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    [–] BF moving away and gave me ultimatum to either move to or end it WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    'Leave' like move with him? Because I think that is a huge leap to take (young relationship/new city/no job/no friends/just out of divorce).

    I wouldn't do it, but go with your gut. I'm from TX too - crappy little town called Beaumont. I went to UT Austin tho - Austin's a blast.

    Good luck!

    ETA PS: I don't believe in that 'meant to be' business. Relationships don't just happen and/or fall in your lap. They take effort and maturity and timing. Shrug. Just me tho!

    [–] Website text and making my own marketing materials WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in legaladvice

    Don't do it. Your competitor paid a writer to do that work, and they own it. Write your own copy or better yet hire a professional writer.

    [–] BF moving away and gave me ultimatum to either move to or end it WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    Sure - I mean, if it would be more painful then obviously end it now. As my comment says, "Myself, I'd have as much fun possible...." That's what I would do because I'd want to make the most of the time left. For others, a break up immediately would be better. Both are fine, just depends on what works for OP.

    [–] BF moving away and gave me ultimatum to either move to or end it WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    Well, you don't want to move (and it's way too early to do that even if you wanted to) so....

    You could try talking to him about LDR again, but you'll have to sort out a lot to make that feasible.

    For example, what are his objections? Is Baltimore like eight hours away? Is this a permanent transfer or temporary? Does he not like texting/emailing you, only in person? Or is it more personal like, he doesn't trust himself to be faithful, or he wants you to go in part because he doesn't want to be alone? Of course, he's not OBLIGATED to parse all this out, but it's worth discussing.

    What are you willing to do to make a LDR work? If you've never tried it, it's hard for the best of relationships AND relationships that are years strong.

    I dunno Dude, you've only been dating a few months and that's still Very Honeymoon Phase. I'm surprised he suggested you move too, that's a big ask.

    Myself, I'd have as much fun as possible for the next four weeks and then say Thanks and Have a Happy Life.

    Good luck.

    [–] My girlfriend won’t get on birth control WildlifePolicyChick 109 points ago in relationship_advice

    HELL NO. USE CONDOMS YOU IDIOT.

    And if she doesn't let you, DUMP HER.

    [–] AITA for wanting to get rid of our cat? WildlifePolicyChick 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NAH. You need to figure out why the cat is scared/defensive/attacking. Does your son know how to interact with the cat? Does your kid 'play' with the cat with his hands or feet? Because that will teach the cat that hands and feet are toys to be attacked and play-bitten. Have you TAUGHT him how to handle cats and recognize when the cat doesn't want to be bothered? Because I seriously doubt that the cat is lying in wait, attacking your kid unprovoked.

    Do you trim his nails? Does he have scratching posts? Does he have a 'safe' area of the house?

    Cats are going to be cats, and it is up to you guys to be responsible pet owners.

    [–] I m(18) am currently struggling with my new girlfriend f(18) due to college quickly approaching WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    You can't make someone stay in a relationship because you think you have a better argument.

    She broke up with you. You don't have to drop her - you've been dropped. No you do not fight for her. It's over.

    Wish her well and enjoy these last months of skating through life before college.

    [–] What happens when you abandon a car in CA? WildlifePolicyChick 5 points ago in legaladvice

    If it was abandoned on a city street, it was towed. If the city could not find you, it was sold at auction.

    [–] Question with the law WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in legaladvice

    Of course! And as a dealer, you are more likely to be prosecuted than the buyer.

    I'd suggest pursuing another line of work.

    [–] Is it legal to tell a cop that i may or may not have commited a crime WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in legaladvice

    Sure it's legal. It's also very foolish - I mean, unless you WANT to be under suspicion by law enforcement.

    [–] My ex girlfriend(27F) and I (28M) have a rocky, abusive past but keep coming back to each other. WildlifePolicyChick 3 points ago in relationship_advice

    You have two kids and a third on the way. GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER.

    Stop fucking around and making babies with someone who is verbally and sometimes physically abusive and there is no trust between you.

    Learn how to coparent, keep your dick to yourself, and stop fucking up your life AND YOUR KID'S LIVES.

    [–] Final gift suggestions? WildlifePolicyChick 3 points ago in relationship_advice

    You could possibly get her a card and write something thoughtful, like her friendship means a lot to you and she was part of your great experience at college, wish the very best of luck, etc. But don't get her a gift.

    Besides all the other reasons folks are listing as to why, I'll add one more:

    If you do not know her well enough to figure out on your own what would make a thoughtful, touching gift, then you should not give her one.

    Good luck with your post-college life!

    [–] Suing someone for diffamation is straightfoward in France, why does it seem to be the opposite in the UK? WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in legaladvice

    In general, a defamation suit has to show that the defamed person had actual damages in direct result of the defaming statements (other things too but that's the upshot).

    Defendant said X -> Boss fires Plaintiff, stating, "I am firing you because I heard X about you" = Plaintiff has lost wages/job because Defendant said X.

    You said you ALMOST lost your job. But you didn't. You didn't lose anything because of the statements.

    That's roughly how it works in the US.

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 27 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I'm pointing out, you thick-headed scratched record, that there are reasons why the laws are written as they are and one reason is in part because how difficult international sex crimes are to prosecute.

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 38 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    i'm just surprised that she got mad about that

    Yeah - cutting out a girl's clit is essentially the same as taking a fairly unnecessary flap of skin off a boy's penis. Can't believe she got so steamed!

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 20 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    No one has answered because THAT IS NOT THE QUESTION PRESENTED BY OP.

    If you want to understand why pinpricks are banned, LOOK IT UP. Start with, International Crime/Women/Sex Crimes Against/Enforcement/DIFFICULTY OF (emphasis mine).

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 14 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    You've posted this comment elsewhere. 'It's fair to object to this double standard.' The OP is not objecting to a double standard; he's simplifying the issue without weighing the effects.

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 12 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    You've posted this comment elsewhere. 'It's fair to object to this double standard.' The OP is not objecting to a double standard; he's simplifying the issue without weighing the effects.

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 59 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    You've posted this comment elsewhere. 'It's fair to object to this double standard.' The OP is not objecting to a double standard; he's simplifying the issue without weighing the effects.

    [–] AITA for telling my GF that male genital mutilation, Circumcision, is esually as bad as female genital mutilation WildlifePolicyChick 17 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA.

    I really don't know about the subject that much

    Um yeah, there you go right there. You do understand the FGM involves cutting away the labia and excising the clitoris, right? So....basically the girl is made to be just a scarred hole? And the point is to deprive women from having any sexual pleasure?

    Meanwhile circumcision is the removal of a flap of skin that has no effect on the function or sexual pleasure of the man?

    You may have a point that they are both morally wrong, but to double down and call HER a hypocrite because she insisted FGM was by far worse than circumcision?

    You were both right, but you chose not to acknowledge how egregious FGM is because you wanted to be more right than her.

    Hmm. Men insisting what they think is right, is what is de facto right.

    [–] [NC] Someone I know gave my personal information to military recruiters without my consent. WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in legaladvice

    Not illegal; also not 'personal' information. Sorry.

    You could always put him on some really embarrassing mailing lists for questionable mail order catalogs. Which is also not illegal.

    [–] My(19M) girlfriend (19F) smiled and hesitated after I asked her something about our sex life WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    DUDE. You need to work on your foreplay and if she's never had an orgasm (after a year?!?!?), then, uh, No. You're not satisfying her.

    You and her need to concentrate on HER. Put your orgasms on the back burner for a while.

    Do you know WHY sex is painful for her? Because it's not supposed to be. Are you getting her wet enough? Are you using lube?

    You do not know what she likes, and she does not know what she likes, or is not telling you, IF SHE HASN'T HAD AN ORGASM.