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    [–] Looks healthy blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in insaneparents

    At first looking at this picture I thought this was going to be a post about Flint MI. What it actually is is not better.

    [–] Taking a sip after saying that made it so much worse. blewberyBOOM 7 points ago in instant_regret

    I think I heard her say “...so that kinda makes you the bitch” but it’s hard to tell because the music chimes in. I really hope that is what she said. That kid deserves to know.

    [–] What I wanted vs what I got blewberyBOOM 3 points ago in tattoo

    That is gosh darn adorable

    [–] [CHAT] last night’s Ink Master was all about cross stitch tattoos, and it totally makes me want to get one! blewberyBOOM 3 points ago in CrossStitch

    Cross stitch tattoos done right can be super cute. The ones on the show were (mostly) not that. It’s like some of those tattoo artists have never seen a cross stitch before! It was also kind of disrespectful that they kept calling it grandma stuff, refusing to get the name right, and couldn’t even be bothered to give it a quick google to figure out that, yes, the x’s should touch. At the end of the day cross stitch is art, just like tattooing. They could tried to show it a little more respect. Overall it was a disappointing showing of what can be a really cool concept. I did love the flower sternum one though, and I thought the volcano was kind of cute (even though the judges didn’t love it). Those two were the most true to actual cross stitch.

    [–] Using their wedding dress to make a pro-Trump statement blewberyBOOM 6 points ago in ShitAmericansSay

    That was exactly my first thought. These wedding pictures are not going to age well.

    [–] AITA for selling my daughter's car after discovering her texting & driving? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. I did not have a car my first few years of university. I took the bus, I walked, or I carpooled with friends. When I did get a car I bought it myself with money that I saved up from working. I bought my own insurance, my own registration, my own gas. Your daughter lost the gift that was given to her out of her own negligence, now she can do the same thing that I (and many others who didn’t have wealthy parents) did and work for it. As a parent it is not your obligation to ensure your teenager has a car. It is your obligation to make sure your teenager is safe.

    [–] (UPDATE) AITA for going to my sister’s dream school when she just got rejected? blewberyBOOM 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Some schools have “test banks” where you can review tests for the class you’re taking from a previous semester. These can be extremely helpful because you can learn the professors testing style and what kinds of things they look for before you ever take a test with them. This can greatly help with focusing your studying.

    I second everyone who has said use flash cards instead of writing notes from a textbook. I always did mine in fun coloured pens to make it more interesting for myself. Find a friend in class and use the flash cards to test each other.

    The student services are there for a reason- if you need them, use them. Getting the proper supports made all the difference in my undergrad (and now into my grad studies).

    Get to know your profs. Go to office hours, attend events where you can socialize, etc. I really underestimated this in my undergrad and then when I needed academic references to get into my masters it was like oh shit. Even if you don’t ever need their references they’re way more likely to give you extensions or work with you on situations that come up if they know who you are.

    Lastly, use condoms and get checked regularly. That’s really just a tip for life but I feel like it’s a good habit to start in uni where the hormones and the STI rates are both at an all time high.

    [–] AITA for telling the cashier to fuck off and subsequently demanding her to get her manager because she had a condescending attitude towards me buying condoms? blewberyBOOM 13 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    ESH. She has no business nosing her way into your sexual relationships, regardless of her personal feelings and she DEFINITELY should not be discouraging a young person to use protection. Jesus! But also your reaction was immature. Swearing at her was childish and ultimately it was you who caused the scene, not her. Asking for her manager was absolutely the right thing to do but you could have done that without all the drama.

    [–] Taken to school. blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in MurderedByWords

    I honestly don’t get this mentality of “things were shitty for me so I want them to be just as shitty for the next generation because it’s only fair.” I have student debt. I’m paying it off right now and will be paying into my 40’s. If the government of my country came out tomorrow and said “all student debt already taken out needs to be paid but from here on out university is free for all new students so no further debt is accumulated” I would be ecstatic to know that my little sister, my brother, my future nieces and nephews, etc. will never have to be in that same sucky situation. Why would I want the people that I love and future generations to suffer out of a warped sense of “fairness?” That’s honestly so messed up.

    [–] AITA for ditching my date and causing a scene? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    You are NEVER obligated to stay in a situation where you are uncomfortable. If your gut is telling you something is wrong you listen to that and make as much of a scene as you need to. His feelings are not your responsibility. You don’t owe that man shit. If you’re uncomfortable you do what you need to do to get out.

    [–] AITA for reporting two coworkers and potentially getting them fired? blewberyBOOM 4 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. I'm not one who takes someone loosing thier job lightly either, but this is sexual harassment. You are not responsible for the outcome of their actions. They know better that to act this way towards a coworker.

    [–] AITA for requesting a tip before service? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I know this makes me the minority, but I kinda think YTA. Coming in with a large group 20 mins before close without a reservation and expecting to be seated is definitely inconsiderate, but trying to give them a little bit of the benefit of doubt I’m betting none of them have ever worked in a restaurant and legitimately do not understand the kind of impact that has. Regardless I don’t think you handled it in the best way. You should have just told them the dining room is closed but the kitchen is still open if they would like to order something to go and left it at that. Although expected, at the end of the day a tip is still always optional (though I’m not saying it’s ok not to tip, especially in areas where restaurant staff don’t make min wage), and a tip of 25% is especially ridiculous. A tip is meant to be something extra to show appreciation for a job well done, it’s not something you get to dictate. I’ve worked in restaurants. I’ve had to stay late to deal with customers after an already really long sift. I’ve gotten tips that I didn’t think reflected my quality of work. I get it. But demanding a tip and specifying how much you expect, both of those are no-no’s in my books. Especially when you haven’t even performed the service yet! I honestly thing you would have been better off to just turn them away.

    [–] Lebanon then Israel? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in travel

    Thank you for sharing your experience! I guess it’s not so bad if you look at it as part of the adventure lol

    [–] Lebanon then Israel? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in travel

    Yeah, I gathered they’re quite strict on that. We would probably be going to Jordan next so we would just (truthfully) tell them we are continuing on to Jordan

    [–] AITA for giving my brother's GF a condition if she comes to my baby shower? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. It's not your home, it's not up to you to make exceptions, especially if doing so it likely to damage someone else's property (especially when that someone is already doing you a favour by hosting a party for you at their house!) As a Canadian the idea of wearing your shoes in someones house is absolutely baffling to me anyway, but that's neither here nor there. It sounds like you have given her lots of other options and she is straight up refusing and throwing a fit like a child. I would let both your brother and Jess know that she is invited and welcome to the party and that you would really love to see her there, but that there are house rules in place that you have no control over. If she feels that for any reason she is not able to abide by those rules she will be missed but you will understand and the choice is hers. After that don't engage with her childish nonsense any more. She will either come and take off her shoes, or stay home and pout. Either way you will go to your baby shower, eat cake, get presents, and have a wonderful time with your friends and family without focusing on Jess or her shoes.

    [–] AITA for telling my gf I don't mind her sleeping with other girls? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA. No question. In a conversation where she had JUST made it clear that it was not okay to fetishize her sexuality you proceeded immediately to publicly and openly fetishize her sexuality ("I see it as pretty hot"). You also discredited her sexuality by implying that same-sex sex doesn't "count" ("I don't see it as cheating with a girl"). None of this, by the way, had anything to do with her or how she's feeling or if she's getting something from that, it was all about you and how you "find it hot to see two girls going at it." Who the hell said you'd get to see her in this hypothetical situation, anyway? If she were to have sex with a woman, you're not involved. As a bisexual woman this is probably the exact type of bullshit she has had to deal with a lot on her life and she was probably expecting that you, her loving boyfriend of almost 4 years, would stand up for her, not to contribute to the fetishization and delegitimization of this aspect of her identity. In addition to homophobic and dismissive, you also come across as pretty misogynistic. Saying that you wouldn't be as offended as if she left you for a guy really does imply that you see women as less. You say that you're not "downplaying her attraction to women or implying it's less than straight attraction" but you very obviously are if you are saying that it's not cheating if she has sex with a woman. That's basically the exact definition of implying that her attraction to women is "less than." You are 100% the asshole.

    [–] Lebanon then Israel? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in travel

    Thank you so much! I realize it's still way in the distant future so it might be a little premature to worry about, but knowing that we could tentatively include Lebanon in the planning and not have to worry too much is great news. Thanks a lot!

    [–] AITA for not wanting to try therapy for my “child hating” problem blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA. I’m a huge supporter of therapy, I think most people could benefit from someone to talk to from time to time, but therapy has to be something you WANT to do. No one can force you to do therapy and if you don’t want to then it should be dropped. Just like having kids.

    I am concerned about your fiancé and friend’s responses to you, though. Maybe you would make a great mother, that doesn’t mean you desire to be a mother. And that’s fine. In another life I might have made a great astronaut but that’s not what I wanted to do with my life so I didn’t. Just because you have potential to do something well doesn’t mean you’re obligated to do it. I’m also very concerned with this whole “all women desire to have children and you don’t so therefor there must be something wrong with you” thing going on. Not all women desire to have kids. It’s not just “natural.” As society becomes more accepting of different lifestyles more and more women are deciding not to reproduce. That should be a pretty strong indicator that when women are given the choice it comes down to personal preference. By prescribing a “natural order” concept to this they are invalidating your strongly held conviction and that is not ok. Also, invoking your childhood. Maybe you do, maybe you don’t have childhood trauma to work through, I don’t know. If and when you decide to address that counselling will still be an option, but saying that you don’t want kids just because of abandonment issues is cruel and again dismissive of how you feel (“you don’t really want to be child free, that’s just your abandonment issues talking. Take those away and you actually deep down really do want children because that’s what’s natural.”) Please. None of that is ok.

    [–] AITA for telling my coworker just how valuable his deadbeat son's trading card collection is worth? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I don’t think your an asshole but I also don’t think you had any reason to get involved. Those cards don’t belong to Bill, regardless of how much he needs the money or how much of a freeloader his son is. Bill should be able to put his foot down and tell his adult son to get a job without needing to know the value of his possessions, especially if the financial situation is as dire as you say it is. I appreciate that you were trying to help Bill out but he has no claim to those cards so their worth is irrelevant. NTA but still somewhat in the wrong.

    [–] Does your puppy sleep with you? blewberyBOOM 1 points ago in puppy101

    I think wether to let your dog sleep in your bed or not is really a matter of personal preference. Your dog will still bond with you even if he/ she has a separate bed. The one thing I will say is that sometimes a bell can’t be unrung so be sure you’re happy with the arrangement before you start letting your dog on your bed. My dog has his own bed beside mine but I hit a bit of a rough patch personally a while back and started letting my dog sleep on my bed as a comfort thing. Now if I want personal space at night (or to be able to move my legs) it’s almost impossible to get him to go to his bed and he always just waits until I’m asleep and then sneaks back up anyway. Again I don’t really think either is better or worse, it’s just personal preference but just know that once you let them up it will be hard to train it out of them.

    [–] You do you, big boi. blewberyBOOM 20 points ago in whitepeoplegifs

    He moves well for a guy of any size! He’s a natural