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    [–] Other peoples Dogs vs My dog fiddlemonkey 6 points ago in funny

    There is a house a few blocks away that has a pug and a Doberman. The pug fiercely protects his domain and the Doberman hides behind a wheelbarrow every time we walk by.

    [–] The most statistically-powerful study on autism to date has confirmed that the disorder is strongly heritable. The analysis found that over 80% of autism risk is associated with inherited genetic factors. fiddlemonkey 35 points ago in science

    My husband has high functioning autism and is indeed very empathetic, especially for things that are simple to see, like if our kids skin a knee. With more complicated stuff he really struggles-like if our daughter is upset because a friend told another friend a secret, even though the secret itself isn’t a big thing. The explanation of affective empathy vs cognitive empathy makes a lot of sense to me.

    [–] Elderly Veteran dies after Nurses laugh and ignore his calls. fiddlemonkey 1 points ago in videos

    I’m a nurse, and this one is tough. I usually am really busy caring for my own patients, and when people stop me in the hall for things, 90% of the time it is interrupting a task I was already performing, like going to bring a patient a pain pill, bringing a patient to the bathroom, looking up when a patient can get a medication they requested, waiting for a physician to page back because I think a patient might have a DVT, or going to reposition a patient that already had called and told me they were uncomfortable, just as a few examples. Lunch can be almost impossible to eat without making patients wait a few minutes because going fifteen minutes without any patients calling you to request something is incredibly rare. The nurses aren’t ignoring patients or your requests, they are mentally prioritizing the task you’ve added onto their very full list of tasks they were already trying to do.

    [–] Elderly Veteran dies after Nurses laugh and ignore his calls. fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in videos

    I worked in a nursing home and it was an awful environment to work in. I think the only people that can handle working in an environment like that long term are those that have completely turned off their empathy.

    [–] It's hard not to hate yourself. fiddlemonkey 1 points ago in BorderlinePDisorder

    What if it is myself as a person in my entirety? That is what I have struggled with since I was a little kid.

    [–] Reached out-it didn’t work fiddlemonkey 1 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Thanks for replying-this really helped to hear. It helped to feel a little validated and not so alone-thank you!

    [–] Reached out-it didn’t work fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in SuicideWatch

    And when I’ve called suicide hotlines I hear platitudes and nice words, but it doesn’t seem to help because it is a stranger who doesn’t know me. It feels meaningless to hear I’m not damaging my family from someone who has never met my family.

    [–] Reached out-it didn’t work fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in SuicideWatch

    Except the professionals I’ve seen and am currently seeing tell me to reach out so I can feel supported by the people around me. I’m trying and it’s not working.

    [–] Reached out-it didn’t work fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in SuicideWatch

    In the past my reaching out has pulled others down because my depression was too intense and they needed to step away to protect their own mental health. I don’t want to do that to anyone again. I think my brain is just too sick for that to work.

    [–] After many years of NC, they showed up at my home fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    My parents did a really similar thing with keepsakes-they kept them from me one way or another until I went NC then tried to unload them on my afterwards as a ploy for contact. By that time I had already grieved their loss and had gotten over it.

    [–] Costco shooting: Off-duty officer killed nonverbal man with intellectual disability fiddlemonkey 5 points ago in news

    I have a nonverbal child with autism and intellectual disability, but she was reading at age three and can pick out a mistake in a page of text in a minute. Autistic people often have splinter skills they are really good at, and I wouldn’t be surprised if someone could be intellectually disabled did have the ability to be an accountant.

    [–] Parents of Reddit: What did you swear you wouldn't do as a parent, that you've done at least once? fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in AskReddit

    I’m pretty sure my kids don’t really want a reasoned explanation, they just want me to agree with them. Which is why I find myself saying that a lot when trying to tell them my reasoning gets me nowhere.

    [–] Parents of Reddit: What did you swear you wouldn't do as a parent, that you've done at least once? fiddlemonkey 4 points ago in AskReddit

    Or they take the crust off the sandwich in the back of the minivan and leave all the crust pieces in their cup holder for a few weeks.

    [–] Parents of Reddit: What did you swear you wouldn't do as a parent, that you've done at least once? fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in AskReddit

    I love mine too. Mostly I love that it is fairly difficult for my kids to reach their sibling and poke them just to see how they will react.

    [–] Parents of Reddit: What did you swear you wouldn't do as a parent, that you've done at least once? fiddlemonkey 4 points ago in AskReddit

    I have heard so many mothers say they don’t want to cosleep because it’s dangerous say they fall asleep with their infants on a couch or recliner to avoid cosleeping. But couches and recliners still count as cosleeping and they are much more dangerous. If your baby won’t sleep in a crib, like many other babies, you are far better off moving your pillows and comforter and sleeping with them in your bed than repeatedly falling asleep with them on a couch or recliner.

    [–] Parents of Reddit: What did you swear you wouldn't do as a parent, that you've done at least once? fiddlemonkey 3 points ago in AskReddit

    My daughter played a game where she would pretend to get ready to go somewhere and then say “Oh Shit” and start looking for her pretend keys.

    [–] What unconventional form of torture would break you the fastest? fiddlemonkey 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Being on public transport on a bus full of people that like to tell you their life story within minutes of meeting you and don’t/won’t pick up on social cues.

    [–] What was your 'I don't get paid enough for this' moment at work? fiddlemonkey 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Maybe he knew people use some fertilizers to make meth and wanted to skip a step?

    [–] What was your 'I don't get paid enough for this' moment at work? fiddlemonkey 3 points ago in AskReddit

    My unit occasionally gets people with schizophrenia after they’ve been stabilized, and my experience is that once they are on the right meds 99% are pleasant and wonderful people to be around. The right meds is the tricky part though. I have never yet had a schizophrenic patient yell at me because I was ten minutes late with their ice water, which puts them ahead of a lot of very mentally sound people.

    [–] What was your 'I don't get paid enough for this' moment at work? fiddlemonkey 2 points ago in AskReddit

    I’d actually be a little grateful it was contained, to be honest. My first day off training as a CNA I got off the elevator and a very sweet but confused resident handed me a shoe and said “I don’t know what this is!” Shoe was full of poop. Unfortunately her bathroom had also been a casualty, so it didn’t end up being just in the shoe.

    [–] 5 year old girl with autism and her therapy cat. fiddlemonkey 68 points ago in aww

    My cat has a therapy autistic kid :). My daughter finds the cat annoying. The cat adores my daughter and does not understand personal space or why she can’t have my daughters attention all the time.

    [–] “A life is not saved just by letting it be born” fiddlemonkey 42 points ago in pics

    I still think it is applicable. All of those traumatized, unloved children grew up, and have raised or are raising children themselves. Trauma gets passed on for generations, especially if people don’t have access to mental health care, and I am guessing Ceaușescu’s policies are still affecting children in Romania today.