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    [–] The last 10 days of ramadan are upon us, so make sure you maximize your rewards in this blessed month. per-severance 6 points ago in exmuslim

    It's easy to be spiteful when so many of the small happinesses in life have been taken away from you. For some ex-Muslims it's therapeutic; for people on the other side it's hateful and incendiary.

    [–] Dad says he'll cancel my degree if I don't reaffirm my belief per-severance 4 points ago in exmuslim

    I know how you feel. My parents weren't as vocal about it because I faked repentance early on and didn't rock the boat afterwards, but I know if I tried to argue with them on religion they probably would have stopped paying for my education. I had to fake it til I made it, just like everyone else suggested. Faking it hurts you slowly, but telling the truth will ruin everything instantly. Just gotta live with it and make the best of what you got.

    [–] ”Lawyer is not even a job, especially for a woman!” per-severance 3 points ago in exmuslim

    Don't let it get to you. I had a similar situation, not necessarily linked to Islamic conservatism but just the idea that if I wasn't going to become a physician I wouldn't be able to raise a big Muslim family and provide for them.

    I wanted to do industrial research instead, and I'm still berated to this day for "throwing away my future."

    My mother will never come to an understanding with me on my interests, but if I chose to go through medical school without any desire to be a physician, I probably would have ended up offing myself sooner or later. It would have been too late for them to say "sorry son" then. If anything, they wouldn't even grieve if they were true to their beliefs - we aren't supposed to pray for people who commit suicide in Islam.

    It's your choice in the end, but living for someone who won't let you be you will only cause you to suffer more than if you just accept that you can't please everyone.

    [–] [Meta] How was your first day of Ramadan? share your tips and tricks! 28/29 days to go!!! per-severance 70 points ago in exmuslim

    first ramadan since i've moved out.

    Mom called me at 4 am to tell me to get up. I slept through it.

    Just had a bacon cheeseburger to ring it in. Life's alright.

    [–] Ahmil, get the rifle per-severance 32 points ago in exmuslim

    bold to consider she'd be able to leave the country to go to the west

    [–] I got 5K mini research grant! per-severance 1 points ago in GradSchool

    Sorry for the late response. The irony for me is that Biochemistry is kinda just what it says on the tin for me. I work in a lab that does bionanotechnology, so nanocarriers and drug-delivery systems and biosensors and all that. My work specifically deals with the analytical chemistry needed to hone sensing systems to specific compounds, i.e. volatile carcinogens or biomarkers.

    I'm pretty far removed from isolating DNA and doing PCRs or synthesizing proteins like a traditional biochemist.

    But you can message me if you want to know more.

    [–] Need to push through burnout: how? per-severance 1 points ago in GradSchool

    Maybe you're being too hard on yourself. Are you absolutely certain you've gotten *absolutely nothing* done? Sometimes it seems like nothing moves at all, and you get discouraged and disinterested, but even the tiniest bit of progress each day - even if it's just reading half a paper or preparing a few samples shows you're still in the game.

    What I usually do to keep myself from thinking I'm not doing much is break tasks down into their smallest components, i.e. if I have to prepare a draft I'll say my objectives are to make the abstract, the intro, the first part of the methods, the second part of the methods, and so on.

    Then when I get just those little bits done, I put a big green check mark next to them on the board and keep on. By the end of the week I have a bunch of check marks on the board and I can say I moved some dirt that week. I might even jump around between tasks and work on something else if I can't focus on the one. Even if everything is half finished, I still write "halfway" or "almost there" next to the task.

    Just remember, you've gotten to where you are because one way or another, you managed to finish almost all of the things you needed to do. Your track record is great, and you'll always somehow manage to finish the things you need to do. We just never seem to take the time to appreciate that string of completed tasks that got us to where we are now, especially when things get tough.

    [–] I got 5K mini research grant! per-severance 14 points ago in GradSchool

    Good job mate, savor that victory :)

    [–] Never lucky per-severance 15 points ago in runescape

    Please.

    [–] 3D-spinning Yin and Yang per-severance 1 points ago in sequence

    looks like it could be a fancy "loading" sign for a ninja game

    [–] Got him! per-severance 27 points ago in funny

    ben is a hoe

    [–] This date's gonna be lit! per-severance 1 points ago in dankmemes

    idk, but from how it looks those two got on like a house on fire

    [–] Squeaky Angry Lady per-severance 2 points ago in PublicFreakout

    But actually... this is the sonorous war cry.... of a very angry frog.

    Ferocious.

    [–] This makes me sick. per-severance 14 points ago in exmuslim

    It's a good bet then isn't it? :)

    [–] This makes me sick. per-severance 80 points ago in exmuslim

    >named her Ayesha
    >married her

    I bet his name is Mohammed or something like that too.

    [–] I can finally remove the asterisk, but I only feel worse. per-severance 123 points ago in GradSchool

    Comparison is the enemy of happiness. All of us know just how it feels to lose an opportunity and know someone who was chosen for it; but in spite of that we all need reminding.

    Good on you for graduating, and great job getting that prestigious post-doc. Everyone runs their race, and we've all got miles to go.

    [–] It's okay if you didn't get NSF GRFP. per-severance 29 points ago in GradSchool

    I'm surprised at how quickly I got over not winning to be honest. If anything I'm more pissed off about waking up at 5 am to find out I was passed over than actually being passed over.

    I can't tell if it's because of an unhealthy maladjustment to being used to failure, or if it that's all how it's supposed to be.

    [–] Program for GPU/CPU temp monitoring per-severance 1 points ago in GamingLaptops

    I just use Techpowerup's GPU-Z, it's quite light but as far as I know it doesn't have a desktop/heads-up temperature display.

    [–] My dad is gonna beat me when he gets home from the masjid today per-severance 1 points ago in exmuslim

    I empathize with this so hard. I read the Urdu part in my mom's voice; in my situation she was the crazy parent and would act very similarly. I just stuck it out for years until I was finally able to move out on my own.

    Why tf are there so many cases of Pakistani parents acting like this?

    [–] Found this gem on r/Islam per-severance 10 points ago in exmuslim

    The first 90% of this is a whole lot of nothing. Just a bunch of emotional drivel that can be condensed to "my child will burn if he hangs out with the wrong sort of people."

    The last 10% poses the interesting questions of whether God or Hell exist.

    Of course, from the way this reads, this person isn't willing to offer anything for "debate." They just sound certain that they're right.