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    [–] This is true love myyusernameismeta 3 points ago in wholesomememes

    You'd forget to pay mortgage or some bill one day so people would check on you and realize what had happened.... Or you'd get lost and a policeman would realize how confused you were... and you'd get hospitalized for "altered metal status." If you're in the US, someone would be appointed to essentially act as your next of kin if you had none. You'd probably get placed in a nursing home so people could look after you, since it wouldn't be safe for you to stay at home anymore. (Why wouldn't it be safe? Because you might forget you had something on the stove and set your house on fire.)

    [–] What is this one sexual fact everyone would benefit knowing? myyusernameismeta 35 points ago in AskReddit

    Not all sex involves a penis. Some couples don't have vaginas. That's why oral and manual sex count as sex. You wouldn't consider an experienced lesbian to be a virgin would you?

    [–] What is this one sexual fact everyone would benefit knowing? myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Same thing with the clitoris. Sometimes it stays soft even when we're into it

    [–] Problem Orgaasming myyusernameismeta 2 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    Did you start any new medicine? Some medicines can have sexual side effects. If you think that’s what happened, see if your doctor can give you a different medicine that doesn’t have that side effect. Also, if it’s not a medication side effect, definitely talk to a doctor.

    [–] Americans of Reddit, what is something you didn't realise was typically American, until you went abroad? myyusernameismeta 22 points ago in AskReddit

    That makes sense but it also makes me sad, because in some cases, it couldn't be further from the truth. I'm actually pretty introverted for an American, and tbh I wish I lived in a more progressive country. But I still say friendly things to strangers every now and then. Otherwise I feel rude. It's not an arrogance thing, it's actually me trying to be respectful and friendly, rather than aloof and arrogant. (Some people in the US assume that if you completely keep to yourself, it's because you think you're better than those around you.)

    [–] AITA for telling my girlfriend she doesn’t need to make plans every time I want to game? myyusernameismeta 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Exactly. If he and his friends had game nights on Tuesdays and Thursdays, his girlfriend could avidly look forward to Friday date night and Thursdays with her sister. That's a very reasonable compromise

    [–] AITA for telling my girlfriend she doesn’t need to make plans every time I want to game? myyusernameismeta 8 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Idk why you're getting downvoted - this is actually what I came here to suggest, and it sounds like a reasonable compromise

    [–] People in happy relationships: Why does your relationship work? What makes it so good? myyusernameismeta 15 points ago * (lasted edited 2 months ago) in AskWomen

    I think this is a great idea. It's not for everyone, but it's worked well for my husband and me. At first I was really worried I'd be jealous, but he always respected the rules/boundaries we came up with at every stage of slowly opening up or relationship, which helped a lot. And we communicated extensively before and throughout our journey.

    Your partner may not want to hear about your escapades, but opening things up could save your marriage.

    That said, you two have a small child at home. Have you tried asking her what types of things you can do to help her feel like a person again? She probably needs you to pitch in around the house a lot, and she's probably exhausted and sleep deprived. And she probably needs you to see the work that needs to be done and just do it, without waiting for her to direct you. "Managing" the house and having to tell your partner what to do can be a huge mental drain. But having an occasional conversation to redistribute responsibility can help.

    Think about it this way: If someone else took care of the kid for a week and you two could just chill, your wife might be as adventurous and sexual as ever. But right now, YOU are that other person. There are only two parents, and often one person gets stuck with more responsibility than the other.

    If you do open up the relationship, don't expect her to stay on parenting duty while you run off and date other people. You owe her just as much free time as you hope to give yourself, whether she spends that time with you, with friends, by herself, or with other lovers.

    [–] TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend myyusernameismeta 24 points ago in tifu

    Ugh that's the worst, I've had that happen too, and honestly it's really turned me off to the whole group birthday thing. I'm sorry your boyfriend didn't listen - it's totally normal to want to stay in at that point, and he should habe taken your word that you'd rather stay in, instead of making it about him and his expectations

    [–] TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend myyusernameismeta 6 points ago in tifu

    Some people, both women and men, have trouble putting things into words, especially in a high stress situation. So if someone you generally trust and respect says "I don't want to go back in there," the right thing to do is to realize they have a good reason, even if they can't put it into words right now. That's part of being in a relationship with an equal. And if you don't trust your partner enough to give them the benefit of the doubt, then maybe you should figure out why you don't trust them, and do something about that.

    [–] TIFU By Ruining My Valentine's Date with My Girlfriend myyusernameismeta 8 points ago in tifu

    Wait really? My husband and I make up random excuses to get dressed up and go out all the time, and it's really nice not having to wait all year for vday. We sometimes have to work on major holidays so I guess we try to make up for it by celebrating "we both have the day off!" etc, which happens a lot more often than this holiday. Nice dinner out, dessert, bottle of wine, lingerie... There's no reason that has to be a once or twice a year thing, unless it's because of a really tight budget

    [–] “Nearly 25% of mothers go back to work within two weeks of giving birth. To give you a sense of where human mothers fall on the legal protection hierarchy, it’s illegal to separate a dog from her newborn pups before 8 weeks in several states.” The law protects dogs more than human women. myyusernameismeta 1 points ago in TwoXChromosomes

    There are relatively progressive Americans who want the right to abortions, better parental leave, and better healthcare. And there are relatively conservative Americans who want to make abortion illegal, and they don't want to pay for (or guarantee) parental leave.

    I'm part of the former group. I'm really sad about the latter group, because they make life hard for women here. It could be a lot worse, but I still wish it was better

    [–] My boyfriend [25m] seems to want me [24f] to spend more in my personal life, because I have a high-flying work life. myyusernameismeta 10 points ago in relationships

    This. I think either he's jealous and wants to have fancy experiences too (so they can both enjoy nice things together), or he doesn't understand that it's her work paying for the fancy stuff.

    I suspect he sees how nice things could be from how she talks about her trips, but never gets to experience it with her, and that's understandably frustrating. But I understand it from her perspective too; it feels silly to spend money on things you don't care about. I think they can find a compromise once she asks him what he likes about these nicer things he encourages her to spend money on.

    [–] My[35M] girlfriend[30F] is constantly messaging me with problems that seem infantile. I want to be supportive but I'm having major problems. Help please! myyusernameismeta 22 points ago in relationships

    THIS. My husband used to always say things like "That sucks babe" when I was coming to him for help/advice solving whatever problem I was facing. We talked about how even though I occasionally want to vent, I generally don't complain unless I'm in problem solving mode. So now he asks whether I want his thoughts/advice or a hug. 10/10 would recommend

    [–] I (F24) gave my friends at work Valentines gifts and now I feel like a big idiot myyusernameismeta 16 points ago in relationships

    Idk, I've gotten "I'm glad we're buddies" Valentine's day gifts from same-gender friends, and I think it's nice. Then again I'm a lady, so maybe it's more normal for me to express/accept expressions of platonic affection

    [–] Exposure to weed killing products increases risk of cancer by 41%, finds a new study that provides evidence that ‘supports link’ between exposures to glyphosate herbicides and increased risk for non-Hodgkin lymphoma. myyusernameismeta 5 points ago in worldnews

    Per year though. So after working with it for 40 years, say from age 20 to 60, your risk would be 1.2% instead of 0.86%. So 1 in 200 workers gets this type of cancer BECAUSE of RoundUp. Can you imagine if one out of every 200 of your coworkers got lymphoma and died because of the type of work they do? Non-Hodgkins in the bad kind of lymphoma - I'd certainly change jobs.