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    [–] The more i meditate, the angrier i become babyboybelcher18 5 points ago in Meditation

    Anger is usually a way to numb hurt. You may be feeling hurt that the kids are not listening to you when all you're trying to do is teach them and help them grow. It may hurt you when your administration doesn't support you when you are trying to do your best and help the school succeed. This triggers shame that you're not doing your job well enough and you don't deserve to be loved and supported. Next time a kid pulls your hair take a second to observe your emotions, acknowledge that you're feeling unloved by this action and allow that emotion space to be. You may then want to take a moment to empathize with this kid, understand why this kid has a need to act out. You may even want to call someone who does support and love you and share your feelings with them (the raw feelings about feeling hurt). Basically acknowledge and accept and combat that feeling of being unloved with vulnerability and connection.

    Meditation only lasts a few min in the day but emotions are happening all the time. It is great to get perspective through meditation but you have to practice mindfulness all day in order to have that perspective seep into your life and become a habit.

    [–] Anyone often feel like they're waiting for the 'right' moment to start their life? babyboybelcher18 3 points ago in Meditation

    Yes, I often feel that way when I don't feel like I have control over my today. Like today has a lot of problems and it is overwhelming and rather than deal with it, I'd rather dream about tomorrow that is perfect and easy but also not real since I constructed it in my mind and didn't give any thought to the journey of getting there. That's when I know that there are a lot of emotions today that I need to face and become vulnerable to.

    I also found this blog post to be helpful:

    [–] He didn't do anything for my birthday. babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    I know it feels scary and painful. It is very brave of you to face these feelings in order to take care of yourself and do what's right for your wellbeing.

    [–] He didn't do anything for my birthday. babyboybelcher18 3 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    People who care about you will want to make you feel special and loved, especially on days that are important to you. It's mature of you to not have expectations but it should be a natural response from a person who loves you to want to make your day special. You should probably have a conversation about your feelings with him.

    Sorry to hear about your situation. Internet hugs.

    [–] How does observing a thought is different than just thinking ? babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in Meditation

    I think the key here is that you're "trying" and thereby have expectations of a result. Just focus on your breathing and the present moment and forget about this concept of observing your thoughts.

    As a sidenote, being in the present moment IS observing your thoughts because you are just being and not trying to influence anything that is going on.

    So just relax and breathe and enjoy your meditation.

    [–] Daily Q&A Post - No question too small! babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in loseit

    Ok, I'll start tracking my calories. The last few times I tracked my calories, I was always under and never lost weight. Do you have any recommendations for tools I can use to calculate my TDEE and track my calories? I was using fitnesspal before.

    [–] Daily Q&A Post - No question too small! babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in loseit

    I am trying to lose around 10lbs of weight I gained over the last year. I either swim 3 times a week or do cardio/weights 4-5 times a week. I eat pretty healthy, very low fat and no alcohol. I have been working out regularly for 2 months and have seen no results. In fact, I will gain weight if I go on a vacation for a couple of days. I am so frustrated. 2 years ago I wanted to lose weight, I was working out less and eating more calories but still managed to lose 5-8lbs in 2 months. Is this related to my age (in my 20s) and slowing metabolism? I also work from home so am less active during the day.

    [–] WOMEN of reddit, what NSFW female lifestyle hack can you share? babyboybelcher18 138 points ago in AskReddit

    Furthermore, you can hide other drugs inside the lining of your underwear, you know that double layer in the crotch area. This is great for concerts/music festivals. Consume said drugs in bathroom.

    [–] Question about the price ranges babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in menstrualcups

    Thanks for your response!

    So I can understand more clearly, what would make a brand a knockoff vs a respected brand? Would a cheaper cup not perform as well?

    [–] I sometimes have a strong desire for non-specific instant gratification babyboybelcher18 5 points ago in Meditation

    Yes that sounds like a good idea.

    Another way to look at it is that you may be generally feeling adrift lately and may have gotten used to those emotions/could manage them. But then after your friends ignored you at lunch, those adrift feelings came back to life and sort of got reinforced or maybe became more powerful (almost like saying see I told you you weren't good enough) causing your need to numb till you can get used to them again. Just a thought not sure if that's the case.

    [–] I sometimes have a strong desire for non-specific instant gratification babyboybelcher18 26 points ago in Meditation

    Do you feel like it may be a desire to numb? Sometimes I have emotions that I haven't obtained full self-awareness of yet. They are probably rooted in the general feeling of being unloveable. I then start looking for instant gratification to numb those emotions or "fill the hole".

    There is usually a trigger that causes these emotions and the subsequent need to numb. This trigger is very subtle maybe even unnoticeable because of my lack of self awareness.

    [–] Marilyn Monroe's grave is pink from all the lipstick of the woman who kiss it. babyboybelcher18 -2 points ago * (lasted edited 3 months ago) in mildlyinteresting

    Reminds me of the Blarney Stone in Ireland

    Edit: because it has also turned pink from ladies kissing it

    [–] [Serious] What's the reason you keep pushing along? babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in AskReddit

    It's ingrained, almost robotic. I'm not doing it on purpose.

    [–] What is something you wished you weren't judged about? babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in AskReddit

    I can be very rational sometimes and may make a comment that makes more emotional people assume I'm heartless. This type of judgement has made me very conscious about contributing to conversations.

    [–] What have you observed about people thanks to your job? babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in AskReddit

    The extent to which fear is used by the government to control. I work with a lot of former federal agents and they all have this fall in line don't question authority mentality. It's amazing to observe especially since most of these guys have traveled all over the world and/or handled serious criminals. You'd think they would step outside of the box more.

    [–] Hello, Reddit! What is your go to tip on getting motivated for a job hunt? babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in AskReddit

    I had a friend who was also unemployed and we supported each other through the process, updating each other on interviews and application statuses. If we were in the same town, we would sit together and apply for jobs/hang out. It was very helpful.