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    [–] I may have been raped? Maybe? By a guy I’m kinda in to. offbrandbarbie 3 points ago in relationship_advice

    But if it were a kink they would have talked about it first, had some kind of understanding it was just roleplaying. But they didn’t, he did what he did fully believing she didn’t want him to, and disregarding that. That’s rape no matter how you look at it.

    [–] I may have been raped? Maybe? By a guy I’m kinda in to. offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    No, even if you have regular consensual sex with him, or if even you do rape role playing thing, it still won’t be enough because for rapists is about feeling powerful, not the actual act of sex. I know it’s tough because you’re into this guy and you did like it, but no other woman should be a victim to what happened to that. Plus, you feeling like you wanted it may easily be your brain tricking itself to cope, and the trauma could take months or years to set in. But again, I’m not here to tell you how to feel. But I will tell you that you need to be aware that he will almost definitely do this to other woman, and they shouldn’t have to go through that. He’s a menace to society and should pay for what he did.

    [–] I may have been raped? Maybe? By a guy I’m kinda in to. offbrandbarbie 11 points ago in relationship_advice

    Whether you wanted it or not, don’t contact this man again. Even tho you secretly wanted it, he still ignored your screams and protests, which does make him a rapist. Because if he did this to you, he’ll easily do it to another girl who WONT actually want it. You should turn him into the police because what he did to you is disgusting and unforgivable. I’m not here to tell you how to feel about what happened to you, but this man is still a scumbag and needs to be punished for what he did. Don’t let him get away with this because there WILL be other women he will do this to, he will ignore no and pin them down and attack them too. Please don’t give him the opportunity to offend again.

    [–] My best friend (21f) makes fun of me(21f) a lot in front of her boyfriend offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    Hmm maybe. People describe her as the pretty one, meanwhile I’m the funny one, so maybe that’s what you mean. It could be her trying to impress him. She’s already much more invested into this relationship than she should be after only two months. Like she thinks they’ll be moving in together soon. So maybe she wants him to view her as a “good woman” as opposed to a “hoe”. I just don’t know how to tell her to knock it off without making her mad.

    [–] My best friend (21f) makes fun of me(21f) a lot in front of her boyfriend offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    I don’t really think she thinks I’m better than her though. She’s very into her looks and she knows she’s prettier than me, I’m very plain but I’m okay with it, I don’t mean it as a jab to myself I’m just very realistic about things. I

    [–] Girlfriend is using tinder offbrandbarbie 7 points ago in relationship_advice

    I’m sorry but she can’t just keep it up. Even with her mental illness. It doesn’t make it okay to betray you. I hate when people use mental illness to excuse their shitty behavior like this. And for her to keep it up after the fact. That’s wrong of her If she just wants gratification she can just post selfies on Instagram. Part of having mental illness is working through it to better herself so she isn’t harming those around her.

    [–] How do you wash your bras? offbrandbarbie 104 points ago in askwomenadvice

    I just throw it in with my regular laundry, but I let them air dry it makes them last wayyyyyy longer

    [–] I’m (21 F) interested in a guy(23M) who’s been in a relationship for 2 years offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    It’s not that I’m struggling about saying something to him, I’ve had my boyfriend of 3ish years taken by another woman so that’s not something I’d ever be okay with doing to someone else. I’m more just looking for tips on how to get over it, this crush I’m having is a new development and something I’ve only come to realize in the passed couple weeks

    [–] What do you think about messaging a random guy on Instagram who you’ve seen around and find attractive? Has anyone done this before? offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in askwomenadvice

    Well next time he posts something find a reason to talk about it, like let’s say he posts a picture with a good scenery, DM him like “hey, where is this?” Or if he posts a song from Spotify on his story that you like DM him like “I love this song!”

    Just find a reason to start a conversation with him

    [–] How and when to tell friends ex and i got back together offbrandbarbie 2 points ago in relationship_advice

    Probably give it a few months, but (and I don’t mean this as a dig at you, I’ve been in your situation before) don’t be surprised if they’re a little less sympathetic if they break up, and tell them you’ll understand if they feel that way. My friends told me that because they warned me about my ex so much that when we broke up again they were annoyed that I didn’t care about myself enough to listen to them

    [–] My ex told a huge lie and it's driving me crazy (literally) offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    Normally I’d agree with you, however if she has no proof he hit her that is defamation, and when it comes to things like domestic abuse i think he would have a legal leg to stand on because that’s something that can affect your life in several ways. But I also am not a lawyer

    [–] My ex told a huge lie and it's driving me crazy (literally) offbrandbarbie 37 points ago in relationship_advice

    Yes there is, when she’s making a bold statement like that the burden of proof is on her, you don’t have to prove innocence she has to prove guilty. For her to say that and have no basis to back that up, is defamatory and very illegal, especially for her to file a restraining order over it. You can have ex girlfriends testify for you in court that you’ve never hit them, and if she’s ever hit you in front of people they can testify they’ve seen her hit you and not the other way around

    [–] Extremely vain best friend?? offbrandbarbie 1 points ago in relationship_advice

    Well there have been times when I did look nice and guys approached me in front of her, she never really seemed bothered or threatened by it tho.

    And yes there have definitely been stories that I can tell she exaggerated haha