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    [–] AITA for asking my wife to ask me to do chores around the house? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA. Make a list of all the chores and how often each one needs to be done. Maybe you can have a monthly printout and you and she can both just look there to see who's checked off which things, and which things are left, so no one has to keep it all in their head.

    It's good that you automatically do some stuff though.

    [–] AITA (17f and my 53m dad) for making my mum (50f) cry on her birthday? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA but... your mom probably spends a lot of time anticipating your needs, and thinking of nice things you would like but don't think to ask for. So I'm not surprised that she got her hopes up that you might do the same for her on a big birthday like this. And then all you did was get the stuff she asked for and copied the generic cake that everyone gets. Idk, I definitely see where she's coming from because she's only asking you to do what she's done for the other family members a bunch of times.

    [–] AITA for telling my mom to stop with the damn 80s pop music? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, you should threaten to disable her data plan if she streams the music. If she won't wear headphones or acts out when you have to cut the data, look into eviction. r/legaladvice can help

    [–] AITA for intentionally making my sister late to school? myyusernameismeta -1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    ESH. You know she usually runs 15 minutes behind so why didn't you just start eating right away at 7:15?

    [–] Is coffee worth giving up and just drink water? myyusernameismeta 3 points ago in Advice

    Coffee makes your bladder spasm a bit, so it empties more. You feel like you made more pee, and you do get more pee out, but it's just because of your bladder spasming

    [–] AITA for drawing marks on my newborn babies? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, ask her how she tells them apart. Maybe there's a mole on one of their legs or something.

    [–] AITA: for packing lots of food for my son during school days? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    INFO: If he's the size of an 8 year old, talk to his pediatrician to make sure he's not overweight for his height. Lots of kids eat mostly healthy foods and look healthy, but are actually on the path to obesity. I'm a pediatrician and I see this ALL THE TIME. In fact, most parents of normal-weight kids are worried that their kids are underweight and malnourished, because we're so used to seeing overweight kids these days.

    If he's overweight, then YWBTA (to your son) if you keep giving him more snack food than the other kids get.

    [–] WIBTA for asking my wife for a paternity test on our son (5 years old) myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NAH, I'm pretty sure you can send one of those without your wife even knowing. Just send it, it's better than wondering late at night if your son is biologically related to you.

    Think in advance what you'll do if he turns out not to be yours. You don't want to be blindsided by the results.

    [–] We are a pediatrician and a child psychiatrist. Ask us anything about back to school wellness. myyusernameismeta 20 points ago in IAmA

    She might have a sleep disorder, talk to her pediatrician about it. It sounds like her sleep isn't very restful for her if she wakes up feeling that sleepy. I was always like this as a kid and after decades of horrible mornings and days where I felt too lazy to get anything done, I got diagnosed with narcolepsy. Lots more people have obstructive sleep apnea, which is very treatable and could cause everything you've mentioned here.

    [–] non british people of reddit, what do you find odd about britain? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Paying to use the public bathroom. I've never had to carry cash before in my life and suddenly I need coins just to pee?!

    [–] AITA for wanting our nanny to stay for an extra 2 hours on weeknights, so I can have time for the gym? myyusernameismeta 0 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, you can only take care of others as well as you take care of yourself, and you clearly need this. If hubby wants the child to spend more time with a parent, he can cut his hours. In this day and age where you're both working and exhausted, and there's no nearby grandparent who's willing to fill in for a couple of hours in the evening, this is the way to go.

    Don't let these other people make you feel bad. The nanny is grateful for the hours, your daughter is happy and healthy, and your daughter has two parents. The current situation is as close to a win-win as it gets.

    [–] TIFU by (almost) regaining the ability to orgasm after 10 years of none myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in tifu

    OUCH that sounds painful. Ask your doctor if Wellbutrin would work for you - it's supposed to let you orgasm, and one of my friends with a history of sexual trauma is on it and doing really well. Let your doc know the sexual side effects of your current med are bothering you and I'm sure they'll let you try it.

    [–] AITA for taking back a gift I gave to my child? myyusernameismeta 5 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NAH, but you have to figure out why the grades dropped. Maybe she needs glasses. Maybe she's being bullied. Maybe she has trouble with a concept they're covering in school.

    Also you should reinforce your daughter's good behavior: sure she lied, but she also came clean, which is good. So far you've essentially punished her for telling the truth.

    Sit down and have an honest conversation with her about how it's really good that she told you the truth about her grades, because now you can work together to get the grades back on track, and tell her she'll get the switch back when her grades come up for real. (Set a realistic goal with her teachers input, and make her actually show your her test results. Her goal needs to be extremely attainable, otherwise she'll lose hope, stop trying, and feel bitter about the whole thing.)

    Get her vision and hearing tested. Start checking her homework to make sure she's doing it correctly. Set up a meeting with her teacher to figure out the problem. If she goes to public school in the US, you can request to start the process of getting her tested for learning disabilities. Ask her pediatrician what they think. She may need to be tested for ADHD - girls with primarily inattentive ADHD are notoriously undiagnosed. If she snores, she could have undiagnosed sleep apnea which makes it extremely difficult to focus on class.

    Additionally if the family situation is contributing to her stress and possibly affecting her ability to focus, you can ask her doctor for a referral for family therapy.

    [–] AITA for making a job take a lot longer to spite me GF? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    INFO, have you had an honest discussion with gf about having more balance in your life and why you want to have time to relax with the kids and by yourself? Maybe watch one of the movie "About Time" together and explain to her that you want that time with your kids while they're still young, and no one ever said on their death bed "I sure wish I spent more time doing endless home renovations and less time with the people I love."

    Also if she's not getting time to herself to relax, she'll be mad about you slacking off playing video games while she's doing other chores. So make a deal with her that you'll help her incorporate time for her to relax (doing whatever she likes as much as you like video games) too, so it's more fair.

    Edit: you should also honestly ask her why she wants the home renovations done. Maybe she's embarrassed to have people over or something. Or maybe she was raised with a Protestant work ethic and hasn't realized that it's ok to relax sometimes. Get to the root of the issue so you can find a solution that works for both of you. Make your discussion be about "us vs the problem," not "me vs you."

    [–] AITA for banning my little sister (13F) from reading certain books? myyusernameismeta 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA, let her learn about the world! It's better for her to do it through a book than actually getting mixed up in shady activities

    [–] AITA for banning my little sister (13F) from reading certain books? myyusernameismeta 19 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I read that book around that age too and it helped me understand people a lot better. Just putting that out there.

    [–] WIBTA if I asked my parents to not have sex while I'm awake? myyusernameismeta 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Came here to say this. OP 's parents should buy these as a Christmas gift or something

    [–] AITA For not giving my Wife an “allowance” nor having joint bank accounts myyusernameismeta 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    INFO: I think we need to hear her side of it. I suspect you're the AH if you ever question her on purchases. Also would a set allowance be that hard to do?

    Is she working?

    [–] AITA for asking to be paired with a disabled person anymore? myyusernameismeta 3 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA, you were put in a terrible situation, which seems to have left you with some rage. It's not the other kid's fault, so try not to blame him.

    [–] AITA? I wore an accessory ring to work knowing that my co-worker has the same ring for her engagement ring. myyusernameismeta -5 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    INFO: What's your plan moving forward? YWBTA if you continue wearing it to work knowing how she feels about it. But you weren't the AH for wearing it this time since you had the ring first.

    [–] What's something strange your body does that you know isn't quite right but also isn't quite serious enough to get checked out by a doctor? myyusernameismeta 15 points ago in AskReddit

    That last one of probably just hypnagogic hallucinations, which are usually normal as long as you feel your sleep is restful. If you wake up feeling exhausted and have trouble staying awake, ask your doctor about getting tested for narcolepsy

    [–] WIBTA if I made my roommate hold her pee in? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NAH she should talk to a doctor if it's that bad. She can try oxytrol patches over the counter also - that can help with bladder spasms. If that doesn't fix it or if she gets side effects with it (or had a medical reason not to use it, or prefers to look into other options), then her doctor may have a better idea.

    If she refuses to look into treatment, then she's the AH.

    [–] AITA for getting a tattoo before my brother's wedding? myyusernameismeta 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    INFO is this tattoo in a more prominent place or is it more dramatic than the others?