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    [–] I (21 f) don’t understand why I’m so annoyed my best friends (23f) new relationship. offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    I try very hard to be real with her, but she brushes off most of my relationship advice because my last serious (3 yr+) relationship was toxic and abusive, so she thinks I’m just being cynical. Like I said that I feel like a good time to move in with a man would be like a year into dating, because then you’ll have a better idea of who they are as a person, and she said she already knows him and all his flaws. But she doesn’t get that there’s no way to know that for sure when you’re so new to the relationship. You’re seeing it all with rose tinted glasses at that point and once she moves in with him she’ll have nowhere to go once they break up. When a relationship is so new there isn’t that level of stability that a long term one can provide.

    [–] I (21 f) don’t understand why I’m so annoyed my best friends (23f) new relationship. offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    It’s not the “passionate love” aspect that’s bothering me. It’s more that she’s really really rushing things here. Like she really expects him to ask her to move in with him within the next couple weeks. After only dating for two and a half months. And she has a very strong tendency to get possessive and it scares men away, and then I have to help her put herself back together.

    [–] Just want some opinions..... offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    From what you told us, it sounds like you’re in the right. However, I am not in your home and in your relationship, so there is her side too. That’s why you should sit down and have a talk with her about this. Let her know you’re feeling unappreciated. Communication is the biggest key in relationships

    [–] Mom thinks I molest my siblings, please help. offbrandbarbie 10 points ago in relationship_advice

    Just tell her straight up that her saying that was extremely inappropriate, and it hurt you that she even thinks you’re capable of that. Also, that it’s not the type of thing people can go around just saying about other people. That’s an extremely serious accusation. Imo even if it’s just a joke it’s gross and not okay to say.

    [–] Infatuation problem offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    Honestly being self-aware/reflective about it will help the most. What is it about these men that draw you to them? What is going on in your life currently that would make you want to latch on to these men? What is it about them that you’re idealizing? Reflecting on things like that should help you figure out why that keeps happening, once you know the root of the issue it’ll be easier to fix.

    [–] I(19M) tried having sex for the first time. It didn’t work. offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    It’s normal for that to happen if you’re a virgin. You might not be all the way hard bc you were nervous. She might have been a virgin so it’s even harder to get it in. It sounds like she was a virgin because you had a hard time putting it in. If it’s hard to put in it’s most likely. either she needs more foreplay or its her first time Next time do more foreplay, use lube and take your time to get it in. I’m a female and I lost my virginity at 20, it wasn’t a pleasant experience especially bc the guy didn’t know I was a virgin, he didn’t understand why it wouldn’t go in, until he finally got it in and I started bleeding lmao.

    [–] Pregnancy offbrandbarbie 0 points ago in relationship_advice

    Wait a month. That’s when it will start to be most effective. After that, As long as you take it every day at the same time you should be good tho

    [–] Hmhmmhmhmhmhmhmhmhmhmhm offbrandbarbie 3 points ago in relationship_advice

    In my experience, the better of a connection you’ll form with him the more attracted you’ll be to him. I went out with this one guy for a while, and on our first date I wasn’t crazy attracted. He wasn’t ugly, but idk I just wasn’t feeling it. But on our second date he won me over with his sense of humor and goofy personality, from that day on I thought he was so hot, and even tho he and I don’t talk anymore (we just kinda drifted) I still do find him attractive.

    [–] My mom thinks she can control where I live at 22 offbrandbarbie 6 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    My mom is the same way. I pay her $200 for rent, and I pay my own bills and she still thinks she has the right to control what I do. I’m single but I know if I had a bf I probably wouldn’t be allowed to spend the night, even tho I’m 20 years old. Are you trying to move in with him right now??

    [–] How do I deal with the envy I feel of my friends relationships with their mothers?? offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    I do cherish and respect my sister so much, I just feel bad that she had to take on this role for me when she didn’t have anyone to do it for her. She had to rely on herself and her bf, which she said made her develop an extremely codependent relationship with him. Luckily for her he’s very nice and understanding

    [–] How do I deal with the envy I feel of my friends relationships with their mothers?? offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    I’ve honestly have the same thought. I’d love to have a daughter one day, idc if it’s mine biologically or adopted, but I want to be able to have that relationship that I missed out on, even if it’s from the other end. And to also show someone the love I feel I’m missing. Is that narcissistic of me?

    [–] Nightmares offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    As a child I very often hard reoccurring nightmares of my Nmom trying to hunt me down and kill me. We did get hit sometimes if we really misbehaved but it was rare (for me at least, I was pretty well behaved) wasn’t at all what would be considered abuse and it’s not what messed me up psychologically. It was just a manifestation of my anxiety from when she screamed. To me that was worst then getting bapped upside the head for talking back.

    [–] Just realized that not everyone's parents beat them up for having depression offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    I’m depressed too, and because of it sometimes I don’t eat for like two days just bc I don’t feel hungry. My mother doesn’t believe in depression, so she thought I was developing anorexia. She screamed at me and said “you’re gonna eat something, you won’t be anorexic in MY HOUSE you’re not doing that bullshit here” which tells me that even if I was anorexic, she wouldn’t be concerned if I had a mental disorder that makes me starve myself, she would just care that it would reflect badly on her as a parent to other people.

    [–] How many of you were denied medical attention by an Nparent? offbrandbarbie 4 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    I didn’t get denied medical care per say, but my Nmom discouraged it. She would tell me as a young child when I was hurt, that if she took me to the hospital and there was nothing wrong I’d be in major trouble when I got home. This made me scared to go get an X-ray or exam bc I was scared of being punished if I was actually fine. The real kicker is if I actually was hurt she’d post about it on Facebook like “ooohh my poor daughter sprained her ankle:/“ for the sympathy likes

    [–] My (26M) girlfriend (25F) is angry about photos my sister (27F) and I took on a vacation, what should I do? offbrandbarbie 6 points ago in relationship_advice

    I still don’t think his girlfriend should make him feel bad about going on a vacation with his sister, especially if she didn’t bring a boyfriend or something. Maybe then I’d understand her feeling left out but sometimes it’s good to spend time just with family

    [–] How can I show my girlfriend that i appreciate her? offbrandbarbie 3 points ago in relationship_advice

    Do something sweet but simple. Invite her over and cook her her favorite meal. Play some of her favorite love songs in the background. It’s less about what your doing and more about the thought. Women love being thought of and she’ll be able to tell that you’re putting on effort.

    [–] What traits in other men help you gauge if they’re more/less attractive than you?? offbrandbarbie -1 points ago in AskMen

    Idk if this comment is supposed to be a jab at me or not

    If it is, just know I am a girl

    If not, it makes sense. The insecurity in itself is seen as an unattractive trait I suppose so if they’re worried it doesn’t come across as as attractive as the one who isn’t worried at all

    [–] Help I (15) need advice on getting a girlfriend. offbrandbarbie 0 points ago in relationship_advice

    Try talking to them a little more than normal before asking them out! Find things you can relate with them about. Tell some jokes too, girls love that. Let them get to know you more before asking them out. It’s okay to be a kissless virgin at 15 btw. Getting your first kiss is like breaking the seal when your drunk. All you gotta do, is do it once and it’ll start happening a lot more. And most people don’t lose their virginity till college age nowadays

    [–] How do you make a guy fall in love? offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    There’s no way to make a guy fall in love, you can make him more attracted to you by the things you said, but when it comes to commitment there’s no way to make a guy commit until he meets a girl he wants to commit to. Either you are or you aren’t, and if you aren’t find a guy who does want to commit to you.

    [–] My (26M) girlfriend (25F) is angry about photos my sister (27F) and I took on a vacation, what should I do? offbrandbarbie 19 points ago in relationship_advice

    You’re sister is your blood, girlfriends come and go. You should put the sister first. And your girlfriend being pissed that you too a vacation with you sister instead is insane. I would understand her being pissed if it was some girl that you aren’t related to, but you deserve time with your family and she sounds extremely controlling.