AITA for withholding information about my work from my husband?

throwaway937263 · 2 months

I don’t discuss anything in detail. From another comment:

To be clear, I’m not talking about the confidential details of my cases. It’s really just stuff like “I have to go to court” or “I spent all day writing discovery requests,” which makes it even weirder that he wants to “advise” me because there’s nothing to give advice about!

throwaway937263 · 2 months

No I do not

throwaway937263 · 2 months

He would call me overly critical

throwaway937263 · 2 months

First question: I honestly don’t know. Second question: This will sound ridiculous but I don’t actually feel like I’ve achieved anything in my life. Sure, I’m a lawyer but lots of people are lawyers. Third question: Yes he does this. Fourth & fifth questions: He’s supportive but I feel like he’s always trying to one-up me. He was very supportive of me going to law school but decided to get his MBA after he learned that I would make more than him.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

He doesn’t actually browse reddit on his own. He only goes to my profile and clicks on stuff I’ve posted or commented on so it’s very unlikely he will stumble across this.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

I let him finish. It would not go over well if I pointed out his mistakes.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

Yes but not to this degree and, honestly, it didn’t bother me before because he’s more knowledgeable than me about most things.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

To be clear, I’m not talking about the confidential details of my cases. It’s really just stuff like “I have to go to court” or “I spent all day writing discovery requests,” which makes it even weirder that he wants to “advise” me because there’s nothing to give advice about!

throwaway937263 · 2 months

You are absolutely correct.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

I agree that it’s not productive for our marriage. I could’ve come up with a better solution, like some of the things that are being proposed by other commenters.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

Thanks for your response! Your compromise suggestion could work. I will propose it to him.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

Unfortunately, when I have told him this, I have been met with, “Couples should be able to have discussions. You shouldn’t censor me.”

I like the info diet option. I will try it.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

This is a fair criticism. I am impatient. If I don’t get results after a few tries (talking to him about his behavior), I stop trying. It’s something I need to work on.

throwaway937263 · 2 months

He would have dissected how she won, and lectured about how he would have done it

Not so much this, more of “the judge/jury was wrong! I know this because I learned X in my class”

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