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    [–] I guess I'm a statistic now... theofficialmmac 1 points ago in Divorce_Men

    I'm basically in the same place. There's no going back though. I hate that we have to burn it all down, but there really is no going back at this point.

    My standard for how well I am doing has become: my kids are loved, have food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs and a warm bed to sleep in. As long as I have that, I'll work out the rest in time.

    My advice? Find a distraction. Anything. Each person will be different, so I can't recommend something. But you will be forced to face the reality of everything that's going on at certain points. Until then, find distractions to get you through each day or even just some days.

    My struggle? Letting go. Surrendering control. Not that I've ever been a control freak. Truth be told I let her do and plan pretty much everything for the last 10 years. I just feel like I have to fight. If it's going to end, I'll be able to look back and know that I did all I could when it all come to a head. But right now she's in control. And the horrible anxiety I have won't change what's happening. I am growing more towards acceptance every day.

    [–] I guess I'm a statistic now... theofficialmmac 1 points ago in Divorce_Men

    Thanks brother.

    I'm doing my best to distract myself. The last month has been hell emotionally. She has moved on to the point of fucking and dating other people and I'm still here in denial.

    I actually managed to find a pretty chill girl who understands my situation. We talk, we've hung out, we've since had sex. It's a great distraction.

    I'd still rather be home with my family.

    If you don't mind me asking, where are you in the process of your divorce?

    [–] Eww theofficialmmac 1 points ago in Divorce_Men

    Are the mornings always the hardest part of the day? I find I wake up with the same feeling of dread and impending doom, somehow it gets better through the day, I manage to get a bit of sleep, and then wake up and it all comes back.

    [–] Eww theofficialmmac 1 points ago in Divorce_Men

    I can't put into words how much I relate to this. My divorce is just beginning. We haven't even filed yet. But I know this is my future. Waking up in a not yet familiar place, without her, without the kids.

    I have never felt this level of dread.

    [–] I guess I'm a statistic now... theofficialmmac 1 points ago in Divorce_Men

    It's funny, I often think about how long until she tries to get back with me. I'm figuring within the first year. And I already know that by then I will not want to get back with her. She is simultaneously the best and worst thing that has ever happened to me.