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    [–] Gifts for Family? youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    I posted here about this earlier today - my parents are contributing tens of thousands of dollars to our wedding, and my fiancé's family is footing the bill for the rehearsal dinner (~$5k). My fiancé and I have some disposable income with no debt so we feel it's appropriate to spend a good amount of money on a gift for our parents.

    However, I definitely do not think you need to purchase a gift for either of the families given your financial situation. If you are close to your parents, I would suggest writing them a nice note thanking them for raising you and showing you what love means, etc. - even if my parents contributed nothing, I would feel it was necessary to thank them for everything they've done for me. Some nice suggestions I saw for a gift were in relation to wedding photos - If you took engagement photos (or after you have wedding photos), it costs $0.90 to print a picture at CVS and you could easily thrift a frame for <$5 - BAM super cheap and meaningful gift.

    If you don't feel like either family had a significant positive impact on your lives, then I would say it's fine to skip even a note of thanks.

    [–] Tip for dress shopping youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    100% agree with you! Even if it's just to rule out a specific style, I think it's necessary to give every fit a try. Definitely helps mitigate potential dress regret/ you wondering what you would have looked like in a certain style.

    [–] [Bridesmaid] Bride's family is covering cost of bachelorette, along with bridesmaid dresses, etc - ideas for a gift for them? youngsailor 3 points ago in weddingplanning

    Love the idea of a spa for the bride! I think experiences are super thoughtful and a great gift. My parents love a nice dinner out - We are doing a $300 gift certificate to a very nice steakhouse that we know they will love. If there is a nice restaurant in your city they love to enjoy for special occasions I would consider that!

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    Agree, you shouldn't go crazy regardless! Fiancé and I both make a good amount of money as engineers and would not be spending ~$800 on gifts for them if we weren't in our situation.

    I think a nice card and photo after the wedding is a really sweet idea!

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 3 points ago in weddingplanning

    I think that's a super nice gift! Photo albums can be expensive too but are very meaningful in my opinion. I was just wondering if anyone had ideas for something to get them before we got our photos back.

    [–] We want our wedding guests to wear costumes youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    Not sure how I'd feel about it. I would not think it's super tacky - it's more so that I'm not really into buying wear-once items for weddings (or anything actually). I would probably just wear a black cocktail dress and call it.

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would still probably get my parents something, even if it were small.. same goes for my future in-laws. You know, 'thanks for raising the man of my dreams, etc.

    Might be a different story if we did not get along or we were not close at all.

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    That's sweet! I was thinking we would do a framed photo from the wedding next year maybe? I feel like a wedding book will maybe not get as much use but I still really like the idea!

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    see also: https://www.theknot.com/content/do-parents-get-wedding-gifts

    Again, I do not think it needs to be something expensive, but my parents are spending around $50k on this.

    [–] What are you getting your future in laws as a wedding present? youngsailor 2 points ago in weddingplanning

    Yes.. Even if parents were not contributing, it's nice to say "hey thanks for raising me to be a great person and find someone I love deeply".. Might be a different story with people who don't like their parents or don't get along, but I'm pretty close with mine, and I am extremely grateful for them.

    Also, they are dropping some serious $$$ on my big day, so I'd like to spend ~$300-400 on each set of parents.

    [–] Is It Weird to Have a BM Wear a Dress she Wore in Another Wedding? youngsailor 25 points ago in weddingplanning

    This. If anything I bet your bridesmaid is pumped she doesn't have to buy another dress! I would be kind of annoyed if you wanted me to buy another dress in a similar style and the same color.

    [–] How do I write thank you cards? youngsailor 5 points ago in weddingplanning

    A friend generously donated our whole paper wedding suite to us (gold foil + raised lettering and all), saving us around $1,200 I think. The Thank you cards are custom but are very simple.

    I am just having trouble writing them before the wedding! I am thinking of waiting just to be able to include something like "It was so much fun to celebrate with you on our big day, and I loved getting to dance with you!" but right now it feels weird to write anything like that because it would be generic.

    [–] Photographer seems to be stalling with wedding pics? youngsailor 0 points ago in weddingplanning

    I don't think so if you are getting back around 1,000 photos from 12 hours of shooting.. It takes time to edit each photo individually (color balance, light blemish editing, etc. takes at least a few minutes per photo) so I am not sure what you mean by 'batch editing'!

    If you are getting just raw images with a basic filter across all photos then I could see why it would take less than a few weeks to return them, but most photographers take time to edit each photo individually.

    [–] Padded underwear? youngsailor 16 points ago in weddingplanning

    excuse me, what?

    [–] Looking for very inexpensive bridesmaid dresses? EVERPRETTY! youngsailor 1 points ago * (lasted edited 5 days ago) in weddingplanning

    If the less quality means it's thinner fabric that would require me to invest in more expensive undergarments, then yes, it's absolutely worth it. A good strapless bra for me is $68 and spanx are another $50.. The material from Azazie is very well made and much more substantial than we thought it was going to be. All of my bridesmaids are going without a bra (something you could definitely not swing in the thinner David's Bridal dresses) - even if you are a little more busty, the dresses are very supportive and there's no chance of anything showing through.

    To me, that alone would make it worth more even if I were going to wear it only once. Definitely want them to be comfortable for the day since they'll be in the dresses from noon till after 11pm!

    [–] Looking for very inexpensive bridesmaid dresses? EVERPRETTY! youngsailor 1 points ago in weddingplanning

    I would be annoyed paying for hemming on a dress that was more expensive than the dress itself.. Plus the fabric at places like David's Bridal was so cheap in person and definitely not worth the price tag.

    If someone measures wrong, it's their own bad.

    [–] How many guests did you allot per parent? youngsailor 4 points ago in weddingplanning

    Who is paying for the wedding? If they are paying, I'd say they have free reign as to who they get to invite. If it's your $$, it's more so your choice.

    [–] Intellectual Property Claim...on flowers youngsailor 5 points ago in weddingplanning

    Exactly. This is very normal for someone who owns their own business and shows that they care enough to put this kind of legal work together. Definitely not a red flag - I'd say it's the opposite.

    [–] Already married folks - what did you do for your wedding albums? youngsailor 12 points ago in weddingplanning

    Shoot! You should have done AU black Friday for 30% off... It's 100% worth it!! I just ordered my guest book from them and the quality is amazing.

    We have done shutterfly and other more cheap options for photos before but I did not want to skimp here. All of my friends used AU so I took a good look before we pulled the trigger. But getting the book for 30% off was one of the reasons we decided to splurge.

    [–] Intellectual Property Claim...on flowers youngsailor 14 points ago in weddingplanning

    Basically, she just wants you to credit her in social media, or in the event you do it all up, credit her if you make it into a magazine.

    She just doesn't want you say those were your own flowers if something crazy happens and your wedding gets into a big magazine.