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    [–] What minor thing that happened to you as a child has stayed with you your whole life? kittylover1075 31 points ago in AskReddit

    Ugh this reminds me of something that happened in 4th grade that I've felt so bad about ever since. I was friends with a girl in class that everyone thought was weird. She wasn't weird, she had a short pixie haircut and kids made fun of her for having "boy hair". That was basically it, they didn't like that she didn't have long hair like most girls had at the time.

    One day, the more popular kids asked me to sit with them at lunch, and I sat with them because I was 9 and thought yay, more friends! They were nice, we chatted, they had a piece of paper they were writing on, but I didn't pay much attention to it. They asked me to put my name on the paper, I'm not sure if I wrote my name or if they wrote it for me. I didn't know what they were doing but thought it was harmless.

    We got back from lunch and the teacher called us all out, me and the group I sat with, plus my friend with short hair. The teacher wanted to discuss what was on this paper. I was confused, I didn't know there was more to the paper than just a list of names. Apparently they had written a note to my friend saying no one liked her, she was weird, and they all signed it, so it looked like I had agreed with what was on the paper. I felt terrible, I said I didn't know it said that, but I don't know if she believed me. It obviously fractured our friendship. I think she moved away, I never got a chance to really apologize (9 year olds have shit communication skills), never saw her again, and could never find her on social media.

    I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope those girls feel as guilty as I do.

    [–] Switching major out of Accounting, dont know what I want to/should do kittylover1075 2 points ago in UBreddit

    I was in this exact same position last year, I was a junior in accounting and decided it wasn't for me. I tried to switch to business with a concentration in finance and HR but that was meh for me as well. I dropped out for a semester while I got my shit together (not just for school, but my life in general, like getting a license and car finally).

    I'm not sure what you should do, but here's what I did. I switched my major to mathematics and was torn between a concentration in computing vs actuarial science, so I took the prerequisites for both (a CSE class and a STA class). I was very bad at computing, just didn't click with me. I imagine it would be easier for someone who was not a beginner like I was, I went in knowing absolutely nothing. They say you don't need to have a background in it, but it seemed like I was the only one who didn't program in my spare time. I could make sense of the concepts easily, but when it came to actually coding, nope. Literally got zero on all the assignments and had to resign the class because I was failing. So I stayed in the mathematics program but switched my concentration to actuarial science. That concentration requires a lot of the classes I already took in the school of management, I only needed like two more classes to get the minor in management, so I minored in management. The program also has you take all the classes for a statistics and economics minor as well, so why not minor in those as well? It's a nice mix of classes for me personally, it's not just ALL math. I would definitely recommend it if you like math and are good at it.

    I switched my major like 3-4 times in total before I found what clicked. It was very disheartening honestly, I felt lost and like I would never graduate. But I'm happy now because I took the time to try some classes, try majors that seemed like they'd be a good fit for me, and finally found the right one. I will graduate later, I was set back two years which sucks, I was supposed to have graduated by now. But two years is nothing in the grand scheme of life, plus the extra time is helping me grow up and become more confident. So definitely take the time to try the majors that interest you, you probably won't graduate on time anyway, so there's really no deadline to meet. The last thing you want is to rush into another major you don't like.

    [–] My(F19) Mother(F40) use of my car has turned into a nightmare and I don't know what to do. kittylover1075 6 points ago in relationships

    You gave her a year to get her life on track, it's not your fault she squandered that opportunity when you did her a favor by letting her borrow your car. That's more than enough time to find a job and save money for her own used car. Don't feel bad by taking your car back. It's YOUR car, your father pays the insurance for YOU to drive it, not your mother. If the insurance is in your dad's name, it can also affect what he pays for insurance, and you are putting him in a shitty position by having him pay for your mother's terrible driving. You warned her you were taking it back so she had time to find other transportation. It's not your problem that she missed the deadline.

    You're 19, please don't feel obligated to take care of a 40 year old woman. I know you love her and she's your mother, but she will sabotage your credit and driving record if you continue down this path of trying to help her. Your adult life has just started, and it started on a bad note because of her. Don't let your future be impacted by this, you have time to fix what she already has done. If her life and your relationship with her go down the shitter just because you take your car back, it's her own fault for putting you in that position. She's the adult, she should know better. If she hasn't helped herself by now, you can't help her, and it's not your responsibility to.

    Have you driven your car recently or had it inspected? I ask because there could be damage you can't see that won't be apparent until you drive it, which could be dangerous. If there's a lot of damage, it might be cheaper to just sign the car over to her and get a used car for yourself. If you can afford to fix things though, definitely take it with you.

    In the future, don't trust anyone to drive a car that's in your name. No matter who is driving, it's your responsibility to keep registration up to date, to maintain it, and to make sure there's no tickets on it. Don't trust anyone else to do these things. If a person fucks up in your car, it's on you (as you probably have already learned). Also now that you're an adult, you need keep tabs on your credit score. That score will open and close doors for you when buying cars, getting an apartment, buying a house, etc. Don't let it be impacted by someone else's decisions, because you will be the one to pay for it. That's not fair to you, but it's your responsibility now to make sure you have good credit and report any activity that wasn't from you.

    I'm very sorry your mother has put you in this position. You shouldn't be dealing with this. It's hard to confront people you love, but you can't risk your credit and driving record for her. Good luck.

    [–] My(F19) Mother(F40) use of my car has turned into a nightmare and I don't know what to do. kittylover1075 25 points ago in relationships

    I feel very sad too. A 19 year old shouldn't be worried about helping a 40 year old get her life on track. She should be focused on her own life and future. And her mother could very well make her future harder by decreasing her credit and making OP have a bunch of driving violations.

    [–] I will 100% ignore your child, lady kittylover1075 103 points ago in childfree

    Most of the people that ignore her children probably have lives and don't even realize they're ignoring her and won't even read her damn article. Her entire identity is built around being a mother. Seems sad.

    [–] "You'll throw out your pets when you have babies!" kittylover1075 106 points ago in childfree

    Yeah, I've never heard of this expression. I totally thought she was literally throwing things and was surprised at how calm OP was.

    [–] Probably the most immature response to a bingo I've ever done. kittylover1075 107 points ago in childfree

    I find it ironic that he thinks farts are so disgusting to the point of complaining about you farting to his wife, but was trying to talk you into childbirth. Farts are nothing compared to birth!

    [–] My Therapist Brought her Child to Work... kittylover1075 109 points ago in childfree

    Going to a final session would be a waste of time, money, and breath. If she was going to understand what she did wrong, she would have understood when it was brought up at the end of the appointment. Instead, she made it OP's issue by saying they need to talk about the dislike of children. ANYONE, childfree or not, would think that's unprofessional. A final session would probably just be the therapist making it seem like OP's problem instead of hers.

    [–] Just saw a post on facebook: "I'm a single mom of 7." kittylover1075 326 points ago in childfree

    "lol I'm making my child's life so much harder so I can have time to complain on Facebook! How funny!"

    What a disgusting human.

    [–] Last day at work and felt petty kittylover1075 960 points ago in childfree

    I hate it when people say stuff like "I hope you have children so you realize how hard it is!"

    Oh dear, if only there were steps I could take to prevent myself from having kids!

    [–] "I'm saying this because I care about you." kittylover1075 135 points ago in childfree

    I think a lot of people my age (21) are making a huge mistake by keeping pregnancies. I would never fucking say that to them though. That would be rude and it's not my place to say anything.

    I also think that making a mistake by drastically altering your life (having a child) is way worse than making a mistake by keeping your life the same by not having kids. I'd rather be full of regret without kids than full of regret with kids.

    [–] What common sob stories do you have no sympathy for? kittylover1075 242 points ago in AskReddit

    Oh they can afford it, they just put their wants before the needs of the children.

    [–] My baby will be cuter anyway kittylover1075 98 points ago in childfree

    Plus puppies/kittens stay cute when they grow up!

    [–] TIFU by spilling my urine all over an airport terminal. kittylover1075 382 points ago in tifu

    "I'm uncomfortable waking people up to pee, but I'm fine trying to hide my dick while I pee right next to them!"

    How the fuck is that not way more uncomfortable than inconveniencing some strangers for a few seconds?

    [–] Childbirth Isn’t a Compromise kittylover1075 148 points ago in childfree

    How nice it must be to want kids and order your incubator to do all the work so you can have kodak moments when you feel like it.

    [–] [OC] I won't tolerate intolerance about my lactose intolerance. kittylover1075 36 points ago in comics

    I'm not vegan, but I was vegetarian and had a vegan friend. Our diets would just come up in conversation, usually someone asked about it first. They would just notice my friend not eating anything and she'd tell them she was vegan. So many conversations would go something like:

    "Oh you're vegan? People can't survive on a vegan diet, it's not enough protein!"

    "Well I've been vegan for years and my doctor says I'm healthy. I'm obviously surviving. There are a lot of alternatives to protein besides meat. There are even vegan bodybuilders."


    Don't comment on a diet you don't understand if you don't want to learn more about it.

    [–] What r/Askreddit questions need to be retired? kittylover1075 105 points ago in AskReddit

    Yes! There was one where it was asking "Women, what thing do men do that they're unaware is creepy?" And a lot of replies to answers were just "but it's not creepy, I've done it and it worked great!" You have a woman saying this thing is creepy, it has a lot of upvotes which usually means a lot of people agree it's creepy, but you still don't think so? Okay bro.

    And then half the top comments in threads like that are guys saying "I'm taking notes". I mean it's a funny comment, but why is that a top answer in a thread asking women a question?

    [–] Reddit, what's the worst thing you've ever received from someone else for a birthday or hliday? kittylover1075 626 points ago in AskReddit

    My SO's grandma does this to him!

    Grandma: "That's a nice shirt. What size is it?"

    SO: "Large."

    Grandma: "Are you sure you're not an extra large?"

    SO: "I'm sure."

    Grandma: "I think you're an extra large."

    SO: "I'm not."

    Then fast forward to his birthday/Christmas (his birthday is Christmas Eve so it's basically all gifts at once) and grandma has apparently told the whole family this incorrect size because all the shirts he gets from that side of the family are extra large. And guess what, they're huge on him! So he gets nice shirts that he can't wear just because his grandma didn't believe what size he was.

    [–] What is your least favourite type of person? kittylover1075 63 points ago in AskReddit

    Kind of similar, when a woman claims she hates other women, for really no reason. If you're not getting along with an entire gender... You're probably just rude. I went to this woman's place for "Friendsgiving" this year, she had worked with my SO and invited us both. She mentioned multiple times throughout the party that she hates other women and can't stand them (minus the people at the party because 80% of the guests were women. Not sure how that works if you hate women). It made me feel pretty unwelcome every time she said it, and it made me second guess how she treated me (is she being nice because she likes me or is she faking it?).

    [–] RANT: My waxing girl called me 'selfish' kittylover1075 407 points ago in childfree

    "Mom, why are our dinner plates empty for the third day in a row?"

    "They're not empty, they're full of love!"

    [–] Shitty people of reddit, what's the worst thing you've ever done? kittylover1075 46 points ago in AskReddit

    In my high school English class, it coincidentally happened to be all girls. I was always the first one there because my previous class was next door and the teacher usually wasn't there yet because the period before our class was when she took her lunch break.

    So I got there, I was alone. I had to fart and let it rip, thinking by the time the next person got there, the fart smell would be gone. Unfortunately for me, this was one of the most nastiest farts I had and that smell was going to stay as long as it could. Unfortunately for everyone else, I sat right next to the door.

    The next person walked in and I could see the moment the smell hit her. She was a friend, so I quickly started talking to her and complained about the fart smell. "What the hell is that smell? I've been sitting here trying not to breathe, it's so bad." Not sure if she fell for it, but it seemed like she did and we were bitching about it together. Now that I wasn't alone, the rest of the people coming in wouldn't immediately blame me.

    One after one, I watched as all the girls walked into my fart wall and contort their face in disgust. Even the teacher. And when class started, the teacher said, "Sorry about that smell, I have no idea why it smells like farts in here. Maybe I should open some windows." I was trying so hard not to laugh the entire time.

    [–] What is a telltale sign someone is not to be trusted? kittylover1075 691 points ago in AskReddit

    I had a friend like that. If I ever told her she was being rude to me or someone else, it was my fault for "being too sensitive" and "it's just a joke". And when people stopped hanging out with her one by one, and told her she's a horrible person, she still somehow managed to make it seem like they were the ones overreacting and laughed about it. "I have so many more friends, you think I care that you hate me? Get over yourself." Her casual friends haven't gotten to know how horrible she is to her closer friends, so they still like her and validate her feelings since they only get her heavily biased side of the story.

    I'm so glad I stopped that toxic friendship. She was a pain in the ass.