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    [–] My bf [27M] prioritises everything over me [25F], he thinks I’m just selfish beablake 1 points ago in relationships

    Seconded. If you are reading this and you know you treat the people you claim to love like shit, please get help and also don't be in a relationship until you can handle it.

    [–] My bf [27M] prioritises everything over me [25F], he thinks I’m just selfish beablake 1 points ago * (lasted edited 2 hours ago) in relationships

    Everyone is telling you to leave, as far as I can see.

    Advice you should take.

    It sounds like he's got in your head and done a number on your self-esteem which is not good.

    Also please note that he appears to have a skewed definition of selfish where selfish means you aren't doing whatever he wants at all times with no compromise from him.

    [–] My bf [27M] prioritises everything over me [25F], he thinks I’m just selfish beablake 1 points ago in relationships

    Take back control of your life and leave.

    You aren't getting what you want/need from the relationship and when you try to address it he turns things around and gets angry.

    Do you really see this relationship improving? How can it possibly if he has no interest in how you feel?

    You don't need permission to leave a bad situation or to end a relationship that isn't right for you.

    [–] My (22f) boyfriend (25m) forced me to move beablake 1 points ago * (lasted edited 2 hours ago) in relationships

    I was relieved to see your edit.

    Get your stuff and go stay with your parents until you can sort somewhere out for yourself.

    There's no good future with someone who bullies you.

    [–] Arrested Development will return on March 15! beablake 1 points ago in arresteddevelopment

    So far my verdict would be: you keep trying to re-paint the Mona Lisa and it isn't happening.

    But of course I'll watch the new stuff (just in case).

    On the whole though, I wish they would stop reviving everything I loved in the past. Almost none of the revivals have added anything.

    [–] is it just me or... beablake 2 points ago in arresteddevelopment

    If AD had started in 2019 and been based on the Trumps, I think there would have been even more disturbing incest subplots. Which is saying something ;-)

    [–] is it just me or... beablake 2 points ago in arresteddevelopment

    In the newer episodes I feel like Lucille and Maebe have been the MVPs. Although I did enjoy GOB's increasingly weird existential crisis :-) I was also sorry his bee colony collapsed.

    [–] Artists and creative folks with day jobs/other demands, how do you protect the time and energy for your work? beablake 10 points ago in AskWomenOver30

    That's a trap I've seen a lot of people fall into; they become a parent and suddenly that's all that they are. There's a giant mommy/daddy-shaped hole where a fully fleshed out person used to be.

    Yeah, having seen this happen to some of my friends, it makes me a little nervous about ever having children. But with some of them, I do wonder if they act that way because they think it is being a good parent/what they are expected to act like.

    I still think parenthood is quite idealised and it would help parents if there was more talk about the slog and tedium of some aspects of it (sleep training/kids' friends/difficulty of getting them to eat vaguely healthy and routinely etc etc).

    [–] Artists and creative folks with day jobs/other demands, how do you protect the time and energy for your work? beablake 2 points ago in AskWomenOver30

    When I'm being disciplined, I go to bed early and try and do it first thing in the morning.

    I would prefer to write at night all things being equal but my day job is often too draining for me to have enough energy left.

    [–] Is anyone else planning on not getting married or having kids? beablake 2 points ago in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

    At the moment I'm not really looking for a long-term relationship and so I wouldn't want kids if things stayed that way but also I haven't completely ruled it out either.

    I would just try and appreciate all the good bits of being by myself if things stayed that way. I wouldn't be sad about it because it's how I've spent most of my adult life anyway. Plus the freedom and peace that come with are fun (and very easy to get used to).

    [–] Christopher Pike's The Last Vampire 6: Creatures of Forever beablake 2 points ago in teencreeps

    What annoyed me about the series would be how Pike didn't really try and foreshadow the later stuff so you would get Sita suddenly bringing up another person who was incredibly important to her/another historical event out of nowhere at the same time as she gets to know someone mysterious who also happens to feel really familiar to her.....

    Made me feel like yelling "do you not get how this works by now, Sita?"

    [–] Christopher Pike's The Last Vampire 6: Creatures of Forever beablake 1 points ago in teencreeps

    Have you read the three (I think there are 3) after Pike revived the series? I quite like them although as ever Sita's powers are all over the place and seem to expand every book.....

    [–] Christopher Pike's The Last Vampire 6: Creatures of Forever beablake 2 points ago in teencreeps

    I did not expect to stick this on and spend what felt like 20 minutes thinking "my God, you mean The Rapture" over and over ;-)

    [–] Lorelai's behavior beablake 10 points ago in GilmoreGirls

    I think Richard and Emily struggled because they tried to parent Lorelai as though she was their ideal of a daughter instead of the person she actually was. I agree with people who think she acted out because she felt so stifled.

    [–] Say what you want about the TIG defectors, but its nice to see MPs looking genuinely happy for a change. beablake 3 points ago in ukpolitics

    If there was a plausible centre/centre-left alternative to Labour I would vote for them until such time as Labour get their shizz together and find someone who can win a general election.

    [–] Say what you want about the TIG defectors, but its nice to see MPs looking genuinely happy for a change. beablake 29 points ago in ukpolitics

    Plus on a pragmatic level, what's the point of being a slave to either party right now and suppressing one's principles? The Tories are imploding and being controlled by a far right group who are tiny and Labour are managing to poll behind the Tories, even though the Tories are at this point demonstrably making this country a worse place to live by their malice and incompetence.

    [–] I [25F] asked my date [26M] to text me when he gets home so I know he’s safe, and he responded rudely. beablake 1 points ago in relationships

    My parents were overprotective but I don't freak out when my friends want me to text to say I got in safe if we've left separately.

    [–] I [25F] asked my date [26M] to text me when he gets home so I know he’s safe, and he responded rudely. beablake 1 points ago in relationships

    He said, “I’m a man. I can handle myself. It’s not your place to tell me to text you.”

    Gross. Also for any men reading this who would be annoyed, it's a safety thing women sometimes do amongst friends when they have been out late at night. Or sometimes families do it. It's an expression of "hey I like/love you and care what happens to you".

    Anyway I would be tempted to be crappy back and text "it's not your place to invite me out to things" but don't do that. Maybe try and talk to him? For me though the "it's not your place" malarkey would be enough to want to not see him again.

    [–] She[19/f] wants to be engaged, but I'm[21/m] not ready for it and now we're fighting over it. beablake 1 points ago in relationships

    I hope it goes okay but either way, if you know you are not ready, please don't be pressured into ignoring that. Especially when you are still both incredibly young.