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    [–] WIBTA if I asked my neighbour to stop "borrowing" my dog to distract her autistic son? tripperfunster 14 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA BUT-- I think it's great that Alex can bond with your pup too. I'm not autistic, but I didn't have a dog when I was a kid and I was DYING for one! So, I would hang out with my elderly neighbours who had a big Samoyed, and also walk a couple of other dogs on my street. (not in an organized way, just when I felt like it.) As an animal crazy young girl, this really fed my nurturing side and helped me to become who I am today. (an animal crazy old girl!)

    Perhaps you could just set some boundaries with Alex and family? You have every right to just shut it all down, but clearly Alex and your dog are both benefiting from this. And even if you walk your dog 2x per day, that is still a good 8+ hours that he's home alone, waiting for you to get home from work.

    If you are up to it, talk to Alex and/or his mom and set some ground rules. He can be walked on x days, and only at x time. He cannot go on the couch or beg at the table, etc.

    If Alex has some special needs, they will probably understand that your dog helps with your anxiety, and that having him home to greet you when you get off work is important to you. I think this could be a win/win for everybody.

    Clearly you have an amazing doggo. WHERE IS THE DOG TAX???

    [–] Anyone else happily childfree and love that they’re withholding the joy of grandchildren from their NParent/s? tripperfunster 2 points ago in raisedbynarcissists

    It can be the opposite too. My NFather has NO interest in my kids (his only grandchildren.)

    Mostly due to them knowing what actual love and attention are, so when he comes by (which is extremely rare) and gives them gifts and attention, then ignores them for months/years then expects them to jump in his arms gleefully yelling "Grandpa!!" when he is now a complete stranger to them, it turned him off.

    (sorry, that was a giant, run-on sentence.) Anyhoo, good for you for choosing to be child free. I am glad I had kids, but I can totally see the benefits of a child-free life. We have quite a few friends that have gone that route. Many of them due to their own parents' shit style of parenting! *Big hugs*

    [–] Why is a drunk person not able to consent to sex, but is able to be held responsible for driving drunk? tripperfunster 23 points ago in TooAfraidToAsk

    If you are going to drink, you need to figure out a designated driver or other mode of transportation BEFORE you are drunk.

    I drank a lot in my twenties, and never drove drunk. I always figured out how I was going to get home before it happened.

    So really, it is your fault when you are sober when you drink. You just happen to get arrested when you're drunk.

    [–] AITA for stopping my one night stand from kissing me after she gave me a blowjob? tripperfunster 28 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Huh. And my dad swears that it's caused by boys having long hair. Clearly, there are different strains of gay. I must research this further.

    [–] AITA for telling my stepdaughter that I hated her too. tripperfunster 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    NTA

    A very important lesson for kids, is that adults make mistakes too. As long as you 'own' it, by telling her you are sorry, and didn't mean it, but were so very hurt and angry that you lashed out at her, you are NTA. You are human.

    (People in this sub are cray-cray. Take it all with a grain of salt.)

    [–] Seen so many starting posts on here recently and it’s time I got on it too. Come on guys and girls, we got this👊 tripperfunster 3 points ago in intermittentfasting

    My advice: Don't look for 'substitutes.' Train yourself to like non-sweet things. And if you need some sweetener for your coffee etc, that's fine, but just accept that it's not an exact replacement for sugar. It will be different. And that's okay. You will eventually not crave all of the foods that you can't imagine living without right now.

    And yes, r/keto Cannot recommend enough. (as a former sugar/starch addict.) Just take the first few weeks slow, so you don't get the 'Keto flu', which is basically just sugar withdrawal.

    The first two weeks I just cut out potatoes/pasta/bread, but still had sugar in my coffee. Then the next two weeks I went full Keto. No flu at all.

    Good luck to you, dude. You are going to feel SO MUCH BETTER without all that weight!

    [–] JNMILITW: MIL takes advantage of the missing mustache, and tried to kidnap a little girl tripperfunster 1 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    OMG! That was a rollercoaster of a read! (that god it was the dad, and not some creep-o!!)

    Good job getting involved. The world needs more people like you.

    [–] AITA for lying to my son's girlfriend's parents? tripperfunster 2 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I just saw this comment. (the whole thing kind of got out of control!) Thank you. A TON of people wanted to know if I would have a different opinion, if my child was a girl, instead of a boy. Uh .... I AM a girl! I AM that teen that had sex in risky places and not always with proper protection. I was very lucky to not get pregnant, and that is exactly why I decided to give these teens the place to relax and be safe. And the people that equated teens having sex with someone giving my child heroin? WTF? Clearly these people have a very negative opinion of sex! My two sons and the girlfriend in question followed the entire thread with great interest. They found a lot of the pearl clutching comments to be quite hilarious. I know what I did was right. It was more misleading the parents that I felt a bit bad about. Thanks so much for your kind comment.

    [–] AITA for lying to my son's girlfriend's parents? tripperfunster 1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Thank you! I've actually gotten quite a few messages of solidarity from non-Americans. (I am Canadian btw). I appreciate you letting me know that you guys have my back! <3

    [–] AITA for telling my wife WE are making our daughter, not her? tripperfunster -1 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    Not here to dog pile you. I'm glad you were able to listen and learn. And sure, you are 100% invested in this baby, and donated some building blocks to make it, but she is doing all the heavy lifting.

    I think it's sweet when men say "We're Pregnant." It shows you're a team. But just remember who's doing the cheering and who's doing all the rowing.

    Now. Once that thing's born -- Let's hope you take on at least 50% of the responsibility. Possibly more, since she will also be recovering physically from both the pregnancy and the labour.

    [–] MIL messaged daughter on her 18th birthday tripperfunster 4 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Your daughter seems to have her head on straight. It would be totally normal for her to want to meet her mother. (does she know anything about her?) I am adopted (granted, I'm 50, not 18) but I would still like to meet my birth parents, knowing full well that they might not be the most savoury people in the world.

    As for you MIL: Your daughter is now an adult. And clearly loves and trusts you. And I'm sure it's no secret how MIL hates you and how it makes you feel. At some point, she will have to decide for herself what to do about MIL. She might just want to see for herself what a twat this woman is. My dad is a dick. Not as bad as your MIL, and my kids totally have his number. They have no desire to have contact with him, because they know he's a dick.

    It won't take long for your daughter to come to the same conclusions, I'm sure. Just don't try to police her and tell her what to do. Tell her you love her. Tell her the truth (as non-biased as possible) about her mom and MIL and why you've gone no contact with them. Tell her that she can make her own decisions, and that you will be there to support her.

    *hugs to you*

    [–] Worst Acne of My Life! tripperfunster 2 points ago in xxketo

    I eat lots of dairy (way more than before Keto) and my skin has actually improved quite a bit. It wasn't bad before, but I have less acne now. I'm so sorry!

    [–] AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to go on a camping trip with her male friend alone? tripperfunster 7 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    YTA

    You trust her, or you don't.

    If you do, then let her go. If she cheats on you, then you guys shouldn't be together anyway.

    This feels like you are trying to control her, which is icky.

    (I'm not saying you're an ACTUAL asshole, but that's the choice here.)

    [–] META: What happens to assholes after receiving their judgement? tripperfunster 24 points ago in AmItheAsshole

    I was recently the asshole in a thread that really blew up. (way past any expectations!) And although I was technically voted the asshole (I'm not sure exactly how it works? Is it just replies? Or do up votes count?) I also had a TON of people who commented (or private messaged me) to tell me not to listen to the nay-sayers and to stay strong, etc. I think it was a more split-opinion thread than many that I've seen.

    It really seemed to be conservative Americans vs Europeans and left leaning Americans. There was also a lot of crazy hyperbole that had literally nothing to do with the situation, and really did nothing aside from making those commenters less credible. There were also many YTA voters who were well spoken and made great points.

    (Along with a death threat--thank you mods, you were great! *hats off!*)

    That said, I wouldn't have asked if IATA if I was 100% sure of what I had done, so it really did make me examine the whole situation and my role in it.

    Long term: My over-all stance has not changed, but I won't be so blatant and nonchalant about it in the future. I would also not outright lie. I agree that my attitude was of superiority, and was not helpful. I also learned to not post shit about my kid without telling him first! :D He was very cool about it, but it gave him anxiety that so many people were assuming things about both of us that were just patently untrue.

    (edited for spelling)

    [–] Something orange tripperfunster 3 points ago in costume

    There is a certain orange person you could impersonate!

    [–] My sister-in-law is my stepdaughter tripperfunster 3 points ago in JUSTNOMIL

    Just hugs. Big hugs for you and your hubby. I hope you are both able to heal, and I hope that shit-bag of a MIL spends time in jail for this.