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    [–] How to properly hint on Tinder? rurikloderr 2 points ago in bigdickproblems

    I think you should keep hinting at it. You're doing these women a favor by explaining to them in as few words as possible that you're just a child.

    [–] Manspreading Solution rurikloderr 2 points ago in TumblrInAction

    What if my dick is too big to fit between my legs though? /r/bigdickproblems

    [–] What's the coolest mathematical fact you know of? rurikloderr 5 points ago in AskReddit

    There is a reason it's Fermat's Last Theorem though.. He did that "I have a proof but" thing a lot. As far as I am aware, every single one of them turned out to be true. The fact that Fermat had never been wrong when he said he had a proof is the reason why so many people think the crazy bastard might have.

    [–] Do consider yourselves to be egalitarian? rurikloderr 1 points ago in MensRights

    In such a scenario, shooting for equality makes things even worse though, because someone will come along at some point and try to tell group a that they should have their intelligence or rationality limited by law to make it fair for group b.

    Regardless, you're adding details to the example that were not a part of the original scenario. I think you assumed group a and b represented real world groups that they do not represent. Beyond that, personal responsibility comes with liberty.

    There is no point in breaking humans down into arbitrary groupings, because you can make an infinite number of arbitrary groups. Now, if a grouping has a biological basis, a real one backed by actual empirical evidence, then they often need to be treated differently due to said biological differences.

    Regardless, liberty, along with all the rights, privileges, and responsibilities therein should be given to anyone that wants it. If you want special privileges due to some biological predisposition or whatnot and want to be treated like a special protected class of citizen, you should not then also be given the full liberties that come with being a free citizen.

    The choice should still be up to the individual to ultimately decide, but you shouldn't be allowed to have both. Either live as a protect class of citizen or not, they come with different perks and responsibilities. At least that's how I think it should work.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 1 points ago * (lasted edited 3 months ago) in MensRights

    I'm not in a relationship that will never end, I'm in a relationship that works because we work at it. We talk, constantly, about what things are bothering us before they get held in long enough to become a problem. We don't just talk about the negative shit either.. we work to make sure we notice the good in each other too. If she does something that makes me happy, I tell her. If she does something that upsets me, I tell her. It works the same way with her. We have a very deep bond because of that, because we choose to see each other for who we really are, flaws and all.

    The relationships where everything seems perfect always end horribly because someone isn't expressing their doubts or concerns and all they're really doing is holding in pain til it turns into deep resentment. Often, that deep resentment doesn't even make sense because it's based in a misunderstanding that, had it been talked about the moment it happened, wouldn't have festered into insane beliefs about malicious behavior.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 1 points ago in MensRights

    The best advice I can give anyone.. communicate. If something bothers you, don't hold it back and don't be afraid to say it. If you're wrong or it was a misunderstanding, you're wrong and you'll both work through it. If you're not wrong, then you'll both work through it. Etc, etc.. The only time you should be walking away feeling like you've done something wrong by bringing something up is if you actually did something wrong.. and you'll know the difference.

    If you can't openly talk about problems both small and large, don't stick around long enough for it to turn to shit.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 2 points ago in MensRights

    That you say you are incapable is one of the reasons you find yourself unable. There are all kinds of body language cues that most people are able to instantly see without necessarily being able to describe, confidence is one of them. Confidence is one of those things that you have, but might not know you have. All kinds of shit can mask it.. fear is a big one. Fear is an emotion that feels a lot stronger than it actually is, while confidence doesn't really feel like anything.

    I know it's cliche, but the old adage of just be yourself is actually pretty relevant. I would like to add though that who you are doesn't feel like anything. Who you are is the guy that you are when you're not afraid of yourself or saying the wrong thing. Who you are is the guy you are when everything is calm, unfettered by all the negative emotions and doubts that force you to act in counterproductive ways.

    Honestly, the best way to attract women is to stop giving a shit about attracting women and just work on yourself. Be the guy you want to be and work towards being the version of you that you always wanted to be. Women, good women, will just gravitate towards you as you continue to work on yourself.

    Caveat, if you mean to say that women just don't approach you.. then you've got things backward. Women don't approach men almost ever. You have to be the one to make the first move. Yeah, it sucks.. putting yourself out there and getting rejected sucks. Who gives a shit though, the women that reject you don't mean anything other than you wouldn't have wanted them in your life to begin with. Rejection an't shit compared to rejecting yourself for them. If you like someone, tell them. Living with the regret is a whole lot worse than a rejection.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 1 points ago in MensRights

    Partly, yeah.. The unfortunate thing is that even a broken clock is right twice a day so doing just the opposite of what she wanted from me would have probably been just as bad as even someone like her wasn't entirely wrong. It's more about self reflection and finding yourself. It really really helps to have someone supportive in your life. It need not be a girlfriend or the like, a true friend can be just as good, but they need to be genuinely in your corner and not just spoon feeding you what you want to hear. A genuinely supportive person will also sometimes tell you how much of a jackass you're being.. if you're being a jackass.. of course.

    Considering the opposite of what was intended isn't a bad idea though. It's a good jumping off point to do some self reflection and really think about things. In reality, I probably am somewhere in the middle of those extremes. In general though, it's pretty safe to assume that most women don't really know what they actually want. In general, it seems that more than anything, women just want to feel safe.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 1 points ago * (lasted edited 3 months ago) in MensRights

    No real father figure, no. No real parental figures at all.. instead she latched on to so called "strong women" as role models. Ultimately they just turned out to be horrible bitter women that treat men like they're a nuisance while simultaneously benefiting from their success or hard work.

    Truth be told, as bad as it was.. I'd go through it all again to find the one I'm with now. I tend to look at even the worst things I've gone through as just more learning experiences. No quicker path to knowledge than through pain (you only touch a hot stove once). I'm pretty sure that if it wasn't for the contrast between my current relationship and the abusive one, my current relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is. I wouldn't have shaken off so much of the feminist ideology that had corrupted my sense of self during the other relationship.

    Ultimately, living through that shit and finding myself on the other side of it made me a stronger more reliable person. More importantly, by completely emasculating me like she did, it made it much easier to connect with that side of who I am when it was finally being valued. In a way, my ex's attempts to strip me of such fundamental parts of who I am wound up pointing out how very important they are to your identity.

    [–] Do consider yourselves to be egalitarian? rurikloderr 2 points ago in MensRights

    Indirectly, yes. Here's the controversial bit though.. I don't believe in striving for equality. Instead, I believe in striving for liberty. I don't think striving for equality will ever actually lead to any kind of real equality or liberty and can only ever wind up making people less equal and free.

    I have a pretty good reason for thinking that way though. Take voting rights for example. Lets say group a and group b within a society have unequal voting rights, group a can vote while group b can not. There are two ways to equalize the voting rights in this scenario. The first is to give voting rights to group b. The second way, the one most people won't even imagine but historically is downright guaranteed to happen eventually, to to take the voting rights away from group a. Both choices lead to equal voting rights, but only one leads to increased freedom.

    What if, instead of striving for equality, we strive for liberty? Well.. we might not always make things equal, but we'll get closer to the kind of equality people want to see. In the aforementioned example, striving to grant as much freedom to as many as possible only has one option.. granting voting rights to group b.

    There is a historic context to, in that many totalitarian and authoritarian regimes got their start by running on a platform of equality. Seriously.. look into it. It's the one thing they almost all have in common. It's why I'm wary of anyone that says they seek equality. I always begin wondering who they're going to want to take rights away from first.

    Liberty.. freedom.. these are worthwhile goals.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 3 points ago * (lasted edited 3 months ago) in MensRights

    I don't mind talking about it. It was mostly a mental and emotional destruction, though I suffered socially too.. but that was all a byproduct of not being able to trust anyone rather than her specifically turning anyone against me directly. I don't know if she ever considered causing legal trouble for me, but I think she was afraid of what I might be able to do in response so I never really wound up having to deal with anything like that. I did wind up having to leave school and basically halting my life for a few years by the end of the relationship. The stress also caused all kinds of health problems that cost me a bunch in medical bills.. health problems that disappeared when she wasn't a part of my life anymore.

    I had a kind of fucked up childhood and it basically opened the doors for someone like her to work their way into my life. The abusive elements started out subtle and progressed very slowly at first. She covered a lot of the more manipulative stuff up by using my family and the crazy shit they do as cover. Throw in a whole lot of gaslighting along with a ton of guilt and by the end of it, I was absolutely terrified to be myself. I found it nearly impossible to bring up anything that bothered me without it being turned around on me. I had to constantly defend myself from accusations that I wasn't living up to expectations that were.. frankly.. insane. She used those expectations and the guilt she crafted around them to keep me perpetually indebted to her while none of the things I did for her or contributed to the relationship held any value.

    By the end, I was absolutely convinced that I was a monster that was entirely unaware of it. That I was lying to myself about who I was and that I was maliciously manipulative without trying, noticing, or even wanting to be. I would be so terrified whenever she was on her way home from basically anywhere that I would panic and try and figure out what she get mad at me for today.. what did I do wrong.. or forget to do.. or leave in the wrong place.

    Example, I've struggled with suicidal ideation all throughout my life for a variety of reasons. Whenever I'd try to reach out to my ex about having thoughts of suicide, she'd treat me like I was holding my life hostage in order to trap her in the relationship.. she'd basically tell me right to my face how much she hated me when I'd bring the topic up. Every time she did that I would make up my mind to do the right thing and free her and everyone else from the burden that I represented. The problem, however, was that I would become so depressed that I couldn't find the energy to move. I'd stop eating and drinking, feeling that I wasn't deserving of sustenance. Sometimes I'd go as long as a week without eating anything solid. If you had put a gun in my hands and helped me point it at my own head, I'd have pulled the trigger without a doubt. Thankfully, I was never given the opportunity before figuring a way out of the pit.

    I still have issues with sex because of how she was about it. She treated me like I was a monster for desiring her. She would simultaneously treat me like I was a worm for not being man enough to initiate while treating me like I was a rapist if I did try to initiate. If I ever didn't want to have sex, for any reason, I was treated like I no longer found her attractive or like I was a failure of a man. She wouldn't necessarily say this to my face, but the message was well received through the way I would be treated. If it was her saying no and I even asked if everything was ok, I would be treated like a pervert and borderline rapist.

    While we're on the topic of being treated like a rapist, I have a short story to tell about that one. Keep in mind, this is only going to be a quick overview so it'll be skimming a lot of details. On one particular night, she kept initiating sex only to halfheartedly tell me to stop. When I would stop she would immediately initiate again, then halfheartedly tell me to stop again. She did this over and over again until it was clear the words "no" and "stop" didn't mean anything at that particular moment. When I ignored her next round of "no" and "stop" along with a weak push and some giggling, she got really into it and everything seemed fine, until it was all over and she made it pretty clear that she felt I had raped her. While I understand now what she was doing, at the time and with how serious she was about it.. I felt horrible and I found it difficult to initiate anything ever again.

    Speaking of rape.. there was the time I missed a call from her while she was away at college. I called her back within a few minutes, but.. to teach me a lesson about the importance of picking up when she called, she told me she had been raped. I was close to an hour into the two hour drive to get to her dorm when she finally admitted that she had not, in fact, been raped. At first I didn't believe her and kept driving, because it seemed like she only said she hadn't because she found out I was on my way there. Apparently she only said that to upset me because I hadn't picked up the phone and she was planning on keeping it going for a little while but she didn't expect me to start driving up there right away.

    8 years is a long time to live like that. I have PTSD because of that relationship. By the end of that relationship I had isolated myself from most of my friends. I didn't go out much or talk to anyone about what was going on. I refused to open up to even professionals for a long time. I get flashbacks pretty often, especially in situations where my current girlfriend (who helped bring me back from the abyss) says something that sounds kind of like the way my ex said something in the past.

    [–] Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit. rurikloderr 14 points ago in MensRights

    There are women out there that see through this shit. They understand what's happening. A surprising number of women want to be women in a relationship with a man that wants to be a man. When you find such a woman, everything changes and you find yourself in a relationship where both partners are being genuinely fulfilled.

    A woman that finds herself in such a relationship, especially after taking the so called "red pill," is a woman that finds herself content and happy for the first time in her life. She won't leave such a relationship willingly and she'll be legitimately terrified of potentially ruining it. They'll accept fault for the things they do wrong and don't challenge you for being yourself. If anything.. things that would bother other women in this society are attractive the kind of women I'm talking about.

    Source: I found such a woman and I have never been happier in my life. We've been together for 4 years and things just keep getting better. I've never felt more like a man than I do around her. It's such a game changer that it's having a hugely positive influence on every facet of my life as I rediscover what it means to be a man. I'm not just bullshitting either.. Before her I suffered through an eight year long abusive relationship with a narcissist that basically destroyed me. I know the difference intimately.

    [–] Why has no flat earther ever decided to go to on an expedition to the edge of the earth and take a picture and prove their point once and for all? rurikloderr 1 points ago in Showerthoughts

    It's definitely not gibberish. That shit is precisely how a schizophrenic can think when really deep into their delusions. I've even had thoughts like that when I got really introspective on a few of the times I actually took marijuana. The primary difference being that a later reading of my own stream of consciousness still made sense and could be followed. Led to some interesting insights about the way I think.

    [–] How big traffic lights actually are rurikloderr 1 points ago in mildlyinteresting

    Can confirm, used to own a traffic light as a child.

    [–] So I guess that's it then? rurikloderr 1 points ago in Hellion

    Just log out inside your cryopod, it does precisely that.

    [–] Apparently Homelessness is only a Problem if you are a Woman. rurikloderr 106 points ago in MensRights

    I also find it worth noting that males are at drastically increased risk of being the victim of literally every other violent crime there are statistics for. Homelessness increases the risks of every single crime by a lot.. some by magnitudes. It would reason then that men's risk of being the victim of every single violent crime increases drastically, probably sexual assault too. The number of men's shelters are in the single digits in most countries.

    I'm not saying women don't deserve help, but what you just did was do what everyone always does whenever this shit is brought up. Maybe women deserve priority due to the unique risks associated with homelessness for them, but.. they already have priority. Why is it that women keep getting larger and larger slices of the pie when men suffer just as much?

    [–] Frozen Yogurt robot at NASA made the cup to her exact specifications, showed it to her, and then took it back. Basically a Terminator. rurikloderr 1 points ago in shittyrobots

    They have a frozen yogurt robot that clearly costs money to use (you can see the port for a credit card in the picture). So, even if they bought it, it's currently making money for NASA. In all likelihood, they didn't buy it.. or fund its development.. or even maintain it themselves. I don't know if you know how vending machines work, but you typically don't buy them yourself. Instead, a company comes to you and offers you money to put their machine in your place.

    [–] Frozen Yogurt robot at NASA made the cup to her exact specifications, showed it to her, and then took it back. Basically a Terminator. rurikloderr 1 points ago * (lasted edited 7 months ago) in shittyrobots

    They didn't spend millions on space pens either. A guy named Fischer privately funded that pen and NASA bought a few hundred for less than the market price for a ball point pen at the time. The PR from the purchase is what gave the Fischer space pen its commercial success and how he made his money back from R&D. There were also damn good reasons that pen needed to be made. Ball point pens don't work in space and pencils are a horrible alternative. The last thing you want in space is a bunch of broken graphite flying all over the place, getting into scientific instruments and astronaut's eyes. In the end, even the Russians started using his space pens.

    [–] This is cruel. rurikloderr 43 points ago in rickandmorty

    Rick and Morty didn't end on a cliff hanger though if you really think about it. Rick goes to prison, presumably forever. The family comes home and earth becomes part of the galactic federation. Jerry supposedly gets a job.

    The ending is depressing but they could have stopped the show entirely. The ending.. well.. ended.

    [–] People who have worked for a Trump company - what was your experience like? rurikloderr 1 points ago in AskReddit

    Technically speaking, they are, in fact, animals.. though not the same use of the word you were responding to. The main reason I'm replying is to point out that the guy you're responding to was making the point that it must have been a pretty bad situation if the Swedish police felt the need to use their firearms precisely because the Swedish police rarely fire their guns. While I may be incorrect, the way your response was worded makes it seem like you were defending the Swedish police's use of firearms against the person you're responding to rather than in support of the person you're responding to.

    [–] Rudy Giuliani kicks off inauguration lunch with 9/11 sex joke rurikloderr -1 points ago in nottheonion

    It's being blown out of proportion.. most people are taking it way out of context. I don't think it's a funny joke, I just don't think it's nearly as horrible as is being stated. People are saying that this stupid joke is a commentary on trump's dumbass comments earlier or just hearing whatever they want to hear in order to confirm their own biases. This kind of gallows humor is actually not uncommon in these kinds of luncheons and dinners. That this is even news is ridiculous.

    [–] Rudy Giuliani kicks off inauguration lunch with 9/11 sex joke rurikloderr -1 points ago in nottheonion

    The joke is even being taken entirely out of context.. listen to the audio for it. It's just some stupid story he told in relation to a story that was told right before he got up to speak at the luncheon.

    https://soundcloud.com/the-intercept/giuliani3