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    [–] Why didnt Mister Collins every consider Mary Bennet? babyboybelcher18 6 points ago in janeausten

    Mr. Collins is supposed to be thick and not so intelligent. He is not able to grasp such nuances in his own character or in anyone else’s. He either follows Lady Catherine’s orders because he respects and wants to please her or does what he believes he is “supposed to do” aka marry someone who is judged top notch by the rest of society.

    [–] NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Jan 01, 2018 babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in SkincareAddiction

    I recently started using tretinoin and I'm really liking it. I'm using it for sun damage/anti-aging. Should tretinoin be a part of my routine forever or for a limited amount of time (if so, how long should I use it)? Currently using 0.025 every three days. I'm already happy with the results and don't really have a target of what I want to achieve with this product.

    Second question, can I use tretinoin on other parts of my body that have severe sun damage like the tops of my feet and chest?

    And last question, is there any need to incorporate AHA into my routine while using tretinoin? Is there any additional benefit AHA can provide?

    Thanks a lot!!

    [–] NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Dec 29, 2017 babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in SkincareAddiction

    I've read a lot here about cleansing the face at one point after using AHA to ensure that all the exfoliated skin actually comes off and doesn't build up on the face. I'm currently using alpha renewal body lotion 12% in the morning after my shower and don't cleanse my body until the next morning shower. Is there a similar dead skin build up here? Should I be cleaning my body skin earlier than 24 hours to ensure that all the dead skin is being removed?

    [–] NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Sep 27, 2017 babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in SkincareAddiction

    The issue: Small bumps on forehead and other parts of face that don't have any "heads" so doesn't seem like acne..

    Skin type: dry mostly, sensitive

    Current routine: morning - cerave hydrating facial cleanser and CeraVe Facial Moisturizing Lotion AM SPF 30 night - Clinique rinse-off foaming cleanser (usually cleanse my face twice or once if using with clarisonic brush), Clinique clarifying lotion 1 and CeraVe Moisturizing Cream occasionally apply yogurt and turmeric face mask in the morning (three times a week) and wash off after 20min before moisturizing

    been doing this for a month and a half

    I recently moved to an excessively polluted city and am worried that my face is not getting clean enough especially if I apply makeup (get occasional pimples). Are these tiny bumps indicating lack of exfoliation? My skin also tends to look dull in the morning

    [–] NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in SkincareAddiction

    My friend is an athlete and consumes a lot of protein and salts which causes his skin to breakout. He also has oily skin. Since he is sweating all day, he showers maybe 3-4 times a day during which he washes his face with body wash and moisturizes with Johnson and Johnson baby moisturizer. We know that drinking a lot of water is crucial for his skin but does anyone have suggestions for his routine? He lives in a dry, hot city with above average pollution.

    [–] A couple of questions from a new cook babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in IndianFood

    Another essential cooking tool is a pressure cooker. We use a pressure cooker for quickly cooking dals, pulaos and rajma/chole. It def makes life easier by reducing cooking time.

    Also, indian food doesn't always have to be spicey, complex or rich. Some of our recipes are meant to be "light" and simple. In our house, aloo tamatar is a light recipe with a little chili, corriander powder, haldi, whole cumin, potato, tomato and fresh corriander leaves. My mother first splatters the cumin seeds in oil in the cooker and then adds the remaining ingredients with water and pressure cooks for ten minutes. You can also add peas.

    A lot of online recipes will add a lot of oil or spices but feel free to adjust the ingredients, which you can figure out after experimenting.

    [–] How do I start cooking Indian food? babyboybelcher18 3 points ago in Cooking

    To clarify, we add corriander powder and turmeric powder in the beginning as these are raw and need to be bloomed. Garam masala is already roasted and by roasting it further in oil, it may become overcooked and produce a bitter taste which is why it could be standing out more. Garam masala is already roasted and if it's fresh and of good quality, it should add a good flavor when put in the gravy at the end.

    [–] How do I start cooking Indian food? babyboybelcher18 11 points ago in Cooking

    Usually garam masala does not need to be bloomed in oil because the spices are roasted before being ground into the garam masala mix. This is the same case with sambar masala and other premade mixes. We mix in these premade masalas towards the end of the cooking process or during the simmering part.

    [–] Life becoming bland ? babyboybelcher18 21 points ago in Meditation

    With meditation, I am putting less value or receiving less enjoyment from the things that used to make me feel excited, like buying new clothes or enjoying people's company because they are giving me attention. I have started enjoying life in other ways. I'm connecting more with the world, finding beauty in nature and being touched with the way people share themselves with the world and with me. For example, I teared up when I read an article about how someone placed a Tesla statue providing free wifi. I really appreciate it when people show their love towards me, whether it's my mom cooking my favorite food or a stranger helping me at the grocery store. It's amazing what humans are capable of and how beautiful this world can be.

    I know it can be scary to experience change within yourself and it definitely plants self doubt. But try to notice, the things that are not making you excited anymore, are they things that cater to the ego? If you trust yourself and continue with these concepts, the excitement will come back but it will be for your connection with the world. It makes you feel alive and less like you're numbing.

    [–] The more i meditate, the angrier i become babyboybelcher18 6 points ago in Meditation

    Anger is usually a way to numb hurt. You may be feeling hurt that the kids are not listening to you when all you're trying to do is teach them and help them grow. It may hurt you when your administration doesn't support you when you are trying to do your best and help the school succeed. This triggers shame that you're not doing your job well enough and you don't deserve to be loved and supported. Next time a kid pulls your hair take a second to observe your emotions, acknowledge that you're feeling unloved by this action and allow that emotion space to be. You may then want to take a moment to empathize with this kid, understand why this kid has a need to act out. You may even want to call someone who does support and love you and share your feelings with them (the raw feelings about feeling hurt). Basically acknowledge and accept and combat that feeling of being unloved with vulnerability and connection.

    Meditation only lasts a few min in the day but emotions are happening all the time. It is great to get perspective through meditation but you have to practice mindfulness all day in order to have that perspective seep into your life and become a habit.

    [–] Anyone often feel like they're waiting for the 'right' moment to start their life? babyboybelcher18 3 points ago in Meditation

    Yes, I often feel that way when I don't feel like I have control over my today. Like today has a lot of problems and it is overwhelming and rather than deal with it, I'd rather dream about tomorrow that is perfect and easy but also not real since I constructed it in my mind and didn't give any thought to the journey of getting there. That's when I know that there are a lot of emotions today that I need to face and become vulnerable to.

    I also found this blog post to be helpful:

    [–] He didn't do anything for my birthday. babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    I know it feels scary and painful. It is very brave of you to face these feelings in order to take care of yourself and do what's right for your wellbeing.

    [–] He didn't do anything for my birthday. babyboybelcher18 3 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    People who care about you will want to make you feel special and loved, especially on days that are important to you. It's mature of you to not have expectations but it should be a natural response from a person who loves you to want to make your day special. You should probably have a conversation about your feelings with him.

    Sorry to hear about your situation. Internet hugs.

    [–] How does observing a thought is different than just thinking ? babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in Meditation

    I think the key here is that you're "trying" and thereby have expectations of a result. Just focus on your breathing and the present moment and forget about this concept of observing your thoughts.

    As a sidenote, being in the present moment IS observing your thoughts because you are just being and not trying to influence anything that is going on.

    So just relax and breathe and enjoy your meditation.

    [–] Daily Q&A Post - No question too small! babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in loseit

    Ok, I'll start tracking my calories. The last few times I tracked my calories, I was always under and never lost weight. Do you have any recommendations for tools I can use to calculate my TDEE and track my calories? I was using fitnesspal before.

    [–] Daily Q&A Post - No question too small! babyboybelcher18 1 points ago in loseit

    I am trying to lose around 10lbs of weight I gained over the last year. I either swim 3 times a week or do cardio/weights 4-5 times a week. I eat pretty healthy, very low fat and no alcohol. I have been working out regularly for 2 months and have seen no results. In fact, I will gain weight if I go on a vacation for a couple of days. I am so frustrated. 2 years ago I wanted to lose weight, I was working out less and eating more calories but still managed to lose 5-8lbs in 2 months. Is this related to my age (in my 20s) and slowing metabolism? I also work from home so am less active during the day.

    [–] WOMEN of reddit, what NSFW female lifestyle hack can you share? babyboybelcher18 142 points ago in AskReddit

    Furthermore, you can hide other drugs inside the lining of your underwear, you know that double layer in the crotch area. This is great for concerts/music festivals. Consume said drugs in bathroom.

    [–] Question about the price ranges babyboybelcher18 2 points ago in menstrualcups

    Thanks for your response!

    So I can understand more clearly, what would make a brand a knockoff vs a respected brand? Would a cheaper cup not perform as well?

    [–] I sometimes have a strong desire for non-specific instant gratification babyboybelcher18 5 points ago in Meditation

    Yes that sounds like a good idea.

    Another way to look at it is that you may be generally feeling adrift lately and may have gotten used to those emotions/could manage them. But then after your friends ignored you at lunch, those adrift feelings came back to life and sort of got reinforced or maybe became more powerful (almost like saying see I told you you weren't good enough) causing your need to numb till you can get used to them again. Just a thought not sure if that's the case.

    [–] I sometimes have a strong desire for non-specific instant gratification babyboybelcher18 23 points ago in Meditation

    Do you feel like it may be a desire to numb? Sometimes I have emotions that I haven't obtained full self-awareness of yet. They are probably rooted in the general feeling of being unloveable. I then start looking for instant gratification to numb those emotions or "fill the hole".

    There is usually a trigger that causes these emotions and the subsequent need to numb. This trigger is very subtle maybe even unnoticeable because of my lack of self awareness.

    [–] Marilyn Monroe's grave is pink from all the lipstick of the woman who kiss it. babyboybelcher18 -2 points ago * (lasted edited a year ago) in mildlyinteresting

    Reminds me of the Blarney Stone in Ireland

    Edit: because it has also turned pink from ladies kissing it