apathetichearts

Please don’t just wait for a therapist. Get your butt to a 12 step meeting and work the steps with a sponsor you trust. And that can even be a woman btw, I’m a female who has sponsored a gay man because he had had a bad experience with a male sponsor and felt more comfortable with me. I’m in recovery from opioids and if you just detox and think that’s enough it won’t be. Look into post acute withdrawal syndrome and work a recovery program please, I want to see you beat this. Look into young peoples meetings in your area.

That’s your opinion. Beauty is subjective. What everyone seems to be missing is that that wasn’t the point of my comment, I was responding to someone saying she looks shitty outside of pictures and that’s not even true she looks fine on video too.

She does. Doesn’t mean she looks worse on camera than she does in pictures.

Honestly, at home skincare IS what makes the difference. There’s no substitute for regular use of proven ingredients like retinoids, AHAs, BHA for clogged skin, Vitamin C, peptides, antioxidants and other skin identical ingredients, and hydration. Dermatologists don’t even recommend most facials are extractions as it often irritates the skin, causes errythma, or results in hyperpigmention. Most overpriced ingredients don’t have good research backing them and won’t help in a single dose. Now the exception would be actual treatments like peels, dermaplaning, microdermabrasion, hydrodermabrasion, microneedling, radio frequency or ultra sound for skin tightening, I injectables, and laser. These things can help target skin issues, help with anti aging, and just give your skin a boost and allow at home skincare to penetrate better. There are definitely at home peels that you can do at home safely though (for example 25% lactic acid) and you can do a less intense version of dermaplaning with the Miss Gorgeous Eye Brow Trimmers off Amazon and follow with a gentle enzyme peel like the Theraderm NuPeel. If you’re knowledgeable about your products and what ingredients in skincare will help you with your goals you can absolutely have amazing skin at home and don’t buy into ridiculous treatments. If an aesthetic dermatologist wouldn’t perform it don’t get it.

Love her or hate her, Kylie looks stunning on camera too

No hate at all because I honestly don’t care but Tati looks completely different in her check ins on her phone, like I don’t recognize her. She looks like the old Tati. I think she purposely doesn’t zoom in beciase she doesn’t want people to see she has skin texture which is unfortunate, everyone has some.

You don’t know that. OP didn’t even say they were in the US and if they are, it varies by state and the judge. He would also have to want the kids half the time. You can’t promise that.

They’re not bf/gf they’re married and presumably stopped acting like bf/gf when they got married and combined households. If things are fine and he suddenly is being a total dick and scoffing at everything she does that definitely is not her fault. Her reaction to him being a total dick is in her control definitely but his initial behavior is not.

The guy sounds like a real loser. But honestly, you’re out of line too. They’re married and share finances, if your mom is okay with working while he doesn’t then that’s between them and it’s inappropriate for you to get in the middle of that and ask your mom to choose. If you were a kid then I would say your mom has a responsibility to care for your needs and expenses first but you’re not and neither is your sister.

If the place you’re living isn’t healthy then as an adult your options are to stay and deal or leave which you did. Your sister has the same options. This is your moms husband, you don’t get to demand that she choose as lame as he is. I would take some space from them and then consider having a relationship with your mom away from him. See if you two can meet for dinner a few times a month.

Also, they’re married. It is his home too.

File for emergency custody at the court house first thing on Monday. Are you on the birth certificate? Does she have custody? Edit: Saw your comment below. Would this normally be your weekend?

Agreed. Honestly, I have self harm scars and I don’t see the issue. I would never place my employer in the uncomfortable position of asking me what they’re from or to cover them, I cover them in the workplace as I feel they would result in questions from clients and coworkers alike and be a distraction. I’m not ashamed of them in anyway and am a very different person 6 years since the day I stopped so I don’t cover them outside of work, just don’t think personal things like that should be drawing attention in the workplace. I made that choice and have to live with it. I think if their client tries to take a stand on this it could result in dismissal since Illinois is an at-will state like mine.

I’m curious to whether they’re singling them out or out of concern that it will upset customers.

Does your client come in contact with customers?

What was her reasoning for giving out her phone number? That’s odd to me. Her story sounds off to me tbh. Is it possible that she did send a picture and deleted that also?

As long as you guys have shared legal custody then you can take them for vaccinations on your time. She can complain in court but they won’t side with her. Just make sure she’s informed.

No but her boss can.

I second comments of immediately reporting this to your social worker as well as your foster mother’s alcoholism. Also I personally would adamantly deny it every single time it’s brought up and tell her if you’re put on the birth certificate that you will be calling the police and reporting a potential statutory rape and assault since apparently she slept with you while you were passed out and unable to consent plus minors can’t consent anyway.

Get out of there any way you can OP. It will only get worse. Even if you have to go to a shelter.

Lol then she shouldn’t get married. Because that’s what marriage is, money you make in the marriage is both of yours. Read my comment again, I clearly stated “spending as a family” not whatever he sees fit. It’s not “his” and “hers” when you’re married, income goes to shared expenses, shared retired, shared goals. Divorces happen so it’s good to discuss the plan if that were to happen and do premarital counseling but you marry someone you want to spend your life and you plan your finances as such. For zero effort? They’re gonna be married. If she works more then he will have more responsibilities at home. If they have kids he will be more likely to stay home. Would you tell a stay at home mom that she was a free loader and not entitled to her husbands money?

She ended a 3 year relationship 2 months ago. I don’t think it’s silly at all not to pursue this new guy if she’s not ready.

Don’t force a relationship if you’re not ready yet. It’s been what, 2 months since you broke up? Slow down, work on yourself and take some time to mourn if needed and reflect.

When he hits you up next time just say no thanks, I’m not interested anymore.

yeah OP should totally just be petty and passive aggressive instead of being direct and behaving like a mature adult... lol what?

No. You don’t need a reason to end a relationship. If you’re not feeling it, leave. Also I think it’s a little narcissistic to think you’re someone a favor by staying (not you to be clear, just in general), this seems to be a common mindset when really ending it asap is ideal so neither of you are wasting time in a relationship that won’t last and you’re not happy in.

That’s marriage. You can have separate accounts sure but both of your incomes are shared income. Why is this an issue for you, do you not trust him? It shouldn’t matter if your money is his and his yours because you’ll be spending as a family. If you don’t trust him don’t marry him.

You are letting a relationship come between your friendship though so why are you lying to yourself and him? You’re being a crappy friend to boot. Your boyfriend is being an insecure, selfish child and has made it so you can’t have both. And 90% of the time when someone is jealous and paranoid like that it’s because they’ve got a guilty conscious. He will likely cheat on you if he isn’t already. OP, demand more for yourself. Why are you settling?