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    [–] Research shows trans and non-binary people significantly more likely to have autism or display autistic traits than the wider population. Findings suggest that gender identity clinics should screen patients for autism spectrum disorders and adapt their consultation process and therapy accordingly. Skylord_a52 2 points ago in science

    Hey, it being bothersome is all that's required. You don't have to be suicidal or have "crippling" dysphoria to be trans. All you need is to believe that you'd be happier with a different body. Hell, some people don't consider themselves to have dysphoria at all, they're just way happier after transition, focusing on the positive aspects of how they changed instead of the negative ones of how they were.

    In the end of course the decision is up to you. You might decide you don't want hormones or top surgery (chest lump removal) or changed pronouns, or maybe you only get some of them and not all. Whatever you decide to do is totally valid, it's your body. But I'd really discourage you from worrying about whether you're "trans enough" or not, because from my experience the improvement going from living as assigned to living as identified has been bigger than I could have ever possibly imagined beforehand. I didn't realize just how heavy the weight of dysphoria was until it started to be removed.

    I'd really suggest finding a trans-friendly therapist to talk this over with, that helped me a lot.

    Oh, also! If you're uncomfortable with how your chest looks, there are these things called binders that can really flatten things out! I'd suggest asking on /r/FtM for recommendations for where to find one -- using cheap or poorly fitting binders can be really unsafe, and I don't want to recommend anything I don't know details on.

    [–] My instruments /sound/ quiet, but /aren't/ Skylord_a52 1 points ago in WeAreTheMusicMakers

    If anything it's likely the opposite -- that there's not enough of a "hit" for the ears to grab onto, but too much sustain that's there but tuned out by the ears.

    [–] How’d you guys learn this stuff? Skylord_a52 1 points ago in jazztheory

    A lot of my knowledge was from watching YouTube, especially analysis channels like 12Tone and 8-Bit music theory -- there can be a lot of high-level stuff in some of those videos, and as you learn more you'll start to pick up on more and more and understand things that went over your head the first time.

    However, nothing can compare to having a teacher. They can explain how songs work as soon as you ask, rather than waiting for a relevant video, and they'll often bring up stuff you would have never thought of.

    [–] Tinder as a male in a college town [OC] [19M] Skylord_a52 1 points ago in dataisbeautiful

    W... What do those men think they're going to accomplish? That somehow they've pulled off some sort of clever trick, and the moment we see them amongst a bunch of obviously inferior women that we'll instantly fall for them? God that pisses me off.

    [–] Tinder as a male in a college town [OC] [19M] Skylord_a52 1 points ago * (lasted edited a month ago) in dataisbeautiful

    Some people just aren't comfortable dating cis people, especially if they're early in transition, and want somebody who shares their experience. I know I'm definitely more comfortable dating another trans person, and that would be 10x the case if I was into men instead of women.

    Edit: But yeah, I suppose chasers could definitely exploit that.

    [–] The true end of the Yogscast Skylord_a52 2 points ago in Yogscast

    God I can't believe that was two years ago already

    [–] Tinder as a male in a college town [OC] [19M] Skylord_a52 40 points ago in dataisbeautiful

    Is it? I've heard horrible stories about almost all dating apps showing you straight/cis people even when you specifically set them not to.

    [–] Tinder as a male in a college town [OC] [19M] Skylord_a52 186 points ago in dataisbeautiful

    One's drowning, the other's dying of thirst. Neither can get a fucking date.

    [–] Research shows trans and non-binary people significantly more likely to have autism or display autistic traits than the wider population. Findings suggest that gender identity clinics should screen patients for autism spectrum disorders and adapt their consultation process and therapy accordingly. Skylord_a52 14 points ago * (lasted edited a month ago) in science

    That's kind of a personal question, but hmm... Kind of like... just always being envious of women (lesbians and androgynous women in particular) and having a few things pointed out to me that made me realize what I was feeling and how strong and unusual it was.

    After that, the more experimentation I did the more I realized how depressed/disgusted/disconnected my body made me. I never realized how much I disliked my body hair until I started shaving my legs, for example.

    Edit:

    Although my description of how I found out about my dysphoria does kind of match up with alexithymia (not noticing until it's really bad, basically), I would emphasize that being unaware or in denial for a long is a pretty common thing among trans people, even those w/o ASD/alexithymia. The possibility that you might be trans is terrifying but also statistically low, so it's common to deliberately avoid thinking about it or to just not consider it. Also, a common coping mechanism for the constant discomfort dysphoria causes is to disassociate from your body and sort of live only in your head, avoiding the problem, which (by intention) makes it hard to notice what you might be feeling.

    [–] Research shows trans and non-binary people significantly more likely to have autism or display autistic traits than the wider population. Findings suggest that gender identity clinics should screen patients for autism spectrum disorders and adapt their consultation process and therapy accordingly. Skylord_a52 26 points ago in science

    Ehhh....

    /u/Kaywin already did a pretty good explanation, but I'm gonna pitch in my own two cents. I regularly ignore eating and drinking until I'm dizzy and absolutely can't ignore it anymore. I don't often realize part of me is getting angry until my voice comes out funny, and then all of a sudden I realize I'm not nearly as calm as I thought.

    That's what alexithymia is like, for me at least. It's like ignoring your own feelings for a moment, and then not being able to stop. It's false negatives, not false positives. It's not like we're all indecisive or confused and can't understand our own desires, just that we should maybe learn to take breaks more often.

    Honestly if anything, alexithymia made it harder to notice my dysphoria, not easier for me to come up with identities that didn't fit.

    [–] What’s something that you like, but hate the fan base? Skylord_a52 10 points ago in AskReddit

    It's funny how the comic started getting way worse around the same time as the fanbase got better.

    [–] Mexico’s El Chapo sentenced to life in prison Skylord_a52 6 points ago in news

    Because we don't want to murder people? If we did, we wouldn't be throwing milkshakes and eggs, we would be throwing molotovs and grenades.

    [–] Why are four-chord songs so popular? Skylord_a52 7 points ago in musictheory

    Why shouldn't they be popular? Just because something's not harmonically complex doesn't mean it can't be enjoyable or have other good features. They're admittedly not my favorite, but if people like them for their lyrics, melody, arrangement, whatever, more power to 'em.

    [–] Illinois Governor Pritzker signs executive order to protect transgender students Skylord_a52 6 points ago in news

    I shouldn't even bother responding to this but,

    The only way this can make sense is if you alter science, so they'll work on that as well.

    You do know that the scientific community is already greatly supportive of the trans community, right? Studies have even shown behavior similar to what we would consider being transgender in ancient peoples, primitive tribes, and nonhuman animals. Further studies even point to trans people's brains being structured more closely to their identified gender than their birth gender.

    I can provide citations if you want, but I doubt you'll actually listen to the "science" and "reason" you pretend to place so much value on.

    [–] Antifa attack conservative blogger Andy Ngo amid violence at Portland Proud Boys protest Skylord_a52 12 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago) in news

    Far right: Shoots up dozens of innocent civilians multiple times a year

    "..."

    Antifa: Punches a single person, around once a year

    "Oh my god, the political violence on both sides is reprehensible, this kind of polarization is what's wrong with our politics, why are people okay with this kind of violence?!"

    [–] Antifa attack conservative blogger Andy Ngo amid violence at Portland Proud Boys protest Skylord_a52 4 points ago in news

    Oh my god, if you think the police was ever a tool for impartial suppression of violence, boy do I have news for you.

    [–] So cochlea are kind of performing Fourier transforms on the sounds we hear. Skylord_a52 3 points ago in math

    Could it be possible that tinnitus is actually a wide variety of different diseases with different causes, that just happen to have reasonably similar symptoms?