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    [–] Could Social Security be in danger? connectjim 1 points ago in OverFifty

    Because most Americans don’t understand what “payroll taxes” are, his talk yesterday of cutting these taxes could be politically popular, but then could starve the Social Security system.

    [–] A kind and compassionate act is often its own reward connectjim 1 points ago in aww

    Lol, great reference there, more evil than Watson.

    [you do know I was joking, I hope...]

    [–] A kind and compassionate act is often its own reward connectjim 2 points ago * (lasted edited 6 hours ago) in aww

    Could be a developmental psychology experiment: give one twin a cell phone, the other one a baseball, see if their interests diverge

    Edit: forgot to make it clear that I was being facetious, acting as if that’s what the parents were doing.

    [–] The real reason why something isn't open connectjim 4 points ago in technicallythetruth

    “Put math on it,” great phrase, I guess that’s what I just did..

    [–] you shall not PASS connectjim 5 points ago in nextfuckinglevel

    This also gives your cats exercise, in fact builds the same muscles used in spinning out your toilet paper roll.

    [–] This group of gentlemen bobbing their heads connectjim 2 points ago in BetterEveryLoop

    I’ve never seen a video that was more surprising in its ability to provide nightmare material. I appreciate that last guy for snapping me out of it.

    [–] The real reason why something isn't open connectjim 3 points ago in technicallythetruth

    Naah, a topologist could have a field day with this.

    If you include the time that the patio is open, plus the boundary (the exact time at which the patio closes), then the patio is closed. It’s more absurd the other way around: to make that patio open again, you’d need to exclude that boundary, which means as soon as you include the time that the patio opens, you’ve closed it.

    If there simply was no patio, then this could be a clopen set.

    [–] The real reason why something isn't open connectjim 7 points ago in technicallythetruth

    This kind of stuff is the true Dad joke, not the dumb puns that people post. Don’t regret this; a Dad‘s job is to train our kids for a world in which people might mess with your heads. [And also to rationalize having fun by messing with our kids’ heads.]

    [–] The real reason why something isn't open connectjim 13 points ago in technicallythetruth

    I was going to make a comment on this post, “this is my favorite kind of Dad joke,” so I feel validated by your story, especially because I am the kind of Dad who would do this.

    [–] I always leave some peaches for the neighbors connectjim 2 points ago in aww

    Came here to make sure someone pointed this out!

    [–] I always leave some peaches for the neighbors connectjim 3 points ago in aww

    I agree with another commenter. Leaving out peaches is good if you have plans to redo the foundation of your house anyway.

    [–] How do we ACTUALLY support and help depressed loved ones? connectjim 3 points ago in TrueAskReddit

    Therapist and community mental health educator here. To hyper-condense what I sometimes teach over one to six hours, or over the years to clinical supervisees and non-clinical family support groups:

    Engage them. In: - Physical proximity or contact, ideally including some hugs that last at least six seconds (oxytocin boost) - Visual exposure to nature (especially clouds and trees, for those who are angry or ruminating about themselves), - A simple activity that aligns with their mood (not a “cheer-up” other than the subtle exposure to nature), in silent support, and in: - Any conversation that is not about telling them how to feel, trying to understand them and then adding other random elements that engage them in living such as attention to details in the room, events in the near future, values, likes and dislikes, people or places they haven’t seen recently, ideas, questions, anything that challenges them to draw upon other parts of themselves besides the depression (again, after understanding the depression part; every depression is different and it feels good to be with someone who is trying to understand you, which THEN leaves you more open to a change in perspective).

    Engaging them in these ways connects them to life and draws the brain/mind* out of spiraling loops and into forward paths.

    • (some of these tips like the one about trees work at the level of brain areas, in that case calming the subgenual prefrontal cortex that is active during depressing self-absorbed rumination).

    [–] What's everyone up to today? connectjim 1 points ago in FriendsOver40

    Sunny day here in Ohio, high 80’s, which means catching up on yard work after a week of vacation with breaks for laundry and to get a some job stuff before I play catch-up at work tomorrow. Hopefully a few pleasant family moments here and there, with a daughter here before going back to college in a few days.
    A day to find balance between competing priorities; good luck with your challenges and opportunities, everyone!

    [–] Good horse. connectjim 1 points ago in AnimalsBeingBros

    Bojack understands misery.

    [–] Perfection connectjim 2 points ago in PoliticalHumor

    Thanks so much, I had seen this but didn’t know where to find it!

    [–] Perfection connectjim 12 points ago in PoliticalHumor

    This works best as a response to the red shirt seen at some Trump rallies last year, “I’d rather be a Russian than a Democrat.” After you see Trumpers wearing that shirt, the meme in this post writes itself.

    [–] Just hit a huuuge milestone; it’s been exactly two years since I’ve taken my first pill!! And for the first time in my life, my body feels like mine. 💕🌈 (MTF) connectjim 3 points ago in MadeMeSmile

    Thanks for reaching out! She is doing well, other than being self-conscious about being very tall and having other leftovers (like muscular arms) from 20 years of trying to live as a male... despite these features, she is delighted to be gendered correctly most of the time, especially in her supportive city.

    [–] Just hit a huuuge milestone; it’s been exactly two years since I’ve taken my first pill!! And for the first time in my life, my body feels like mine. 💕🌈 (MTF) connectjim 15 points ago in MadeMeSmile

    Wow, I am loving all the positive supportive comments here!

    Glad that your inner self now gets to come to the surface. I like your description “my body feels like mine.”

    [parent of a trans daughter here, also about two years into the gender transition, which I think of as an emergence. She might be envious of your thick hair...]

    [–] Horse protects. connectjim 1 points ago in AnimalsBeingBros

    He sav his fren