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    [–] This ice bubble Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in oddlysatisfying

    cold snow bahaha

    [–] It's a sad day... my HG gel is being discontinued. I need suggestions for new ones to try! Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in curlyhair

    I'm not quite sure honestly, since they're very different textures. I do use the smoothie, but it also works really well in my hair... If I had to i guess I'd classify it as a thicker gel (the only other gel I use is deva ultra defining gel and the shea moisture gel seems thicker to me, but that could just be because it's stickier?) Sorry I don't have a better answer!

    [–] Very thick hair: Noob question Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in curlyhair

    Your hair sounds similar to mine. If you plan to wear it natural, I highly recommend getting a devacut so the curls will lay well when dry and curly. Layers make a huge (and great) difference when done well, but it has been my experience that 99% of the time when I've had my hair cut by a non-curl specialist, I've not like how it looks naturally curly.

    [–] It's a sad day... my HG gel is being discontinued. I need suggestions for new ones to try! Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in curlyhair

    The shea moisture coconut and hibiscus curling gel souffle is super sticky and crunchy. I usually see it at Walgreens, cvs, target, walmart, and various grocery stores.

    [–] Silicone/Sulfate free AND cruelty free??? Thinker_Belle 3 points ago in curlyhair

    If youre in the states, Trader Joe's tea tree tingle conditioner and lots of shea moisture products. The shea moisture products are on sale at Walgreens pretty frequently and are at some dollar stores.

    [–] Advice on cowashing? Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in curlyhair

    The advice here so far is good. I'd also add to keep in mind to use the pads of your fingers and not the nails when you rub the conditioner on your scalp. Some people also use more than one conditioner- for example, one for cowashing and one (usually a thicker one) on the mids to ends of hair after cowashing.

    [–] Names similar to Katherine or Lauren? Thinker_Belle 3 points ago in namenerds

    Lorelei is one of my favorites. There are some interesting origin stories about the name (though I couldn't tell you what's accurate or not) and a lot have to do with nature :)

    [–] Fiance [M39] of 5 years tells me [F36] that hurting animals is "normal" for boys. Thinker_Belle 25 points ago in relationships

    No. Not all boys hurt abuse or kill animals. My brother in law is an avid hunter and says the worst part of hunting is killing an animal, and would never try to hurt them- makes the kill as quickly and painlessly as possible as he says. I work with teenagers and a past of harming animals is always a big red flag. It is always a sign to look for at least serious behavioral and emotional issues and often this is tied to violence. Nip this in the bud now. Honestly I recommend talking to a counselor who specializes in working with adolescents in case there is something else going on here too (and also to help stop the animal abuse... that's sad and scary by itself). Good luck to you and your family!

    [–] Is this a Yoga brand? Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in yoga

    Great! You're welcome :)

    [–] Is this a Yoga brand? Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in yoga

    I think this is Vogo Athletics. I have a pair of their yoga leggings from Marshall's or TJ Maxx and they're also sold on Amazon. I haven't been able to find a brand website or any information on the brand though.

    [–] Need advice!! Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in curlyhair

    Hi! My hubby has curly hair and I may have some helpful suggestions.

    Wash hair only when needed (only when it's greasy, really. This could be anywhere from every other day to once a week for most people, but shouldn't be daily. Too harsh on curls).

    When washing, use shampoo and conditioner or just conditioner. But always use conditioner. We use suave essentials.

    Leave some conditioner in the hair when rinsing. Try to avoid touching it a ton while it's drying. Done! He can use a curl cream or gel if he wants, but not necessary if he wants to be as low maintenance as possible.

    Also in the mornings my hubby uses a spray bottle mix I have for our hair which is pretty much 1 part conditioner to 5 or 6 parts water. This revitalizes the curls so we don't have to completely style our hair every morning :) just spray and maybe mix it into the hair lightly with your fingers and that's it.

    [–] My [37M] mom’s new husband [71M] made a sexual advance on my wife [34F] Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in relationships

    Commenting because I haven't seen this in another comment (could have just missed it). If you and your wife haven't already, you should ask your daughter if John has had any inappropriate interactions with her already. Just to be safe. Best of luck to your family in dealing with this.

    [–] Fruit bats Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in gifs

    4th bat is eagle pose goals.

    [–] What's your "I don't know what ____ is and at this point I'm to afraid to ask?" Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in AskReddit

    My dad and I both had this experience as children with the [US] pledge of allegiance, with different parts of it.

    Dad-

    What it really was: "and to the Republic, for which it stands"

    What he thought it was:"and to the Republic, for Richard Stands"

    He thought Richard Stands was this really important man who had his own line in the pledge and was afraid to ask because he thought he should just know about him.

    Me-

    What it really was: "one nation under God, indivisible"

    What I thought it was: "one nation under God, invisible"

    I went to a private Christian school and was afraid to ask them how God could see us if we were invisible.

    [–] Yoga Studies M.A. program for furthering career in yoga? Thinker_Belle 1 points ago in yoga

    Just a note on yoga therapy. Yoga alliance is voicing their opinion on that topic now. They released a statement pretty recently saying they currently don't want people using that term and only view it as appropriate to use the term "therapy" if the teacher is otherwise certified in a type of therapy (i.e., a social worker, mental health counselor, physical therapist etc).

    If you look up the statements on their website they obviously explain this better than I am lol

    My point though is that if you'd like to pursue something where you can use yoga and are interested in social work, the two work great together. There's a lot of overlap depending on how you choose to apply the study of yoga to your practice as a social worker.

    I work in mental health and am a yoga teacher. Just wanted to give another perspective for you to consider :)

    [–] Me [46F] with my husband [48M] disagree on how to deal with son's [M24] relationship Thinker_Belle 16 points ago in relationships

    Allowing your son's SO around your home, knowing his behaviors, is sending the message "I'm okay with this, and okay with my son dating a person who behaves this way." This is one of those situations where you need to lead by example and show your son what healthy boundaries look like.

    You can explain to your son that you're not okay with someone disrespecting you being around you, your home, and your family. You can also tell your son that you can't allow yourself to be around his abuser because you're his mom and you love him and only want people around who treat your son well.

    You can't stop him from dating him, and you can't force your son to have a certain reaction, but you can show your son through your actions how to enforce healthy boundaries and hope he learns from you.

    There is a group called CoDA, which stands for codependents anonymous. It's a support group for people who are in codependent relationships. Maybe you and your son could attend a couple meetings together to check it out and get some support from others who have been there. (Don't bring the son's SO if you go). I hope your son is able to gain the strength and confidence to leave his abusive partner.

    [–] My [24M] friend [24M] offered to help me lose weight since he's lost over 150 pounds and we had a bit of a disagreement today (the first day we met at the gym. Wondering if I was wrong and should apologize. Thinker_Belle -1 points ago in relationships

    It sounds like he unintentionally brought up a sensitive issue for you. You know you've been making excuses to not work out (slacking off, in a way), and he basically said there's a possibility for you to slack off by not pushing yourself.

    I doubt he meant it to come across the way you understood it. It sounds more like he was saying that your workout is your responsibility, it can go in two directions, and you choose which way it goes, and that he will trust you to do what you need to do. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt here and go get your workout on. Don't let this be another excuse to not work out.

    [–] My [26F] husband [27M] enjoys lifting his weights and building muscle. We bought our son [2M] toy weights so he can do it with dad and my mother [65F] is telling me we're destroying his confidence. Thinker_Belle 8 points ago in relationships

    If anything in this situation could cause your two year old to lose any confidence, it would probably be hearing your mom say he isn't "getting results" like his father because that will make him think about what his body looks like instead of just enjoying the activity and bonding time.

    [–] Any tips to get my husky to stop biting? He's still a teething puppy but, I want to at least work with him to let him know it's not okay to bite me or anyone else! Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in husky

    Tell him "no" or "uh-uh" or "ow" (we used "ow" haha partially just because it hurts) and stop playtime. Once your dog realizes after you've done this for a bit that this isn't okay and that he's hurting you (I swear mine knows this now) he'll probably come over and try to apologize when he does it (licking, being cuddly, etc).

    If he doesn't stop biting when you've said "ow" or whatever word/noise you choose and stopped playing, maybe try putting him in timeout (not in the crate though if you use one, that should be a safe space. Like a bathroom or somewhere he'll do minimal damage).

    Mine used to bite but now knows better and looks like she feels so bad when she does it accidentally when we're playing. He'll get better about it with consistency :)

    [–] My dad is super proud of this picture and says it's the best one he has ever taken. The Königssee in Berchtesgaden, Germany. [640 x 480] Thinker_Belle 2 points ago in EarthPorn

    Went to breakfast with my dad this morning and he was pleasantly surprised that so many people took time out of their day to look at his picture. Thanks for making my dad happy, Reddit! Your nice comments and stories were great, and even though I didn't respond to everyone I did read all your comments. My husband and I relayed the nice ones to my dad.

    I just wanted to share a cool picture my dad showed me that he took on his phone and sent me in a text message, and thought it would make some other people happy too because a- it is pretty, b- my dad was proud of it and for those of us that think it's nice when our dads are proud of themselves for things such as this I thought it would be a nice thing to read (also he is the one who took it afterall and I thought that was a nicer way to credit him than to say "Location- My Dad" lol). I didn't expect it to get the attention it did, but that's cool. I hope the picture brought some extra brightness to your day.

    Have a good day everyone!