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    [–] Photography spend question youngsailor 1 points ago * (lasted edited 19 days ago) in weddingplanning

    Biggest for me: What all do you get at the end of the day. How many photos? Do they hand edit every single photo or is it just raw random images? One photographer mentioned in some fine print that she will bulk edit everything, and if we have so much as a minor blemish/ scratch on our face, it would be extra $$ per PHOTO to touch up.

    I did some work with Photoshop in highschool and I know how easy it is to fix things like that, so that was a sneaky red flag to me. We went with a photographer couple magic-duo who hand edit every single photo and it shows.

    ALSO another huge thing: can they take amazing photos in low light? Everyone who has taken intro DSLR training can take a pretty great photo in natural, indirect light, but it takes a pro to capture great quality images when it's darker. Our ceremony is at 2PM but the reception won't be over till 11 - so this was a big deciding factor for us. Hope this helps!

    [–] Tipping vendors youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    How about hair and makeup artist? It's 100% a service, so I'd say it's necessary to tip.

    [–] Tipping vendors youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    Definitely yes @ officiant, 2 photographers, 2 videographers, DJ. I think those are non-negotiable in terms of tipping unless there is already a pre-set amount determined.

    Cake baker? nope. Florals? heck no..

    [–] 2 months and 15 days and we have vendors letting us down. youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    I'd say every quote from a vendor is an estimate until about a month out. You're going to need that extra table setting or two (florals), that extra tablecloth rental or two, etc. but in general things like price of person per food item is not dictated by the venue. Nor are cost of florals.. delivery and set up fees can vary but all of your vendors should be upfront about that.

    I'm just not seeing what you mean by they won't give you prices. I'd ask directly about the cost per item (centerpiece, specific appetizer you want, cost per server per hour, bouquet, etc..)

    If the vendor tells you that they can't give you that number, I'd 100% find someone else. That is a huge red flag.

    [–] 2 months and 15 days and we have vendors letting us down. youngsailor 4 points ago in weddingplanning

    we will have to put deposits down with them without knowing any actual costs.

    are you certain that is the case? I don't care if it's in a barn or on the moon, any wedding vendor should be able to get you a quote within reason for any venue regardless of circumstance. You should be able to select vendors, go about everything as usual, and get pricing from them. The venue renovations should not matter at all when it comes to this.. any vendor who tells you otherwise is a huge red flag.

    [–] One favor per family? youngsailor 8 points ago in weddingplanning

    honestly they are SO overpriced, however, adorable and small/cute. If I saw them with my date, I'd make sure we both got one.. I'd assume it was one per person for sure.

    [–] Do not play list suggestions? youngsailor 7 points ago in weddingplanning

    It reminds me of the Pam & Jim's wedding/the Office and you CAN'T TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ME.. Sure he's a shit person but I'll still always love this song.

    [–] Do not play list suggestions? youngsailor 21 points ago in weddingplanning

    Those song are overplayed because it gets EVERYONE dancing lol..

    I would probably never listen to most of the music we are playing at the wedding for dance music, but Radiohead / Modest Mouse / Weezer, etc. aren't really party-dance-songs

    [–] Do not play list suggestions? youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    oop Forever is on my 'must play' ..

    [–] Did you tip vendors 20% on their total? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    I appreciate your input!! Definitely good to know.

    [–] Did you tip vendors 20% on their total? youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    Thank you! He has been amazing with us during the planning process so far so I feel 200 is probably what we will do.

    [–] Should we provide transportation? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    I really like the idea of vouchers because it gives your guests a little more freedom! We had to do a bus because the vouchers would be $40-50 for the distance needed.

    Hope you find what works for you :-)

    [–] Should we provide transportation? youngsailor 9 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would at a minimum do an Uber voucher. It seems like it could be cheaper than the bus (also not a big fan of the no A/C thing, but it's for a short distance so it's probably fine).

    3 miles in an Uber should be less than $10. Split everyone up by couple and give $20 per for a ride there and back. See what the difference - with the vouchers you only pay for what the guests use too which is nice.

    [–] Bridesmaid gift ideas? youngsailor 9 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would rather have a nice pair of earrings ~$75-100 vs. a wristlet. Coach wristlets remind me of high school and I personally would not use one.

    If a wristlet is more their style and you think they would all like it, then go for it! I think a ~$100 piece of jewelry is something I'd use more often.

    Also am a big fan of "little" necklaces.. You could spend ~$100 easily on a very pretty dainty necklace. I really love these two stores for that kind of thing:

    https://www.localeclectic.com

    https://www.daisyjewellery.com/necklaces

    [–] How to tell family about elopement after it happens? youngsailor 5 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would take the 'them getting annoyed with you over not planning wedding' over them possibly feeling betrayed, and that you do not trust them.

    I understand he has a totally different relationship with family - is he 100% on board with the secret part? I agree elopement sounds like it's perfect for you both, but doing it in secret can come off as hurtful.

    If his family really loves your future husband and accepts your engagement, they will respect your plants to elope.

    [–] When someone buys you a $300 appliance you didn't registered for.. youngsailor 21 points ago in weddingplanning

    It was one of the professional grade Vitamix blenders with accessories! We have a Ninja that is a few years old but works really well, otherwise I would have seriously considered keeping it. It's definitely an upgrade from what we have but there are other items I think we'd rather have first vs. replacing something that still works.

    I think it's nice they took the time to try and pick something out, while also giving us the opportunity to exchange. All of our other big ticket items were purchased (Kitchenaid mixer, $250 convection oven, etc).

    [–] Low to no budget wedding youngsailor 3 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would start by making a list of who you would like to invite to your wedding and see what that looks like between you and your significant other. The number of guests can help to maintain a budget similar to how it can blow a budget out of proportion.

    Also, definitely do not feel like you have to spend more than your means to do this - remember that it's only one day and the important part is that you get to spend the rest of your lives together afterwards!

    [–] Honest Question youngsailor 3 points ago in weddingplanning

    Agree! If one of my bridesmaids was not on board with it then I'd want her to be most comfortable any way that may be.

    [–] Affordable blush bridesmaid dresses youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    My bridesmaids all did the free custom sizing from Azazie and it was fantastic. I would recommend ordering the swatches from them first ($2 each). I love that they do free custom sizing so that my girls don't have to pay an extra $50-100 for hemming! We did dusty blue and I let them pick the styles they liked (no strapless since it's February, and nothing low cut).

    https://www.azazie.com/all/bridesmaid-dresses/colors/blushing-pink

    [–] Florals for mother of the bride/groom? youngsailor 4 points ago in weddingplanning

    Yes! They are called posies and MOB and MOG will both have them. Corsages feel like prom to me and our moms agreed. I'd definitely ask what they wanted though! Our grandmothers wanted corsages so we are doing those for them.

    [–] Is this contract normal for rentals? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    Any contract from any vendor for any sort of event (including weddings) should have a clause about reimbursement if they cannot deliver to the client.

    I would not be willing to bet any amount of $$ on someone if they did not have a statement like this in their contract. It's a big red flag in my opinion.

    [–] Having my hair and makeup trial tomorrow. I can't decide between these two styles! Last picture is my hair length and dress for reference. Which is your fave? youngsailor 12 points ago in weddingplanning

    They look extremely similar. I would take both of them with you to inform the stylist of what looks you like! She should be able to work with these photos and decide what will work best with your hair type + length.