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    [–] AITA for letting someone attend our dad's funeral against my sisters' wishes? WildlifePolicyChick 6 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. For your own sanity I'd no longer discuss it. Use a script like, "The funeral services are set and I'm not going to police who gets to mourn dad's death. So the subject is closed."

    As others have mentioned, funerals/services/burials are usually open to the public and date/times are published in the paper and online (at least in most of the States).

    Whoever attends, it will be fine. You worry about your grief and recovery and everyone else can handle theirs.

    [–] AITA for not letting people wear clothes in my bed? WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA at all. It's a reasonable rule and your BF is kinda being a dick about it. Calling you 'crazy' is out of line - what is he, 13?

    [–] My (33 F) husband (44 M) does not want me to reply to the letter I received from the boy I gave up for adoption when I was 13. WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    I don't think there is a 'right' or 'wrong' decision here; but it is most definitely YOUR decision, not your husband's.

    He's said his piece and you can weigh it as you see fit. Other commenters have suggested talking to a therapist for some professional perspective, and that is an excellent idea.

    Take it slow. Think about what you would like to see come of being in contact, and be honest with yourself about how realistic that outcome is. I think once you've done some emotional homework you'll be ready to act on YOUR decision.

    Good luck OP and cheers to you for making it through such a horrific event as a child.

    [–] WIBTAH if I legally forced my parents to buy me a car? WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA.

    As a lawyer I can tell you that minors cannot enter into contracts, so that right there tells me your parents are TAs.

    Get a lawyer and sue for your share of the proceeds of the sale and ask for attorneys' fees while you are at it - I'm confident the judge would grant fees due to the simple fact that you HAD TO SUE YOUR IDIOT PARENTS.

    Good luck OP.

    [–] I [22M] broke up with my girlfriend [22F] because she went out drinking in an unsafe situation. I'm feeling guilty about doing this. Was I justified? WildlifePolicyChick 11 points ago in relationship_advice

    she met some friends / bunch of people she didn't know.

    Which is it? Also, your discomfort is not her responsibility. Also, she is a grown woman. Also, how strange is this city? Unless she doesn't speak the language of the city, she's probably fine.

    You're being controlling, mate.

    [–] How long is too long to be with a Fwb WildlifePolicyChick 6 points ago in relationship_advice

    It is too long to be with a FWB when one of you no longer wants to be FWB but hasn't had the heart/strength/integrity to change the relationship.

    That's probably the only rule on FWBs.

    [–] My sister only talks about dark world views, don’t know how to handle it. WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    Okay well in that case, it's going to be on you to set the boundaries and ENFORCE them. Have that last conversation. Then, when it inevitably comes up again, you tell her: "Hey we talked about this, I can't handle X subject. Hey did you read about [SUBJECT CHANGE]?" or "Yeah, let's not go down that road again! Did I tell you that [SUBJECT CHANGE]?" or whatever language suits you.

    If she does not follow those direct cues, you move on to: "I'm serious about not discussing this. Tell you what, let's talk later" and then hang up/turn the phone off/walk out. She needs to start really understanding that, if she wants your company, she cannot go on about these subjects. It is either your company or the death liturgy; but not both. However you have to REALLY maintain this boundary. Otherwise she will continue to drain you of all your life force.

    Good luck.

    [–] NSFW what do I do when my gf is sucking me off WildlifePolicyChick 0 points ago in WhatDoISayNow

    Make some noise, pet her hair, stroke her, tell her how good it feels.

    She's being really good to you, show her you appreciate it. "I don't want to do nothing' is kind of lame, dude.

    [–] gf(24f) wants me(26m) to visit her 2 weeks out from an extremely board exam. WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    You GF should be supporting you during this time, not berating you for

    A. blowing off some steam or

    B. recognizing a 10 hour RT is not feasible.

    If I were you, I'd tell her, "School comes first. I'll see you after the exam."

    [–] My (21F) friend (21F) uses forever to answer my texts WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    she says she is like that with everyone

    You have your answer right here, She TOLD you it is not personal. Therefore, do not take it personally.

    There are so, SO many other things to get worked up about. This is not one of them.

    She does not text. Texts sit on her phone. Trust her when she says it has nothing to do with you.

    [–] WIBTA If I Told A Friend I Don't Want To Hang Out With Him Anymore WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Nope, NTA. You can end any relationship for any reason (it's a break up, not a court of law).

    Sounds like you're done with this dude. I'd walk away.

    [–] My girlfriend never wants to spend time with me. Should I break up? WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    Talk to her about it directly. Tell her how you feel; ask her if she's not into it anymore and if so that's cool, just tell me!

    Dating is all about trying on other people to see if they fit. Maybe you fitted each other for a short time, but now maybe it looks like you really don't fit. You didn't do anything wrong, and it doesn't matter why. It just is. That's how dating often goes.

    If she is still squirrelly about it even after talking, put it in her court. I'd tell her, "Listen, I've asked you about getting together and the last X times you've been busy. So I'm going to leave it with you. If you want to get together, YOU can ask ME."

    And assume it's over and carry on. If she gets in touch, great! If she doesn't, oh well!

    [–] Video Game/Anime English VA is tired of CBs WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in ChoosingBeggars

    This is so brilliant I'm a little bitter I didn't think of it myself.

    [–] My sister only talks about dark world views, don’t know how to handle it. WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    I think your sister needs professional help, that is above your pay grade (along with us simple Redditors).

    I guess you could try to have one more conversation with her. One that begins when you have NOT been having a doomsday conversation beforehand.

    "Sister, I am concerned with all this dark talk. It's constant, and I can't keep having these conversations with you. These talks about [specific subjects] make me feel X. I want us to stay close, but these subjects are going to have to be off the table from now on. Can you do that?" Or whatever your words would be.

    And when you say this (clearly, directly, kindly) LISTEN to her responses.

    [–] I'm being threatened financially and scared. WildlifePolicyChick 2 points ago in legaladvice

    What legal action is he actually threatening you with? I only got through some of the texts - just TELL US what the issue is, please!

    [–] I'm virgin at age 21 WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    There is no 'necessary' time to start having sex. And virginity is a hyped-up nonissue. One day you have not had sex; the next day you have had sex. It is seriously not that big of a deal and that 'moment' when you become a non-virgin (hurl) will not mean jack shit in the long scheme of life.

    AND your sex life (being a virgin/not being a virgin) is nobody's business. Your friends are being immature clowns. Ignore them.

    Have sex when you and your (future) partner are ready and willing.

    [–] I [22M] think I found the possible problem about my erection problem. I'm afraid I'm gonna lose her [23F]. WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    This is not an uncommon problem, it happens to a lot of guys!

    First, it is a good idea to cut out the alcohol for a while. See how you go. If you are still experiencing issues, go to your doctor.

    I'm assuming your GF knows you're having ED problems, so I'd suggest you tell her all you've said here: That you are cutting out the alcohol to see if it helps, and if not you'll go to the doctor for a check up. There is no legitimate reason in the world for your GF to break up with you for trying to solve this issue! On the contrary, a lot of guys try to ignore it or see getting help as some kind of sign of weakness, when it's not!

    Meanwhile, don't worry too much about it (that can be a self-fulfilling prophecy).

    You'll be fine.

    [–] WIBTA if I refused to travel with my sister because of her dietary restrictions? WildlifePolicyChick 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Nope - NTA. This is your trip! You are not about to spend time and money on a dream trip with a travel partner you are not suited to (I am a BIG solo traveller and I will not allow this on your behalf!)

    She invited herself (rude) and your parents pushed (also rude/none of their business!).

    Just be honest, straightforward, and kind. Good Luck!