at least a little!

    [–] I hate, and it's my life, and it's exhausting. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Hey, fellow CDL holder here.

    Im not sure how much I can tell you, but I think what you really need to do is sit down and talk with him and tell him that the two of you cant keep fighting like this and that things need to get better.

    He probably feels the same way and just doesnt know it.

    Either way it cant continue to happen. Talk to him about it and try to work something out.

    Oh, and working for yourselves is a huge improvement. I ended up working for Landstar and it was such a huge improvement. Really was. Great money, choose where you want to go... really makes the job much easier and more worth it.

    Good luck, and I hope things get better for the two of you! Dont underestimate the power of setting goals or a little affection!

    Set some goals together, and work towards them. Im sure itll help you feel better and closer to one another.

    [–] Here again. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Set yourself some goals. Having some sort of long term goal is an excellent way to stay positive and stay motivated.

    If you concentrate on your situation youll only be miserable. Set a goal and think about that goal, and concentrate on each step. The more steps you accomplish the better you will feel.

    Trust me, it works.

    Its just natural to feel the way you do, but you've got to keep your head thinking about other things, and that ll keep you motivated.

    And you arent stuck with them. Find a roommate or something. I guarantee you that youll be happier. And maybe make a few new friends!

    Good luck, and keep your head up!

    [–] Tried killing myself for the 5th time, girlfriend mad at me PM_me_Venn_diagrams 0 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Well, its pretty natural for her to be upset. But its also a good thing, it shows that she really cares.

    One of the best things Ive found is that no matter how terrible life gets, If I set a goal I cant let myself think about giving up. Set a long term goal, something you really want to do. And keep setting goals.

    Its healthy for you, and itll keep your mind occupied on the future instead of the current or past.

    Everything will get better, it always does. Just try to keep moving toward your goals and youll enjoy life a lot more.

    Itll all get better!

    [–] It has never gotten better. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    You know what works for me? Setting a goal. If you set a goal, it keeps your mind off everything else.

    Do you have any goals? As long as your brain has a goal in it, it wont let you give up.

    Set a long term goal and work towards it. Ill really improve your mood and your focus, and your will to live.

    It really will, I can recommend it enough.

    Good luck, and keep us up to date on whatever you choose!

    [–] I have savings, checkings, cd’s, and Roth IRA. Do my parents get it if I commit suicide? Will there be legal issues? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 0 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Well, it sounds like those things might not be the issue then.

    Sounds like you dont have anything to look forward to, or else you would be looking forward to it instead of on here talking to us.

    Do you have goals? Meaningful goals?

    Set some long term goal, because as long as you have a long term goal you wont allow yourself to think about ending it. Just keep working towards it and youll feel better.

    Its just natural to feel this way if you havent set some sort of goal to have some sort of meaning in life.

    [–] Feeling suicidal due to guilt and depression following daughter's birth injury PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    I dont usually say this, but it really does sound like the nurses are trying to blame you for their decision. Its highly unlikely that what they are saying is the truth. It just doesnt add up.

    Unfortunately, nothing can be done for your daughter, but just because someone is disabled doesnt mean they will have any less of a happy life, and as you grow older youll learn to accept what happened.

    Only time can heal something like this, and sometimes it takes a while.

    As far as your husband, its important to be positive and keep your relationship positive and affectionate. Just because you are going through something difficult, dont forget the occasional hug or peck on the cheek. Those things really do help to brighten things up.

    Just because you have gone through something heartbreaking doesnt mean you have to be miserable. Everything will work out, and dont let the guilt overcome you. There is nothing you can or could do, dont let anyone guilt you about it.

    Everything will work out, it just takes time. Until then, just try to be positive and keep your relationship affectionate.

    Itll all work out, I promise. It always does.

    [–] worthless PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Dont be so hard on yourself. Having to rely on others is a normal part of growing up.

    It may feel like its going to take forever, but itll be over before you realize.

    If you like to help people, there is a huge shortage of CNA workers to work with the disabled and elderly. You can get a good job in just a few weeks after you graduate, and Im sure youll fee much better.

    Try not to let it get you down. Its all just a stage of life and youll be over with it before you know it.

    It would be a shame to lose such a caring person just because of a few mistakes or because others dont understand.

    Itll all work out, trust me.

    [–] Boyfriend left me. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Its completely natural to feel terrible after a breakup, and there isnt anything wrong with it. Breaking up can be one of the worst feelings, it really can.

    Things will get better, they always do. I promise. Just try and keep your head up and stay positive.

    For all we know, this might open the door to find someone better.

    It just takes time, youll be just fine. I promise.

    [–] So i think it was camus who said that the meaning of life is whatever preventing you from killing yourself. PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Well, I found that helping people was unexpectedly rewarding. It never really appealed to me until I got into it, but helping others is a great way to feel better and feel like life is less meaningless.

    I highly suggest that you go volunteer somewhere, just to see how you like it.

    I guarantee youll feel at least a little better.

    And dont feel guilty about it, we all do impulsive things sometimes. Itll get better. Trust me.

    [–] Happy yet suicidal, why continue? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 5 points ago in SuicideWatch

    This is pretty common with smart kids.

    As you get older youll realize that what you do absolutely DOES matter. Society needs competent and trustworthy people, and its hard to see this when you are so young because you arent really dealing with the real world yet.

    But if you do a good job and strive to be competent, it really does make a huge difference in the lives of people around you.

    When you get out in the world, youll see how important a lot of "pointless" things really are. Believe me.

    Nothing is pointless. Youre effort is not going to waste, and youll find your meaning. This is just something that happens to people when they dont have anything worthwhile to put effort into. Even many adults feel this way.

    Youll do just fine. Dont let it get you down.

    [–] I just hate this world and I’m ready to go. why should I have to continue living when I don’t want to?? PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Well, thats how the world works. It can be hypocritical. Very hypocritical. Go read up on almost any successful person and you'll notice their observations about society are similar.

    and why is it if you speak out about being suicidal people say to kill yourself or stop begging for attention but after you die people say they wish you asked for help and they would’ve been there for you??

    If people are saying things like that, its no wonder you are suicidal, apparently you are surrounded by some pretty shitty people.

    Once you get out in the real world and starting meeting people, youll understand how different the world can be depending on who you surround yourself with.

    I think looking for other company would probably be a good start.

    Youll do just fine, just try and keep your head up. Everything will work out.

    [–] My body and mind hurt PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    You work 24 hour shifts??? Good God, Ive done that a few times and holy crap I felt nearly as bad!

    I also understand your feelings about childhood, my brain has kind of blurred out a lot of memories and its like I just awoke one day. I know that feeling and it sucks.

    Maybe you might be interested in doing what I did as well.

    After 3 years of caring for my dying father and having my life turned upside down, I ended up getting my CDL and traveling the country for several years. I got to see 48 states, and despite being a bit stressful, it paid great and I made some good friends.

    You can get your CDL for free, or CDL schools will offer to front you the cost until you get a job.

    I know that my past employers are absolutely dying to get employees, and that many of them are offering large bonuses of $1000-6000 depending on what kind of driver you become.

    If you dont like being over the road, with about a year experience you can find LTL local jobs for about $19-23 an hour just about anywhere in the country.

    Its really a MUCH better job than you would expect, especially compared to being an EMS.

    Its inadvertently the best thing that ever happened to me. You might want to take a look. "Prime" out of Springfield MO pays something like $600 a week during training, and almost twice that once you get out. Paid training. Thats how desperate trucking companies are now.

    Either way, good luck, stay strong, and keep your goals in sight. Its a great thing that youve found love and that you are putting in so much effort to make it work!

    [–] Need some hope PM_me_Venn_diagrams 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    I know that can be incredibly crippling, but it sounds like you missed a huge bullet.

    Being a teacher with any sort of social anxiety would only leave you miserable for the rest of your life.

    Ive been through some hard times, and let me tell you, these kinds of things somehow end up being blessings in disguise.

    If you need an quick job that is rewarding, go get your CNA certificate and work with the elderly.

    Or, you can do what I did and go get your CDL, team with another woman, and go see the country.

    There are actually quite a few possibilities. And it seems like anything would be better than being in a school if you have social anxiety.

    Just know that everything happens for a reason, and 10 years from now youll be laughing about this and how it got you into a better place. Thats how life works. Some great things can actually be terrible, and some terrible things can actually turn out to be pretty great for you in the long run.

    Also, I used to have terrible social anxiety, and for some reason B Vitamins and Taurine basically eliminate it. Might want to give it a try.

    Either way, good luck!

    [–] TIL The US corporate tax rate is not universally 35%, it's bracketed and that is only for companies with over 18M in taxable income a year PM_me_Venn_diagrams 8 points ago in todayilearned

    That assumes they are restricted to one market, which is blatantly false. Anything you just said can and always has been done better.

    It works and always had until it was changed. And the country has never recovered from it.

    [–] TIL Bill Gates accidentally got into philanthropy after he and his wife accidentally came across extremely impoverished people while they were sight seeing. He now says philanthropy is the "best job in the world." PM_me_Venn_diagrams 60 points ago in todayilearned

    OS/2 was a Microsoft product they made for IBM. It was cut because they came out with a newer, better OS called Windows 3.0.

    And like I just said, Linux was almost unusable at the time. It was absolute garbage. It was widely available for servers, and those servers were from the very companies you claim could not sell it.

    Which you would know if you were actually in the industry at the time.

    [–] TIL The US corporate tax rate is not universally 35%, it's bracketed and that is only for companies with over 18M in taxable income a year PM_me_Venn_diagrams 18 points ago in todayilearned

    What people also dont understand is that if a company reinvests, those costs are taken out of taxes and the tax rate goes down. Only profits are taxed.

    The reason tax rates have always been this high or higher is to force companies to reinvest and create more jobs.

    When they cut taxes in the 80s, it basically froze the economy, because companies werent being forced to reinvest in themselves and create new jobs.

    [–] TIL Bill Gates accidentally got into philanthropy after he and his wife accidentally came across extremely impoverished people while they were sight seeing. He now says philanthropy is the "best job in the world." PM_me_Venn_diagrams 145 points ago in todayilearned

    I WAS A BUILDER AT THE TIME. I was building computers since before the Pentium existed. There were no other options to even use. Apple wouldnt license their software, and linux was absolutely awful at the time. What options were there? Even if you wanted, there was nothing else except outdated Apple machines, because Apple cut Jobs programs after he was kicked out.

    How is that Microsofts fault that Apple wanted to use its own proprietary hardware, or that linux was 10 years away from being usable?

    Not to mention that the other OS needed mods for EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF SOFTWARE to be able to run them. Nobody was going to buy overpriced and outdated Apple products, or use linux, because it was absolutely awful back then.

    Were you in the industry? Because you sure dont seem to understand even the basics about what was available at the time or how it worked.

    [–] TIL Bill Gates accidentally got into philanthropy after he and his wife accidentally came across extremely impoverished people while they were sight seeing. He now says philanthropy is the "best job in the world." PM_me_Venn_diagrams 17 points ago * (lasted edited 9 days ago) in todayilearned

    Well, nobody has been able to back up any of these claims, they just keep changing the subject and repeating the same thing about internet explorer.

    Microsoft wasnt anti competitive, their competition was completely incompetent. Anybody who used anything besides a PC back in the 90s knew how absolutely awful everything else was. Apple had fired Jobs and basically fallen apart, and Linux was almost unusable except for servers.

    I was a HUGE computer nerd back in the 90s and even if someone wanted something besides a PC, it wasnt going to happen because the competitors were absolute crap.

    Steve Jobs even did a hostile takeover to get Apple back because the management was completely and totally incompetent. Microsoft even made a huge investment to keep them alive, because they were going to become a monopoly by default and get torn apart if their idiotic competition didnt survive. Microsoft literally had to help their own competition because they were so completely inept.

    Only after Jobs came back and Apple came out with the iMac was there a company capable of competing against PCs, because everyone else was just absolute complete garbage compared to either of them.