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    [–] Your first defense darthvadersbanana 1 points ago in insanepeoplefacebook

    White Evangelicals

    Ummm...from my experience, the black evangelical community is just as bad (see Creflo Dollar). Plus parts of the African evangelical community are straight up charging people to “revive” their dead children. There was a church in Singapore where the pastor used $18 million dollars of church money to make his wife a pop star. Many of these churches have the same rhetoric as you would except from the average televangelist in the US/UK.

    It’s a pretty global phenomenon.

    [–] AITA For the way I speak? darthvadersbanana 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Ah, got it. In my experience, a lot of youth ministry leaders pull nonsense like this.

    It’s still ridiculous, though.

    [–] AITA For the way I speak? darthvadersbanana 5 points ago in AmItheAsshole


    But real talk, why is a 30+ year old woman hanging with teenagers “to be young” and hitting them? Is she a church leader? Why does she have your number?

    Something feels off here.

    [–] WIBTA If I asked my boyfriend to seriously reconsider taking anti-anxiety medication? darthvadersbanana 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole


    Well, actually, you’re being kinda dumb, but we have to put judgements here.

    1) There is no empirical evidence that anti-anxiety medication ruins relationships (how would you even study that?). Where did you read this? Regardless, if you love your boyfriend, I would assume that you would want him to get better, relationship status notwithstanding?

    2) Booking couple’s counseling for your boyfriend not telling you he’s been depressed feels like a bit much to me. Taking a while to open up to your partner about a serious issue isn’t a breach of trust (unless the issue is something like cheating).

    3) You say you and your boyfriend need to get help, but you want to bar your boyfriend from getting help? Now, usually therapy is the first step in this process and the doctor may tell him he needs to have or consider therapy before he gets the medication anyway (depending on the doctor). But putting an obstacle in his way as he tries to get help right off the bat is going to lead to him quitting pretty quickly.

    [–] :( darthvadersbanana 10 points ago in bonehurtingjuice


    [–] AITA My wife taking away my vacation darthvadersbanana 15 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    OP, I have 5-6 hours a week of quality time with my Dad as well!

    I live 1000 miles away, though.

    And I’m an adult.

    And I work full time.

    [–] We go to HIGH SCHOOL together darthvadersbanana 24 points ago in DontFundMe

    The idea is that the people who would buy (or who this have enough money that buying a handbag like that would be like me buying a $27 handbag from Target. There are other, more expensive brands that the truly wealthy splurge on, and of course, custom designs and limited editions, which can triple or quadruple the base price. In the wild, the highest value handbag I’ve seen was $10000, but obviously there’s higher values out there. You have to remember that these people are living in their means (mostly), but their means are incredibly high.

    However, people of lower to average means who are insecure of their status buy these bags to (attempt to) look higher class, unaware that they’ve bought the Target label of designer brands. They also can’t afford the lifestyle to match the bag (without a ton of debt), so the illusion rarely works.

    TL;DR: It’s not a lot of money to the folks who are meant to buy these things, although perhaps they could spend it on philanthropy or something good for all.

    [–] stop darthvadersbanana 7 points ago in shittymobilegameads

    According to this ad, Pikachu is a legendary Pokémon, and Arceus, the literal creator of the Pokémon world, is only a 1-star?

    Alright then.

    [–] AITA for paying R Kelly's "Bump and Grind" as a total joke when I was hooking up with a Tinder date? darthvadersbanana 23 points ago in AmItheAsshole


    The fact you have to ask this makes you double the asshole.

    Also, if this girl is so incredible, why are you trying to make stupid jokes while she’s going down on you? I feel like you should be focused on other things...

    ETA: Read your comment about not being ready for oral, which is fine and dandy, but you need to communicate that. You’re triple the asshole (mostly to yourself this time) for not communicating this in a healthy way.

    [–] What about the Nazis' feelings? darthvadersbanana 38 points ago in insanepeoplefacebook

    Wait, you don’t remember when Antifa invaded several countries and killed millions of people?

    Or when they started a world war?

    [–] Boyfriend (28M) spent the night at a friend’s house and is ignoring my (22F) texts. darthvadersbanana 8 points ago in relationships

    So you need to stop focusing on the boyfriend, because you have bigger issues. You say you can’t leave him because you’ll have nowhere to go? Well, let’s get proactive about that:

    Do you have a job? If so, you need to start saving for an apartment. Depending on the city, you might need roommates.

    If not, are you a student and/or have a disability? If so, there are resources that can help you find housing (assuming you are in the US or UK). There also may be shelters specifically for these groups if you live in a larger city.

    If none of these apply, you need to get a job ASAP, even if it’s a minimum wage one, because this is a four month relationship with cheating concerns and financial dependency, and it will implode.

    [–] AITA for telling someone to seek professional help? darthvadersbanana 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole


    But who is this person, because I’m afraid you’ve somehow found my mother. The writing style and opinions match...

    [–] WIBTA if I started telling people I’m allergic to seafood so they would stop encouraging I eat it? darthvadersbanana 9 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I’m celiac. People try to sneak gluten in to my food to be “funny”. They stop laughing when they see what it does to my body.

    Additionally, I’m allergic to avocados, which no one believes until I have to pull out an epi pen.

    I’ve stopped eating out at all, honestly.

    [–] AITA for getting mad at my husband over a joke? darthvadersbanana 6 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Therapy, introspection, meditation, having a serious talk with your partner (that he actually knows is serious this time), exploring new things, spirituality/faith/rationality/philosophy groups, self-help books...

    Online quizzes are generally meant as clickbait to generate revenue, and even when they are meant to be serious they may not be accurate.

    [–] AITA for not lowering the price of the car I’m selling to my daughter? darthvadersbanana 265 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    OP “doesn’t want her to have too much money to waste”, according to the comments. Which is a thing, apparently.

    [–] AITA for being pissed that kids get to go to the speedy boarding lines over elders? darthvadersbanana 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I think OP isn’t a native English speaker (they live in France). If that’s the case, the language they use makes sense if you’re going from French->English. It might not be malicious.

    [–] AITA for crying over spilled milk? darthvadersbanana 15 points ago * (lasted edited 7 days ago) in AmItheAsshole

    If a child has celiac disease, that’s an autoimmune disorder and can pop up in a blood test. I’d say that doctors wanting to test for this in babies is rare, but I’m probably biased as I was never tested and had to suffer for 14 years before I was diagnosed (and still deal with the complications). More generally, any baby (or person) with a functioning immune system can develop an allergy at almost any time.

    In some circles, gluten free breast milk is given just to suit a family’s lifestyle, though.

    [–] AITA for leaving a girl after sex to watch Spider-Man Far From Home? darthvadersbanana 11 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Did you skip Captain America Civil War, then? That movie was all about how poor communication and a lack of transparency allowed for the avengers to be broken apart.

    Using those lessons would have helped you not be an asshole.

    [–] Boyfriend [26] wants me [23] to block his mother [54] on social media. darthvadersbanana 7 points ago in relationships

    So... your mild discomfort trumps your boyfriend’s mental health (and possibly physical health as well)?

    Because that’s what this reads as.

    Let’s remove the mother part of this equation to see the core of the question.

    My boyfriend wants me to block his lifelong bully (who is still trying to get in contact with him for potentially malicious reasons). I agree that this person is unsafe enough to bar her from our potential children, but I don’t want to block her on Facebook because it’ll be awkward and I might lose face with a group of people my boyfriend might be cutting off due to their association with his bully.

    You really need to reprioritize here.

    [–] I like to cheese, what can I say? darthvadersbanana 6 points ago in octopathtraveler

    You need the dancer’s divine skill and a cleric (preferably with full BP). Dancer uses the divine skill on the cleric, who uses reflect on the whole party.

    It’s best to have a merchant and/or Alfyn (that’s probably not how you spell that) keep the cleric’s BP up so you can have continuous stacking, but otherwise you can just sit there, because this particular boss pretty much only has magic attacks. Was able to beat it at 15-25 levels under the recommended level that way (that requires more set up with equips, though).