Please help contribute to the Reddit categorization project here

    thesoundandthefury

    + friends - friends
    11,669 link karma
    264,441 comment karma
    send message redditor for

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 4 points ago in nerdfighters

    Hey, Gabriel,

    That's a great question, and it is one that I think about. Like, if you look back at the sports racer community, it was SO passionate and enthusiastic and deeply connected, and that did last after the end of the show--but it did not stay strong forever. That may end up happening with nerdfighteria, although we've been around longer and I think people have a longer-term sense of identity here.

    I hope that we're able to continue being leaders within the community for decades, but I also do hope that it will in one way or another survive us. It may not have the same form or the same name, but I hope that the people who've been connected through these online spaces will stay connected, and that within that connection will be the memory and the hope and the enthusiasm of nerdfighteria. I think that's what happens to it in the long run--it becomes the connection between and among people, and it lasts as long as those people maintain and expand those connections.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 2 points ago in nerdfighters

    1. My favorite joke is The Moth Joke.
    2. I would probably choose The Bible because it is very long and has a lot of different authors and has both solid poetry and solid prose.
    3. I don't know! We'd love to do Nerdcon Nerdfighteria again, and I think we will at some point have another largescale nerdfighter gathering like it, but I don't know where or when. I am so grateful to everyone who was there for it; it really was a magical time.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 1 points ago in nerdfighters

    My short term tip is to do five or ten minutes of extremely strenuous exercise. Meditation also works for some people, but if you find yourself unable to focus just be like "I am going to run as hard as I can for five minutes," and see if that works. Good luck with finals!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    First, thanks for your question, and for phrasing it thoughtfully and compassionately. Here's my honest answer, with the caveat that I might be wrong. I think issues around LGBT equality (when it comes to marriage, adoption, etc.) are not really political issues. They are human rights issues. I don't think people who would deny LGBT people the rights to live as full members of the social order are monsters. I think they're people. But I do think they're wrong on that issue.

    I don't decide where the money raised during the second half of the p4a goes; nerdfighteria does. We changed things so that we raise money for pre-selected charities during the first half of the p4a precisely because we understood that many people, like you, might be uncomfortable or even offended by the charities chosen by the community.

    I'm sorry that you have felt separated from nerdfighteria because of your political and religious views. I'm guessing that you're a Christian, which means you and I probably share a lot of our core religious views, even though we likely have different understandings of scripture etc. I don't think our community can work without people within it challenging our values and our understanding of the world. It shouldn't be an echo chamber. At the same time, I am loathe to lift up voices that deny the personhood or rights of those who are marginalized by our social order. If it's possible to have non-ideological conversations that are about issues and policy and how we should organize ourselves as a community rather than about ideology-driven talking points, then I do really try to have those conversations. The example I always give is that I do try to engage with questions like, Should the top marginal income tax rate in the U.S. be closer to 35% or closer to 55%? That's a liberal/conservative conversation that I think can be open an constructive, and I want to listen to a variety of viewpoints. I do not think the question of whether certain people should be afforded the full and equal protections of the law is, however, such a conversation.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 1 points ago in nerdfighters

    I am not done as a novelist, hopefully. But it takes me several years to write a novel at this point, so it won't be anytime soon! (I am working on other writing, though, especially the essays I record for The Anthropocene Reviewed.)

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 2 points ago in nerdfighters

    You're on a roller coaster that is only going down NOW, and that sucks and I'm sure it's frustrating, but it is not permanent. As Raj Panjabi likes to say, no condition is permanent. Whether the roller coaster is going up or down, it's not going to go that way forever.

    Failure is helpful--but it's only helpful in the rear view mirror. While you're going through it, it's dispiriting and discouraging, at least for me, and it feels like it will never have an end. But it does have an end, and when you look back at it, you learn SO MUCH MORE from your failures then you learn from your successes. It also helps you be less of a jerk when you do experience success, because you know the feeling isn't universal. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope that they next year the roller coaster starts to turn....

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 2 points ago in nerdfighters

    I'm sorry you've been through such a terribly difficult time. I still believe that a person is not their luck, and that "deserving" is the wrong frame through to which view the human story. I've had incredibly wonderful things happen to me, and i don't think I deserve them. I also don't think I deserve to beset periodically by crippling vertigo or panic attacks. But most of all, I don't deserve the extremely strange (and so far as we can tell unprecedented) miracle of human consciousness. I don't deserve to be able to marvel at the universe--its size, its beauty, its strange symmetries. I don't think I live in a moral universe. I don't think everything happens for a reason. But I do think I live in a beautiful universe, and a fascinating one, and I am very grateful for this brief flicker of consciousness.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    That makes it sound like I had even a vague idea what I was doing, which I did not. I was never able when writing the screenplay to think of it as the blueprint for a movie. The movie just never existed in my head, because I don't imagine stories visually. When I'm writing a novel, I almost never "see" anything in my mind; I'm only thinking in words.

    And so when i was trying to write the script, I was basically trying to do what people had told me to do--maybe Q should end up with Lacey, maybe they should work together at the school newspaper--and trying to make things dramatic and visual, but I really just had NO IDEA how to do that.

    Thank you for this question, because it is a great reminder to me not to try to write another screenplay!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 6 points ago in nerdfighters

    Hi, thanks for donating and for the generous prayers.

    When someone is meeting me, I mostly just want them to have a positive experience. Like, I want to be able to say thanks for supporting my work, and I want them to be able to say whatever they'd like to say within a reasonably short time frame, and then I want to make sure they get a picture if they'd like one. When I have my kids with me, I am sometimes a little protective--they don't like to feel like I am being pulled away from them to talk to someone they don't know--but in general I am always really happy to meet people and they are always really lovely. At conventions there is often less time, but I aim to have the same experience. I just don't want people to feel disappointed from meeting me, mostly.

    I have been to Charleston, SC! In fact, the airport in Charleston, SC is responsible for "nerdfighters" being called nerdfighters! That's where I first played the video game Aero Fighters way back in 2007. Lovely town!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 2 points ago in nerdfighters

    If you have a goal, and you are passionate about it, pursue it! But I don't think it has to be the ONLY thing you can pursue. You can still enjoy nice meals and time with family and hobbies and so on. To me, following a dream or a goal can be really important and fulfilling, but it's a lot of pressure if you make it the ONLY thing.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    I have not yet seen it. It's so hard to get to a movie theater at the moment because of kids and adulthood and everything.

    My favorite HP book is Deathly Hallows, although I recognize that Azkaban is probably the best. It's amazing she was able to write such amazing books at the end of that series despite the unfathomable pressure she was under.

    I love your comparison of your mental health issues to eyesight. It's something we live with! Something we can be open about! That is such a lovely way to think about it. Anyway, thanks for the kind words. And, okay. Hey, google, play Fountains of Wayne.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    Oh yes I took that pen from Han and I like it very much. I still use it!

    I don't think I did hear you stutter bye, but even if I did, it is okay! We all act weird and stressed in those weird and stressful situations! I absolve you and everyone of the weird stressed stutterings and utterings we all make in those times!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 2 points ago in nerdfighters

    Well, first, don't donate to the p4a. No, I'm kidding. THANK YOU for donating. Partners in Health and Save the Children will use your money carefully.

    My biggest tip on saving money: Budget. It's annoying, but use an app like Mint and put all your expenses and all your assets into the app and all your accounts and everything, and then you'll be able to see where the money is going. Making and sticking to a budget was hugely important for us in the first few years of our marriage, and it allowed us to take chances in our professional lives. I also recommend r/personalfinance. Lots of good tips over there. Good luck!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 4 points ago in nerdfighters

    The quote that I find the most helpful, and the most true, is from Robert Frost: "The only way out is through."

    You'll get through this, and then you'll be on the other side of it, and you'll have good times. Then of course you will have bad times, but you will get through that as well!

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    I like Delta! No airline is perfect and they all have their quirks, but I like Delta because I know their system and the people are usually nice to me (although probably only because I have a lot of frequent flyer miles).

    I would recommend taking a short trip first, and realizing that oh, okay, this is not so bad. Flying is very safe. I say that to myself all the time, but it's true. It is extremely safe.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 7 points ago in nerdfighters

    I thought Sarah's video about this articulated my thoughts about this better than I ever could. Basically, I don't think one should ignore who their money is supporting (especially when the artists in question are alive), but I also think that we can (and indeed must) find ways to love art that was created by deeply flawed people. To me, it's a case-by-case thing rather than a all-or-nothing thing.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 7 points ago in nerdfighters

    I'm a little tired of men claiming to be feminists while benefiting from existing power structures they aren't trying very hard to change. I think maybe instead I would say that I am trying to learn to be a feminist, and trying to learn how best to achieve equality of opportunity for people regardless of their sex or gender identity.

    [–] Hi, I'm John Green. I'm about to quit this web site and most of the other online social tools I use. Also, the Project for Awesome starts tomorrow. Ask me anything... thesoundandthefury 3 points ago in nerdfighters

    Great question. I'm not trying to say that everyone should quit the social Internet, only that I should, because I'm not capable of regulating how these places occupy and monetize my attention.

    But I think the architecture of these platforms is pretty broken--I think the only thing these sites really want to do is hold your attention, and they'll deliver you anything--including false or misleading information--in order to maintain your attention. I think young people will probably fix that architecture--they are on average much more adept at using these tools than I am--but until they do, I think I've gotta opt out.

    And thanks for the kind words, but please tell your mom that she is your real parent and you love her and she's great! :)