dizzira_blackrose

My intoxicated brain came up with the scenario of the tire coming off like "ooh! We're here! Can I pick the station number??" And he gets let out and he rolls to the one he bumps into like "I pick dis one!"

I've purposely blocked out most of what my parents have done to embarrass me, but I have a recent one. So, I'm a woman with a half shaved head, and one day I went to meet them at their church to visit them. I had just had it re-shaved the night before, so it was extremely prominent. Sermon ends, and everyone meets in the church lobby. My mom sees my hair and the first thing she did, in front of everyone in the lobby, was flip my long half of my hair over my shaved half because she thought it was shaved down too much. I immediately got upset and moved my hair back. She acted like it was so funny while simultaneously telling me (not exactly, but in that way only I could understand) how she was embarrassed by what I look like.

Not very exciting, but this is an incident I remember.

To answer your question as a sub, no. This is just someone thinking this is how being a Dom is, when it's just plan sexual abuse. Any level of BDSM has discussion and consent beforehand.

Burger King, but still both of those.

But who was cough syrup?

You're looking at this extremely black and white. She's a concerned girlfriend, not a fucking psycho possessive girlfriend. There is an in-between, you know. I haven't changed my tune at all. She isn't controlling him, she expressed her concerns to him, and she told him she doesn't want him to do it. That's it. He can still do what he wants, but at the cost of his relationship. If she was threatening him, let's say suicide or something horrible, then I'd agree with you completely. He is still totally free to be an asshole or not. Your attitude towards people who are happy with one person, and don't want multiple people fucking their partner is pretty toxic too. Being poly isn't everyone's preference.

She's really not. Nothing about this is her treating him like her property, where are you even getting this idea?

I mean, clearly not since your view of this is ridiculously fucked up.

I don't see how OP sucks here. Is she not allowed to be upset when some other girl is basically moving in with her boyfriend? And he's basically excluding her from this too. She's rightfully upset, as, I think, she should be.

You're right, but that doesn't excuse how sketchy and shitty he's being.

Good for you! I'm not denying platonic friendships exist, I have quite a few myself. But remember; this other girl has a boyfriend too, so why isn't she staying with him? There's no mention of any reason for that. It's understandable why your friend stayed with you, but I wouldn't doubt it made her boyfriend uncomfortable, unless they've been together long enough to have a solid and strong trust in each other and the friendships clearly aren't anything to be concerned about. There's a lot that goes into it.

"Strength in numbers, you can hold each other accountable" I completely agree. But why do they need to be in the same room 24/7? I have friends who have gone vegan, and none of them needed something like this. This isn't her relearning how to walk, or something huge that she needs constant support, she's changing her diet. You don't need to stay at anyone's place at all to do that.

You're exaggerating. I'm not saying she's that crazy. This isn't him just going out to a public place and trying vegan restaurants, she's staying at his house, a private area with no one to keep them in check. How on earth is her being concerned a red flag? She's the one who's potentially being cheated on, and he is more concerned being with another girl for two weeks than how his own girlfriend feels. That is a red flag on HIS end. I am well aware there's nothing wrong with female friends, that's not my point.

He's clearly had something pretty significant with this girl, which I think could indicate something more that warrants concern. It's not just simply "hanging out", he's letting her live with him, which why on earth would you do when you have a girlfriend? Again, why is his girlfriend excluded from this? It's sketchy. And assuming they're a straight couple, obviously a guy friend wouldn't be an issue. Sexuality is not the problem here either. If it was a guy he was having this kind of close relationship with and he was bi, it would be a concern too. If he's not, then it's different. We can't say, though, because that information isn't provided. I'm bisexual myself, and I would be just as concerned if my boyfriend was doing something like this with another guy.

"Says something about you that you don't think men and women can spend time together without dropping trou, and that you're insecure enough in your relationships to think that it's okay to disallow your SO from spending time with friends." What? I never said that. I also don't think that at all. I'm a woman who has friends on all sides. My boyfriend too. The difference is, he and I have been together for a long time and have established a trust in each other that we won't cheat on each other without having to say anything. I don't feel concerned when he hangs out with another girl, he's not concerned when I hang out with a bunch of my guy friends. It's absolutely not about whether or not guys and girls can hang out, that's just too simple. I'm talking about this specific case. They've only been together for two months, that's not long at all. Certainly not long enough for trust to be solid. He's gone out of his way for this other girl before, which is weird. He's, again, ignoring how OP feels, which is a red flag. There is a lot more here than a girl not wanting her boyfriend to hang out with some girl. I highly doubt it would be this big of a deal if this other girl wasn't supposed to basically live with him.

First of all, when you're in a relationship, you don't have another girl stay at your place for two weeks for "moral support". That's ridiculous, especially for a vegan diet. There's zero logic to that.

Second, he's ignoring her concerns, and that in itself is a red flag. Its obvious why she doesn't want this, and he doesn't seem to care. Bringing it down to four days isn't a compromise either, it's just less time for him to be with a girl who isn't his girlfriend. He should not be doing it at all.

The entire thing is absolute bullshit on his end. He just wants to fuck this other girl. Literally nobody stays at someone's place for extended periods of time for a fucking vegan diet. You don't need that. If for some reason that is the case, why is he excluding his own girlfriend? Why is he way more concerned for this other girl than her? He clearly has commitment issues. It's honestly super obvious he has other intentions if you really think about this situation logically.

They're definitely fucking.

Nowhere does she say she doesn't want them to be friends. That is not what's wrong here. You don't have some other girl, friend or not, come stay at your house for two weeks while ignoring your girlfriend's feelings and claim it's for "moral support". Especially for a vegan diet? That's absurd and most likely a cover-up for them just hooking up behind OP's back for a few days. This is something OP should definitely question whether or not she should actually trust him. She's not being territorial, she's rightfully concerned and should absolutely not allow this.

Trusting him or not is not the problem. The entire reason for this girl staying at his place at all is absurd and is in itself a stupid cop-out. Who needs constant moral support like that for a vegan diet? Even the depression would be weird too because she is not his girlfriend, OP is. The boyfriend is either stupid or he's cheating on OP. He also clearly doesn't care about how OP feels. This is an unrealistic situation and is more than likely a cover-up for something that I doubt has anything to do with going vegan. OP is definitely not the asshole.

Unrelated comment to say I vote for this to be this MIL's nickname on the sub. Floor Fiend.

I hate it so much. Funny thing is, I pretty much follow everyone in my contacts already, so it doesn't even matter.

She can wear any color lipstick she wants.

I must live in an opposite universe because everyone I know with a manual *is* a millennial.

So what about this kid? What's he supposed to do?

You absolutely have every reason to feel violated. That is honestly such a selfish and scummy move on his part. The fact he didn't bother to ask you first, let alone assume you were okay with it, shows that he was not thinking about you at all. He wanted to show off to brag about himself and his hot girlfriend. He may not have been intentionally objectifying you, but that's pretty much what he was doing, and he's allowed his friends to do the same. My boyfriend has shown off some very intimate pics of me before too, but he ALWAYS asks me, and it's always to people we both know and whom I trust.

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Honestly, this might need to be a deal breaker for you. He's basically proven he doesn't value you as a human being, but more as his prized possession to brag about. Plus if none of his friends could recognize how shitty his move was, then you may not want to be associated with them either.

What the fuck?

This reminds me of this guy on Telegram who got added to a group I was in. He went on and on about how he's seen all this corrupt shit within the goth community (It was a goth group), and kept going on and on about vampires and werewolves, literally talking to nobody in particular. He eventually made a rather shitty joke that upset everyone and got mad when we kicked him.

Not really what I was asking, but alright.

Someone else mentioned Salvia too. I've never heard of it before until now. Sounds like a hell of a trip. I was wondering if meth would do this too, just on the paranoid actions. I know a few people who did meth for a bit, and I'm glad I was never around them when they did it.

Holy shit