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    [–] Water style Squirrel_force 1 points ago in funny

    Its THAT jutsu!!

    [–] Is blocking them on social media petty? Squirrel_force 2 points ago in ExNoContact

    No. If you are doing it for your own mental health, its 100% alright to do so. If it makes you feel better, you can send her a brief message that you're blocking her beforehand.

    [–] My parents don't see me as equal to my siblings. Squirrel_force 1 points ago in TrueOffMyChest

    R/raisedbynarcissists is a good subreddit you might relate to even if your parents aren't necessarily narcissists.

    And your parents are assholes. Don't listen to their bullshit

    [–] Weekly Therapy Talk Thread Squirrel_force 1 points ago in TalkTherapy

    I hope I didn't come across as insensitive and I apologize if I did. I admit I don't know anything about your situation or what you are going through beyond these comments.

    I honestly don't like CBT much either. I feel like it can be condescending and patronizing.

    I don't know if you've tried it or heard of it, but something that's helped me is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that might be worth looking up. It does seem a bit like a "power through" approach but it caused me not to take my thoughts as seriously as I once did.

    [–] Weekly Therapy Talk Thread Squirrel_force 1 points ago in TalkTherapy

    The trick is not just doing little things, but breaking those big things down into little things. For example, finding a job is a massive task and just thinking about it can be overwhelming. But breaking it down can make it easier. Maybe you need to make a resume, do a job search and prepare yourself for interviews. You break down those tasks as well. To make a resume, you might need to look up a template, make a list of your experiences and write the resume itself.

    Breaking tasks down into small manageable bits can make overwhelming tasks more doable. Its not an easy thing to do. But its definitely possible. And as you keep doing it, it gradually starts getting easier.

    To answer your question, I am not suggesting you don't move on to the bigger things. I am suggesting you do small things because they will give you momentum that you can carry on to the bigger things. I heard somewhere that "Actions create emotions" and I think its at least somewhat true. Once you start, it gets a little easier.

    I hope that helps and I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time right now.

    [–] Weekly Therapy Talk Thread Squirrel_force 1 points ago in TalkTherapy

    Try taking things one at a time. Maybe do small things like making your bed to start with and then move on to bigger things.

    You're going through a hard time, be compassionate with yourself.

    [–] 15f and want to start a small business Squirrel_force 1 points ago in smallbusiness

    School is overrated to be honest. Don't worry about school too much, it doesn't matter as much as many people say it does.

    [–] Why you don't need confidence Squirrel_force 5 points ago in confidence

    If you try to be a fake person in a relationship, its most likely going to fail, I agree with you on that.

    However, I don't think what I am suggesting is necessarily "faking it until you make it". If you are taking actions consistent with your goals and values despite how you feel, I think its the opposite of faking it. You aren't your feelings.

    For example, when you go to the gym and lift weights despite the pain of it, you aren't faking lifting weights. You actually are lifting weights.

    Lastly, I think you are also overestimating how much people care about small things like someone's voice quivering or lack of eye contact.

    [–] Why you don't need confidence Squirrel_force 13 points ago in confidence

    Yes, but I wasn't making the argument that confidence is not useful. I was making the argument that you don't need it to take any sort of action.

    [–] Job that would consist of heights? Squirrel_force 1 points ago in findapath

    Maybe zipline parks near your place?

    [–] 46 Yrs Old, about to be homeless and suffering from COPD. Squirrel_force 1 points ago in findapath

    You missed the point of what I said. Telling someone not to feel a certain way is highly inaffective.

    [–] 46 Yrs Old, about to be homeless and suffering from COPD. Squirrel_force 6 points ago in findapath

    Sure, but imagine telling someone face to face with a bear to "just don't be scared!" its the same as telling a depressed person to stop being depressed.

    Its a poor response and lacks any empathy or compassion for the person.