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    [–] Faked cancer?? mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    If it makes you feel any better, I’m sure most people thought less of her for saying it.

    Congrats on the new life! The best revenge is a life well lived!

    [–] Daughter (3.7) hit with toy in kindergarten, 8 stitches! mudslideme 3 points ago in Parenting

    We know a family whose 4yo fell at school in front of her grandmother. It also happened in front of several other parents (inc me) and she wasn’t doing anything dangerous (just running to grandma). It resulted in an ER trip and a swollen eye that lasted for several months. It was BAD.

    If those factors hadn’t been present (at school, with grandma), it would have been hard to believe that there wasn’t abuse. But the truth is, shit happens. Kids get hurt. The school handled everything properly. The best thing you can do is not traumatize your kid by turning it into a big deal.

    You shouldn’t sue. And if you did, you’d lose anyway. The school would hate you too.

    [–] MIL who went on a cruise and ‘forgot’ DH’s birthday returns with a gift of unimaginable wonder and intrigue /s mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    I had to mail it to her, so I didn’t get the satisfaction. But between that and the ugly designer scarves, she doesn’t send me presents anymore. My dad sends gift cards, so I think I’ve won!!

    [–] MIL who went on a cruise and ‘forgot’ DH’s birthday returns with a gift of unimaginable wonder and intrigue /s mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Since I was a little girl, my mom has always given me a hard time about my weight and has always purchased me items that are on sale, whether I’d like them or not.

    I bought her a Large shirt (which is supposed to fit her, but she aims for a Medium) in Juniors size, so it was way too small but not so obvious that she would be able to tell what I did.

    I also now get her whatever I can get on a deep discount. My favorite is an ugly, but designer scarf (she lives in a hot climate).

    [–] JNMIL doesn't agree with 2nd birthday parties. mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    When she’s upset that she wasn’t included, “we know how much birthdays offend you, so we want to respect that.” And of course, don’t insult her by acknowledging her birthdays anymore.

    [–] AITA for telling my wife her “friends” lied to her? mudslideme 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA unless you delivered the message in an insensitive way. Even if they were delivering pizza and stayed, they all, except for wife delivered the pizza together, omitting her?

    An easy, non confrontational way for your wife to get a better handle on the situation would be for her to just “drop the rope.” She can see how long it takes for them to contact her and pay attention as to why they are contacting her. If it’s just to unload their problems on her or because they need something, she then knows they aren’t true friends.

    [–] This is the hill I will die on! mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    You just gave another example where they easily could have helped you but chose to be mean instead.

    It will be difficult, but it sounds like a healthy move to stop contacting them. Addition by subtraction.

    [–] This is the hill I will die on! mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Wow! I can’t imagine giving a mom with a newborn a hard time about sleeping too much. The level of exhaustion you are experiencing is difficult to achieve through other circumstances.

    If they were that worried about the well being of your other child, they should offer to come over and play with your toddler for a few hours a day. Giving you a hard time is an awful thing to do.

    [–] MIL doesn't want my fiance and I to get a cat because she wouldn't be able to visit us mudslideme 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    I’m picturing you doing some sort of Dwight Schrute level power play over her with the cat an I love it. Like you rub your cat all over yourself before you go to her house and it acts as a natural repellent. You then stand there, hands on hips, one foot on a chair, beaming with the pride over your super power.

    [–] Butternut Squash Soup mudslideme 1 points ago in GifRecipes

    She only visited once. She saw our wedding pictures and told us we weren’t really married because it wasn’t in a church. I told her that I was pretty sure that God is at the beach too.

    [–] Inviting herself to MY labor.. mudslideme 2 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Mine definitely got worse with each kid. “Try to relax while you breastfeed, but here, have this painful contraction at the same time.”

    My friend has 8 kids. She said hers were never that bad. And also produces milk like a cow. Bitch. (Not really)

    [–] My MIL is putting her foot down on how to raise children, but so am I. mudslideme 3 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    My 8yo made lunches one day this week: mandarin oranges, cucumbers (that she sliced and put salt and pepper on), and a small bag of chips. I asked her to throw in a cheese stick for each of them and called it good. Was it exactly what I would have packed them? No, but I thought it was great that she worried about the servings of fruits and veggies first (she’s not a fan of veggies). And she was beaming with pride.

    I was similar, but not as bad as your husband. Damn right my kids will be prepared to fend for themselves when they leave the nest. That’s my job.

    Don’t back down, mamma. You are doing great.

    [–] Inviting herself to MY labor.. mudslideme 17 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    That’s great. People don’t talk about the messy parts of immediate post partum. The toe-curling contractions every time you breastfeed, the chapped nipples that you have to ice and lotion, the first painful poop that feels like you might split in two (I had c-sections), dealing with all the blood and trying to keep wounds clean, dealing with the huge hormonal swings, the frustration of latching... .

    I would hope that I can help my daughters during this when it is time, but I would want it on their terms.

    [–] Butternut Squash Soup mudslideme 1 points ago in GifRecipes

    I’ve made this without the extra veggies. One of my guests refused to eat it because she wouldn’t believe me when I said there was no cream in it. She didn’t want the calories. That was a good batch of soup.

    [–] Ex wants my address mudslideme 5 points ago in JustNoSO

    No family. Just a shitty sister.

    [–] Mom wants to get Naked and "Rebirth" Me to heal our relationship... mudslideme 5 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Sounds like she just wants to avoid any blame for the way she’s treated you.

    And the rebirthing is all about her and her trauma.

    Many moms worry about being a good mother. That’s just a stupid thing to say.

    [–] Getting rid of old toys mudslideme 2 points ago * (lasted edited 2 days ago) in konmari

    Both are popular still, especially MLP. You could easily sell them on FB marketplace or donate them.

    My kids played with MLP that I purchased for a few bucks from a friend who purchased them at a garage sale. Some of them have magnets in one hoof, so you can make them dance in their MLP castle.

    Brand name MLP are so much better quality than the off brand ponies. Yours can still get a lot of love.

    EDIT: I reread your post. My youngest is 5, so we are at the stage of getting rid of younger toys. I sell or donate the everyday toys that we have no big sentimental attachment too. The more difficult ones, I donate to nice friends or co-workers who have kids. I want the items to be loved and cared for as we did. Not used by kids who destroy everything they touch and have parents that don’t care.

    Many of our favorite toys were given to us, so it seems like a good circle of life.

    [–] Let's talk about your landing pad: How do you keep the kids from dumping their backpacks and sports stuff here? mudslideme 5 points ago in konmari

    We take care of backpacks, lunch boxes, and folders first thing when we get home in the evening. We have shoe racks and a closet with baskets for hats/mittens, hooks for backpacks, and coat hangers for coats. We are constantly walking through that room, so it’s obvious if someone has forgotten.

    I also have the kids involved in cleaning the shoe area and closet, so they have a vested interest in keeping the area tidy.

    [–] A sneaking suspicion about myself & having to give up counselling. mudslideme 6 points ago in LetterstoJNMIL

    When your raised by narcissists, it’s hard to not have those traits yourself. Half the battle is identifying it. Then you can work to not behave that way.

    One of my kids has some of the natural behavioral tendencies of my JNMom too, so I work harder on empathy and non-narc behavior with her (e.g. picking out what people want for their birthdays, not what you want to get them).

    [–] My MIL cane to my sister's house mudslideme 5 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Don’t leave your sister’s house until you’re good and ready or you’re at risk of outstaying your welcome. You need the stability and support right now. Take advantage of the time to set yourself up for success when you leave. That’s the best way to show your appreciation for their sacrifices.

    [–] MIL didn't change 2 year old's diaper for 12 hours mudslideme 5 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    This is a big deal. If your baby had acidic poop, she could have serious sores that would take a long time to heal and hurt her every time she goes to the bathroom until they did heal.

    I had noticed that my dad disappeared when it was diaper time, so I explicitly told him that he had to change diapers when he takes them for the day. I walked him through how to change a diaper. He said he knew he’d have to do it, paid attention to directions, and we never had a problem. He is my stepdad so he’d never changed a diaper before, but he loves his grandkids and knows it has to be done to care for a kid.

    This is the proper reaction for a grandparent. Please don’t let this slide. She could have seriously hurt your girl.